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[Love_Is_Blonde]

Questionnaire​

Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20. That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

Loving everyone’s answers! Here are mine.

1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?

I sure do. I take my wishes seriously, too. I will stand there and let those candles burn halfway down if I need that time to think of a good wish. I also wish on stars and my eyelashes if one has fallen out too. I can’t remember exactly what my last wish was, but if I told it, it wouldn’t come true. I think the last wish I made that I told to someone was about the Nats winning again and you’ve seen how well that’s worked out.

1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?

It depends on what type of spider. First of all, all spiders will live, it just depends where. If they are little spiders, and they are up high and out of the way, they can just carry on catching mosquitos and such. But if it’s a big spider, I might need to call for backup to catch her and put her outside please.

1. What is your favorite comfort meal?

This is easy. Artichokes with hollandaise sauce

If I’m making a larger meal out of it , add a nice ribeye steak on the side with a glass of Malbec.

1. What is something about which people have a misconception ?

That standardized testing scores are an indication of the teacher’s effectiveness as an educator or the students’ knowledge.

1. Where do you feel the most at peace?

At the beach. One special beach in particular.

1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.

My favorite flower is a Hibiscus.

1. What are you looking forward to?

Celebrating my mom’s 80th birthday.

1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?

I guess I’d say just noticing the vast differences in the beautiful landscape in California vs on the East coast where I live. It’s also beautiful but just so different. It was amazing to think that this is all the same country. One day, I’m among lush green rolling hills and rivers, and the next I was among redwood trees and mountains and the Pacific Ocean.

1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?

I like to crochet. I wouldn’t say that I’m very good at it. But I enjoy it. I can crochet long, straight things. But nothing with sleeves or turns or anything that has to be a specific size. Nope. But you want a blanket or a scarf? I can handle that.

1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?

Oh man, I’m trying to come up with a better answer than Julia Child. @SimonSex that was a great answer. She just looked like such fun to do anything with, and a world class chef to boot!

And this was a ploy to get all of your grilled cheese sandwich recipes. I have no fancy recipe. I just put butter in the pan, add a nice crunchy bread, some melty cheese, et voila!

1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?

My first heroine that I remember having in a book was Leslie Burke in Bridge to Terabithia. She was a social outcast who did her own thing and befriended Jess, another main character in the book. She ran faster than everyone, she was brave, and I just loved her, and the book broke my heart into a million pieces. It also solidified my love of reading.

1. Are you optimistic about the future?

Yes. Worried but optimistic.

1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?

The beach, ocean air

1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?

Maybe a capybara. They seem pretty happy go lucky and chill.

1. What is something new you’ve done recently

I learned how to rewire a lamp today!

1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort

When I clean out my car and vacuum it and use armor-all on the dash and seats. And it’s looking really nice. It makes me feel so happy and I really enjoy it for days and days.

1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?

Starting my own business. I don’t know that it’s viable. I don’t know if the outcome will be worth what I put into it. In other words, I don’t know if I will make enough money to justify it. I know I won’t make the same amount of money/get a regular paycheck like I am now. A small step I could do would be to really crunch the numbers, I guess? But it would still be speculation, I think. Also right now, I don’t think it’s smart to give up a steady paycheck.

1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?

A member of my family who stuck their neck out for me when everyone else on that side of the family wrote me off. They didn’t have to do that but they did anyway and it was brave and kind.

1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?

It’s rare, so when it happens, there is a powerful emotional bond. I also think that this may be why I have a hard time really letting many people in. It’s linked with trust and forgiveness for me.
It’s hard to describe an example. It’s a feeling. When I know, I know.

1. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?

I Put a Spell on You ~ Nina Simone

Because I could only dream of being as timeless as Nina Simone and this song is sexy and fun and I love it.

 

[Mei5ter]

Questionnaire​

Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20.

Actually, it's 21. Q1 has two parts. But you didn't say only 20 questions. So we're both right.

That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out?

Yes.

1. Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?

Ahem.

1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?

More information required. Regulation spiders are removed humanely if needed. Giant Brazilian Arachnids of Bird Death are dispatched with golf clubs. Aragog, and I'm out.

1. What is your favorite comfort meal?

Hmmm. Lasagna?

1. What is something about which people have a misconception?

That Islam is backward.

1. Where do you feel the most at peace?

I don't often feel at peace. Probably constructing complicated sand channels on a beach?

1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.

My favourite colour is aqua.

1. What are you looking forward to?

The return of Dita!

1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?

Hmmm. I rescued a bee with sugar solution?

1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?

Yes, but I can't tell you because they're hidden.

1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be?

I wouldn't make grilled cheese sandwiches with people. I'd use cheese and bread.

1. And what is your grilled cheese recipe?

Bwahahaha. Nice try. I have been offered blowjobs in return for my grilled cheese sandwiches. You want them? There you go.

1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?

Until recently I'd have been another who said...plenty of people I like and admire, but no real heroes. But now? Ben Stokes. Goodness. I've never even met the man, and he makes me want to run through brick walls. Proverbially and..maybe even literally.

1. Are you optimistic about the future?

Yes, actually

1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?

The acrid stench of burning copies of A La Recherche Du Temps Perdu? Oh, all right. Orange blossom.

1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?

I misread that as orgasm, and I think I'll keep coming back as one of those.

1. What is something new you’ve done recently

Had five minutes to mys...hang on, BRB.

1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort

Using a fountain pen.

1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?

I would like to go back to university and actually get a real qualification in what I'm meant to be good at. But every time I try...events, dear boy, events.

1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?

One particular high school teacher for instilling a healthy mistrust of entitlement. But I'd tell him he was completely wrong about Springsteen.

1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?

Those are private moments. My exhibitionism, such as it is, only extends to what I'm doing, not what I'm thinking and feeling.

1. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?

...or

Because sometimes, however polite and patient we are, we need to tell the world to fuck off and that we've had enough. And I'm going to do that with style, panache, attitude, and a top Eb.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Questionnaire​

Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20. That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?

I haven't had birthday candles in years. I couldn't tell you what my last birthday wish was. It was probably made 2 or 3 decades ago.

1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?

Capture it, take it outside, release it.

1. What is your favorite comfort meal?

Meatloaf and mashed potatoes

1. What is something about which people have a misconception?

The Bible. The number of common sayings that people think are Biblical that aren't anywhere to be found... "Cleanliness is next to Godliness..." "God helps those who help themselves..." "God works in mysterious ways..."
To say nothing of all the times I've heard people insist "The Bible is clear..." then say something about sexuality, abortion, crime, etc., when the Bible is anything but clear (or, is sometimes even clearer in opposition to whatever they're saying).

1. Where do you feel the most at peace?

At home on my couch.

1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.

My favorite pie is strawberry rhubarb.

1. What are you looking forward to?

Seeing "Moulin Rouge" on Broadway for the 4th time next month. Wayne Brady and Taye Diggs are joining the cast.

1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?

Umm... we had flash flooding a couple nights ago that fucked up our town real good and left my wife stranded on her commute home for 8.5 hours. Nature can be a real asshole sometimes.

1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?

My only hidden talent is that I can cock an eyebrow. Which is pretty dull as far as talents go. But other than that I'm even duller.

1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?

Ugh. Does it have to be grilled cheese? Fine... just know that I'm loading it down with LOTS of bacon (to drown out the taste of the cheese). And I'll make some tomato soup to go with it. Which is a very cold-weather indoorsy lunch. So I'll share it with Anna Kendrick, who seems like she enjoys being indoors with some comfort food and something to binge-watch.

1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?

"Heroes" is a strong word. But people I admire... Rachel Held Evans... Nadia Bolz-Weber... and Weird Al Yankovic

1. Are you optimistic about the future?

No.

1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?

There's a Brazilian BBQ joint a couple blocks from my house. When the wind is blowing in the right direction and we can smell all the roasting and the grilling meats... I just have to stop what I'm doing and salivate like one of Pavlov's dogs for a good minute.

1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?

Owlbear, of course.

1. What is something new you’ve done recently

I've applied for a few new jobs. Does that count?

1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort

When my cat falls asleep on top of me.

1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?

"Hesitant" is the wrong word. The one dream that we're working towards is home ownership. But we gotta either hit the Powerball or the market's gotta crash something fierce.

1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?

I'd write a letter to my mother who passed away when I was a teenager. Sorry, but the contents would be private.

1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?

My wife and I can have entire conversations using nothing but facial expressions and we know exactly what we mean. It drives my oldest child nuts, "You're just making weird faces at each other!"

1. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?

"The Lazy Song" - Bruno Mars. I think it's pretty self-explanatory.

 

[BreukelenAnima]

1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was? I can't share the exact wishes out of fear that I'll jinx myself, but I generally wish for the health, safety and happiness for the two people who mean the most to me
2. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do? I try to remove all insects out of the apartment with a jar... sometimes they end up crushed, though
3. What is your favorite comfort meal? spaghetti olio e aglio or chocolate cake with a cold glass of milk ...or warm pie and coffee
4. What is something about which people have a misconception? politicians are noble and altruistic
5. Where do you feel the most at peace? running
6. Finish this sentence. My favorite _season_ is _autumn.
7. What are you looking forward to? watching my daughter play soccer this fall
8. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature? In January, my city got a record 9 inches of snow. It was a wonderful morning of exploring the deserted streets as the snow fell in bunches
9. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master? I'm a pretty good baker... wish I was a great one
10. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? I always wanted to meet Francis Ford Coppola And what is your grilled cheese recipe? grilled cheese with bacon and tomatoes and a side of lobster bisque. /
11. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional? (fictional: Atticus Finch in To Kill A Mockingbird, Tom Joad in The Grapes of Wrath / Paul Newman's character in Cool Hand Luke
12. Are you optimistic about the future? I try to be
13. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks? freshly baked bread
14. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as? An oak tree
15. What is something new you’ve done recently? bought someone a housewarming gift
16. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort Sitting quietly in a chair, avoiding distractions and reading 40-50 pages of a book
17. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it? Finishing a film... I've debated the ending of the story for years
18. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say? I would thank them for having crossed my path and for affecting it in such a positive manner
19. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special? I recently ran into the mother of a former student I taught almost three years ago (in another school) and she compared me to John Keating -- the Robin Williams character in Dead Poet's Society. Flattery aside, she was so appreciative of my teaching methods and me as a person... We hugged warmly and I thanked her from the bottom of my heart.
20. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why? A similar response given on the Daily Song Challenge, but these lyrics strike a very deep chord in me: "In the clearing stands a boxer
    And a fighter by his trade
    And he carries the reminders
    Of every glove that laid him down
    Or cut him till he cried out
    In his anger and his shame
    "I am leaving, I am leaving"
    But the fighter still remains"
    

 

[Apisto42]

Questionnaire​

Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20. That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?

Health

1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?

Depends. Some get freedom outside, some get the freedom of death.

1. What is your favorite comfort meal?

Pork fried rice and dumplings.

1. What is something about which people have a misconception?

Economics

1. Where do you feel the most at peace?

In the water and the forest.

1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.

Activity is snorkeling.

1. What are you looking forward to?

A new beginning.

1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?

Some really cool looking fungi.

1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?

Painting miniatures

1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?

White bread, buttered, slice of velvetta and a pile of shredded greyure. Toast for 5 minutes each side.

1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?

Samwise.

1. Are you optimistic about the future?

Yes.

1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?

Different perfumes that bring back memories

1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?

Red tail hawk.

1. What is something new you’ve done recently

Learned the ins and outs of cancer treatment and all the bs that is out there.

1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort

Tacos.

1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?

Life is currently causing problems with starting a new different second career.

1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?

Imma going to skip this one for reasons.

1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?
2. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?

 

[FistfulOfMyHair]

Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?

Sometimes. No way

You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?

It might get killed depending on type and location. Otherwise it will get ignored.

What is your favorite comfort meal?

Steak and potatoes probably.

What is something about which people have a misconception?

Religion

Where do you feel the most at peace?

Deep in the forest

Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.

My favorite brewery is Dancing Gnome

What are you looking forward to?

A Vacation in Denmark.

What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?

Coyotes howling at night on a kayak camping trip.

Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?

I am a very strong tournament backgammon player. Although I’m out of practice at the moment.

If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?

A friend who passed away. Go to is just butter and American cheese, but I’ll use better cheese if available.

Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?

Not sure I have a hero.

Are you optimistic about the future?

I’m optimistic that I’ll continue to live my life in ways that make me happy. I pretty pessimistic about the future of my country.

What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?

Dog shit. I immediately check my shoes.

If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?

First thought was an Eagle. Giant sea turtle would also be cool. If I could come back as a human and have the same knowledge, that would be tempting.

What is something new you’ve done recently

Listened to new music.

What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort

Back rub.

What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?

Extended backpacking trip. Save money

If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?

Skipping the rest

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Thank you for taking the time to fill out the lengthy questionnaire. It felt special to see your answers and learn more about you.

* Edited to add: if anyone still wants to complete the questionnaire, please do at any time!

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Just a few things that were speaking to me and those anxious feelings that will. not. go. away lately. Not sure why, but the last couple weeks…

 

[WetSubGirl]

Also, on a scale from 1-10, how sexy is this?

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11.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Say It Ain’t So…
​

On Friday, there’s a possibility that many Litsters in UK will not be able to access the Lit website due to some restrictions on sites with adult content. Maybe it won’t affect Lit at all. Maybe VPN can be a solution to this issue. Time will tell. But if it does, a huge section of our Lit community will suddenly be missing.

Most likely, you can find various ways to connect with those you’re close with here off of Lit. Or the Discord Lit at Night is another viable option to consider. But, neither of those will replace the original Lit.

My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?

 

[birdy]

On Friday, there’s a possibility that many Litsters in UK will not be able to access the Lit website due to some restrictions on sites with adult content. Maybe it won’t affect Lit at all. Maybe VPN can be a solution to this issue. Time will tell. But if it does, a huge section of our Lit community will suddenly be missing

I'm very much out of the loop, this is really unfortunate.

what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

I've left and come back before. Both were for safety/well-being reasons. I had a legitimate stalker a few years back, and recently felt unsafe again, and it was affecting my mental and emotional well-being. So why did I come back?? I have friends here that I keep in touch with still. I'm on the discord platform but rarely ever use it.

I'd be fine if lit ended, now that I have my contacts off Lit as well. This space isn't the same to me as it once was. I don't have attachment to it like I did.

what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?
I came here originally to write, and I did for a long time, but I've lost that spark for awhile now. I had my own writing thread, an experience thread during a time in my life when I was exploring a kink pretty deeply, and I published a number of stories.

I miss hanging out with my OG friends who are no longer here. I had some fun writing experiences in one of @catherinewheel77 's old threads, and lots of flirty play in AmandaLee's playground thread.

I know it's different for everyone along their Lit timeline. I'm not on here much as it is anymore, but if it disappeared I'd spend less time looking at smut. Or find another place to read smut.

Good luck everyone, I hope to those who may not be able to access this place anymore that you have another safe space to share and explore, and people to keep in touch with if desired.

 

[BreukelenAnima]

Say It Ain’t So…
​

My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?

Another good prompt. After initially joining Lit, it took me awhile to return and actually check out the site -- I found navigating the different threads confusing and it felt like I had entered a surreal, opaque, and truly bizarre funhouse. I met some interesting people but soon found myself being ghosted or correspondences would suddenly end over minor disagreements. I appreciate some of the people who I have met on here -- and I hope real friendships may develop and emerge from these pages. If Lit went away, it would be nice to stay connected to some people on here. I hope they feel the same!

I appreciate Lit for the people that I've met and for threads like this one where self-expression is valued and where I find myself interested in learning what others think and appreciate their sharing of ideas. It's why I joined -- hoping to make a human connection. I love the idea of wanting to really know a person through their words and ideas -- there's something truly decent about that. I've also appreciated the sexual banter and exploration when it has been done respectfully and with some care. Lit does serve as a diversion in our lives that can be useful... it can be informative, entertaining, racy and exciting on some small level.

On the downside, it can also be time wasted with endless hours of scrolling. The addictive nature to any kind of social media takes away from real-life interactions. The constant notifications and seeking out "likes" (which I have to admit to doing on the Daily Song Challenge can become addictive and hard to put down. I sometimes feel like a high school student, counting up my "likes." It's silly on some many levels). I hate being distracted by Lit... I hate losing my focus and productivity--especially when there are other things I know I should be doing.

It's also bothersome to hear of others talk about really bad experiences on here. You hope people would be respectful and treat others with kindness, but there are many dishonest brokers, charlatans, and grifters on this site and I have had to learn some hard lessons on here. Overexposure, misinformation, a general nastiness... A Springsteen lyric comes to mind over some encounters on this site, There's just a meanness in the world.

You hate to feel that way, but it's true. This site is no exception. I guess the cliche is "moderation" allows you to reap the benefits of Lit while avoiding the negative effects. We all know this to some degree. All that said, I so appreciate some threads like this one and I enjoy people who are intelligent and positive people. I gravitate towards your words and cling to them. Thank you for being here.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I guess the cliche is "moderation" allows you to reap the benefits of Lit while avoiding the negative effects of it.

I seem to do this, although I wouldn’t say I “Lit” in moderation. I’m as addicted as anyone else and I do waste a good deal of time scrolling, but usually only between doing actual things.

Either way, I rarely see the negativity that gets discussed a lot and I wonder why that is. Maybe it’s because I keep an emotional distance while oversharing my every thought and sexual impulse?

I’m one of the people who tends to use the “in real life” term that can set people off. Although I realize we are all real people, we are also only partial people here. No matter how honest, straight forward and not phony we are, or claim to be, on Lit we are still only sharing the parts we choose to, so how “real” are we? I still don’t know the answer to this and I know the whole question is troublesome to some people, but I still wonder.

Anyway, what was the question?

I come here for the people, for the sexual stimulation and for the general flirting and fun that Literotica is.
When, and if, it becomes miserable, I’ll go somewhere else or start my own site.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

I've left and come back before. Both were for safety/well-being reasons. I had a legitimate stalker a few years back, and recently felt unsafe again, and it was affecting my mental and emotional well-being.

I am glad that you took some time for yourself and I was also glad to see you back. I hope that you are feeling more comfortable now.

 

[snexxer]

Say It Ain’t So…
​

On Friday, there’s a possibility that many Litsters in UK will not be able to access the Lit website due to some restrictions on sites with adult content. Maybe it won’t affect Lit at all. Maybe VPN can be a solution to this issue. Time will tell. But if it does, a huge section of our Lit community will suddenly be missing.

Most likely, you can find various ways to connect with those you’re close with here off of Lit. Or the Discord Lit at Night is another viable option to consider. But, neither of those will replace the original Lit.

My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?

If this happens to any of us brits, we all know it's Comrade stalin Starmers doing.

However Tor Browser will easily bypass it as it has a free builtin VPN.

Brave browser may also work.

(Trust me, im a network faults analyst / engineer for the UKs largest Internet provider)

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Another good prompt. After initially joining Lit, it took me awhile to return and actually check out the site -- I found navigating the different threads confusing and it felt like I had entered a surreal, opaque, and truly bizarre funhouse.

What a fantastic descriptor!

I met some interesting people but soon found myself being ghosted or correspondences would suddenly end over minor disagreements.

I wonder how often it would be because of other life commitments too? I feel like there’s such a transient nature of people’s online time that sometimes causes abrupt endings. I try to not take things like this quite so personally as I once did. (Just my thought)

I appreciate Lit for the people that I've met and for threads like this one where self-expression is valued and where I find myself interested in learning what others think and appreciate their sharing of ideas. It's why I joined -- hoping to make a human connection. I love the idea of wanting to really know a person through their words and ideas -- there's something truly decent about that. I've also appreciated the sexual banter and exploration when it has been done respectfully and with some care. Lit does serve as a diversion in our lives that can be useful... it can be informative, entertaining, racy and exciting on some small level.

Thank you. I am very happy with how this thread has turned out and I love it when anyone joins in with their thoughts. It’s slow moving and that’s fine with me. I like to think about things a bit and process…I’m glad that you’re enjoying it too.

On the downside, it can also be time wasted with endless hours of scrolling. The addictive nature to any kind of social media takes away from real-life interactions.

Yes. I agree. Especially if I’m feeling some anxiety over something, this isn’t a healthy place for me and I will take a break. And I’ve been feeling a lot of tension as of late, so maybe a break is a good idea.

The constant notifications and seeking out "likes" (which I have to admit to doing on the Daily Song Challenge can become addictive and hard to put down. I sometimes feel like a high school student, counting up my "likes." It's silly on some many levels). I hate being distracted by Lit... I hate losing my focus and productivity--especially when there are other things I know I should be doing.

Yes, when it gets to be at the forefront of your mind most of the time, it’s time to put down the phone for a while.

It's also bothersome to hear of others talk about really bad experiences on here. You hope people would be respectful and treat others with kindness, but there are many dishonest brokers, charlatans, and grifters on this site and I have had to learn some hard lessons on here. Overexposure, misinformation, a general nastiness... A Springsteen lyric comes to mind over some encounters on this site, There's just a meanness in this world.

I’d venture to use the word heartbreaking. And I’ll leave it at that.

You hate to feel that way, but it's true. This site is no exception. I guess the cliche is "moderation" allows you to reap the benefits of Lit while avoiding the negative effects. We all know this to some degree. All that said, I so appreciate some threads like this one and I enjoy people who are intelligent and positive people. I gravitate towards your words and cling to them. Thank you for being here.

Moderation! What a novel idea! Who woulda thunk it? ;-)

I’m glad you are here too. Thank you for adding your thoughts. And such wonderful words.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Either way, I rarely see the negativity that gets discussed a lot and I wonder why that is. Maybe it’s because I keep an emotional distance while oversharing my every thought and sexual impulse?

Maybe that’s something to think more about- how good/bad are we at separating emotion from sex? Then depending on that answer, how successful are we at handling the pitfalls that are common on Lit?

Things that make you go hmm

I come here for the people, for the sexual stimulation and for the general flirting and fun that Literotica is.
When, and if, it becomes miserable, I’ll go somewhere else or start my own site.

Sign me up! I subscribe to your newsletter website!

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

However Tor Browser will easily bypass it as it has a free builtin VPN.

Brave browser may also work.

*scribbles down notes*

Good to know!

 

[redsnowbunny]

If this happens to any of us brits, we all know it's Comrade stalin Starmers doing.

However Tor Browser will easily bypass it as it has a free builtin VPN.

Brave browser may also work.

(Trust me, im a network faults analyst / engineer for the UKs largest Internet provider)

I'not in the Uk , but curious about that. Would Opera work too since it has a vpn built-in? So we can make a suggestion post for all our friends in the UK.

I did not know about this "new bigotry" wave in the Uk. what would be the purpose? In a world where by looking at the news you can't escape hate, violence and war, is sex and pleasure the "big enemy"?

 

[deft]

If this happens to any of us brits, we all know it's Comrade stalin Starmers doing.

Nothing to do with him. The Online Safety Bill was raised under the last bunch of bell-ends.

 

[Mei5ter]

I did not know about this "new bigotry" wave in the Uk. what would be the purpose? In a world where by looking at the news you can't escape hate, violence and war, is sex and pleasure the "big enemy"?

I'm not aware we have a 'new bigotry' wave of that kind in the UK, whatever else may be going right or wrong here

At the moment, if you log on to Pornhub, you just click "I am over 18" and you're in. The Online Safety bill will require Pornhub to take reasonable steps to ensure that anyone clicking "I am over 18" actually is. It's not censoring content or stopping anyone who genuinely is of appropriate age from accessing it.

 

[redsnowbunny]

I'm not aware we have a 'new bigotry' wave of that kind in the UK, whatever else may be going right or wrong here

At the moment, if you log on to Pornhub, you just click "I am over 18" and you're in. The Online Safety bill will require Pornhub to take reasonable steps to ensure that anyone clicking "I am over 18" actually is. It's not censoring content or stopping anyone who genuinely is of appropriate age from accessing it.

As is over here too.
It is generally incumbent on the families to apply filters and blocks to the various pieces of technology you own and give permission to your kids to use. It is a parent responsibility to control and teach and educate.

My own point of view, is that if such extensive preemptive precaution only concern porn and sex-themed content and not ,for example, the super horrifying and uber-violent videogames, it is Bigotry, indeed, of the highest degree.
Porn is never educational, I agree, but it is a way easier target... it helps politics to gain a bit of consensus, but these measures will prove highly ineffective on every front.

P.s.
I was not aware of the fact that the E U wants to implement something similar.
So consider my comment on the Bigotry wave, to extend to all of EU too.

 

[Mei5ter]

Say It Ain’t So…
​

On Friday, there’s a possibility that many Litsters in UK will not be able to access the Lit website due to some restrictions on sites with adult content. Maybe it won’t affect Lit at all. Maybe VPN can be a solution to this issue. Time will tell. But if it does, a huge section of our Lit community will suddenly be missing.

Most likely, you can find various ways to connect with those you’re close with here off of Lit. Or the Discord Lit at Night is another viable option to consider. But, neither of those will replace the original Lit.

My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?

Years ago, I remember reading something in a girlfriend's Cosmopolitan about Porn And Why Your Boyfriend Loves It. A female journalist had gone out and bought a few porn magazines, read them with evident distaste, and written an article to report back her findings. Basically, these were that porn was brain-dead, misogynistic, degrading, patriarchal, exploitative bullshit. Which, in fairness, it often is.

But one phrase stuck with me. "What's going on in men's heads when they look at this? Nothing much." Because that isn't true. And Lit, at its best, exemplifies why it isn't.

Anyway. Back to brain-dead, misogynistic, degrading, patriarchal, exploitative bullshit. I decided that I didn't really want to be complicit in that, thank you. But I still liked looking at pictures of girls not wearing much. How to resolve this dilemma?

Happily, I was born English, and so compromise and hypocrisy are the two strands forming the double helix of my DNA. And so...Ampics! If a woman chose to share pictures of herself, completely willingly, for men like me to perv? Surely that was okay, wasn't it? I decided that it was, albeit feeling a bit like someone who was asking whether his cocaine was FairTrade.

There are lots of ampics sites out there, and I'm not going to tell you which I ended up joining. But I quickly realised that there was another fundamental difference between amateur and commercial porn. Even if I could ask a model on a commercial porn site why she was posing nude with her legs open - which I couldn't - the answer would likely be "$250".

On an ampics site, however, things are completely different, because half the point is that you can talk to the posters there. And because I'm me, and I was chatty and curious, that's exactly what I did. And it was that - the ability to talk openly, intimately, explicitly and sexily with people, and share and discuss the kind of things it would have been impossible to talk about with my offline friends, which eventually brought me to Lit.

Lit is a terrible website. It's something built in the late 1990s (there is still a Green Guy link on the front page!) which has had various other boards and forums MacGyvered onto it since. Even before the changes earlier this year, the Ampics side of the site was still just threads with pic links posted in them. Thumbnail galleries? Categories? A search feature? Nope. Just 2,197 pages of mostly expired links, folks. But that has also been Lit's superpower. People who want tons of porn mindlessly delivered to them in industrial quantities go somewhere else. Lit is for people who still want to take a little time and think about their smut. Which is why I have stayed as long as I have, and why I have been lucky enough to meet some genuinely amazing people here. Lit rewards the kind of people who will embrace its quirks. It is those people who have made Lit...Lit. And it is those people who have kept me here.

Unfortunately, both Lit itself and the online world it occupies are changing, whether we like it or not. I'm tired of alts. I'm tired of fake profiles. I'm tired of catfish. I'm tired of pics being downloaded without consent. I'm tired of stories being one-bombed without any redress. I'm tired of the Politics threads being busier than the main part of the site. I'm tired of vague posts in 17 different passive-aggressive BS threads. I'm tired of seeing a new Litster and thinking "Who were they before?" rather than being excited to see a new face. I'm too tired to want to pump energy into posting here and hope that what I get back relates to what I put in.

I'm tired. Lit feels tired too. I wouldn't now miss being here - much - if I were barred. But even if I can't log in here again, I hope it perks up for the rest of you.

 

[Cat]

Years ago, I remember reading something in a girlfriend's Cosmopolitan about Porn And Why Your Boyfriend Loves It. A female journalist had gone out and bought a few porn magazines, read them with evident distaste, and written an article to report back her findings. Basically, these were that porn was brain-dead, misogynistic, degrading, patriarchal, exploitative bullshit. Which, in fairness, it often is.

But one phrase stuck with me. "What's going on in men's heads when they look at this? Nothing much." Because that isn't true. And Lit, at its best, exemplifies why it isn't.

Anyway. Back to brain-dead, misogynistic, degrading, patriarchal, exploitative bullshit. I decided that I didn't really want to be complicit in that, thank you. But I still liked looking at pictures of girls not wearing much. How to resolve this dilemma?

Happily, I was born English, and so compromise and hypocrisy are the two strands forming the double helix of my DNA. And so...Ampics! If a woman chose to share pictures of herself, completely willingly, for men like me to perv? Surely that was okay, wasn't it? I decided that it was, albeit feeling a bit like someone who was asking whether his cocaine was FairTrade.

There are lots of ampics sites out there, and I'm not going to tell you which I ended up joining. But I quickly realised that there was another fundamental difference between amateur and commercial porn. Even if I could ask a model on a commercial porn site why she was posing nude with her legs open - which I couldn't - the answer would likely be "$250".

On an ampics site, however, things are completely different, because half the point is that you can talk to the posters there. And because I'm me, and I was chatty and curious, that's exactly what I did. And it was that - the ability to talk openly, intimately, explicitly and sexily with people, and share and discuss the kind of things it would have been impossible to talk about with my offline friends, which eventually brought me to Lit.

Lit is a terrible website. It's something built in the late 1990s (there is still a Green Guy link on the front page!) which has had various other boards and forums MacGyvered onto it since. Even before the changes earlier this year, the Ampics side of the site was still just threads with pic links posted in them. Thumbnail galleries? Categories? A search feature? Nope. Just 2,197 pages of mostly expired links, folks. But that has also been Lit's superpower. People who want tons of porn mindlessly delivered to them in industrial quantities go somewhere else. Lit is for people who still want to take a little time and think about their smut. Which is why I have stayed as long as I have, and why I have been lucky enough to meet some genuinely amazing people here. Lit rewards the kind of people who will embrace its quirks. It is those people who have made Lit...Lit. And it is those people who have kept me here.

Unfortunately, both Lit itself and the online world it occupies are changing, whether we like it or not. I'm tired of alts. I'm tired of fake profiles. I'm tired of catfish. I'm tired of pics being downloaded without consent. I'm tired of stories being one-bombed without any redress. I'm tired of the Politics threads being busier than the main part of the site. I'm tired of vague posts in 17 different passive-aggressive BS threads. I'm tired of seeing a new Litster and thinking "Who were they before?" rather than being excited to see a new face. I'm too tired to want to pump energy into posting here and hope that what I get back relates to what I put in.

I'm tired. Lit feels tired too. I wouldn't now miss being here - much - if I were barred. But even if I can't log in here again, I hope it perks up for the rest of you.

Thank you, for your thoughts, your quirkiness, your very English way of seeing things, your calm and reason.

And just, thank you for having been a part of Lit, making it just a bit better for all of us.

Also.. I could not have said it better, the "I am tired" part.
Some day, soon, when my country decide how all of its citizens are going to identify themselves on the internet, I might let the tiredness win.

 

[Mei5ter]

Thank you, for your thoughts, your quirkiness, your very English way of seeing things, your calm and reason.

And just, thank you for having been a part of Lit, making it just a bit better for all of us.

That is an incredibly kind compliment, and especially coming from you. Thank you.

Also.. I could not have said it better, the "I am tired" part.
Some day, soon, when my country decide how all of its citizens are going to identify themselves on the internet

And this...

I might let the tiredness win.

...sums it up perfectly.

Or, in the words of the Bible: "It is hard for thee to kick against the pricks."