❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

No, we have blackcurrant jelly...
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That would be very goth.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

No, we have blackcurrant jelly...
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Oh I want some now

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Jello is something else and only fit to wrestle in and not really eat unless your 7. (Don't come for me jello lovers!!)

Don’t forget that it makes for delicious shots when you’re in your 20s

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Don’t forget that it makes for delicious shots when you’re in your 20s

Touche LL, touche!

 

[Deadfreak]

Don’t forget that it makes for delicious shots when you’re in your 20s

And beyond

 

[Indie]

Don’t forget that it makes for delicious shots when you’re in your 20s

What's wrong with this when you're 40?

 

[TomTeacher19]

03.06.25

Do you have any scars? Do you have an interesting story behind it or a moment of regret? Tell us about your unintentional body art!

Yes, a few.

Having had four major surgeries on my legs there are several from those.

Plus another from a mud football injury

And one from being thrown through some glass.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.14.25

Let's talk about hard talks

Are you a good communicator normally? Does that extend to high stakes conversations? Would you consider yourself brave - are you more prone to initiate high-pressure or uncomfortable talks and address the issue? Or would you consider yourself more passive - do you wait for someone else to start the conversation or hope it passes? Are you receptive when someone comes to you with a big conversation or do you get defensive, quiet, or deflective? What was one of the hardest talks you had to have (if you want to share)? Are you happy with how it went or do you with you'd handled it differently?

What about good hard talks? How are you at confessing your feelings to someone without knowing how they feel?

 

[Peter_Out]

03.14.25

Let's talk about hard talks

Ooh

Are you a good communicator normally?

Oh. This isn't what I was expecting. Nothing to do with phone/aural sex? Damn it.

Okay, well, in for a penny, in for a pound, I suppose.

In written form? I'd like to think so. Less so verbally because if I have time to prepare my case then I can consider things and present it better.

Does that extend to high stakes conversations? Would you consider yourself brave - are you more prone to initiate high-pressure or uncomfortable talks and address the issue? Or would you consider yourself more passive - do you wait for someone else to start the conversation or hope it passes?

I don't know the answer to that, really. I've had to initiate some very stressful conversations in my time.

Are you receptive when someone comes to you with a big conversation or do you get defensive, quiet, or deflective?

Quiet. But I always am, so that's not a big surprise really.

What was one of the hardest talks you had to have (if you want to share)?

Telling my wife (ex-wife) that our marriage was over.

Telling a partner that our relationship was over (especially when she revealed that she "had never felt the way [she did] about [me] about anyone else."; I mean, what are you supposed to do with that? )

They're the only times I've ever broken up with anybody. It usually comes the other way.

Are you happy with how it went or do you with you'd handled it differently?

Meh. It... went, I guess. I don't know how it could have been done differently. I know after divorce we were both happier. The other one I can't be so sure about. I do hope she's more than okay though.

What about good hard talks? How are you at confessing your feelings to someone without knowing how they feel?

I'm usually (always?) the first, and I'm a very heart on my sleeve kind of person, so absolutely don't mind revealing my hand first. And if she doesn't return it immediately then that's okay too. I feel the way I feel, and I'd rather it was out than in, so to say.

 

[MrMakersMark]

03.14.25

Let's talk about hard talks

Are you a good communicator normally?

I think I am. But most would consider me a pretty exceptional under-sharer.
But in my defense, I prefer to listen.

Does that extend to high stakes conversations?

Yes. If I am asked for input, I'll provide what I've got.

Would you consider yourself brave - are you more prone to initiate high-pressure or uncomfortable talks and address the issue? Or would you consider yourself more passive - do you wait for someone else to start the conversation or hope it passes?

Passive.
Sometimes that isn't cowardly.
Sometimes it's braver to not speak.

Are you receptive when someone comes to you with a big conversation or do you get defensive, quiet, or deflective?

Used to be bad with deflection and avoidance.
Now mostly quiet.

What was one of the hardest talks you had to have (if you want to share)? Are you happy with how it went or do you with you'd handled it differently?

Difficult conversation I had with my Dad.
By all accounts, it went pretty well.

What about good hard talks? How are you at confessing your feelings to someone without knowing how they feel?

I'm shit at it.
A disaster.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Ooh



Oh. This isn't what I was expecting. Nothing to do with phone/aural sex? Damn it.

Oh feel free to add some sub-questions on this if you'd like.

 

[Peter_Out]

Oh feel free to add some sub-questions on this if you'd like.

It's okay, I was just having a little joke at the expense of "hard", that's all.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm shit at it.
A disaster.

Jeez stop sugar coating it so much.

 

[MrMakersMark]

Jeez stop sugar coating it so much.

That WAS sugar-coating it.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

03.14.25

Let's talk about hard talks

Are you a good communicator normally?

Yes, I am. All my performance reviews and partners can confirm

The caveat is that I’m not always great about frequency of communication if I don’t see someone regularly. I just get busy with work/family or distracted with solitary activities.

I’m also not a talk on the phone every day to someone type. I hear my voice enough at work. I do better with people who are ok with quality over quantity. Or those that embrace messaging apps because I find it less draining and more enjoyable to keep up frequent communication that way.

Does that extend to high stakes conversations?

It does.

Would you consider yourself brave - are you more prone to initiate high-pressure or uncomfortable talks and address the issue?

Yes. I usually address them as early as possible. I’d rather get in front of the thing than let it fester and grow.

I also communicate much better when I’m not upset. It takes a lot for me to get emotional and I don’t think I’m at my best then, so I really try to bring up things long before they get to that point.

Or would you consider yourself more passive - do you wait for someone else to start the conversation or hope it passes?

Pretty sure no one has ever called me passive I even bring up things if I think the other person might be upset even though I’m fine.

That’s not the same as discussing everything though. If something isn’t important or was a one time issue/annoyance that’s unlikely to happen again, not worth talking about in my book. I only want to spend time on the things that matter.

Are you receptive when someone comes to you with a big conversation or do you get defensive, quiet, or deflective?

I try to be. I want to keep an open mind, listen, and understand their perspective before I do anything else. I’ll ask questions or for examples so that I’m not misunderstanding or making assumptions about what they mean. I may not agree entirely, but if they matter to me so does their viewpoint and experience.

Sometimes that means realizing there are certain topics that might be best avoided for the benefit of our relationship. If those get too numerous, then it’s time to consider if it’s a healthy dynamic/relationship.

What was one of the hardest talks you had to have (if you want to share)? Are you happy with how it went or do you with you'd handled it differently?

Probably the first time I brought up the idea of an open relationship. It was many years ago, so I don’t remember all the details. I was definitely a bit anxious going into it because it was something I really wanted to discuss and try, but also didn’t want to damage or end the relationship I was in at all.

Growing alongside people over years can be hard and scary sometimes.

It went really well actually. I generally find thinking and worrying about things are worse than actually doing the thing that’s dreaded.

What about good hard talks?

I think most hard talks are good because even if they’re difficult or scary in the moment, you end up happier or better off in the long run. At least I try to view them that way which makes having them a lot easier.

How are you at confessing your feelings to someone without knowing how they feel?

Decent, I think? I’m not really shy and would rather be honest and fail (or have them unrequited) than have regrets.

 

[Indie]

I'm pretty good at hard talks! I may be hesitant at first because I'm scared of what might happen as a result. But even when I'm scared, I will still speak my mind. It's incredibly important for me to understand others and to be understood. I know what I need. I know what is fair and realistic and good. I know how to treat others to make them feel as special as I hope to feel myself. I know when to bite my tongue and when to lay it all on the line. Communication is one of my strong points both personally and professionally. If you don't like to have open and honest conversations regularly, then you're probably not going to like me much