Are there any help how tos on avoiding pain during sex?

[LookN2Talk]

Painful sex could come from a handful of common health conditions like Vaginal Dryness, Endometriosis, pelvic Inflammatory disease, an STI, Chiropractic issues, Improper preparation, many other medical issues/things, also things like: Penis is to large - no kidding. Sometimes large penises can slam against the back of her cervix, causing her deep pain during sex; Air bubbles, yes they can be very uncomfortable and painful; Copper IUDs, can potentially cause pain during sex; Birth control pills can sometimes affect sexual response and arousal, leading to super dry vaginas; Birth control pills with lower amounts of estrogen may cause pain during orgasm. Performance anxiety in women can lead to painful sexual intercourse; Tears/rips occur from odd positions, to large an object, not enough lubrication (dryness); and we are sure there are more to be listed.

Or course common sense must be used: lube well and the product needs to be toxin free/body safe, give her control, take your time, and have sex when she is relaxed. Penetrative sex is not the only way to have sex, there are loads of alternatives. Be creative.

My wife and I have noticed that there are many posts from guys about their wives having a number of the above issues causing pain, and thought is there a helping thread to point a direction for couples. If so please direct this thread to that, link it, or post this in that one if it adds to it. We hate hearing couples going through this, hate it when marriages/relationships are not fulfilled, and blessed.

I know we have read some thoughts on this here and there but we think it'd be nice to have them under one roof if possible. Please add to this, fix, move, link, whatever so we might can help others. Thanks! Here's to hoping the best for everyone.

If sex is painful for you/your spouse, talk to licensed medical professionals about your specific situation, please. And ty Britva. I was thinking people with this experience could help point others in the right direction and give insight to help them since they have been there done that.

 

[AnnieLit]

What is there to talk about? Lube. More lube. Much more lube. If that doesn't help, go see a doctor. How asking for advice from random strangers fits in?

 

[NightL]

Now I have been around this How To... place since 2004 and I really don't recollect any frequency of posts as you describe. To be honest LookN2Talk beyond what is exceedingly obvious on how to alleviate this situation you just wanted to boast about your mythical dick size.

 

[LookN2Talk]

What is there to talk about? Lube. More lube. Much more lube. If that doesn't help, go see a doctor. How asking for advice from random strangers fits in?

If you read enough here you will see that it does not occur to some people. Any suggestion might help, if only to turn on a light bulb. It is all in the spirit of helping others. You know - being kind to others, looking out for our fellow mankind, and so on.

 

[LookN2Talk]

Now I have been around this How To... place since 2004 and I really don't recollect any frequency of posts as you describe. To be honest LookN2Talk beyond what is exceedingly obvious on how to alleviate this situation you just wanted to boast about your mythical dick size.

Says the person with over 3000 posts. Don't think I've had to post this about anyone before, but what a complete out of touch goober. I have never once boasted about what you mentioned. Obviously you are literacy challenged. Hate it for you but there is help for that, hope you find it.

 

[Escierto]

Now I have been around this How To... place since 2004 and I really don't recollect any frequency of posts as you describe. To be honest LookN2Talk beyond what is exceedingly obvious on how to alleviate this situation you just wanted to boast about your mythical dick size.

His dick is so big, when he pulls that thing out, it blots out the sun. It's like a fucking dicklipse of the sun.

 

[AnnieLit]

If you read enough here you will see that it does not occur to some people. Any suggestion might help, if only to turn on a light bulb. It is all in the spirit of helping others. You know - being kind to others, looking out for our fellow mankind, and so on.

Sorry, but not sorry - your post doesn't sound at all to be in the spirit of helping others. Show me ONE grown man, say over 30, that gets in trouble with his partner because of his size? A teen with a girl of the same age - maybe. But after a few partners people figure out how to use their equipment safely, they don't need your "Ask Amy" column. That is unless the goal is to talk about your own exceptional size.

 

[AlexBailey]

Sorry, but not sorry - your post doesn't sound at all to be in the spirit of helping others. Show me ONE grown man, say over 30, that gets in trouble with his partner because of his size? A teen with a girl of the same age - maybe. But after a few partners people figure out how to use their equipment safely, they don't need your "Ask Amy" column. That is unless the goal is to talk about your own exceptional size.

You’re making assumptions that every couple has good communication regarding sex.

I had a friend who was from a religious background and had been raised with the belief that it is a woman’s place to suffer for the pleasure of her man. She had never attended a sex education class and at twenty five years old she was so insecure about sex that she had never talked about it with a partner other than feeling a need to say how great it was, even though it hurt her.

My girlfriend and I took her into our bed and introduced her to respectful intimacy.

This is a valuable piece of info that everyone should know, but surprisingly many people don’t recognize:

Penetrative sex is not the only way to have sex, there are loads of alternatives. Be creative.

It’s sad how so many people can’t embrace this, even my menopausal wife. We have been together for over twenty five years but when her aging body started having vaginal pain she stopped being interested in any intimacy because she was afraid it would lead to wanting PIV sex.

She was becoming averse to all physical closeness because she was afraid of vaginal discomfort until we talked about how we both can be satisfied without rubbing her raw.

Some people are closed to communicating about sex for a variety of reasons. I’ve read many accounts of people having porn as their only introduction to sex education. In those cases many guys might think bigger and rougher is what every woman wants.

@AnnieLit and @NightL , open communication is a good thing, and it can be valuable to others even if it’s from a different perspective than your own. It’s a shame you want to discourage people from trying to share something that may be helpful to others just because you’re beyond it in your own experience and thinking.

 

[Britva415]

What is there to talk about? Lube. More lube. Much more lube. If that doesn't help, go see a doctor. How asking for advice from random strangers fits in?

That might be all there is to talk about for you, but there are many women for whom lack of lube isn’t what’s behind the pain they experience.

But yeah, strangers on the internet aren’t how anyone is going to find relief.

OP: Consider updating your post to include “if sex is painful for you, talk to licensed medical professionals about your specific situation.”

 

[Escierto]

Sorry, but not sorry - your post doesn't sound at all to be in the spirit of helping others. Show me ONE grown man, say over 30, that gets in trouble with his partner because of his size? A teen with a girl of the same age - maybe. But after a few partners people figure out how to use their equipment safely, they don't need your "Ask Amy" column. That is unless the goal is to talk about your own exceptional size.

His dick is so fucking huge, even horses and elephants get jealous when he pulls that schlong out of his pants. It's like a goddam boa constrictor of pussy!

 

[LookN2Talk]

Sorry, but not sorry - your post doesn't sound at all to be in the spirit of helping others. Show me ONE grown man, say over 30, that gets in trouble with his partner because of his size? A teen with a girl of the same age - maybe. But after a few partners people figure out how to use their equipment safely, they don't need your "Ask Amy" column. That is unless the goal is to talk about your own exceptional size.

Where is all this about my penis size coming from? This has nothing to do with me. Read through all the reasons many men's wives are having issues. And what's up with the hostility? Wow, craziness.

 

[LookN2Talk]

And ty Britva. I was thinking people with this experience could help point others in the right direction and give insight to help them since they have been there done that.

 

[Escierto]

Where is all this about my penis size coming from? This has nothing to do with me. Read through all the reasons many men's wives are having issues. And what's up with the hostility? Wow, craziness.

They are just jealous. They wish they had an anaconda in their pants!

 

[LookN2Talk]

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