A Place 🤍 for The Girl Next Door ☕️🌷

[Lord Pmann]

I’m half 12 year old, half 85 year old.

 

[BongoGal]

I must be super serious because that pillow fight looks like a nightmare to me. I'd be finding feathers for freakin' years.

 

[base10]

I must be super serious because that pillow fight looks like a nightmare to me. I'd be finding feathers for freakin' years.

I will never again buy another pillow with feathers in it. Damn nightmare

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Are you more playful or serious? Are you drawn to one or the other?

I am very playful. I’m drawn to playful people as well. I am serious when I need to be, but all day back and forth flirting, laughing and teasing makes me happy. I can’t deal with partners who are too serious all the time.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I'm a joker almost all the time. We're not allowed to have down pillows because I destroyed the last set, and our bedroom.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Need more extras cheese , sausage etc.
and the Johnny cash version is better

Indeed, Cash is always better...I just needed a little something different this morning.

What a blast from the past! I haven’t heard that band since highschool

Just wanted to poke in and say hello sweetness, hope you’re well

Well happy Sunday to you, SNG Thanks for popping in with your cuteness!

I'm definately more serious, and I think in the past I've told myself I should look for partners who are on the serious side as well. I don't know why I've been surprised when I find them boring.

I think I could use someone with more of a playful and silly side.

^^ This is me exactly, Base. I’ve come to realize that I need the contrast for a good relationship or friendship...and it often makes me a better version of myself in the process.

Older? Lol...ok whippersnapper...

....That is why I don't put much value in being percieved as intelligent or charming. It has less to do with me, and more to do with them.

Yes...older...as in not as young as I use to be

I do appreciate your confidence - AKA I don’t give a fuck attitude. I’m like that in a lot of ways. But I still want to know for myself that I’m intelligent...and I suppose charming as well

I’m half 12 year old, half 85 year old.

I’d say 80/20.

I must be super serious because that pillow fight looks like a nightmare to me. I'd be finding feathers for freakin' years.

I will never again buy another pillow with feathers in it. Damn nightmare

I'm a joker almost all the time. We're not allowed to have down pillows because I destroyed the last set, and our bedroom.

What a bunch of party poopers...it’s just pillows . Can you imagine the kind of fun sex that follows play like that? It more than makes up for a few feathers...

 

[StacyLeigh]

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[base10]

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Not so secret to us around here. But we're all in the same camp

 

[StacyLeigh]

Not so secret to us around here. But we're all in the same camp

Whoa whoa whoa.... I acknowledge being outwardly sexual, but I don’t think I come across as slutty....or do I? Or am I being naive and there’s really no difference?

 

[base10]

Whoa whoa whoa.... I acknowledge being outwardly sexual, but I don’t think I come across as slutty....or do I? Or am I being naive and there’s really no difference?

So interesting point about perception. I think we just viewed that differently.

I took the view of an internal slutty view as a very positive and open view on sex, and yes very sexual. I did not view or mean it in any way negatively.

I took it as you have a sexual mind, and very much enjoy those thoughts and fantasies.

 

[Dribble]

Whoa whoa whoa.... I acknowledge being outwardly sexual, but I don’t think I come across as slutty....or do I? Or am I being naive and there’s really no difference?

I hate labels. What one calls sexual, another can call slutty. Yet, if it was a man posting a pic, or a thought, he is considered a confident stud. Motive girl...is everything. I see nothing slutty in this thread.

 

[StacyLeigh]

^^ Thank you guys . I’m not worried but more so curious how I’m seen, but I agree, Dribble...motive is key.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Beyond the Surface

Realization: I create my own unhappiness through expectations.

I don’t feel like I have unrealistic expectations. I’m not waiting for the allegorical “Prince Charming” nor do I think I’ll be everyone’s best friend. But I do have high hopes and desires.

I’m a creature of habit and routine. If you break that routine, I get a bit thrown off. (That’s my self-preserving way of saying “it makes me sad as hell”) I’m an incredibly loyal partner and friend. I don’t keep many people close to me, but those I do I would drop everything and give them my undivided attention. I will always put those people first. Fair or not, I expect more from others because I know I would do that much for them.

Do you feel that you have high expectations or prefer to have none and instead be pleasantly surprised? Do you have any basic expectations (of partners or friends) that are absolutes for you?


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[StacyLeigh]

I am definitely a "low expectations and maybe I'll be surprised" type. I've just been ground down with too many shitty experiences to expect much. I'm not saying that coming from a place of negativity, that's just based on experience.

But as far as basic expectations, mainly, if we're going to be friends (or whatever), just don't be awful or negative. That feels like a good starting point.

Expectations, in general, I think are good to not have. It's like grading someone on a test they don't know they're taking. Boundaries are different though. Those you should always have.

Nice to see you around lady.

N R J! Such a sweet surprise to see you pop in

"It's like grading someone on a test they don't know they're taking" - I'll have to disagree with that one. I agree that they may not know the questions, which is where communication, rather than assumption comes into play. But if you are ever in a relationship or friendship, you have to know you are taking a test of some kind - and the key to an A+ is to never become complacent or take it for granted.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Musings

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[Dribble]

Those that settle...throw darts w their eyes closed and no matter what they hit, that is their target. They claim to be happy. But they dont act it. If one does not set expectations high...what do you think you are going to find?

Not every child is an A student. But if you have higher expectations for them...they ALWAYS perform better. They simply needed to be shown they can excel.

So yes, I have high expectations. Those in my life do not feel I place too much on them...they want to meet them.

Edit: shitty spelling

 

[StacyLeigh]

Those that settle...throw darts w their eyes closed and no matter what they hit, that is their target. They claim to be happy. But they dont act it. If one does not set expectations high...what do you think you are going to find?

Not every child is an A student. But if you have higher expectations for them...they ALWAYS perform better. They simply needed to be shown they can excel.

So yes, I have high expectations. Those in my life do not feel I place too much on them...they want to meet them.

Edit: shitty spelling

(Shitty spelling...haha )

Someone mentioned boundaries earlier. It took me time to process...
I have boundaries. High walls that have to be climbed to get close to me. But for those few who do, I certainly have high expectations of them.

Your last sentence rang true for me. I strive to meet the expectations of my friends and loved ones and want them to be as eager to meet mine. Coincidentally, our expectations are usually much the same. If we aren’t both meeting expectations it leads to inequality...something I struggle to ever be ok with.

 

[Jd192235]

Realization: I create my own unhappiness through expectations.

I don’t feel like I have unrealistic expectations. I’m not waiting for the allegorical “Prince Charming” nor do I think I’ll be everyone’s best friend. But I do have high hopes and desires.

I’m a creature of habit and routine. If you break that routine, I get a bit thrown off. (That’s my self-preserving way of saying “it makes me sad as hell”) I’m an incredibly loyal partner and friend. I don’t keep many people close to me, but those I do I would drop everything and give them my undivided attention. I will always put those people first. Fair or not, I expect more from others because I know I would do that much for them.

Do you feel that you have high expectations or prefer to have none and instead be pleasantly surprised? Do you have any basic expectations (of partners or friends) that are absolutes for you?


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I have always seen myself as fun/easy going w low expectations, but over the years I’ve realized if someone doesn’t make me feel like I’m important to them ( could be in a plethora of ways and friend or partner) I don’t let them very close. There aren’t many people who I would say are really close to me, know a lot about me, so I too have those walls . I do believe there are “love languages” and some, partner or friend” who speak the same one, will make you feel important to them effortlessly, while other no matter how hard they try might not ever get there?!?

 

[StacyLeigh]

I have always seen myself as fun/easy going w low expectations, but over the years I’ve realized if someone doesn’t make me feel like I’m important to them ( could be in a plethora of ways and friend or partner) I don’t let them very close. There aren’t many people who I would say are really close to me, know a lot about me, so I too have those walls . I do believe there are “love languages” and some, partner or friend” who speak the same one, will make you feel important to them effortlessly, while other no matter how hard they try might not ever get there?!?

Ahhh I could not have written that better myself, Jd

I've also come to realize that I don't like change. Like REALLY don't like it. I think a lot of my expectations are based on my ideal that people and situation should never change. Yes, I know this is completely unrealistic....but it's how my mind operates naturally.

 

[Jd192235]

Ahhh I could not have written that better myself, Jd

I've also come to realize that I don't like change. Like REALLY don't like it. I think a lot of my expectations are based on my ideal that people and situation should never change. Yes, I know this is completely unrealistic....but it's how my mind operates naturally.

Well now Stace. I could have written that. Any change will completely throw me off, people can grow and relationships can evolve as long as nothing changes !!

 

[StacyLeigh]

Beyond the Surface

I woke up this morning to a lovely PM from the very first man I met off-line from Lit. We haven't spoken in several years so his kind message was a delightful find.

What's has been your best experience/memory from your time here on Lit? What do you treasure the most?

Don't phone it in with a response like "All the great friends I've made."

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[StacyLeigh]

The frustration is real...

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[Doctor Joe]

Musings, interests, humor, and insights...

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Cute girls are usually the more publicly tame and reserved type of female. The prototypical ‘girl next door’, if you will. They dress in a more conservative fashion and wear just the right amount of make-up. These are the girls you are proud to bring home to mom and have the most marriage potential, if you are into that kind of thing. They are extra sexy because when you get a cute girl behind closed doors and bring out that sexy part of her, she becomes hotter than the hottest slut in the club. Cute girls also tend to be a little awkward with themselves, making them even more adorable. My personal favorites.

I love the way you summed up "the girl next door" type. So often they are so hot behind closed doors!! Thanks for this Thread.

 

[StacyLeigh]

I love the way you summed up "the girl next door" type. So often they are so hot behind closed doors!! Thanks for this Thread.

I'd like to take credit - but I didn't write it. I just stumbled across it one day and thought it fit me quite well. Hence a thread was born.

The article it came from is really quite terrible but I'll share it: https://thoughtcatalog.com/kil-mist...-to-describe-women-and-what-they-really-mean/

 

[StacyLeigh]

Happy Cinco de Mayo

Tacos and Topo - my heaven!

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