BDSM Bucket List

[cookiecat]

Man o' man!! Every day there's so much stuff posted - oral, rope, cmnf, femdomme, things that make us uncomfortable, wax... It's fun to look at, think about, obsess over.

Sometimes I see things and think - yup! That! I have to try that thing and I add it to my list of things I'd like to try.

Do you have anything on your sex / kink / bdsm bucket list? Care to share?

Do you think you'll make it happen??

 

[MichiganBiker27]

Anal.

Is anal bdsm? Honest question.

I think for me it would be for me to find a physical and spiritual Dom / sub relationship, in real life not just online. I have been searching for my sub for a very long time.

 

[MichiganBiker27]

No. I zeroed in on bucket list. My BDSM list is fine.

Ok, hope you can find it in the way you want it then.

 

[MichiganBiker27]

Where are you searching? Have you tried you local kink scene?

On here and FetLife. There still isn't much going on locally but I have been looking here as well. Fet was a disappointment.

 

[ultramarineblue]

Anal.

This is something I didn’t think I would actually end up really liking but I did. Even going slow the first few times was kind of ok not sure sure what the big deal is except it must be good for the guy but after more experiences it is something I really enjoy.

I’m not sure what’s on my list though. I sometimes think I want a primary relationship but other times I’m not really sure it’s something I’m cut out for. I do want more rope.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I haven’t given this much thought as a bucket list concept, but as newly empty nesters (ish, the kids come home quite a bit on breaks and due to covid), I think I’d like to try some furniture for play. I’ll have to give this some more thought.

 

[cookiecat]

I haven’t given this much thought as a bucket list concept, but as newly empty nesters (ish, the kids come home quite a bit on breaks and due to covid), I think I’d like to try some furniture for play. I’ll have to give this some more thought.

A long time ago, I dated a guy who wanted to turn kinky equipment into usable, every day furniture. So, for example, a spanking bench would turn in to an ottoman. Or a St Andrews cross could turn in to a piece of corner art or a shelving unit.

Not sure what happened to the guy or his dream. It seems like there's a market for it, though!

 

[cookiecat]

Is anal bdsm? Honest question.

I think for me it would be for me to find a physical and spiritual Dom / sub relationship, in real life not just online. I have been searching for my sub for a very long time.

I've had luck on a site called ***********. For sure, it's crazy town. But that makes it easier to weed out the fakes/users. If you're up for the roller coaster ride, it might be worth checking out.

This is something I didn’t think I would actually end up really liking but I did. Even going slow the first few times was kind of ok not sure sure what the big deal is except it must be good for the guy but after more experiences it is something I really enjoy.

I’m not sure what’s on my list though. I sometimes think I want a primary relationship but other times I’m not really sure it’s something I’m cut out for. I do want more rope.

In my dating past, I would be asked "what's your biggest fantasy?" It was never a specific fantasy of wanting to be ravished by pirates or probed by a demented doctor (well... ok... maybe it was). Instead, the fantasy was always finding that D/s relationship. The Dom of my dreams. It seemed so elusive, it must be fantasy!

Fortunately, dreams do come true.

 

[cookiecat]

Is anal bdsm? Honest question.

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No. I zeroed in on bucket list. My BDSM list is fine.

Anal can be under the bdsm umbrella, yes? For me, it is definitely a power exchange. I feel very submissive when, ummmmm, offering up my ass.

The shenanigans surrounding anal are always very kinky - being plugged, prepping for anal , stuff like being pissed in.

That being said, this bucket list is for all things sex, including kinky mischief and bdsm fun.

 

[cookiecat]

ohhh - I see my reference to another kink site was ****

It has something to do with a collar and Star Trek's final frontier.

 

[cookiecat]

More pee play

 

[Specula]

Man o' man!! Every day there's so much stuff posted - oral, rope, cmnf, femdomme, things that make us uncomfortable, wax... It's fun to look at, think about, obsess over.

Sometimes I see things and think - yup! That! I have to try that thing and I add it to my list of things I'd like to try.

Do you have anything on your sex / kink / bdsm bucket list? Care to share?

Do you think you'll make it happen??

I think we all do. But do they have to be new and never experienced? I like some of the things I know enough to know I can't have enough of them - even if I don't have enough of them.

 

[Acktion]

I don't have much of a "bucket list."

I do have one that rhymes with "bucket."

Except for...

Area 51. Close Encounters. 'Nuff said.

(And, yes, I posted in the correct thread. )

 

[IrisAlthea]

A long time ago, I dated a guy who wanted to turn kinky equipment into usable, every day furniture. So, for example, a spanking bench would turn in to an ottoman. Or a St Andrews cross could turn in to a piece of corner art or a shelving unit.

Not sure what happened to the guy or his dream. It seems like there's a market for it, though!

I like that idea a lot.
Things being out in the open without people realizing the relevance, has always been a thing for me. Doesn’t have to be actual things of course.

Anal can be under the bdsm umbrella, yes? For me, it is definitely a power exchange. I feel very submissive when, ummmmm, offering up my ass.

The shenanigans surrounding anal are always very kinky - being plugged, prepping for anal , stuff like being pissed in.

That being said, this bucket list is for all things sex, including kinky mischief and bdsm fun.

I certainly think it can be BDSM and if it isn’t kinky…well, I’m sorry. =)

As for a bucket list, they aren’t really my thing.
And I rarely get hung up on a special activity these days. I can long for a special kind of feeling/mood/state of mind, but the details of getting there usually aren’t as important to me.

 

[Acktion]

I don't have much of a "bucket list."

I do have one that rhymes with "bucket."

Except for...

Area 51. Close Encounters. 'Nuff said.

(And, yes, I posted in the correct thread. )

I stand corrected...

Maybe there are still a few things I haven't tried yet that might be fun...

 

[Acktion]

Anal can be under the bdsm umbrella, yes? For me, it is definitely a power exchange. I feel very submissive when, ummmmm, offering up my ass.

The shenanigans surrounding anal are always very kinky - being plugged, prepping for anal , stuff like being pissed in.

That being said, this bucket list is for all things sex, including kinky mischief and bdsm fun.

Quick question... Do you know where your keys are right now?

 

[ultramarineblue]

In my dating past, I would be asked "what's your biggest fantasy?" It was never a specific fantasy of wanting to be ravished by pirates or probed by a demented doctor (well... ok... maybe it was). Instead, the fantasy was always finding that D/s relationship. The Dom of my dreams. It seemed so elusive, it must be fantasy!

Fortunately, dreams do come true.

That makes me happy! I’ve been asked about fantasies too but I guess I’m weird in that I don’t really think about fantasies much any more. I spent so much time when I was much younger doing that and now that I’ve had more life experience I just don’t think that way as much now. I guess I tend to be more in the now.

 

[MichiganBiker27]

I've had luck on a site called ***********. For sure, it's crazy town. But that makes it easier to weed out the fakes/users. If you're up for the roller coaster ride, it might be worth checking out.

Cookie, could you dm that website to me please?

 

[MichiganBiker27]

ohhh - I see my reference to another kink site was ****

It has something to do with a collar and Star Trek's final frontier.

I am not a Trekie

 

[Lady2020]

I do like the idea of CMNF. He wears a suit, I play with his tie. He thinks I'm vulnerable bc he's in a suit and I'm not. Pretty tame compared to what others have on their bucket list.

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

My BDSM bucket list would have to include urethral sounding. I've read about and seen videos featuring sounding, but have never tried it, for fear of damaging something inside. But the more I think about the concept of being "fucked" in the pee hole, the more I'm intrigued.

 

[cookiecat]

I think we all do. But do they have to be new and never experienced? I like some of the things I know enough to know I can't have enough of them - even if I don't have enough of them.

100%!! It seems like a great idea to figure out a way to do more of the stuff we love!

 

[cookiecat]

I like that idea a lot.
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As for a bucket list, they aren’t really my thing.
And I rarely get hung up on a special activity these days. I can long for a special kind of feeling/mood/state of mind, but the details of getting there usually aren’t as important to me.

The guy I'm with is the same about bucket lists / lists in general. He feels like lists are limiting. When we first started dating, I'd say I want: A. B. C. D and he'd say that's good to know but was I limited to just those things?? What if we did D. then Y then A? Would that work?

I still have bucket list items, though! GOALS!

I like how you say you're more about the mood or state of mind and the specifics of how to get there aren't as important. Sometimes I get hug up on those details and if it doesn't look exactly like how I pictured, I deem it a failure. Which is so dumb! I have to stop and think about how I feel, how we connected, if it pleases him.

 

[IrisAlthea]

The guy I'm with is the same about bucket lists / lists in general. He feels like lists are limiting. When we first started dating, I'd say I want: A. B. C. D and he'd say that's good to know but was I limited to just those things?? What if we did D. then Y then A? Would that work?

I still have bucket list items, though! GOALS!

I like how you say you're more about the mood or state of mind and the specifics of how to get there aren't as important. Sometimes I get hug up on those details and if it doesn't look exactly like how I pictured, I deem it a failure. Which is so dumb! I have to stop and think about how I feel, how we connected, if it pleases him.

Yes, I’d agree with him that it is because it feels limiting but part if is that I get lost in those details you mention even before something gets put on a list. It’s usually too specific details that make the whole difference between hell yes and hell no, if that makes sense?

 

[KimGordon67]

Anal can be under the bdsm umbrella, yes? For me, it is definitely a power exchange. I feel very submissive when, ummmmm, offering up my ass.

The shenanigans surrounding anal are always very kinky - being plugged, prepping for anal , stuff like being pissed in.

That being said, this bucket list is for all things sex, including kinky mischief and bdsm fun.

Yep. I find anal incredibly submissive - I really don't feel at all in control of anything - what's happening, my responses, any of it.

I think my bucket list thing is currently pegging. I was very close with the guy I was seeing last year, and really only developed an interest in the idea because of him. Then that finished before we managed to operationalise the whole thing. But just watching him when I slid my fingers inside him ... I was to see THAT again, but more so.

Hopefully the new new guy will be interested ... he seems like the type.

(Also, yet another great thread Cookie. Thanks.)