What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

What's the right ratio of Romance vs Other on a ten song valentine playlist?
They can't all be sexy as fuck or else the listener would melt before they got to the tenth song. 6 vs 4?
Depends on the relationship, but could be a mixture of romantic, sweet, sappy, sexy, dirty and maybe 1-2 funny if one of the things they love about you is your humor
 
When at the end of the day you’ve done your best in all that matters most … await the results in peace.

I looking back at the day and hoping I’ve done enough.
 
The advice I have been given, with respect to Lit, is that this is how people let others down gently. There seems to be a reservation to telling someone directly that you are no longer interested in chatting with them. I've had this conversation with multiple people and folks seem to really believe this fading away is “nicer” than saying something directly. I vehemently disagree. I'd much rather hear that I was not someone else’s cup of tea or that we had run its course than be left to ruminate on what happened.

The bottom line is that lack of communication, be it poor communication, partial communication or slow ghosting, sucks. I think folks need to be straight up and say what is happening. No one needs more reasons to second guess themselves. I am sorry that this has been your experience. You are definitely not alone.

And I also have been a bad communicator-not because I ghost folks until they get the hint but because I don't always check my PM’s, sometimes I dont have time to listen or record an audio and my in person life can take up all of my energy and I don't prioritize my online conversations. I am a work in progress though so I continue to try and improve and I'm gentle with myself about it. I know my intentions are good and anyone that knows me knows that too.
When it comes to Lit, I just ask. To me, friendships are always friendships until we're not which should be obvious. Like getting the side-eye. Some folks here, I go through phases where I am all in their grill, then elsewhere, then back. I have seen people that way with me. I never know what to make of it, just, that, time is short, and people will mess about in whatever way seems foremost and present.

I often think about people I used to interact with here from years ago that no longer come around. I like to think I can always pick up where we left off and expect that to be so. I am a relentless optimist that way. Like a dog I suppose. Some will never come back. Can't be helped. I still carry a great deal.of affection for most of the people I interact with here.

I mean, what else can one do? Time is short.You choose to spend some here, on a forum. Make the most of it. Create, bother people. They WANT to be bothered here. It's why they're here!

Please though? Enough with the boob pics, I get way too many of them.
 
I’m so over all this crap at work. I’m just ignoring it all now. I’ve been told the RIFF has started, a furlough is coming, I still might lose my job! I mean I think I can make a decent living under the bridge downtown.
 
Sometimes real life is tough. Some people on here use lit as an escape from it, a small respite in the shit storm of the outside world. I have done it poorly myself and feel others probably have too. I truly apologize to those I have hurt, annoyed, alienated, ignored, stalked or other wise caused them to feel any other way. (And yes I know you can’t make some one feel anything, but still)

We all get hurt and hurt people sometimes.

I hope this helps someone else make it through a rough time: If you look hard enough, someone on here will help pick up the pieces (or at least try), or at the minimum just listen. Friends can be had, sometimes out of nowhere.

Lit moves fast, like really fast. Move on, or get out of the way. And if you need to take a step to the side before jumping back on this speedy moving train.
 
I need to keep reminding myself that I'm not special, that I'm just another guy to chat with if a woman is bored or lonely or just wants to get off with whoever is available.
I totally get tha-......wait, some of them want to get off with you because you are available?!?!? That does it! Piss off 😛
it’s ok to feel whatever you’re feeling … but you need to own the emotions and not blame others for them.
I feel like it's their fault. 🤷
 
Sometimes real life is tough. Some people on here use lit as an escape from it, a small respite in the shit storm of the outside world. I have done it poorly myself and feel others probably have too. I truly apologize to those I have hurt, annoyed, alienated, ignored, stalked or other wise caused them to feel any other way. (And yes I know you can’t make some one feel anything, but still)

We all get hurt and hurt people sometimes.

I hope this helps someone else make it through a rough time: If you look hard enough, someone on here will help pick up the pieces (or at least try), or at the minimum just listen. Friends can be had, sometimes out of nowhere.

Lit moves fast, like really fast. Move on, or get out of the way. And if you need to take a step to the side before jumping back on this speedy moving train.
Well, Lit didn’t use to move so fast. Some parts are definitely moving faster than what had been the norm. Three words: curate, curate, curate
 
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