🖕👊 🤼‍♂️ The Official Lit Shitshow aka Beef/Callout Thread 🔥🌪🌀

What counts as a ghost?

People get busy, run out of things to say, took too long to answer a long msg and now its too awkward to respond, message got pushed too far down by other messages and the person has a bad memory, and/ or they purposefully ghosted...

But i would guess 9 out of 10, they did not mean to ghost.
My question was a general one that I’ve wondered about for awhile. Putting it out here was brought on by a personal experience.

This is not they got busy or a bad memory 🤣 I am totally guilty of that.
This is leaving then, disappearing after months and then returning but not saying anything.

I just expect more from my friendships on or off of Lit and can not find any excusable reason for this behavior.
 
Last edited:
What counts as a ghost?

People get busy, run out of things to say, took too long to answer a long msg and now its too awkward to respond, message got pushed too far down by other messages and the person has a bad memory, and/ or they purposefully ghosted...

But i would guess 9 out of 10, they did not mean to ghost.

I totally agree with this. I’ll add that it’s fun to log in and have a message from someone you haven’t heard from in a long while. That’s such a nice little surprise. I don’t think that fading out because of life happening means ghosting.
 
Everyone does things differently here. But if you are PMing someone, that tends to imply a level of friendship. We don't just PM anyone. Which is why we have PM challenges and Have You PM'd The Poster Above. PMs mean something different from posting with people in threads.

If you start PMing someone and don't immediately get a connection, do you keep going or pull back? Can you go back cleanly to engaging happily in the threads as before?
I’m not entirely sure. I’ve gone to send a pm to someone I thought I had connected at least on a friendship level and not been able to, either blocked or not wanted.

I took it as a sign they weren’t interested in friendship and avoided posting near them, with them, or interacting with them for awhile.

If they show up in threads where I am and interact with me, I don’t read into it. Just figure it’s a convenience thing for them. No harm no foul. People are people.
 
Everyone does things differently here. But if you are PMing someone, that tends to imply a level of friendship. We don't just PM anyone. Which is why we have PM challenges and Have You PM'd The Poster Above. PMs mean something different from posting with people in threads.

If you start PMing someone and don't immediately get a connection, do you keep going or pull back? Can you go back cleanly to engaging happily in the threads as before?
I PM and have received PMs from people who I don't interact much in the threads so I guess PMs are not always that serious for me. I've also let a lot of good people and conversations end in my PMs just because I got busy or forgot to respond when it was my turn. I can still happily engage with people in threads even if we didn't have enough to talk about in PMs to keep going in a PM.

But I've never killed anyone for not developing a PM friendship ;)
 
Right, is no a beef wi any Lit person, unless they do it too..

I'm standing at a bus stop and 2 young lassies have stopped for a bus too, there sharing gossip and are actually saying the word lol, they are saying lol ffs!

I'm sorry but whit? People say lol in actual real life?

Naw, just, naw, dinnae dae that! 😡
 
Right, is no a beef wi any Lit person, unless they do it too..

I'm standing at a bus stop and 2 young lassies have stopped for a bus too, there sharing gossip and are actually saying the word lol, they are saying lol ffs!

I'm sorry but whit? People say lol in actual real life?

Naw, just, naw, dinnae dae that! 😡

My sister does this. 🙄😂😂
 
Ok … my beef is with the lit interface …. Now this is a free site so I don’t really have a right to complain. But why is it that when I’m not actively on the site for a time (10 minutes or so), it logs me out.. and I have to click on a random thread for it to realize I’m logged in.

Also… I can’t for the life of me remember my password and so if I log out it’s gonna take me FOREVER to get back in
 
Back
Top