Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[BadAmy]

I'm a 76-year-old male. I don't send pictures and I don't request any pictures. I was raised by two parents who taught me good manners and how to treat girls. My mother was a true lady. She not only taught me how to clean house properly, to cook, the proper way to wash and dry clothes. Both of my parents taught me when a girl says no it doesn't mean maybe or yes. They taught me to keep my hands to myself as no girl wants to fight off an octopus. I've only chatted with two women on Lit and that was in regard to being their editor for their stories. I took on their stories but limited my interaction with them to emails in regard to their stories. With my early teaching in mind, I can spot a guy that is a predator or who is fake. I credit my mother for this skill.

This is an excellent example of virtue signalling with a dash of mansplaining, sprinkled with a hint of white knighting.

Why dude? Just why?

You want a fuckin medal?

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

This is an excellent example of virtue signalling with a dash of mansplaining, sprinkled with a hint of white knighting.

Why dude? Just why?

You want a fuckin medal?

Amen

Nothing more needs saying.

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

I am loathe to make generalizations, but it seems to me that the male authors are a better breed than those who have an account just so that they can engage on the forums. I’ve had three authors message me and they’ve all been respectful, focusing on my stories, offering feedback, etc. The creepy ones have never posted a single piece of content.
Does anyone else have a similar experience?

 

[Strixaluco]

I am loathe to make generalizations, but it seems to me that the male authors are a better breed than those who have an account just so that they can engage on the forums. I’ve had three authors message me and they’ve all been respectful, focusing on my stories, offering feedback, etc. The creepy ones have never posted a single piece of content.
Does anyone else have a similar experience?

I haven't had much PM's from authors. I only recall one - and I found it a bit weird. Like, why ask me to comment as we had no prior contact and I don't even normally read that category, and he didn't even link to the story he wanted comments on etc.

I have no idea about most of the creepy ones. Probably they aren't authors, but I don't exactly know. And I actually get non-creepy messages from non-authors from time to time. The creepy messages aren't that common anymore, probably because I've only stayed here for friends and it indeed shows in what, how and where I post.

 

[stickygirl]

I am loathe to make generalizations, but it seems to me that the male authors are a better breed than those who have an account just so that they can engage on the forums. I’ve had three authors message me and they’ve all been respectful, focusing on my stories, offering feedback, etc. The creepy ones have never posted a single piece of content.
Does anyone else have a similar experience?

A bit of each, but then Lit has changed since I've been here.
I used to get a lot of PMs and posts on my thread from genuine guys who had polite enquiries and some of the threads were a lot of fun too - I mean crying with laughter fun... these days, not so much.
My writing is sporadic - I can only do it when I have a urge but I've had one or two guys offer helpful advice. One in particular gave me some invaluable grammar tips and I still have a print out of his English lesson! There's the Pink Orchid challenge that's curated by a couple of female writers if you're looking for their feedback.

I suspect when you've got over 1k posts on your profile the creeps don't bother you - they're only interested in jumping at the newbies and I certainly had that happen to me. My reaction was to think how sad and pathetic the PMs were, but just like in RL you can never tell when a saddo will turn nasty. So you know how it is - you regard them with suspicion and go from there.

That's why the few ^^ men-who-can't-read like to post how they're not that kinda guy, without stopping to think about our pov. I've even had a guy at Lit criticise me for being suspicious of men and for crossing roads to avoid them. Fucks sake

 

[BadAmy]

Oh there's one gent. Who sneaks into your pm innocuously. Then attempts to get you to read his drivel.
Then...expects a three page report on how his "writing" made you feel.
Anything less than 1500 words, and you are chided and pressed for "better work".

Most cringe interaction yet.

Iykyk.

 

[stickygirl]

Oh there's one gent. Who sneaks into your pm innocuously. Then attempts to get you to read his drivel.
Then...expects a three page report on how his "writing" made you feel.
Anything less than 1500 words, and you are chided and pressed for "better work".

Most cringe interaction yet.

Iykyk.

Don't tell me - you have to lie about his very average story and try to find something positive to say just to keep him sweet?

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I am loathe to make generalizations,

Hey, you already knew the answer.

I've had poor interactions with authors. Men are men. The ability to string a sentence together has no inherent character building that accompanies it. That said, if you've had some pleasant chats, then that's great! Just, you know...keep following your intuition of not generalizing. The moment you get comfortable & start having expectations of most male authors is when you'll meet the biggest fuck face yet & become disillusioned.

 

[v_indigo]

Good morning everyone. This is just a reminder to make sure your genital magic is under control. It’s easy to forget on the weekend.

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

Hey, you already knew the answer.

I've had poor interactions with authors. Men are men. The ability to string a sentence together has no inherent character building that accompanies it. That said, if you've had some pleasant chats, then that's great! Just, you know...keep following your intuition of not generalizing. The moment you get comfortable & start having expectations of most male authors is when you'll meet the biggest fuck face yet & become disillusioned.

Thanks for keeping me grounded

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Good morning everyone. This is just a reminder to make sure your genital magic is under control. It’s easy to forget on the weekend.

Mmmm, the weekend is exactly when I don't want it under control . Let it glitter & sparkle.

 

[v_indigo]

Mmmm, the weekend is exactly when I don't want it under control . Let it glitter & sparkle.

I’m seeing a movie tomorrow. If I don’t keep it under control, it will be CHAOS

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Just throwing this out here, no need to accept, but please let me know if you would like this thread moved to a forum where a moderator could help. (Like when an idiot like @Giftboy decides to barge in and throw a lame insult, a mod could actually remove the drivel and prevent him from posting in the thread again). Maybe the How To forum or the Playground? The HT forum is very slow moving which could limit new women finding the thread, although the thread staying active would keep it at the top of the list and actually on the main page. The Playground is very active, more active than the GB, so the thread could draw troll behavior there (although easy to remove). Let me know if there’s any interest (@InCNCestBangPie)

 

[v_indigo]

Just throwing this out here, no need to accept, but please let me know if you would like this thread moved to a forum where a moderator could help. (Like when an idiot like @Giftboy decides to barge in and throw a lame insult, a mod could actually remove the drivel and prevent him from posting in the thread again). Maybe the How To forum or the Playground? The HT forum is very slow moving which could limit new women finding the thread, although the thread staying active would keep it at the top of the list and actually on the main page. The Playground is very active, more active than the GB, so the thread could draw troll behavior there (although easy to remove). Let me know if there’s any interest (@InCNCestBangPie)

Thank you for this! I agree, though, with the issue of keeping it ‘findable’. As obnoxious as the guys are, I like that this is a thread women will stumble into, and moving it someplace ‘remote’ will kind of put an end to that.
Obviously, this is up to our hostess, just my two cents

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

@ToPleaseHim Thank you very much for offering! I think the comfort of these ladies is very important, especially the new accounts trying to navigate things. And if seeing these unprovoked boys hurling insults in this thread and disrupting the flow of things prevents any woman from wanting to share here, then that's a huge problem. Yes, please. A move to the PG would be most appreciated .

 

[stickygirl]

Thank you for this! I agree, though, with the issue of keeping it ‘findable’. As obnoxious as the guys are, I like that this is a thread women will stumble into, and moving it someplace ‘remote’ will kind of put an end to that.
Obviously, this is up to our hostess, just my two cents

I guess we could see how it goes. I quite like rough camping in the GB... though ETA having seen the point BPie has made about newbs then, yes - a move would benefit them

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I guess we could see how it goes. I quite like rough camping in the GB

Rough camping? Lol oh no gurl. I don't do that.

 

[v_indigo]

Rough camping? Lol oh no gurl. I don't do that.

Same. I’m Jewish. We roughed it for 40 years. I’m sticking with plumbing.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

And also with the PG, if y’all decide you regret the move, I would be able to move it back.

I’m going to ask Laurel to move the thread. It won’t be instant, but she will do it. Let’s give it a try.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

And also with the PG, if y’all decide you regret the move, I would be able to move it back.

I’m going to ask Laurel to move the thread. It won’t be instant, but she will do it. Let’s give it a try.

You had me at "y'all"

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

Isn't The Playground under Literotica Personals? From what I've seen that's not an area I want to hang out in very often. Do what you want, and I'll give it a chance, but if it goes sideways, I'm bailing. Sorry.

 

[RaineDrops]

Good morning all. I just wanted to say that I love this place and wishing everyone a lovely weekend.

 

[v_indigo]

Isn't The Playground under Literotica Personals? From what I've seen that's not an area I want to hang out in very often. Do what you want, and I'll give it a chance, but if it goes sideways, I'm bailing. Sorry.

It is, but that section is really its own thing. It really has nothing to do with the ‘personals’

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

It is, but that section is really its own thing. It really has nothing to do with the ‘personals’

Well, when the change happens, this bunny is going to retreat to her burrow and watch for a while. Maybe having a Mod will be worth it? IDK. I hope to feel comfortable coming back at some point.

 

[v_indigo]

Well, when the change happens, this bunny is going to retreat to her burrow and watch for a while. Maybe having a Mod will be worth it? IDK. I hope to feel comfortable coming back at some point.

I appreciate that very much.