a survey for married couples...

[MrMikelobe1952]

Once a week
32 years

 

[Joe_Somebody]

Coming up on 18 years. 2-4x/week. I would prefer daily, she would prefer weekly. Got to compromise.

 

[yojimbo441]

2-3 times a month. Married 15 years.

 

[RjThoughts]

Married 27 years
2-3x's a week

 

[drtyyoleman]

How many times on average are you having sex with your spouse?

Sex with my spouse? What's that?

 

[nullsum]

16 years married, maybe once a month or so. I always feel like I'm intruding and she's made it abundantly clear that as long as I'm willing to cuddle with her, then we need never have sex again. Except the one or two times a year she's horny.

 

[L8tnIt]

Sex with my spouse? What's that?

Yeah, I know... I have a far more sexual relationship with my own hand than with my own wife!

In her defense, because she is not to blame for our sexlessness, please note:
1. We live with HER parents
2. Her sister, along with her husband and daughter, also stays there
3. I work nights so that she can work days- we alternate as to who watches our daughter

 

[perkin]

2-3 times a month
only on weekends - never on a school night!

 

[Steel_n_Silk]

We've been married about seventeen years and the last 3 the sex has really gotten incredible!
We always had sex several times a week but it lacked quality... the kids interrupted, only a quickie, tired, same positions...
We started really talking about sex and exploring it together a few years back and WOW!
It helps that the work schedules have been changed so every afternoon we have a few hours with no one home... just us and lots of fun!
My love tells me I could have just said "ALOT!" instead of a paragraph
opposites attracting

 

[arjunindia]

3 times a week, twice on Sundays mostly on mornings

Arjun

 

[sweetks]

We have been together for 3 years married for 4 months we have 1 child and sex is non existent, if we do its like once a month been that way for a while always on his terms never on mine!

 

[30bandits]

We have been together for 3 years married for 4 months we have 1 child and sex is non existent, if we do its like once a month been that way for a while always on his terms never on mine!

this sounds all too familiar to me...i feel your pain. could i it and make it better?

 

[Blonde_Vixen]

Together for 22, married for 20. For the past decade hubby has had little interest and I usually end up begging him. If I'm lucky it's once every 18 months.

 

[30bandits]

Together for 22, married for 20. For the past decade hubby has had little interest and I usually end up begging him. If I'm lucky it's once every 18 months.

i'm in the midwest...

 

[Xciter]

Funny you should ask this question. Because that's why. I visit this site

Maybe once every couple of months and it all depends on if she wants it. Stayed married because I love my kids and wanted to be in their life everyday.

Married 25 years the kids are raised and remain married because I would lose most of my retirement and can't afford a divorce. Seems unfair I should have to retire with barely enough to get by just because I need sex more often

So I come here for now hoping ill just get old and the sex drive will go away eventually

 

[AllenWmsUSA]

A huge part of sex for me (I'd say the main thing, actually) is desiring and being desired.

That is right on the money. The intoxicating validation of knowing someone desires you IS sex, in my opinion.

As to the original question: married 20+, no sex by mutual lack of interest. She is not interested in sex at all. I am very interested in sex, but not with her.

 

[paulking]

8 years together and we have sex every day at least once

 

[ForcedPassion]

....

No where enough, very passionless unfortunately. Married for 18 years.

 

[wellard94]

Memories are made of this . .

Married 51 years, what was the question again?

 

[sirstein]

5-7 days a week married for 15 together for 21 years

 

[grumpyg]

How many times on average are you having sex with your spouse?

After 40 years, hardly ever. However we now share mutual masturbation twice a week which lasts anything from 15 minutes to an hour and a half.

 

[fiveten4321]

It varies for us. We average probably 3-4 times a month but then we will have sex 3 times in a week. It's hard with young kids. We are talking about trying to have sex every day for a week and see what that does for us.

We have been married over 10 years.

 

[julius_1975ct]

married 7 years, we get in 1-2 times a month

 

[LookinForFun22]

We've been together 17yrs & married for 12. On an average week probably 5 times. This week 5 already and that number will be changing soon!

 

[FunCpl931]

Married 27 years. Average 3-4 times a week.