a survey for married couples...

[darkknight01]

No it's not

Can we do something to change that?

 

[sparc101]

Very nice

Everyday 7days a week! I'm much happier and so is he! We will be married 25 yrs in August!

Awesome!

 

[Quantified]

We fuck 2-3 times per week typically.

We have been married since 1997.

I had our wedding date tattooed on my left wrist in 2007. At that point, we were fucking maybe twice per month. That tattoo did wonders, still does wonders. Her sex drive hit the roof that day and, I swear to you, it hasn't slowed down since. She's up for anything.

Not that she was a prude before, but she's wonderfully aggressive and suggestive now.

 

[Fun_gent]

Marreid 11 years. We have sex maybe twice a month... not near enough for me.

 

[Up4FunTonite]

2-3 times per month.

 

[haute_cuisine]

I would say about 5-6x a week. Married 9yrs together for 15.

 

[Emerson40]

Reading through this thread makes me wonder if that joke about Wedding Cake Syndrome is just a joke

We've been together 5 years, have 2 young kids, and get giggity-giggity 4 to 6 times a week.
With kids and work schedules it can be tough, but you find a way. You gotta make the time and effort.
Sometimes it has to be quick and nasty cause that's all you can do. And sometimes it starts as the sun goes down and is still happening when the sun comes up.
Keeping it fresh and changing things up helps as well - AVOID routine and vanilla mish... and make a point to keep intimacy in your lives. Hold hands, leave notes in drawers or the fridge where you know they'll be found, write something naughty on the bathroom mirror for her / his eyes only. Text love poems or naughty messages.
This applies as much if you've been together 35 years as if you've been together 2 months. Maybe even more-so the longer you've been together.
A lot of foreplay can be done with your clothes on, during the day, with loving gestures, and the right words spoken sincerely and said at the right time, all building towards :caning: later.
It takes effort on both parts, and some imagination never hurts. Some of the most fun and memorable sex we've had did not involve a bed, or take place in the bedroom.

Be spontaneous and break routine...
Next time the missus comes out of the shower in the morning, bend her over the counter and lick her ass and pussy for 10 mins. Tell her how sexy she is. Tell her how she makes your cock hard (tone down or amp up the naughty speak as suits your other's ears - you get the idea) Do this without planning on intercourse, or you busting a nut. Then stand up, give her a passionate kiss, thank her for the treat, tell her you love her, and go off to work. She'll be thinking about you all day.
Same applies reversing him for her.

Sorry for the wordy post... and sounding so Dr. Philly, but as a few of you have noted, some of the responses are so very, well, sad really. Heartbreaking.
If any of the above helps some of you guys and gals, and gets you bumping uglies with more frequency, great.

 

[jimburr35]

Not Recently

My wife is going through a muscle pain thing due to previous auto accident and recent work stress. Sex puts her on a trip back to the doctor. I need Viagra to get a really good boner so scheduling is necessary. It not been on the schedule for months! Married for 40 years. Up to last year sex was every week, sometimes every other.

 

[California_baby]

I often get jealous of married couples or people in long term relationships but reading this thread is sorta... changing my mind a bit...

Although I can guarantee that if I marry someone I am attracted to (which I better, crap), he will be getting it every day if not more!

It makes me sad to hear about sexless marriages.

 

[hogjack]

Once every 18 months.

Some consider that low volume but the anticipation builds and builds.

 

[TxBoots]

already spoken

 

[djyak]

I often get jealous of married couples or people in long term relationships but reading this thread is sorta... changing my mind a bit...

Although I can guarantee that if I marry someone I am attracted to (which I better, crap), he will be getting it every day if not more!

It makes me sad to hear about sexless marriages.

I hear ya! We do it as often as we can, every day if we could, but 3-7x a week, depending on our schedules,(kids games, and such). But IMO, sex is a very, very important part in a marriage. Yes, we have fun not only in the house, out of it too, but we're with each other when we do these. It strengthens us, makes us closer. If I weren't giving him some, and I'm talking for no good reason (medically), than I couldn't blame him one bit for seeking other means.

Luckily, we're in sync! A lot!

Tif

 

[AW48]

How many times on average are you having sex with your spouse?

Our sex life was abysmal and dysfunctional and I finally said the hell with it and just told her we're done, she can go ahead and take it off her list of semi-annual chores. Would rather have none on my terms than the occasional pitiful encounter on her terms. That was the only way it could be a win for me.

Will probably never get divorced and damn sure would never get married again if I do. But if anyone wants a tall, horny boyfriend, I am available.

 

[jackflash81]

its tough, there are times it happens a lot, and its good, times it goes ages without.

There are reasons that I have explained in other posts, and re-finding what is lost is the hardest thing, knowing how good it can be, and trying to get back there is tough

 

[TigerSTL27]

Still legally married..however before I left and even when I didn't like him, 4x a week or anytime I could get it. This single and no sex thing is killing me.

(3yrs+ , seperated 8months now)

omg i am so there with u.

 

[IAMinsatiable]

....

Once or twice per month and certainly not enough.

 

[mattastic100]

once or twice a month here.. Wish it was once or twice a day.

 

[Joshd1973]

Married 5 years. Once or twice a month at the moment due to wife's pregnancy.

 

[GILF_69]

Married sex

We're married almost 16 years and we vary depending upon the week. Sometimes we manage 6 or 7 times in a weekend and other times it will be a week without. On average, I would say 2-3 times a week.

I must say, I do feel bad for some of the guys who've posted here. How do you do it? How do you cope? I can't even fathom a marriage without sex. I love and adore my husband and I'd be taking that cock twice a day if I could.

 

[ButtNastyTodd]

We're married 8 years this month, together 10. When we were first together it was like a marathon. We rarely saw above the blankets. Entire weekends lost.

Things didn't change until we had the kids. By the time we started failing entirely, we were three years in, and almost completely sexless. That lasted for a couple years. I read about some folks in this thread getting cringy pity sex twice a year, and for a couple years that's how it was for us. She didn't feel sexy after having two kids back to back, and I didn't feel romantic ever, knowing dinner, flowers or minding my dumb chores weren't going to change facts: I'd take a run and be rejected. On top of all this, I also started letting booze make me a bore.

A couple years ago we started writing each other dirty short stories, spelling out wild adventurous crazy sex we'd dream about. Over time a group / swing theme sort of took over our stories. This was the beginning of better times, and by April of this year we had both taken measures to make our goddamn selves happy, and it has been pretty damn amazing ever since.

You hear about the 7-year itch, or the 7-year wall. I keep thinking we made it. She's still just as stay-home-all-weekend hot as ever, but now she's also the mother of my children, my partner in our happy home, and my best friend.

Now we fuck like 10 times a week, more if we play extra hard a night or two. We can't keep our faces out of one another's crotch either.

Weekend's here.

 

[Que]

We're married 8 years this month, together 10. When we were first together it was like a marathon. We rarely saw above the blankets. Entire weekends lost.

Things didn't change until we had the kids. By the time we started failing entirely, we were three years in, and almost completely sexless. That lasted for a couple years. I read about some folks in this thread getting cringy pity sex twice a year, and for a couple years that's how it was for us. She didn't feel sexy after having two kids back to back, and I didn't feel romantic ever, knowing dinner, flowers or minding my dumb chores weren't going to change facts: I'd take a run and be rejected. On top of all this, I also started letting booze make me a bore.

A couple years ago we started writing each other dirty short stories, spelling out wild adventurous crazy sex we'd dream about. Over time a group / swing theme sort of took over our stories. This was the beginning of better times, and by April of this year we had both taken measures to make our goddamn selves happy, and it has been pretty damn amazing ever since.

You hear about the 7-year itch, or the 7-year wall. I keep thinking we made it. She's still just as stay-home-all-weekend hot as ever, but now she's also the mother of my children, my partner in our happy home, and my best friend.

Now we fuck like 10 times a week, more if we play extra hard a night or two. We can't keep our faces out of one another's crotch either.

Weekend's here.

Need a "LIKE" button here.

This was my ex and I in our 15th year of marriage... I think it was 17th year together..all of the sudden things clicked and we were ok again.

I really had the idea the worst was over...until it wasnt...

if it slows again, get a counselor stat! usually some repressed anger in there somewhere if two people that are attracted to each other arent all up in each other when ever possible.
good job you two...keep it up

 

[ButtNastyTodd]

In the middle of the darkest times of our marriage we tried counseling. Got us nowhere but *maybe* able to come out the other side of our fights having at least communicated SOMETHING. Mostly it just guaranteed a weekly argument in the car.

I tried to suggest dance lessons, hobbies, date night, and none of it stuck. We finally figured enough of the root causes out that window dressing like hobbies no longer seemed like our only hope. Pretty soon we weren't loaded with bitterness anymore, and we were able to reconnect bit by bit. It's been excellent.

 

[Cogan]

Married for 18 years and have sex about 4-6 times a week.

 

[joshua_bends]

2-3 times every week and a half....

Not enough...why do you think I am on this forum?

 

[lovebothsexes]

sex

haven't had sex with her in 4 years been married 44 years