Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

Why do we find it hard to avoid being hurt by comments online? We know we can walk away; that the other person could be faking their age/gender/status/politics but the truth is that cyber bullying is a real thing, not just for kids, but adults too.
I've never had a big problem with sexually explicit PMs or dick-pics because I'd simply laugh at them and then immediately put the person on ignore and probably warn my friends at Lit what had happened. Shining a light on abuse can be difficult for the victim but ultimately it's a positive thing to do. At the very least we should be able to confide and offer each other support.
 
I've almost dropped out of Lit, but a few threads are worth book-marking and this is defo one of those. Good to see some old friends here and look forward to meeting new ones.
Is that coffee fresh? I'll find a quiet spot in the corner and watch the room a while :)

Hey there!
So glad you did NOT drop out of Lit. I confess I have not read all your posts/threads but what I have seen are supportive and positive.
 
I am a relatively new author (just completed my first story and it was published!) and have only been on this site for a few months. Yes some men are course and vulgar towards women. That's usually, IMO, because they don't understand that women have a different emotional make up and therefore a different approach to sex. To be blunt: men are more than happy to have random and ananomous sex but women need to feel the heat and intimacy. Generally (not always) women will not have an orgasm unless she is brought there whereas men can pretty much shoot thier load after a minute or two. Men and women will never be sexually compatible unless they understand each other's differences when it comes to sex/love making. And when a woman "doesn't get there" a lot of guys are resentlful at the woman for being '"a lousy fuck" while at the same time feeling inadequate about themselves for "not getting the job done". Most likely it's because they actually believe those professionally produced porn videos where women have these intense screaming ta the top of their lungs orgasms every single time. Maybe that's why some guys are so course.

I don't mean just to bash the men. Some women can be just as shallow and have harbor the same resentments too albeit for different reasons. From my brief time on these boards I've noticed a disturbing trend that a growing number of younger women approach sex the same way men do. By that I mean they are more vulgar and sexually demanding than more mature women who tend to gravite towards the erotic and sensual. Maybe thats why I prefer women closer to may age. (65)

Well, that's my 2 cents.
 
I am a relatively new author (just completed my first story and it was published!) and have only been on this site for a few months. Yes some men are course and vulgar towards women. That's usually, IMO, because they don't understand that women have a different emotional make up and therefore a different approach to sex. To be blunt: men are more than happy to have random and ananomous sex but women need to feel the heat and intimacy. Generally (not always) women will not have an orgasm unless she is brought there whereas men can pretty much shoot thier load after a minute or two. Men and women will never be sexually compatible unless they understand each other's differences when it comes to sex/love making. And when a woman "doesn't get there" a lot of guys are resentlful at the woman for being '"a lousy fuck" while at the same time feeling inadequate about themselves for "not getting the job done". Most likely it's because they actually believe those professionally produced porn videos where women have these intense screaming ta the top of their lungs orgasms every single time. Maybe that's why some guys are so course.

I don't mean just to bash the men. Some women can be just as shallow and have harbor the same resentments too albeit for different reasons. From my brief time on these boards I've noticed a disturbing trend that a growing number of younger women approach sex the same way men do. By that I mean they are more vulgar and sexually demanding than more mature women who tend to gravite towards the erotic and sensual. Maybe thats why I prefer women closer to may age. (65)

Well, that's my 2 cents.
That's some next level mansplaining. JFAC what a patronising twat.
A way to be a good author is to be a good reader too... read the OP
To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.
 
Yeah, you did with your unasked for and, very clearly stated, unwelcome two cents.
Point well taken. I should have read the first post. I had no idea this was a man hating thread. If I did, I wouldn't have spent the time and effort responding. Have a nice day and you won't see me on this thread again. Life is too short. But feel free to say hi if you see me on another thread.
 
From my brief time on these boards I've noticed a disturbing trend that a growing number of younger women approach sex the same way men do. By that I mean they are more vulgar and sexually demanding than more mature women who tend to gravite towards the erotic and sensual
Vulgar and sexually demanding... that's me. And horrors of horrors, I don't feel any shame about it. I know, how scandalous. I guess you must have grown up before the sexual revolution... Oh wait... You're 65? Fuck, dude. You were a fucking teenager in the 70s. Did you grow up under a fucking rock? Fuck... and yes, I know I have a bad mouth... 🤣🤣🤣

And I love how later a thread intended to be a safe place for women to post becomes a "man hating thread" in his eyes because he was called on his fucking misogyny. Just to clarify, it's not a man hating thread. It's a misogyny survival thread. If you can't tell the fucking difference, I feel sorry for the woman/women in your life.
 
Hi everyone.

I have been on Lit for several years now and had many experiences with men here. The vast majority have been good, but hey! Some guys here really do need to have a few facts explained to them. For example ......

I chatted with a guy who lived in the USA. It seems that the words "Time" and "Zone" put together meant nothing to him at all. He would send me messages in what was for me the middle of the night. Naturally I was not actually online to answer him. Also he would message me when I was at work. I explained the facts to him that I was several hours ahead of him and that I did have a job.

His out of sync (timewise) messages became more and more aggressive. He started demanding that I replied to him instantly, and called me every kind of bitch for not doing so. I had no real issue as he was many miles away from me and if I may say, a bit of a dick! The ignore button was used.

I only bring this up as an example of how men can be. But many others have become friends. We happily chat on video calls and a couple of them I have actually met up with. So by no means are they all bad. But hey! Some really do need to have a word with themselves.

Take care all and enjoy chatting.

Tessa xxx
 
My experience with men here has been better than average. I ignore the one sentence messages I seem to get every time I post a picture that shows any part of my body. Yes, I have big boobs, no that doesn't mean I would like to have you cum on them. I don't block people as often as I should. I've received some very nice, complimentary messages that required some thought and effort. Those are the ones you hope for. There are clearly many incels and men in sexless marriages on this site. While it must be difficult to be in those circumstances, it's not my problem. It isn't yours either, don't let it be.
I used to spend time in the AH which has more prima donnas than a ballet school and there's bitching from both sexes. I had a few creeps try their luck with me when I first arrived, but I've had few problems with knuckle draggers. Maybe it was because I was more interested in word-game threads than the flirt ones?
As a trans woman I've had kind and thoughtful exchanges with both sexes. I occasionally get a newb dude who sends a "Hi there. Saw your post. How you doin?" and I'll either not bother to reply or point out my gender... one of the few times my status can be useful.
It's easy to say, but don't forget you can switch off, use ignore or even report another Litster. You won't be the first person that dude has annoyed. And a problem shared... reach out to someone you trust to talk it through. It's supposed to be fun, right?
 
I'm Lynn. My husband, Gary, is usually on here, but I come on sometimes to chat or answer questions. I saw this thread and wanted to comment. Almost all of my experiences with men have been good with one exception. When I was in college, I had a lot of sex. I was having sex with a guy I had been dating. He pulled out of my pussy and rammed his cock into my ass. No lube. No warning. It hurt like hell! I screamed and managed to push him away. I don't consider it rape since our sex was consensual, but it has affected me ever since.
 
I'm Lynn. My husband, Gary, is usually on here, but I come on sometimes to chat or answer questions. I saw this thread and wanted to comment. Almost all of my experiences with men have been good with one exception. When I was in college, I had a lot of sex. I was having sex with a guy I had been dating. He pulled out of my pussy and rammed his cock into my ass. No lube. No warning. It hurt like hell! I screamed and managed to push him away. I don't consider it rape since our sex was consensual, but it has affected me ever since.
That was rape, consent is constant and ongoing.

Also, you should get your own account. They’re free. Your husband speaks for you constantly and it’s unlikely that anyone here is going to believe that this isn’t him posting.
 
That was rape, consent is constant and ongoing.

Also, you should get your own account. They’re free. Your husband speaks for you constantly and it’s unlikely that anyone here is going to believe that this isn’t him posting.
I guess that's right.
 
Insisting on being where you know you aren't wanted just to piss people off. Have you considered changing your name to Rapey Phil? You're the kind of pathetic man child that makes women across the globe want to superglue their vaginas shut. Maybe once guys like you have chased all the actual women off of Lit you and the other incels can sit around in a giant circle jerk over how badly you treated us. Meanwhile, we'll find better men with broader minds who actually like women. I fell so sorry for any woman whose ever had what must be the ultimate displeasure in fucking you.
You're amazing. Let the child talk himself to sleep. He doesn't have the brain capacity for much else. My philosophy: I will speak up when needed and not shy away from it, however, I give myself a quota for stupid people. That is, 1-2 replies max before I move on with my life and let them either self implode from my lack of response or cream their pathetic jeans because they think my silence means they "won" something in an internet comment section. Their inability to have a life isn't my reality.
As such, I won't engage with the overtly antagonistic asshole here at all because his objective is quite clear. And frankly, I have too many meaningful things going on in my life to give a damn about some misogynistic loser who was never loved as a child or adult or both. It's not worth it. Though, I sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you and the other lovely ladies in this thread who have tried to keep this thread on track.
For reference, if a man posted a thread intended for only men to vent and a woman chimed in with obviously ignorant and ill intent, everyone would rally around bullying her from the site. Yet, a man can do the same and somehow the women who were calm & content before his arrival become the problem. Gotta love the nonsensical double standard.
So please, carry on around him & let the little angry tyke tucker himself out in the background. I'm sure he's used to being in the background of life anyway 😌.
 
"Men are awful," said the woman cheating on her husband, and who won't give the time of day to any man no matter how kind and articulate if he isn't tall, handsome, and hung.
Women like guys who treat us like human beings with free will and agency. Acting like we owe you anything for simply being nice to us is an automatic turn-off.
 
"Men are awful," said the woman cheating on her husband, and who won't give the time of day to any man no matter how kind and articulate if he isn't tall, handsome, and hung.
Awww, poor wittle incel is mad. Why you cry? Does it wants it's binkie now?
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