An honest question about being non-binary

[AG31]

I'm a female who came to Literotica around four years ago, having experienced, among other things, a late life enhanced appreciation of the difference between the sexes. For most of my life I had a low libido, and then that changed. I developed a greater appreciation for male physicality, including a greater understanding of male desire, I think. (No way to know for sure, of course).

In this age of gender/identity fluidity, I have no problem fitting most gender identities into my celebration of the difference between male and female. Gay people clearly make a distinction between the sexes; they're just drawn to their own. Transgender people clearly make a distinction since they're often willing to turn their lives upside down to live in a way that matches their identity. Where I draw a blank is regarding the sexual activity of non-binary people. I probably could get a pretty good picture if I found the right stories on the story side of Lit, but that would require too much time and effort.

Could someone describe what actual sexual activity is like for non-binary people?

I hope this isn't taken in a bad way. I tend to come across as judgemental or condescending or... or.... But I'm really just wondering.

 

[RoanMtn]

It's a bit recent, but i would identify myself as a sissy. So i suppose that makes me non-binary. For me, sexual activity would be either as a sissy cuckold, or in a relationship with a transgender woman.

 

[ADirtyPerv]

Non-binary people still have fiddly bits, and people they're attracted to. If the person they're attracted to returns the affection, then it's a simple matter of fiddling with the bits until the appropriate mess occurs. I think it boils down to a very personal, individual level, just as coming to the conclusion that you are non-binary is very personal. Not much of a way to broad-brush this one, IMO.

 

[anthrodisiac]

Could someone describe what actual sexual activity is like for non-binary people?

Pretty much the same as everyone else, as a spectrum of sexual preferences, activies, likes, kinks, squicks, etc. Gender and sexuality are separate concepts, and one can influence the other, but it's helpful to think of them as distinct, since any possible combination is possible and likely exists.

 

[SmilingLez]

Non-binary people still have fiddly bits, and people they're attracted to. If the person they're attracted to returns the affection, then it's a simple matter of fiddling with the bits until the appropriate mess occurs. I think it boils down to a very personal, individual level, just as coming to the conclusion that you are non-binary is very personal. Not much of a way to broad-brush this one, IMO.

I've also read author stories, calling them naughty bits and in BDSM stories heavy in humiliation and degradation calling them front hole and rear hole