❓ Inquiring Minds Want To Know - Discussion Thread

yank is only in here because of all the sexy girls.

He's good with the fancy words, but he's really just here for the boobs.
 
Can I interrupt for a sec? Yeah. I lurk here. But tonight I'm just sitting here shaking my head. Where do you all work that you can just go around touching people all the time? Part of my job is to teach classes to people like you on why that's a really bad idea. Lawsuits, misunderstandings, firings. "Hostile work environments". All of it. And don't you even THINK about dating a coworker. Where I come from, NY, we have an expression. Don't shit where you eat. In other words, some things are just made to be kept separate. Like shitting and eating. Or working together and dating. I know stuff happens and you're with these people all the time and of course if theres an attraction you'll want to act on it. But it's not a great idea.

And bfg, in the military it's different. The whole perfect uniform thing. But you still need to be careful. The times, they are a'changing.
 
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Can I interrupt for a sec? Yeah. I lurk here. But tonight I'm just sitting here shaking my head. Where do you all work that you can just go around touching people all the time? Part of my job is to teach classes to people like you on why that's a really bad idea. Lawsuits, misunderstandings, firings. "Hostile work environments". All of it. And don't you even THINK about dating a coworker. Where I come from, NY, we have an expression. Don't shit where you eat. In other words, some things are just made to be kept separate. Like shitting and eating. Or working together and dating. I know stuff happens and you're with these people all the time and of course if theres an attraction you'll want to act on it. But it's not a great idea.

And bfg, in the military it's different. The whole perfect uniform thing. But you still need to be careful. The times, they are a'changing.

"Don't dip your pen in the company ink..." is another expression I've heard. I find it quite perplexing as well. Fraternization happens a lot, but it's a major "no, no" where I come from as well. Depending on the situation, it could be a career ending event.
 
Just to clarify.
I wasn't only talking about work. I'm pretty clear on those boundaries. 👍

Good. Because I've seen too many people dismissed on just an accusation. And usually, it's the people who say "oh, it's ok. Everyone knows I'm just being nice. " And it's sad.
 
Interesting topic. I’d feel deeply, deeply uncomfortable if I was touched at work, and it would never occur to me to adjust anyone else’s outfit. ESPECIALLY a woman’s. I’d point it out in most cases, but it gets very awkward sometimes when the issue is, say, visible underwear.

As background, I came from an environment (the Army) where physical contact of this sort is very common, but also very highly ritualized and impersonal. Case in point: the JMPI, which paratroopers undergo after putting on their parachutes but before boarding. See the link below, where a jumpmaster student is practicing. Watch where her hands go.

It’s a completely and exhaustively intrusive exercise in touch, requiring jumpmasters to run their hands and fingers over every erogenous zone you can imagine. I was in an all-male unit, so 99% of JMPIs were guy-on-guy, but not always.

I got JMPId once or twice by a woman. It’s deeply intimate, such that this level of contact would draw punishment in any other army context. And yet it’s so highly ritualized, and the stakes are so high, that nobody really pays much attention. I thought it’d be awkward, but no.

Such is NOT the case in any other environment where I’ve worked.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7sokiZ5AGZo
 
Interesting topic. I’d feel deeply, deeply uncomfortable if I was touched at work, and it would never occur to me to adjust anyone else’s outfit. ESPECIALLY a woman’s. I’d point it out in most cases, but it gets very awkward sometimes when the issue is, say, visible underwear.

As background, I came from an environment (the Army) where physical contact of this sort is very common, but also very highly ritualized and impersonal. Case in point: the JMPI, which paratroopers undergo after putting on their parachutes but before boarding. See the link below, where a jumpmaster student is practicing. Watch where her hands go.

It’s a completely and exhaustively intrusive exercise in touch, requiring jumpmasters to run their hands and fingers over every erogenous zone you can imagine. I was in an all-male unit, so 99% of JMPIs were guy-on-guy, but not always.

I got JMPId once or twice by a woman. It’s deeply intimate, such that this level of contact would draw punishment in any other army context. And yet it’s so highly ritualized, and the stakes are so high, that nobody really pays much attention. I thought it’d be awkward, but no.

Such is NOT the case in any other environment where I’ve worked.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7sokiZ5AGZo

I’d be so good at that job. :D
 
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