Do you write from real experiences?

[Inkent]

Yes, no and any all things in-between. Often use experiences of others as a basis, but often seriously pumped with fictional overload

 

[SavannaT]

Somewhat yes

 

[Hypnobitch01]

Usually when it comes to sensations I try to write from experience.

 

[Inkent]

"My eyes are down here, boys (just don’t tell my husband) stop staring at my face."

SavannaT​

That amused me no end...sorry I'll tryand lift my head up now!

 

[Plathfan]

I do write from real experiences, but what is real? Are we real, or are we just characters in someone else's dream?

We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep.

 

[lovecraft68]

I do write from real experiences, but what is real? Are we real, or are we just characters in someone else's dream?

A fragment of underdone potato, are we?

 

[WCSGarland]

Do you write total fantasy, or is it at least based on real events?

Feelings, yes. Plot, action? My life is much more mundane than my imagination will ever be. When I write plot or action in my story it may trigger a remembered feeling, not necessarily related to my real life occurrence that generated that feeling. But I describe that feeling to the best of my ability.

 

[EdgySubMic]

Much of what I write and subsequently retain is based on real-life experiences. The material that isn't, often ends up not satisfying me and getting deleted after some time – ignoring computer backups, but those eventually get deleted too as my backup disk fills up.

The main characters are very often based on people I know or have known – albeit that I sometimes teleport them in time. E.g., when I needed a couple of bad guys for a specific story, I based them on bullies from my time in high school, aged them by about 25 years, but placed them in time some 10 years after those real events. Names of people I care about are anonymized (*), but those bullies got their real first names included. Places are anonymized to a certain extent, but cannot always be fully so for those who happen to know them. Timing (when relevant or noticeable) typically corresponds to reality.

(*) With the exception that, while writing something with a considerable autobiographical component to it, I will often include my own first name and one other, and then replace them when the story is done.

I might also mention that I write in 4 languages (not all equally frequently). The more fluent I am with speaking a language, the more real-life experiences tend to seep into the story. That’s in part because I sometimes want to use or paraphrase certain “untranslatable” expressions from conversations that I’ve been part of.

As I mentioned in another thread earlier today, most of the time, in my stories I want to explore things that I’d like to experience, but know I never will. To do that, I need to start from reality and build on top of it. However, recently, as I’m aging, I’ve put more focus on documenting certain memories – real ones as well as fantasies I’ve had. The latter stories are less likely to ever be published, but there’s a special someone who I’d like to be able to read them once I’ll be gone.

 

[Pabiporffor]

I can't pretend I've ever been taken to an anal sex party by my parents, banged my brother, or gobbled my dad just for practice. But yes I do draw from real life particularly when creating personalities for characters. Whether it's the village cumbucket, the dirty old man, or the gobby granny without a filter they're all based on real people I've met over the years. I always change the names but I'm sure they recognise themselves and feel honoured to be included.

 

[tristianc]

Only one of my stories is semi-biographical. The rest are pure fiction.

 

[Wifetheif]

A lot of my compromised Christian characters are inspired by my days of moving in religious circles. You will never find a more depraved and sexually twisted lot than your average charismatic church congregation. Their religion is all emotion but their sex lives are strictly mechanical and robotic. They can't include toys, porn, anal, to some even oral is a no-no! It leaves their women frustrated and their men with blue balls watching a TON of porn which makes everybody hot and bothered. Many are stuck in sexless marriages or worse, in marriages where women put out simply because of obligation and not desire. These folks are easy to compromise, blackmail, and turn. True sensuality leaves them overwhelmed because they crave it so desperately.

 

[AG31]

heir religion is all emotion but their sex lives are strictly mechanical and robotic. They can't include toys, porn, anal, to some even oral is a no-no! It leaves their women frustrated and their men with blue balls watching a TON of porn which makes everybody hot and bothered. Many are stuck in sexless marriages or worse, in marriages where women put out simply because of obligation and not desire. These folks are easy to compromise, blackmail, and turn. True sensuality leaves them overwhelmed because they crave it so desperately.

How do you know all this intimate stuff about all these people?

 

[tristianc]

A lot of my compromised Christian characters are inspired by my days of moving in religious circles. You will never find a more depraved and sexually twisted lot than your average charismatic church congregation. Their religion is all emotion but their sex lives are strictly mechanical and robotic. They can't include toys, porn, anal, to some even oral is a no-no! It leaves their women frustrated and their men with blue balls watching a TON of porn which makes everybody hot and bothered. Many are stuck in sexless marriages or worse, in marriages where women put out simply because of obligation and not desire. These folks are easy to compromise, blackmail, and turn. True sensuality leaves them overwhelmed because they crave it so desperately.

I agree with you, I haven’t been in a church since I was in my 20’s, but remember talks about how porn and pre-marital sex was a sin. Masturbation we all did it, but I felt that all fantasies were vanilla in comparison to my own. I think sex and religion has a much more strict relationship among religious women.

 

[Wifetheif]

How do you know all this intimate stuff about all these people?

I was involved with conservative Christian churches for a good chunk of my adult life. I've been to he worship services, the home groups (Where a beautiful college girl inadvertently flashing a bit of her panties as she sat down had me fantasizing for weeks!) I've been to the men's meetings where guys all complained that they weren't getting enough and when their wives did put out they didn't respond like the porn stars in the videos they swore they were NOT watching. I've heard the ranys against masturbation. I've had the realization that some of my pastors were among the most insecure men who have ever lived. I've been slyly propositioned at home group by wives of other members, had my belly literally stroked by a hot blond college student who was new believer. How do I know all the intimate stuff about theses people? I LIVED IT!

 

[Wifetheif]

I agree with you, I haven’t been in a church since I was in my 20’s, but remember talks about how porn and pre-marital sex was a sin. Masturbation we all did it, but I felt that all fantasies were vanilla in comparison to my own. I think sex and religion has a much more strict relationship among religious women.

You would think so, but in my Christian travels I met more men whose wives had cheated on them then I met wives who had their husbands cheat on them. One guy found out when his wife called out somebody else's name in bed. My best friend in all the world discovered that his wife was running around behind his back. A leader of our home group confided to me that his wife had had an affair with a fellow actor in a Christian theater production. After my divorce, I was contacted by the widow of a Christian friend. Turns out she viewed him as something of a jerk, just like I did. We had a short and passionate romance. She made it very clear to me early on that it would take very little effort for me to get inside her panties. Christian wives live lives full of desperation and unfulfilled desires. If you have no soul or morals and want to bang a lot of hot chicks on the sly, join the nearest church with a bunch of young marrieds. You'll have more pussy than you can handle. Gay guys have to be especially careful but male youth pastors and associate ministers are almost always on the look for strage cock to glam to.

 

[tristianc]

You would think so, but in my Christian travels I met more men whose wives had cheated on them then I met wives who had their husbands cheat on them. One guy found out when his wife called out somebody else's name in bed. My best friend in all the world discovered that his wife was running around behind his back. A leader of our home group confided to me that his wife had had an affair with a fellow actor in a Christian theater production. After my divorce, I was contacted by the widow of a Christian friend. Turns out she viewed him as something of a jerk, just like I did. We had a short and passionate romance. She made it very clear to me early on that it would take very little effort for me to get inside her panties. Christian wives live lives full of desperation and unfulfilled desires. If you have no soul or morals and want to bang a lot of hot chicks on the sly, join the nearest church with a bunch of young marrieds. You'll have more pussy than you can handle. Gay guys have to be especially careful but male youth pastors and associate ministers are almost always on the look for strage cock to glam to.

Totally agree, but it’s because I think as a society we treat female sexual desire as though it were unnatural and sinful in religious corners. Women’s fantasies then tend to go toward more exploration because of this, I have my issues when it comes to strict religions but if it means I can roleplay with women who have BDSM or CNC fantasies I’m more than happy to oblige.

 

[Wifetheif]

Totally agree, but it’s because I think as a society we treat female sexual desire as though it were unnatural and sinful in religious corners. Women’s fantasies then tend to go toward more exploration because of this, I have my issues when it comes to strict religions but if it means I can roleplay with women who have BDSM or CNC fantasies I’m more than happy to oblige.

Oh, that certainly is abig part of it. Another part is that women want to marry a man just like Jesus. NO MAN can measure up to that however, and disappointment leads to curiosity about OTHER husbands. They might be better fathers or more secure in their manhood and the wife strays to find out if she is better in other ways as well. Husbands stuck in sexless marriages like myself, tend to grit it out, and play the martyr card.

 

[tristianc]

Oh, that certainly is abig part of it. Another part is that women want to marry a man just like Jesus. NO MAN can measure up to that however, and disappointment leads to curiosity about OTHER husbands. They might be better fathers or more secure in their manhood and the wife strays to find out if she is better in other ways as well. Husbands stuck in sexless marriages like myself, tend to grit it out, and play the martyr card.

When I was married, my wife wanted an open marriage, but made rules to when we could fuck others, she broke those though. But the guys she picked she told me it was because she felt they were better providers than I. It had no BDSM stuff like we’d do, it was very basic animalistic sex she had with them, and of course I never touched another woman during my marriage as I kept to our rules.

 

[Wifetheif]

When I was married, my wife wanted an open marriage, but made rules to when we could fuck others, she broke those though. But the guys she picked she told me it was because she felt they were better providers than I. It had no BDSM stuff like we’d do, it was very basic animalistic sex she had with them, and of course I never touched another woman during my marriage as I kept to our rules.

Yeah, you want to be the good guy. You want to be the good example. I feel your pain. I was married to a woman who detested sex for twenty years. Despite plenty of opportunities I never cheated on her. I had more sex in the first year of my divorce than in the last ten years of my marriage. I discovered that most women actually enjoy sex! I believed two decades of lies, accusations, and overreactions. The only good thing I got out of my marriage was two kids. Making them should have been fun but my ex turned it into as technical and clinical and affair as posdsible. She pinpointed her ovulation cycle. At the peaks I was ordered to perform on command. No sexy nighty, no seduction, no games, just plow me and get off me. Pure misery!

 

[tristianc]

Yeah, you want to be the good guy. You want to be the good example. I feel your pain. I was married to a woman who detested sex for twenty years. Despite plenty of opportunities I never cheated on her. I had more sex in the first year of my divorce than in the last ten years of my marriage. I discovered that most women actually enjoy sex! I believed two decades of lies, accusations, and overreactions. The only good thing I got out of my marriage was two kids. Making them should have been fun but my ex turned it into as technical and clinical and affair as posdsible. She pinpointed her ovulation cycle. At the peaks I was ordered to perform on command. No sexy nighty, no seduction, no games, just plow me and get off me. Pure misery!

That’s horrible, children should be planned but not to the point that it becomes clinical. Sex should always be fun no matter the purpose. Since my divorce I’ve been with 4 other women and all were in stable relationship with me before sex, but all of those women had some kind of sexual lesson from me and I feel learned something about themselves. But as a guy I’ve felt free to learn about sex, watch porn, and admit to it all with friends, I don’t think we offer that same to women, it’s why I’ve helped women discover things that they may not have felt ok with exploring alone.

 

[Wifetheif]

That’s horrible, children should be planned but not to the point that it becomes clinical. Sex should always be fun no matter the purpose. Since my divorce I’ve been with 4 other women and all were in stable relationship with me before sex, but all of those women had some kind of sexual lesson from me and I feel learned something about themselves. But as a guy I’ve felt free to learn about sex, watch porn, and admit to it all with friends, I don’t think we offer that same to women, it’s why I’ve helped women discover things that they may not have felt ok with exploring alone.

Yep, my ex had me convinced everything was my fault and all our problems wewre generated by me. What's most frustrating is that physically she's still my ideal woman, a beautiful stacked brunette with incredible legs. It made my frustrations that much worse.

 

[MK_Whimsy]

All fantasy. Much of what I write is anywhere between impractical and impossible in real life. If any of it were based on real life events though, it would probably look quite a bit different.

 

[tristianc]

Yep, my ex had me convinced everything was my fault and all our problems wewre generated by me. What's most frustrating is that physically she's still my ideal woman, a beautiful stacked brunette with incredible legs. It made my frustrations that much worse.

I hate that, my ex fiancé made me feel like I lost my physical and mental ideal in a woman, experienced enough to know what she liked but willing to explore things she didn’t know about before hand. But I’ve found my match now.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

How do you know all this intimate stuff about all these people?

Those who leave Christianity write about their experiences and thoughts, including their sex lives. There are many such writers. Vyckie Garrison was one such writer and the 'No Longer Quivering Blog' was one such online spot for them. Those still in Christianity also write quite a bit about sex, much of it boiling down to "marriage only, women should/must put out on demand". Much of the stuff in our local bookstore is that. They are the biggest consumers of porn in my nation as measured by who logs in from where and what the religious distribution is in those locations. One can look up Josh Duggar, prime example of this sort of person. (yes, I know, hashtag not all Christians, but quite a lot where I live)

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

@tristianc
@Wifetheif

The sad emojis were agreements and sympathy, not criticism. I believe everything you wrote because that describes many of the people in my region. Thankfully, I was not raised that way, my family was secular, but the poison gets absorbed when you're swimming in it. I never found vanilla sex shameful nor taboo but it took me years to shed the Puritanical shame about other lovely sexual stuff.

So as not to derail the thread, I haven't written much yet (5 stories so far) but they were all recollections of real events, I lived them. I wrote to help others not feel such pointless shame and guilt. I'm glad so many of you write. I'm glad LitE exists. We need such positive healthy counterprogramming to the dominant narrative in my part of the world.