When Dom's do wrong

[Ebonyfire]

but my objection has nothing to do with the making of mistakes. It is the intent of the thread that set me off. I do not relate to this thread or it's implied intent! And if anyone wants to know what I mean they can PM me cause I am not going to post it. I gave my answers and I am done with it!

Eb

intentional harm?

Bizarre to see the least.

But harm does and can happen even with the most experienced Dominant at the helm of the ship.

You may only make a genuine mistake once in Your lifetime (also bizarre concept) but if at the end of the day Your tally sheet says *0* someone is fooling someone...

It would take a super human mind conglomerate expert in humanity to play the games and bend the minds that come under Our control without occassionally misreading a subtle off moment that may be creeping up on US...the Dominants...We are NOT Gods or Goddesses ordained with some higher Power of perception and good will.

I absolutely do everything in the Power and experience that I do have to never INTENTIONALLY cause harm to the ones I hold so closely to My heart. But I do have the balls to admit My own humanity and not candy coat it with impossible statements that may hold water today and have Me eating crow tomorrow.

I have hurt My slave physically when My fingers slipped on the plastic coating on a nipple clamp...he was writhering on the floor in pain with a bleeding nipple. Experienced Domme? Big Time: Slippery moment? Can happen! Did happen! I apologized and My pain though not physical matched his emotionally.

I have hurt My slave emotionally by asking him to perform for the entertainment of a fellow Domme and Myself in such a way that devestated his artist vulnerability. Was it intentional? Not on your life. It fed into all of his interests in humiliation and I would have enjoyed it very much. BUT My mistake was having not even CONSIDERED how such an innocent task could have caused him such chaos. I was stunned and not particularly pleased when he safe worded out, in tears. But I took the time when the Domme had left to calmly and lovingly get to the bottom of the situation. I apologized once I KNEW what I had allowed to happen to him. I reassured him that he would not be placed in an artistic situation again.

I am also a service oriented Domme..it is next to impossible to get to be Mine...I am at this time in a 3 year 24/7 relationship and trust Me....We all make mistakes that hurt physically or emotionally from time to time...That IS reality.

2 mistakes 3 years..not a bad tally but a tally it is non the less.

Reality! Without My long term experience I am certain I would have had to post a much higher number. Both subs and Dom/mes entering this lifestyle better have a realistic understanding that Dominants are NOT Gods but people with a Dominant nature!

 

[DustyWolfe]

but my objection has nothing to do with the making of mistakes. It is the intent of the thread that set me off. I do not relate to this thread or it's implied intent! And if anyone wants to know what I mean they can PM me cause I am not going to post it. I gave my answers and I am done with it!

Eb

My apologies Ebony....


And this is a general question. Don't guess it has to do with anything. Just my scattered thoughts

 

[Ebonyfire]

My apologies Ebony....


And this is a general question. Don't guess it has to do with anything. Just my scattered thoughts

You do not need to apologize to me, honest. You are entitled to post your thoughts, do not ever forget that.

I am just entitled to disagree.

EB <the erasible one>

 

[Ebonyfire]

You do not need to apologize to me, honest. We ARE all equals here. You are entitled to post your thoughts, do not ever forget that.

I am just entitled to disagree.

EB <the erasible one>

 

[catalina_francisco]

An interesting discussion some might want to add to.........

Catalina

 

[ownedsubgal]

imo, this scenario...of my Master "doing wrong" to me is not even possible. not because he is perfect or never makes mistakes, but because i am his property. He owns me, therefore he can do whatever he wants with me. there is nothing he shouldn't do or has no right to do. now when he does something to me that he did not intend/wish to do, he corrects it, and if it hurt me emotionally he may comfort me a bit, but he cannot do "wrong" to his own property.

 

[Netzach]

When I have results I didn't want to have, I do apologize. I also try and make amends, which doesn't mean offering my ass for spanking, but might mean something else that I determine personally, maybe in one case it's a reassurance we don't go there again, in another case it might be writing a note of apology, in another case it might be giving M a "day off" to feel more free of the whole thing, it really depends.

Like Eb I never got into punishments anyway. There's just discipline, improvement, and getting better at things, and that's as true for me as for him.