Any other men here with a deep desire to be dominated by a woman?

[77fbird400]

Relatively new here.

Just wondering if there are any other men here who have a deep desire to be dominated by a strong woman?

I do.

It seems my whole life, I've always been in a position of authority and leadership. I'm the oldest sibling, even older than most of my cousins. I'm the breadwinner and head of my own family. Even at work, I somehow gravitated to a position of leadership. Not willingly albeit, I took this position to prevent our board from searching externally to fill this position. I never intended to stay, but here I am 14 years later. Even when we go on a family vacation, it has to be me that figures everything out. Even a company Christmas party it has to be me that plans it. Honestly, it get tiring. I sounds weird, but I never get a break, I wish someone can just tell me what to do if only for one day.

I have a deep desire to be dominated by a strong willed woman. Someone who can make me submit physically and emotionally. I excluded sexually because it doesn't have to involve sex. Someone who can make me cry, beg, grovel. Someone who can push me to precipice of my physical and emotional limit and leave me there in solidarity.

I would pay for this.

I suppose I'm the only man here who feels like.

 

[Wonderer67]

Not at all. Many men want this.

I too few like I need to be in control and control my environment. I work a fairly high pressure job and have my own business the side. I too have always been attracted to the idea of submitting to a strong willed woman. After getting divorced I met a wonderful woman with whom we have a great sex life. I began to tell her my desires and we have slowly integrated a D/S life into our relationship. She’s not a naturally dominant person so it’s not everything I want it to be but I love it.

We have been practicing chastity and orgasm control into our lives and it’s a dynamic changer! I do wish for her to be more dominating with sexual and non sexual situations, but it’s really been an excellent and fun journey.

You may need to pay for it - try it. I may do that too becomes I’d really like to try being with a hardcore dominatrix who really controls me.

 

[delphi604]

Domination with pain

I have had some, but not extensive, experience with dominatrices. I found that I enjoyed the pain and the pegging. I guess that's a sexual aspect of submission, but I'm not sure. I have fantasized about this for years. Still do, and I ain't young.

 

[77fbird400]

Not at all. Many men want this.

I too few like I need to be in control and control my environment. I work a fairly high pressure job and have my own business the side. I too have always been attracted to the idea of submitting to a strong willed woman. After getting divorced I met a wonderful woman with whom we have a great sex life. I began to tell her my desires and we have slowly integrated a D/S life into our relationship. She’s not a naturally dominant person so it’s not everything I want it to be but I love it.

We have been practicing chastity and orgasm control into our lives and it’s a dynamic changer! I do wish for her to be more dominating with sexual and non sexual situations, but it’s really been an excellent and fun journey.

You may need to pay for it - try it. I may do that too becomes I’d really like to try being with a hardcore dominatrix who really controls me.

You are lucky. I tried to get my wife to put me in bondage, BDSM but she completely refuses. It's kind of cute, she just sits there with ropes and cuffs in her hands looking at me. I said, well put them on me and do to me what I do to you! She simply won't. At most, she'll spank me but it doesn't hurt. She's not trying. I stopped pursuing it with her.

Then you know how I feel. Everyone in my organization can go home and leave their work behind. When they go on vacation, they can ignore their work emails and disconnect completely from work. I can't. If something happens, I get a phone call or email no matter if it's Sunday or if I'm in Cancun on vacation. I just never get a real break and it is very tiring. Somehow this feeling crossed a sexual boundary and fed my desire to be dominated by a woman.

I have had some, but not extensive, experience with dominatrices. I found that I enjoyed the pain and the pegging. I guess that's a sexual aspect of submission, but I'm not sure. I have fantasized about this for years. Still do, and I ain't young.

My wife and I are strictly monogamous so no sex for me. Perhaps she can tell me to do sexual acts on myself. Spanking, whipping, bondage is not considered sexual by legal definition. In additional to monogamy, most states prohibit prostitution by law. I need to stay within the realms of the law or my professional life may be at risk. If I do this, I would need a contract with the Domme to spell out what she can and cannot do, mostly for legal purposes. This may be immoral, but it can't be illegal for me. I am really thinking about doing this.

Thanks for sharing, good to know there are other men out there with these fantasies. I didn't think I was alone, but it's good to hear from others.

I appreciate the responses!

 

[Goldenfinger]

I believe a lot of men want a dominant woman. I also believe it’s more common than you think.

 

[Wonderer67]

You are lucky. I tried to get my wife to put me in bondage, BDSM but she completely refuses. It's kind of cute, she just sits there with ropes and cuffs in her hands looking at me. I said, well put them on me and do to me what I do to you! She simply won't. At most, she'll spank me but it doesn't hurt. She's not trying. I stopped pursuing it with her.

She may not know what to do. It doesn’t happen magically, it has taken years of communication, talking and figuring out what works, what doesn’t work, what’s enjoyable and what’s not. Some sessions, especially early on we’re really bad, but gradually she has learned what turns me on. But it’s not perfect and it’s takes a lot of time and communication. It’s not 100% what I want, but nothing is in life.

My wife is not naturally dominant person but there are times she can really get me going!

You learn by making mistakes. I wish you luck!! It can be a fun and enjoyable journey.

 

[77fbird400]

I believe a lot of men want a dominant woman. I also believe it’s more common than you think.

This is what I suspect. But it isn't something one man would talk to another about in the coffee room.

She may not know what to do. It doesn’t happen magically, it has taken years of communication, talking and figuring out what works, what doesn’t work, what’s enjoyable and what’s not. Some sessions, especially early on we’re really bad, but gradually she has learned what turns me on. But it’s not perfect and it’s takes a lot of time and communication. It’s not 100% what I want, but nothing is in life.

My wife is not naturally dominant person but there are times she can really get me going!

You learn by making mistakes. I wish you luck!! It can be a fun and enjoyable journey.

Wonder67, you've inspired me to try again. I see that my instruction to her to "do what I do to you" was too open-ended. I'll give her something specific to do to me that she will enjoy. I already have an idea. I'll get her to put on my cuffs (we each have our own set), clip me to the bed and she can perform oral services on me. I think she would enjoy that. Hopefully we can build on a small success. I hope to come back with good news!

 

[Goldenfinger]

This is what I suspect. But it isn't something one man would talk to another about in the coffee room.



Wonder67, you've inspired me to try again. I see that my instruction to her to "do what I do to you" was too open-ended. I'll give her something specific to do to me that she will enjoy. I already have an idea. I'll get her to put on my cuffs (we each have our own set), clip me to the bed and she can perform oral services on me. I think she would enjoy that. Hopefully we can build on a small success. I hope to come back with good news!

If you give her a specific thing to do is she really being dominant or are you just leading from the bottom?

 

[Goldenfinger]

Relatively new here.

Just wondering if there are any other men here who have a deep desire to be dominated by a strong woman?

I do.

It seems my whole life, I've always been in a position of authority and leadership. I'm the oldest sibling, even older than most of my cousins. I'm the breadwinner and head of my own family. Even at work, I somehow gravitated to a position of leadership. Not willingly albeit, I took this position to prevent our board from searching externally to fill this position. I never intended to stay, but here I am 14 years later. Even when we go on a family vacation, it has to be me that figures everything out. Even a company Christmas party it has to be me that plans it. Honestly, it get tiring. I sounds weird, but I never get a break, I wish someone can just tell me what to do if only for one day.

I have a deep desire to be dominated by a strong willed woman. Someone who can make me submit physically and emotionally. I excluded sexually because it doesn't have to involve sex. Someone who can make me cry, beg, grovel. Someone who can push me to precipice of my physical and emotional limit and leave me there in solidarity.

I would pay for this.

I suppose I'm the only man here who feels like.

To answer the question. Yes. My wife is dominant and I’m submissive.

 

[77fbird400]

If you give her a specific thing to do is she really being dominant or are you just leading from the bottom?

I realize that, but if I light a fire maybe it'll catch on and start burning by itself.

To answer the question. Yes. My wife is dominant and I’m submissive.

Lucky, I would love that so much.

Do you ever switch? Was it always like that or did it evolve to that? Just in the bedroom or f/t? Please PM if needed.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I realize that, but if I light a fire maybe it'll catch on and start burning by itself.



Lucky, I would love that so much.

Do you ever switch? Was it always like that or did it evolve to that? Just in the bedroom or f/t? Please PM if needed.

Do we switch: No at this point we have out roles and that’s how it is.

Was it always like that or did it evolve to that?: I like assertive/dominant women. So that’s what I looked for. I met my wife in the military, she was there for school I was there for a career. I wanted a strong loyal wife could make decisions. But it has definitely evolved.

Just in the bedroom or f/t?: it’s pretty much f/t. But we both have our roles. For example she’s in charge of the day to day bills and I do retirement. It’s a partnership.

 

[beckiefalwell]

This is extremely common on some levels.

For some guys it's just a light playful, occasional thing. I prefer the the serious submissive men and women.

 

[mssweetangelina]

It is quite nice to know that this is appealing to men as it is to us ladies who would love a submissive man

 

[KyleR215]

Yes, I have that strong desire, however it has eluded me. It seems that unless I want to pay a professional it will probably not become a reality. Sexually Dominate women have been difficult to find

 

[worldender]

I'm a switch, but when submitting I definitely prefer it to be to a woman.

 

[Adrock1981]

I do like a little bit of bossy feisty in my females so yeah in the context of day to day treatment and sexually it's a turn on for me

 

[Goldenfinger]

My wife has quiet a few friend that she talks to and come to our home. Some of them know a little and others know a lot. Some of them have even talked to me about it.

I find it interesting on the different views they have. One woman who I’d say is the dominant one in the relationship (domestically dominant not sexually). Is always telling her husband what to do and how best it should be done. She thinks it’s not manly. Mostly because I don’t watch sports.

A couple of women love the idea and say the would be more dominant but they think it would hurt their partners feelings.

I think it’s normal for the woman to be the real head of household and gives her spouse instruction via honydoo lists.

But we really are talking about sexuality dominance. So of the friend that know more of our kinks. One asked me if I was gay. She thinks it’s odd for the guy not to be the aggressor. Which is kinda odd cause I know her boyfriend (not spouse) and they don’t really have sex. She doesn’t want to, so I’d say she doesn’t want A aggressor. She’s kinda bitchy too. She should be into it and lock her boyfriends penis in a cage and be happy.

Another girl thinks it fucking awesome and talks to me way to much about it.

Then there’s a girl I’ve know forever that works with my wife and she vert much likes the idea. So much so she found a very submissive guy to play with. On top of that she told her mom about it and the mom thinks it’s hot and talked to me about it. That was fucking odd cause I’ve known since I was 2.

So I think it’s more common than we think and that a lot of people are interested. It’s just lots don’t want to put themselves out there to find it.

 

[dominatrixNY]

any men to be dominated by a woman

Subs are hiiding here...

 

[PaxNurgle]

I do have such a desire, however: It's complicated.

I've stated here before that the female domination/male submissive dynamic is not that popular here; at least in my personal experience. Even here in the BDSM Talk forum, I've gotten flack from some members for admitting to being into female domination. So, I've always felt a bit of guilt about it, especially when it comes to some fetishes of mine. But the feelings I have about having a powerful woman take charge and dominate me, are very powerful and arousing.

The only problem is, the outlook for actually having a mutually fulfilling FLR/kink relationship is not that great, particularly in the part of the country where I live, so I have resigned myself to dating in the "Vanilla" world. That is, alas, an all too common experience for other guys who are into the idea of being dominated by a woman.

 

[77fbird400]

I do have such a desire, however: It's complicated.

I've stated here before that the female domination/male submissive dynamic is not that popular here; at least in my personal experience. Even here in the BDSM Talk forum, I've gotten flack from some members for admitting to being into female domination. So, I've always felt a bit of guilt about it, especially when it comes to some fetishes of mine. But the feelings I have about having a powerful woman take charge and dominate me, are very powerful and arousing.

The only problem is, the outlook for actually having a mutually fulfilling FLR/kink relationship is not that great, particularly in the part of the country where I live, so I have resigned myself to dating in the "Vanilla" world. That is, alas, an all too common experience for other guys who are into the idea of being dominated by a woman.

Well if you feel guilty about it maybe you do have a submissive side.

I really don't feel guilty at all. I'm not submissive or dominant, I'm just me. This is just a really hot fantasy. I'd have to do it in a different continent, no way I could do it un the US.

Alright, I've been thinking of this all day.

Tall black woman from Great Britian. 5' 10" or taller. Heels, I'm not into leather, a nice evening dress.

She's huge hair, I mean MASSIVE hair, blond highlights.

She's got a strong chin cheek bone that looks like it can take a full punch.

Huge back breaking bust.

Thicc and curvy like the number 8.

Scottish castle with some medieval implements of cohesion left in a tall tower from back in the day.

Tattoos, wow I love tatted women!

Cold stone floor, walls, candle lit only.

I approach the front door for the start of a 3 day, 2 night journey.

She answers it. Doesn't smile, doesn't say anything. Just looks at me, probing, gauging, planning.

Sure of her moments, she attaches a dog collar on me. Not a BDSM one, a real dog collar (they're not comfortable for humans, don't ask me how I know).

She clips on a leash.

I'm ready for this.

Without even tugging on the leash, she points to the floor and says one word:

"down"

I obey.

============

So hot! Oh my gosh I'd love to do this so much!

Here's the details

3 days, 2 nights in Great Britian.

Day 1 - 2 = training
Evening of day 2 = some kind of event, maybe with her fellow Dom(mes)
Day 3 = not sure, ideas? Debrief / wind-down? I don't know

Domme must be a professional with a proven history.

$2K USD up front, $2K USD when done, $1K tip if I like what I got. That is if she really made me feel it and gave me an experience I'll neve forget. I figure an average month's pay for a few nights is a good deal?

A signed contract is an absolute must. Avoid a possible prostitution charge is a must. I don't want to throw away my career.

Hard limits for me:
No sex, no oral. Not interested in that.
Touching = OK, no sexual touching. Not interested in that.
No photos or videos.
Humiliation is OK but no public exhibitionism.
No scat, piss, permanent marking.

Now, I know a professional won't allow this. But if I had my way and I knew the Domme was very experienced ... no safe word. No way out. I have to endure it to get out.

I hope she can still break me physically and emotionally with these limits.

 

[KimGordon67]

I do have such a desire, however: It's complicated.

I've stated here before that the female domination/male submissive dynamic is not that popular here; at least in my personal experience. Even here in the BDSM Talk forum, I've gotten flack from some members for admitting to being into female domination. So, I've always felt a bit of guilt about it, especially when it comes to some fetishes of mine. But the feelings I have about having a powerful woman take charge and dominate me, are very powerful and arousing.

The only problem is, the outlook for actually having a mutually fulfilling FLR/kink relationship is not that great, particularly in the part of the country where I live, so I have resigned myself to dating in the "Vanilla" world. That is, alas, an all too common experience for other guys who are into the idea of being dominated by a woman.

I'm really sorry to hear that - it's not OK, and I'm genuinely surprised that anyone on Lit would react that way, and (if it was in a public forum) that other people didn't bollocks them for it. I know when I've had guys be derogatory about my choices and kinks in public fora, other people have given them hell. That's the sort of community I expect here - it's a pity you've not had that.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

My wife is dominant, and I'm submissive, but, as PaxNurgle says, "it's complicated."

Both of us defer to the other in certain areas of our 46-year-long marriage. We first met because of motorcycles, but her passion in that area is no match for mine, and when I once complained that her car was way past due for an oil change, I was told one reason she married me was to never again have to worry about petty shit like oil changes. She's more than open to me taking the lead in the sack, but in the end she's the final arbiter of what we do and when it happens. I believe my stories, which are mostly autobiographical, reflect this dynamic.

All this, as Pax observes, does seem to make one something of a pariah in this community. My stories get bombed on a regular basis, and one member claiming to be a woman trashed my masculinity (or rather lack thereof), commenting separately on all of my five previous submissions. As hurtful as "her" attacks were on me, her remarks regarding the character based on my wife was even more painful (it did help that this jerk was not an "author," so I consigned "her" worthless remarks to the ether).

My wife is a wonderful person who makes my life worth living every day. She would never do anything to cause me pain, so cuckoldry, e.g., is not something found in my stories. She would never put me on display, unless I wanted it (and even then she probably won't go there). She does have a fast tongue which is reason for some to question our relationship, but I know there's always humor behind her barbs. A friend once in a joking manner asked how I live with her, and I just said that whenever possible, I try to never disappoint her.

Really, isn't that how it should be with someone you love?

My stories: https://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=5692892&page=submissions

 

[CuckIndianHubby]

Yes, me!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Well if you feel guilty about it maybe you do have a submissive side.

I really don't feel guilty at all. I'm not submissive or dominant, I'm just me. This is just a really hot fantasy. I'd have to do it in a different continent, no way I could do it un the US.

Alright, I've been thinking of this all day.

Tall black woman from Great Britian. 5' 10" or taller. Heels, I'm not into leather, a nice evening dress.

She's huge hair, I mean MASSIVE hair, blond highlights.

She's got a strong chin cheek bone that looks like it can take a full punch.

Huge back breaking bust.

Thicc and curvy like the number 8.

Scottish castle with some medieval implements of cohesion left in a tall tower from back in the day.

Tattoos, wow I love tatted women!

Cold stone floor, walls, candle lit only.

I approach the front door for the start of a 3 day, 2 night journey.

She answers it. Doesn't smile, doesn't say anything. Just looks at me, probing, gauging, planning.

Sure of her moments, she attaches a dog collar on me. Not a BDSM one, a real dog collar (they're not comfortable for humans, don't ask me how I know).

She clips on a leash.

I'm ready for this.

Without even tugging on the leash, she points to the floor and says one word:

"down"

I obey.

============

So hot! Oh my gosh I'd love to do this so much!

Here's the details

3 days, 2 nights in Great Britian.

Day 1 - 2 = training
Evening of day 2 = some kind of event, maybe with her fellow Dom(mes)
Day 3 = not sure, ideas? Debrief / wind-down? I don't know

Domme must be a professional with a proven history.

$2K USD up front, $2K USD when done, $1K tip if I like what I got. That is if she really made me feel it and gave me an experience I'll neve forget. I figure an average month's pay for a few nights is a good deal?

A signed contract is an absolute must.Avoid a possible prostitution charge is a must. I don't want to throw away my career.

Hard limits for me:
No sex, no oral. Not interested in that.
Touching = OK, no sexual touching. Not interested in that.
No photos or videos.
Humiliation is OK but no public exhibitionism.
No scat, piss, permanent marking.

Now, I know a professional won't allow this. But if I had my way and I knew the Domme was very experienced ... no safe word. No way out. I have to endure it to get out.

I hope she can still break me physically and emotionally with these limits.

Quoted for irony.

#LitRoyalty

 

[Wonderer67]

If you give her a specific thing to do is she really being dominant or are you just leading from the bottom?

Probably, but if a person is not naturally that way, you have to show them what you mean, what you like and what you desire. My wife would never naturally think of what I’m wanting or desiring- she just isn’t wired that way.

So, we talk about it. And it’s been a long (fun) journey. She picks up on some things and other things still don’t come or feel natural to her. It’s not everything I want, but nothing in life ever is.