Anal - first time - Just how painful is it ?

[Baskin Robbins]

I have an 8" dildo in my ass now!

Goooood it feels good!

 

[shy slave]

Man, everyone keeps saying "lube lube lube" and I didn't get ANY lube! But it was still relatively comfortable, without too much whining on my part The key was in my mental state and the ability to get over the fear of what was actually happening enough to *relax* and enjoy it. I found it extremely pleasurable.

I agree with this
Its a mental state.
I have always loved the idea but it hurt like hell, even with tons of lube.

Ex partners who have wanted to try have never been that successful.

I have always been shy and embarrassed by the whole proceedings no matter how hot a fantasy might be.

I had tried all kinds of ways to get myself able to take his cock.

I discovered too much lube on a dildo has you chasing it around the bed as it slides everywhere but where you want it to be.

I also discovered that I didnt feel sexy laying on my own fighting with a dildo.

He had tried being patient and working me up to it in various ways, including lots of re-assurance but it always hurt like hell.

One night I was mad as hell at him, having had a big arguement.
Whilst I was still mad he just told me, he was going to have my ass.
I am not sure what happened on a mental level but my mind relaxed and therefore my body followed. It worked really well and was amazing without any lube at all.

Not sure if it will ever be that easy again but knowing it happened once and therefore its possible(without any lube), is a relief, as well as encouragement to try again and again and again....

 

[Lady_Prowless]

i find that if you are really well lubed up and your partner doesst shove it in but takes his/her time and asks you if you are ok and you get really relaxed it isnt that bad doing it.it may take you a couple times to get the hang of it but it is a whole different experiance when you do do it.it may make you feel like you have to shit.good word of advise..do take a shit before hand so you know there is nothing in there and it stretches it out alittle.also ky warming gel is awesome for lots of things ..get creative..word of advise as well..dont use vicks vapor rub in sensitive areas lol i learned the hard way.heehee
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[ima6uldv8]

If you concentrate on relaxing, that helps a lot. I loved my first time and would like to get it more than I do. Men I have met just weren't free enough to do much and I'm really a wild one. Also, I guess a lot of women don't like it so maybe that's why they haven't tried it? Do men like women that do anal? I know it makes me so hot and I finger my clit while he's pounding me in the ass. Mmmm.

 

[Lady_Prowless]

If you concentrate on relaxing, that helps a lot. I loved my first time and would like to get it more than I do. Men I have met just weren't free enough to do much and I'm really a wild one. Also, I guess a lot of women don't like it so maybe that's why they haven't tried it? Do men like women that do anal? I know it makes me so hot and I finger my clit while he's pounding me in the ass. Mmmm.

i imagine so but i heard an old wives tale that said"if your man likes anal that he is gay or has had a gay experiance"i don't think that is true..but has anyone else heard this???i think it is just a fetish.

 

[blondi84]

I have really enjoyed it the couple of times my husband and I have done it. You have to take your time though, and be relaxed. Kind of impossible now that we are parents, but I'm sure someday we will have some time alone! The first time hurt more than it felt good, but it felt good enough that I was willing to try again. The second time felt really good, and I used a vibe on my clit and had a really deep orgasm.

 

[Lady_Prowless]

I have really enjoyed it the couple of times my husband and I have done it. You have to take your time though, and be relaxed. Kind of impossible now that we are parents, but I'm sure someday we will have some time alone! The first time hurt more than it felt good, but it felt good enough that I was willing to try again. The second time felt really good, and I used a vibe on my clit and had a really deep orgasm.

yeah it is kinda hard not to wake the kids on this one...you will be moaning hitting notes you never thought you could. i got kids too and sometimes it is hard to find time to be intimate without thinking about the bills or whatever else happened in the day and unwind enough to relax.

 

[jackfrost2112]

Honestly I think it's in the way you try and fuck. The two positions I felt worked the best were:

1) Standing up bent over something.

2) Laying flat on my stomach with my ass slightly raised via pillow.

Doggy style seems very abrasive to me, and it's always hurt like a bitch. Laying on my back with my legs in the air works great too, but I think that takes a little more skill to pull off.

 

[Lady_Prowless]

Honestly I think it's in the way you try and fuck. The two positions I felt worked the best were:

1) Standing up bent over something.

2) Laying flat on my stomach with my ass slightly raised via pillow.

Doggy style seems very abrasive to me, and it's always hurt like a bitch. Laying on my back with my legs in the air works great too, but I think that takes a little more skill to pull off.

ive tryed it missonary (me on top)so i could contol how much was going and when it was going.also the laying flat makes it where you can relax alittle easier.i agree doggystyle is too harsh.alot of persons (born with or strap on) like to just go for the kill.i could see this as a torture thing if you are into that ..but i personally dont like to be bust the hell open.not very pleasurable

 

[FurryFury]

Each to their own. I enjoy doggie style best both as the fucker and the fucked.

Fury

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I'll take it all! Fuck me or I'll fuck you!!

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