2 for 1 / Bi women and Crossdressing Men

[lastingpassion]

So nice to hear you say that TH... Lit was instrumental in your sexual evolvment. Many here have enlightened my thinking as well.There is no "normal person" on Lit. We are each ourselves, and unique for that alone!
Regardless of what others say, Lit people know how to live and love....each in our own way.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

So nice to hear you say that TH... Lit was instrumental in your sexual evolvment. Many here have enlightened my thinking as well.There is no "normal person" on Lit. We are each ourselves, and unique for that alone!
Regardless of what others say, Lit people know how to live and love....each in our own way.

So true:

"normal is only a setting on a clothes dryer"

 

[naughtyinsilk]

I agree with Paige's original premise that there are lots of men that would love to dress if they could find a woman to support their fetish. When I dressed I was always afraid of being discovered. I was in a closed marriage and didn't realize there are open minded women that are turned on by dressed men. I believe there are many more men that feel the same but we can't allow the news to get out unless it is on a forum like this. Unfortunate.

I think it comes back to communication, in my experience, a lot of women like to see men dressed up in girls clothing, yet feel unable to bring up the suggestion with their partner. Often, when out, I get complimented by women who then say they wished their partner would dress up for them but that they would never ask them to do it. I wonder how many of these men are at home hoping secretly that their partner would suggest it. I believe a lot of these couple s would be far happier if they could actually express their desires openly to each other.

So come on ladies & gents, if you would like to see your partner crossdressing tell them, you may be surprised how quickly they respond positively.

 

[kiwisub]

There is more to it than communication. Sometimes people choose for a number of reasons to do things out of a relationship which some think is wrong however some dont.
I personally love to dress in sexy lingerie, stockings and tight mini skirts and I long to find a woman who would like to see me dressed this way however it cant just be any woman for me she has to fit certain criteria. When I am X dressed I crave and find older women extremely attractive and also, not so much dominant, more 'strong' women. My partner does not fit that criteria therefore it would not work for me even if she wanted me to dress for her.
The sexier I dress the more submissive I become and therfore the stronger my need to be taken like a woman !!!

 

[harleyusa1]

open minded

Reading thru the comments on cross dressing. I dont have the desire to cross dress but I do have the desire to please my woman. As time goes by and I am with a woman, I get excited, when I find something out that makes her aroused. In other words, what turns her on, turns me on. Being open minded goes many ways. I enjoy reading about things I am not interested in because it opens my mind to new ideas and other peoples feelings and thoughts. It is all good, isn't it? Normal, is what we "feel" is normal and sometime, not being "normal" is the turn on........ Gary

harleyusadavidsonone@yahoo.com

So true:

"normal is only a setting on a clothes dryer"

 

[HeavenCanWait]

I've never dressed up in women's lingerie, but I would like to. I'm notinterested in doing iot for myself, but if I had a girlfriend who wanted me to, I'd be up for it, and I bet I'd enjoy it too.

Once had a girlfriend who dressed as a boy for me, that was fun!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

As time goes by and I am with a woman, I get excited, when I find something out that makes her aroused. In other words, what turns her on, turns me on.

I know I get turned on more if I see my partner getting all hot from what I am doing to them.

In the past quite often around the house I will just go and give my partener a bj just to get the kick from seeing the look on his face. I don't expect anything for me at the time, as I get all the pleasure from watching him and knowing what he is feeling.

 

[naughtyinsilk]

My partner gets turned on by the fel of satin & silk on my smooth skin. For a couple of years now she has had me wear mid thigh length nighties to bed. I often awak to find her stroking me, she says my ass just feels so soft and firm through the satin, and sleeping in it causes my nipples to rub against the fabric and stay hard.

I would suggest to all guys that want to try wearing a nightie, go for it, talk to your partner, they may surpridse you with their willingness to dress you up.

 

[Paige.]

I've never dressed up in women's lingerie, but I would like to. I'm notinterested in doing iot for myself, but if I had a girlfriend who wanted me to, I'd be up for it, and I bet I'd enjoy it too.

Once had a girlfriend who dressed as a boy for me, that was fun!

I find it interesting you don't want to dress in lingerie for yourself but you would in order to please someone else. Your level of enjoyment would probably be directly related to the level of excitement in your partner.

I think your next statement sums it up for you and indicates your real preference. A girl dressed as a boy. Perhaps you could take your girls straight up and nurture your fetish for a boy/girl. I have absolutely no desire to dress as a guy but I would encourage you to go for what turns you on the most.

 

[gingermango]

Paige's premise is interesting - in my first marriage, my cross-dressing was VERY limited, mostly due to the disapproval of my spouse. Now that I'm married to a beautiful, sexual woman who is also my dominant, a lady who LOVES dressing me up herself, I find that dressing plays a much larger part of my life in general. I wear panties every day at the very least, and many weekend evenings are spent together dressing and glam'ing me up with makeup, wig, and a full outfit, from lingerie out to an evening gown and heels, then having fabulous sexual fun afterwards. In terms of my "regular" daily life, I find myself actually uncomfortable at the thought of letting my leg hair grow again, or contemplating having to wear male underwear for a doctor's visit. I'm just a lot more accepting of who I am and what I need now that I'm with an accepting partner.

 

[larrycando]

I find it interesting you don't want to dress in lingerie for yourself but you would in order to please someone else. Your level of enjoyment would probably be directly related to the level of excitement in your partner.

I think your next statement sums it up for you and indicates your real preference. A girl dressed as a boy. Perhaps you could take your girls straight up and nurture your fetish for a boy/girl. I have absolutely no desire to dress as a guy but I would encourage you to go for what turns you on the most.

I love silk panties.

 

[rbijon]

Paige is too cool, and sexy I might add, I love panties be cause my Mistress demands that I wear them! Oh, poor me! heheheee

I also wear panties because they are sooo sexy and I love the feel of them! So it seems I wear panties to please the both of us!

.....and to have FUN here on Lit.

(sheer red panties with black lace today)

 

[genuineloveman]

I'm a male and I do not enjoy crossdressing, and I do not get it. On the other hand, I love my wife fucking me with a strap on and I love anal play in general.

 

[Cuzzin]

I Like It

My wife asked me once if I wanted to wear her red silk nightie. We were making love and I was admiring. "Do you want to wear it?" For some reason I declined, but wish she would ask again sometime. She's aware I have a thing for trying on ladies lingerie and accommodates a little mild switching from time to time. It turns me on very much to spread my legs for her and have her on top of me. She's worried that I wish she were a boy, but I want to tell her, "No. It's that I like pretending to be a girl."

I like wearing her bras and just looking at and touching myself. Sometimes I sleep in one.

 

[Paige.]

My wife asked me once if I wanted to wear her red silk nightie. We were making love and I was admiring. "Do you want to wear it?" For some reason I declined, but wish she would ask again sometime. She's aware I have a thing for trying on ladies lingerie and accommodates a little mild switching from time to time. It turns me on very much to spread my legs for her and have her on top of me. She's worried that I wish she were a boy, but I want to tell her, "No. It's that I like pretending to be a girl."

I like wearing her bras and just looking at and touching myself. Sometimes I sleep in one.

Hey Cuzzin,
I assume it took a certain amount of courage for your wife to ask "Do you want to wear it?" You say you wish she would ask again sometime. My money says that she won't ever ask and you will wait a long time. If you want it, I think the ball is in your court.
Be courageous. Next time she wears her nightie or next time you give her a nightie, don't ask if she wants you to wear it, tell you that you want to wear it for her. Let her know it excites you to do it. Be courageous, she was.
Surely you can demonstrate that you want her as a woman and not as boy. Ann Landers might advise you to tell her just as you said it, "No, It's that I like pretending to be a girl."
Good luck.

 

[Cuzzin]

Thanks Paige. Good advice. Stay tuned...

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

My Ultimate Fantasy

We think very much alike T.H.

With a guy that I am interested in I usually test the waters with my toe before plunging in. Again the safety net of caution and not wanting to hit a rock. I enjoy subtleness and sexual discoveries because both people have to be moving in the same direction to make progress.

I think that a flasher or an overly aggressive sexual person assumes that everyone that he/she flashes is as turned on as they are at the moment and are tuned in. Leaving hints and arousing my curiousity works better for me.

Paige,

This was an incredibly erotic post and I have to tell you, your description of a man willing to completely dress up as woman, complete with makeup, and wig is a fantasy I have longed for, for many years… While I love to wear women's panties, lingerie etc, I long for that opportunity to dress up as a woman and go out with another woman in public and be accepted by her. I would love for that experience. It would be such an incredible turn on and I would love it if a Bi or a straight woman found me to be very attractive and sexy looking as a woman? The thought of going out in public doesn’t scare me as I am sure I would be able to be dressed to the hilt and only my partner knew. For me I think much of this stems from a deep inner feminine side. In R/L I held for many years Senior Executive Jobs and was always in control. When I get home, I want to be the submissive one or have someone else in control. To be with another woman and me dressed as a woman makes me feel like she is in control of our relationship and that arouses me immensely. I want to be her partner and being dressed as a woman reinforces me coming down from the male role and puts me equal with her or even letting her be the controlling person.. The other aspect of my fantasy is I long to be taken by a woman with a strap on. That too is the ultimate male submission to have a woman literally make love to me.. I would hope we would have a double ended one so she could have similar satisfaction.. If not, I would give her oral sex for hours afterwards…..

For women. I don’t think labels them a lesbian, or wiered, or something else by our family, friends and society. I have chatted with several women that find it incredibly erotic to see the soft feminine side of a man dressed as a woman.

I have done a couple of SRP’s and have posted pics of me dressed in lingerie ( I hope you visit the SRP's, my pic posts and pm me if you would like more links to them).. I have actually bought my own bra’s, hose, panties and other toys.. I haven’t bought the wig or outer garments yet… as don’t have the opportunity to do much with them..yet.. But the thought is incredibly erotic. One of my fantasys has been to have a sexy woman from my office invite me out to dinner with her. Some how secretly she has figured out my feminine side so while we have dinner she gets me loose on fine wine and I spill the beans after a few erotic games of “I never”. After dinner she takes me to her home and we continue the “I never” game, which progresses into a game of strip poker.. I don’t realize she has the game fixed and suggests as we near finish that the winner gets to have the looser do anything they want to them. Well being the warm blooded horny guy I am, I think this isn’t such a bad deal so I loose. After loosing, she tells me she wants me to be fully dressed in womens clothing and go out on a date with her. I have to agree and she then says.. I want to go out now… Being horny and tipsy I agree to. First because it isn’t too late, we visit a womens clothing store and she buys me a sexy black dress, and appropriate lingerie underneath.. We go home, and because I am naturally hairless she doesn’t have to shave me.. she gets me dressed up.. and we go out to a local bar.. We flirt as two women in the bar which turns her on.. we dance together and then sneak into the ladies room together.. we play in the stall together.. then head home for the most fantastic sex either of us have ever had with me still dressed in my womens clothing…

So.. what do you think... .... ??

Oh yea.. here are a few pics of me in Lingerie… hope you enjoy..

STG

.....

 

[gingermango]

Oh yea.. here are a few pics of me in Lingerie… hope you enjoy..

Yummy! Shave or wax those legs next time, and I might climb through my monitor to get you . . .

Your fantasy being accepted by a woman while dressed is a very powerful one, and I think, a common one for cross-dressing men. This past New Year's Eve, I finally got to experience that feeling myself. My Goddess-wife and I spent the evening at a hotel and after dining, we retired to our room. Goddess painted my toenails and after they dried, I dressed in the clothes she brought for me: white thigh high stockings, white open-toe high-heeled sandals, white sheath dress, wig, makeup, and new gold hoop earrings and matching necklace. With my long curly hair pinned up on my head and my earrings dangling, Goddess had me walk out onto the balcony overlooking the covered atrium of the hotel with dozens of revelers and party-goers walking past only one floor down at all times. Then she joined me out there and we sat at our little table drinking wine while the people thronged only a couple dozen feet away. Few people even looked up and those who did noticed nothing but two girlfriends passing the time. It was AMAZING.

Later two well-trusted friends joined us in our room for some amazing group sex (yes, we have a swinging relationship) and the other woman had a wonderful time exploring my pretties and playing with me while I was dressed. It was a wonderful experience to be ME and be completely accepted all evening long.

 

[naughtyinsilk]

My wife asked me once if I wanted to wear her red silk nightie. We were making love and I was admiring. "Do you want to wear it?" For some reason I declined, but wish she would ask again sometime. She's aware I have a thing for trying on ladies lingerie and accommodates a little mild switching from time to time. It turns me on very much to spread my legs for her and have her on top of me. She's worried that I wish she were a boy, but I want to tell her, "No. It's that I like pretending to be a girl."

I like wearing her bras and just looking at and touching myself. Sometimes I sleep in one.

I think your wife will leave it to you to bring it up next time.

My advice would be this, buy her and yourself a pair of matching nighties, it will signal to her that you want her as a woman & not as a boy, and will also show your desire to dress up. And talk to her, its easy to misunderstand signals, but it is even easier to tell her exactly what you want and also to find out what she wants, it just takes a little courage to initiate the conversation.

Good luck & have fun

 

[Sigillata]

I am a new poster here and I am curious about a couple of things. I don't know if this is a good thread question but here goes.

I understand there are many men that love women's panties, lingerie etc and there are many that enjoy dressing up as a woman. But from what I have read, many men dress only for themselves, in private, and no one else ever knows.

How many more of you 'straight' men or even bi-curioius men would be more willing to dress as a woman, complete with make-up and a wig if you knew for certain that you would be accepted completely, with absolutely no fear or thought that you would be ridiculed or rejected by your wife or girlfriend. When I say accepted I mean accepted only by women, not men. Other men would never see you. How many of you would like it if a Bi or a straight woman found you to be very attractive and sexy looking as a woman? And you would never be found out except by your partner.



Any comments?

I'm a bit late seeing this thread, but found it prompted me to register on the site. I'd just like to say thanks to Paige for bringing it up, as the question of whether there are actually any women out there who get an erotic kick from males crossdressing is one i've been wondering about for a long while and one which it seems very hard to get any answers too.

Paige's comments are encouraging as I for one would enjoy what she describes hugely although i think the turn on for me is almost as much about role reversal into a female lifestyle as well as the clothes. Another poster mentioned the secrecy of it all being appealling and i think he is right; the fact that my fantasies are a little taboo to mainstream society is definietly erotic too!

Anyway, that's my tuppence worth, i will be interested to see how the thread develops, but it is a bit disappointing that only two women (i think) have posted to it - it might suggest there aren't many who enjoy the thought of this type of thing.

Cheers all

Sigillata

 

[Paige.]

I'm a bit late seeing this thread, but found it prompted me to register on the site. I'd just like to say thanks to Paige for bringing it up, as the question of whether there are actually any women out there who get an erotic kick from males crossdressing is one i've been wondering about for a long while and one which it seems very hard to get any answers too.

Paige's comments are encouraging as I for one would enjoy what she describes hugely although i think the turn on for me is almost as much about role reversal into a female lifestyle as well as the clothes. Another poster mentioned the secrecy of it all being appealling and i think he is right; the fact that my fantasies are a little taboo to mainstream society is definietly erotic too!

Anyway, that's my tuppence worth, i will be interested to see how the thread develops, but it is a bit disappointing that only two women (i think) have posted to it - it might suggest there aren't many who enjoy the thought of this type of thing.

Cheers all

Sigillata

Welcome to Lit and many thanks for your tuppence. Your comments and observations are appreciated. Please keep tuned.

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Welcome to Lit and many thanks for your tuppence. Your comments and observations are appreciated. Please keep tuned.

Paige glad to see you back, where have you been I missed you

Sigillata, welcome to the forum, it snice to see fresh faces with their own input here.

 

[Paige.]

Paige glad to see you back, where have you been I missed you

Sigillata, welcome to the forum, it snice to see fresh faces with their own input here.

Thanks naughty. I have been off making my millions. I experienced a little libido burnout from Lit. so I went to get my head screwed on straight.

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

Thanks naughty. I have been off making my millions. I experienced a little libido burnout from Lit. so I went to get my head screwed on straight.

Glad to see you back.. Millions are more important than Lit!!! I think we all go through Lit issues over time.. so your not alone!!!

Ps.. I love that pic of you in your profile.. Very sexy gal!!
STG

 

[cchheels]

Finally got here.

I am a new poster here and I am curious about a couple of things. I don't know if this is a good thread question but here goes.

I understand there are many men that love women's panties, lingerie etc and there are many that enjoy dressing up as a woman. But from what I have read, many men dress only for themselves, in private, and no one else ever knows.

How many more of you 'straight' men or even bi-curioius men would be more willing to dress as a woman, complete with make-up and a wig if you knew for certain that you would be accepted completely, with absolutely no fear or thought that you would be ridiculed or rejected by your wife or girlfriend....(original post edited to save space)
Any comments?

Hi Paige, Hi T.H.,

T.H. told me about your thread, and I see you've gotten quite a positive reaction from it. I must say I concur with many of the posts, and hope mine isn't too repititious.

I've dressed for years, and like many others, started out with sneaking a pair of panties and some stockings (my main fetish). After many years of hiding it from my late wife, I came out one night and surprised her, only to get a surprise in return. She loved it. Our sex that night was wonderful, ending up with both of us in stockings, but in addition I kept on my garterbelt and my red high heel shoes. What an exhilarating feeling, our legs wrapped around each other, nylon against nylon....and falling off to sleep in each others arms, legs entwined.

After that, we would go shopping together, and soon I had amassed a huge wardrobe of not only panties, but complete outfits. Several times, she would make me up and I would wear my wig and we'd just be girlfriends, sitting around talking, watching TV and having "girl-fun". We went the toenail polish route also on occasions. It was heaven.

Her death devestated me, and for the next couple of years I would only dress occasionally, ending up with a masturbation session, and much fantasizing. Then after 2 years of grieving, I met someone else, and kept my dressing a secret for the first 3 months, but then telling her one night about "my secret". She wanted to see Erica, and I went and changed.

Shocked was the initial reaction, followed by the all-too-often-asked- question.... "Does this mean your gay?" After straightening her out on that point, but not going into the "Bi aspect" of it, she was relieved. We've been together now for over a year, and once again I have someone who I go shopping with, and who accepts the "straight side" of me. Some things I guess you just have to keep hidden.

So...you see, I've been doubly lucky to have found 2 women who are accepting of the Cross-Dressing lifestyle. There's many others out there who probably would accept their man and his fetish, but for those of you who haven't come out to your wives and g/f I say.....Keep looking for that opportune moment, then go for it.

I am working up the courage to go out with some other CD's that I've been chatting with on-line for a Girls Night Out at a TG friendly bar...probably without my current g/f. Not sure if she'd be ready for that quite yet. But who knows.

And my only other unfulfilled fantasy I guess I have right now is like several others who've posted. I want so badly to be "taken by a dominant woman with a strap-on". I have someone in mind for that....but it'll probably be later on this summer before we have a chance to be together.

So there....sorry to go on for so long. Now that I've introduced myself to the group, I'll include a couple of pictures, and hope to hear back from any of you that wish to PM me.

Eric / Erica