a bit of a situation.

[distroserv]

ok heres the situation... my thought is that it is nerves (im 18m, this is my first time doing this)....
so me and my gf are on the couch and things start getting hot... everything in my downstairs department is working just fine, so she suggests that we go to the bedroom. upon arrival, we shut the lights, then everything heads to hell. everything in that department stops wanting to work right, leaving me in probly the worst feeling situation of my life. does anyone have any suggestions on what is going on that is making me loose my mood. normally, ive never had ANY problems in this department with self pleasure, or getting getting/keeping erections in general, so why is this happening at the worst possible time, and how can i stop it.

 

[intrigued]

You're nervous, and understandbly so. And the horrible thing is, the more you stress over it, the worse it gets.
Next time, make out a good bit longer, until you can't take another second of it. Also, try to be in the room you wish to end up in, so that the spell isn't given one second to be broken, lol.
Also, you need to be able to communicate to her that you're nervous, and ask her to please be patient with you. When the time is right, everything will fall into place.

PS: it's ok to use the word "erection" here. We even go so far as to say "cock".

 

[RedSoreBottom]

ok heres the situation... my thought is that it is nerves (im 18m, this is my first time doing this)....
so me and my gf are on the couch and things start getting hot... everything in my downstairs department is working just fine, so she suggests that we go to the bedroom. upon arrival, we shut the lights, then everything heads to hell. everything in that department stops wanting to work right, leaving me in probly the worst feeling situation of my life. does anyone have any suggestions on what is going on that is making me loose my mood. normally, ive never had ANY problems in this department with self pleasure, or getting getting/keeping erections in general, so why is this happening at the worst possible time, and how can i stop it.

Obsessing over will not help. Just forget about it, the more you think about it, the harder it will be to maintain the mood.

It happens to everyone, so don't worry about it.

 

[SweetErika]

Good advice, but I'd go one step further...
Before you get together with your gf again, try to figure out what could be making you nervous. Are you worried about pregnancy? If she's on the pill, are you worried she doesn't take it everyday? STDs? Are you using condoms? Are you scared you'll hurt her? Or do something wrong? Are you worried you don't have enough experience to please her?

Talk to your girl about these issues in a non-sexual moment and place. Get everything straightened out, don't worry about not getting excited, reassure her that it's not that she's turning you off (or not sexy enough), and you'll be fine!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I just answered your thread about alcohol affecting your erection. Were you drinking when this happened? Are the two related? Because if they're not, maybe go see your doctor... that's a few different instances where you're having difficulty with an erection, and it's always good to be on the safe side.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

[B maybe go see your doctor... that's a few different instances where you're having difficulty with an erection, and it's always good to be on the safe side. [/B]

Just my opinion...not trying to step on toes but............

I'm not exactly convinced that he needs to run out to the DR. yet. He doesn't have a problem " getting getting/keeping erections in general", so it seems things are working. Sounds like a good ol' case of nerves to me.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Just my opinion...not trying to step on toes but............

I'm not exactly convinced that he needs to run out to the DR. yet. He doesn't have a problem " getting getting/keeping erections in general", so it seems things are working. Sounds like a good ol' case of nerves to me.

I mentioned that because there's another thread he's started where he says that alcohol is affecting his ability to get an erection. So if it's alcohol, and nerves, what's to say it won't be something else?

(You didn't step on toes, I was just commenting to both threads at once)

 

[distroserv]

yes, tonight there was some minor drinking involved, but it was 4 hours prior to this. and i had a very small amount. the thing is, that i was hard and ready even after the drinks, but then it just kinda went away, which never really happens to me.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I mentioned that because there's another thread he's started where he says that alcohol is affecting his ability to get an erection. So if it's alcohol, and nerves, what's to say it won't be something else?

(You didn't step on toes, I was just commenting to both threads at once)

Gotcha...I hadn't seen the other thread....makes sense now....

 

[wildwesty]

Yeah, just calm down and relax. Don't put so much pressure on the situation. She isn't going to break up with you over the first time being bad and if she does, do you really want to be with someone so shallow. Have you ever tried oral anything before? Because if you do move rooms, getting on your knees for her will relax you and let you enjoy the moment and probably calm you down. Plus, if you are nervous about her not having an orgasm, then take care of her first. Then you will be free to enjoy. Relaxation is key and have fun!

 

[ReadyOne]

It helps to just keep going when you loose your erection. Focus on her, use your fingers, tell her you're going to keep teasing her when she tells you how ready she is to fuck. Go down on her, flip her over and push against her G-spot, start counting the number of moans you can get her to make.

Put your hard-on (off) out of your mind. It will come back enough to enter her and after you do you will get even harder.

This works even if you're just "not in the mood". If you start making an effort just for her, telling yourself you're not going to have PIV sex, you would be suprised how often you change you mind after a bit!