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I understand english is not your first language and the whole complexity of the english language and somethings getting muddled/misunderstood/lost in translation.

I emphasize my query was on the word stigmatize.

Sure we are laid back. Agreed to the stiff upper lip - many new zealanders can claim english ancestry. I myself am a descendant of an english grandmother who didn't wear her heart on her sleeve. Meaning she rarely cried in public or was known to be exuberant. That is the way she was raised in english society and the same way she raised my sister and I. In my experience most english people and New Zealand people we are very private. We try not to make a scene because of emotional outbursts but we do love to make some noise when it comes to rugby.

For the most part New Zealanders are known to be generous, caring people who will give as much as they can and expect nothing in return. It's in our nature and the way our society is. But it is not rampant in New Zealand that we stigmatize people who have lost loved ones or suffered a tragedy. Behind the scenes in private most kiwis will be making and giving the bereaved kai (food) or saying Karakias (prayers)

As a small country we rally behind people and communities and we are there to support them and help any way we can. We may not be effusive (adjective
1.
unduly demonstrative; lacking reserve:
effusive greetings; an effusive person.
2.
pouring out; overflowing.)

but please don't associate the New Zealand way of not being overly emotional and assume we stigmatize people who do display their anguish and loss. Because if this did happen the people who were behaving unkindly to someone who was showing their grief would be chastised by other kiwi's and told to sod off or pull their head in.

You're right: the example re grief was a poor one and I'm taking it back.

I wanted to emphasize mainly the first point: that anglosaxons (Au, NZers)tend to contain their emotions.

As far as stigma goes: it applies to showing emotions around mundane superficial issues and Not to such serious cases. The average NZers/Australians are generous and supportive of such tragedies. (hell, I for one received so much support and kindness from my coworkers, even when I lost my dog).

In saying that, when it comes to managerial culture in state-owned institutions: I noticed that quite a few managers have a cut-throat mentality and view their employees as just "nombers on a paycheck". They don't care if people have families or are going through hardship or personal tragedies. So employees are very careful about showing any sign of weakness and "playing the game".

Is it a NZ and Australian (aka british) managerial work culture or is it specific to such large institutions where I used to work in, irrespective of country? Who knows…