Young submissive seeking advice/encouragement

[Marquis]

LOL, you sort of missed the point

Did I?

I didn't have best friends as a little kid..not until I was almost a teenager. And adopting a teenager is definately something I might one day consider.

But if there was another little kid who had behavior similar to yours, would you have befriended them?

I infer that from this comment:

From the first day of Pre-k, I had a very strong aversion towards the other children. They freaked me out. They were loud, they giggled, they made high pitched noises, they ran about and jumped up and down on things and just really bothered me. I avoided them at all costs and spent my recess times hanging out with my teachers. In elementary school, I would sit in the bathroom and read on my lunch break because I didn't want to be around the other kids.

This didn't change for me until I was about 12, and by then I was able to find kids my age who were also quiet and calm and whose company I enjoyed.

I'm not going to go into the psychology of why you would feel this way about children, because something tells me you've already thought about it plenty and would find it patronizing.

All I'm saying is that I think getting your tubes tied at 24 is a big mistake. In 10 years you'll be a totally different person, and if having a child suddenly becomes important to you, you won't have any options then.

Is it so hard to use birth control in the mean time? Do you have ethical problems with terminating the pregnancy if one should slip by?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I actually feel there is more to your issue of not liking children then not being associated with other children before school and being a quiet person. I grew up in a country town with just my parents who were so reclusive they never had friends or family over, and I learnt to amuse myself. When I started school it was the first time I had been with other children also as in those days there was no such thing as child care or pre-school. I was always a loner and quiet, though I just see that as a family trait more than anything, but regardless it didn't make me squick about children. I cannot stand being around loud people of any age and hate being around screaming or overactive children, but once again I think that is more my personality and doesn't make me ill to be around them, just I am not that drawn to or likely to associate with them..fortunately both my chidren were quiet types and I always said I must inadvertently have conditioned them to be that way before birth. I hope you do get it sorted out regardless of whether you decide to have children or not as the way you describe your reactions it is affecting your life more than is possible to do and exist in normal society.

Catalina

 

[GeekySub]

All I'm saying is that I think getting your tubes tied at 24 is a big mistake. In 10 years you'll be a totally different person, and if having a child suddenly becomes important to you, you won't have any options then.

Is it so hard to use birth control in the mean time? Do you have ethical problems with terminating the pregnancy if one should slip by?

I seriously in doubt in ten years I'll have overcome my disgust at children. Who wants a parasite to live in them for 9 months and then be expelled through the vagina? I'd rather adopt an older child in need of a home, especially considering that our planet is already vastly overpopulated.

And while I don't have any ethical qualms about abortion, I'd rather not have to bother.

I hate kids...when I'm around them, I have the overwhelming urge to slap them silly.My family history is full of mental illness, including depression, suicide, anger management problems, etc. I know I have the potential to go off the deep end (which is why I'm in therapy).

I just can't think of one reason why someone like me should have kids, and it's best that I eliminate that option, just in case my biological clock tries to make me do something stupid later on.

I work in a jail...I deal mostly with the men, but also with the women. There are women there who drown,abuse, neglect, and murder their children. I know I could be that woman. Therefore, I make the responsible decision not to have children.

I actually thought I was pregnant once, about two years ago. I kept having the overwhelming urge to claw my stomach out or slice it open and take out the parasite...do you know how scary that is for an other-wise normal person? Do you know how frightening that is, to have such a violent and obscene feeling and to KNOW that what you're feeling is insane?

Unless you've lived inside my brain, you don't really have a right to tell me that having my tubes tied is a mistake.

 

[Marquis]

Who wants a parasite to live in them for 9 months and then be expelled through the vagina?

Yeah, wouldn't it be better if we could just divide like amoeba?

And while I don't have any ethical qualms about abortion, I'd rather not have to bother.

Abortion is a significantly simpler procedure than tubal ligation. You're not making any sense. But it seems you already know that.

Do you know how frightening that is, to have such a violent and obscene feeling and to KNOW that what you're feeling is insane?

Actually, yes, rather intimately.

Unless you've lived inside my brain, you don't really have a right to tell me that having my tubes tied is a mistake.

No, I don't have a right to stop you, but I can tell you whatever I'd like. You could say it's none of my business, but that would sound rather silly after bringing this up in a public messageboard, wouldn't it?

In fact, the manner and speed in which you brought up such a controversial topic is very typical of someone desiring acceptance, you can't blame your audience when they don't want to give it to you.

Frankly, there are worse things in the world than being sterile, but that isn't so much the point. The point is that you're allowing your pathological aversion to children to......

you know what, fuck it. Do whatever makes you happy babe.

 

[GeekySub]

I'm not trying to pick a fuss with you Marquis. You seem like a cool enough guy.

This is just something highly important to me and no one who knew me well would say that I shouldn't have my tubes tied.

Dealing with mental illness (and that's what I consider this to be) can be a very difficult thing and can make a person a bit testy about the subject.

This has always been a hot button with me and I tend to get a bit riled up and/or defensive when I discuss the subject.

Ultimately, I feel I am making a responsible and intelligent decision to sterilize myself...the last thing the world needs is another unwanted kid.

 

[Etoile]

Welcome GeekySub! I'm 25, but my Daddy is turning 46 in a couple of months so I feel only semi-qualified to give advice because I consider myself semi-experienced! (We've been together six years.)

I have great news for young people in the BDSM lifestyle. In fact I might start a thread about this, if people think I should? The newly crowned Ms. World Leather's campaign platform is establishing better networking and support for young people 18-35 who are interested in BDSM. She intends to establish more TNG (The Next Generation) groups, foster peer mentoring, and develop general resources for young BDSM types. So be on the lookout for someone named Jae coming to your town, her website is here although it doesn't have information yet about her new title. She does have links to groups like PUNK though. And if you want to help her, get in touch (her e-mail is on the bio page) with her!

Also, nice to see a fellow geek.

 

[GeekySub]

Thanks Etoile, I'll check that out!