Advice on how to prevent orgasm

[Phalanx1710]

Hey ladies and gents.
This thread is actually quite ironic as a couple of months ago I was on here asking about how to stop being so nervous so that I could orgasm while having sex with my girlfriend.
Well it appears that I've become a little too relaxed, and now I'm finding it hard to keep her satisfied before I just lose control!
The problem is this... I can be having sex with her for a long time and maintain my erection and just keep going and going but as soon as she nears orgasm her vaginal muscles start to spasm and clamp down on my cock and things start to go bad. While I'm used to her vagina when she's not about to cum and can control the sensitivity of the rubbing on my penis, when she's about to cum the combination of her muscles contracting and the pace that we're going at it (sufficient to build towards her orgasm) means that my usual methods of restraining myself are just not enough.
It's annoying because I'd really love to make her cum during penitrative sex so that we can both cum at the same time.
It's happened about 3 times now and I'm hoping that it's only going to take some practice to stop it, it just seems that by the time I know it's happening it's too late and even if I stop moving her vagina just seems to milk me...

I'm sure someone out there will have had this problem and hope that anyone who feels like it is able to help me out with a few tips!

Cheers!

 

[partyfairy]

Couple of ideas hun....

Are you using a condom? You could try using an 'extra safe' versions which are thicker?

You could try cock rings....sqeezes the base of the penis stopping you cumming too quickly...you can aslo get 'bumpy' ones which give added stimulation to your girlfriend hence she comes quicker and hopefully you can come together.

Can't think of anything else off the top of my head...let us know how you get on!!!!
xx

 

[Chicklet]

this is what kegels are for, yes?

 

[DrHappy]

...when she's about to cum... and the pace that we're going at it (sufficient to build towards her orgasm) means that my usual methods of restraining myself are just not enough.

It's annoying because I'd really love to make her cum during penetrative sex so that we can both cum at the same time...

it just seems that by the time I know it's happening it's too late and even if I stop moving her vagina just seems to milk me...

Some problems are better than others What are your "usual methods of restraining yourself"? Simultaneous orgasms aren't usually easy coordinate, and aren't always optimum for some (many?) couples. The thrusting that I guy wants may not be what the girl wants during her orgasm.

Can you still give her an orgasm if you keep your thrusts slow? Get her really turned on before penetration and it may get better. She may appreciate the additional foreplay anyway. Are you stimulating her orally?

Try pulling out if you suspect that you may be getting too excited. Pull out at give her a little stimulation with your tongue so that it's not too much of an interruption for her. She may prefer this short interruption over your cumming too soon. Or pull out and use this as an opportunity to change positions. Are you a member of the club that's able to start hard after orgasm?

 

[Lookingforideas]

Vibrating Cock rings are wonderful

 

[M's girl]

Vibrating Cock rings are wonderful

Yeah, great... makes him last at least 15 minutes!

Lookingforideas: "Not long enough for me. About 15 mins but I would really love about 30 or 45 "

 

[sellthecookie]

year of the sexy pig

30 to 45 mins.. wow.. i hope the sex gurus will have come out with a failsafe method for this.


p.s. they say orgasms for pigs and boars last about an hour.

 

[LordHawk]

First, I think you should realize that simultaneous orgasms are overrated. Outside of romance novels, they aren't that great. I find that it actually lessens the orgasm for either the man or woman. When you are trying to come together, you are thinking about it much and are not able to just ride the orgasm out. Me and my girl find it much better for one to come then the other. Usually she comes first but sometimes its been to long since our last time together and I come quicker. And sometimes I've still been able to fuck her to orgasm with my softening cock.
However, if you want to learn to prolong your orgasm, you can learn to seperate orgasm from ejaculation. That means you can come and since you did not ejaculate, your cock is still hard and you can keep going. You just have to strengthen the PC muscle, which is the same muscle you use if you cut off your urine mid stream. Just do that for a few minutes a day, sitting in the office, driving to work or whatever. Squeeze that muscle like you were going to stop yourself pissing and eventually it will become strong enough to cut off your ejaculation. Just a few minutes. There is all manner of things in tantric sex that can help you learn to be a hell of a lover.
Something that can help you become more intimate is what they call morning and evening devotion. It just takes five minutes when you awake and before you go to sleep. You don't have to be hard, just lube up and slide inside your woman. Be on top of her, with her legs wrapped around your hips, and arms around each other. Just rest like that, kissing. The goal in tantric sex of this is to feel the energy flowing between each other. It should be something you do every day regardless of whether or not either wants sex. Its about becoming intimate so the man should not take advantage and start thrusting. The woman needs to trust that you will just lay there with each other. If you agree to do it its something that you do every day. No saying no because of headaches or I don't want sex because the woman trusts that you are not after sex. Even if you don't feel energy, which I didn't for a while, you do feel better and you feel closer together. And if the woman wants it, your in position for some great sex.

 

[Terra_Cide]

Have you thought about doing a search on Tantric sex practices? Supposedly, they have breathing excersises you can perform while having sex that help you to control your orgasm, thus prolonging the actual sex act.

 

[akatrex]

I have learned to distract myself....Change my minds focus temporally.

Orgasm is all about the building of excitement.

The best athletes in the world cannot focus for the entire game.
They have to take a mental break from time to time.

Sooooo take a mental break during the woookie waawaa hooohooo.

 

[Kailey_86]

i don't know if this will work for You but someone once told me that they prevented themselves from cumming by thinking of something painful or unpleasant. His example was being cut by a blade of grass or paper. i know it's strange but it worked for him. hehe...thinking of something painful would have the opposite effect for me.

 

[sparc101]

.... Practice...

Thats all it takes...

And yes, it is in the mind. With the right mind set you can control when you cum... most of the time anyway. There are times when I have had little control... but that is usually due to "not getting it" for awhile. I get impatient I guess...everyone does. Good luck

 

[BOREDINTUCSON]

Just pace yourself and breath at a consistent rate. It sound crazy but if you don't pace your breathing you will cum much sooner. Get your mind off the problem if you can. It is sort of like a tree falling in the forest thing. Of course more practice the better.

 

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