Are you bi and your wife, husband or partner does not know?

[jennisecolin]

I am a bisexual female. My husband does not know. And I handle it by coming here and fantasizing.

I made a commitment to my husband. It doesn't matter if its with a chick or a dude, cheating is cheating.

If he cheated on me with a dude I'd dump his ass and I'd expect the same if I licked the myriad of pussy I would like to lick.

So it stays a fantasy and I masturbate and think about it when my husband is fucking me.

Bisexuality is not an excuse for cheating on your wife. Be a man and tell her or suck it up and shut the hell up.

 

[all_the_goodies]

I am also a bi female, and I LOVE bi men. I have been told that because of this I am an oddity or I am a "rare women" but I have lots of female friends that love bi men as much as I do. I have also seen a lot of men on this post says that they loved their ass played with so their wife must have a hint that they are bi/gay. I personal wouldn't see it that way, I just know that men have the equitant to a g-spot up the bum and that it feels good to them. I have talked with many MANY bi men that are worried to tell their wives and I understand I really do. I was married to a very boring and selfish man (in and out of the bed) and I told him that I was bi. I even told him I'd let him watch me with another female and perhaps join in but he kept declining the offer, which made me in turn feel bad about what I wanted. But I didn't cheat on him with another women cause I knew if he found out it WOULD be hurtful and at the time I loved him so much that was the last thing I wanted.
The only thing else I can say is, if you ARE with another man just be safe! It seems like all of you really love you wives and therefore you must also keep her safe.
If ANY ONE of you needs a woman to talk to that understands I am here for you, PM me anytime
Good Luck!!

 

[19cock]

I'm bi and my last girlfriend knew. She pegged me a few times, used a dildo on me annnd best of all...

One night I told her I was wanting to fuck a guy. She said cool and I posted an ad on CL. Eventually I got to talking with a guy who lived across town that wanted to meet my cock. Seeing as I had a few drinks in me, my girlfriend drove me over there, then waited for half an hour while I pounded his ass and came down his throat. I came outside, she picked me up and we went home together. Didn't fuck that night, but the next day was wild!

I'll probably tell future females in relationships with me. I have nothing to hide, and if you don't like it take a hike! Plenty of accepting women out there.

 

[marcap]

I am bi-curious and my wife is too. Neither of us are ready to invite other people into our sex lives, so we fantasize about it together, engage in strap-on play, and enjoy bi porn, both MM and FF sex. I don't know that we will ever cross the line and turn fantasy into reality, and cheating is not an option as far as I am concerned. I am just very thankful that my wife is on the same page as me and that we can share our fantasies in our love making.

 

[SilkyDave]

let's face it, if we are on here we are bi and someone does not know in most cases...the guy who left stuff on his computer, big time oops, sorry to hear such a sad story for all involved, delete, delete, delete...erase those footprints then delete again, get in the habit and set your computer so everything is deleted when you shut down

 

[CoupleFromOhio]

I am currently a non-practicing bi. My wife knows from the beginning and its one of her hottest turn ons. She actually watched me suck a guy's cock once.

 

[7inukbi36]

I am Bi and i too come one here to play with whoever i can. Men and women alike.

She does not know, i'm not sure if she would like the idea, although she does play with my ass, so may get to one of my fantisess, geting fucked in the ass by a women with a strap on. mmm

 

[CoupleFromOhio]

I will not play with another man unless I get my wife's permission which will be someday when "the right guy" comes along. Right now, I am a non-practicing bisexual who still enjoy having hot sex with my wife.

 

[HarlotMinx]

This whole thread makes me really really sad. You know, frankly, you can be bi and not tell your wife. That's fine because honestly, partners don't tell each other everything nor should they have to (though it does build for a stronger relationship) but to all the men on this thread who are having sexual encounters with men behind their wives backs... well it's cheating on them no matter how you look at it. It may be the same sex but that doesn't change the fact that you're being dishonest enough with your spouses to be seeking sex without their knowledge (I have no issue with poly relationships, just dishonest relationships). I guess the part that REALLY upsets me is that unless you're 100% positive that the men you're sleeping with are STD free, you are running the risk of exposing her to STDs from your extramarital partners. I mean, if you're having "discrete" sexual encounters with men, what's the chance that the men you're with are also having encounters with other men and how much does it take for just one of the men to have some std? Keep in mind that condoms are not (or even good) protection by any means.

So that aside, it sounds like many of you are in relationships where you don't feel you can actually tell your spouse. Now, I understand some people are homophobic or might reject you for bisexuality, I'm not saying that wont happen but the fact you feel you can't tell them means you feel that she won't want you as you actually are as a person but rather some facade. That alone hints at serious relationship issues. If you can't be open with your spouse about something so crucial as your sexuality then what else can't you be open with your spouses about and did they marry you or who they thought you were? Further more, is being secretive and hiding your real personality from your spouse for the sake of keeping a relationship together really the best answer? The idea of marriage is supposed to be that you can be honest with, share yourself for life. Now I know that ideally you wouldn't marry someone who can't accept you for yourself in the first place and that now you may have children and lives together but if you're sneaking out behind your wife's back to have sex with other partners then you need to re evaluate your relationship and consider marriage counciling because something is not right.

Again, it's fine to have partners outside a marriage but it should be with your spouses knowledge and consent. Like I said, this thread makes me sad.

 

[jonusb]

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[SPORTZDOK]

I am a bisexual female. My husband does not know. And I handle it by coming here and fantasizing.

I made a commitment to my husband. It doesn't matter if its with a chick or a dude, cheating is cheating.

If he cheated on me with a dude I'd dump his ass and I'd expect the same if I licked the myriad of pussy I would like to lick.

So it stays a fantasy and I masturbate and think about it when my husband is fucking me.

Bisexuality is not an excuse for cheating on your wife. Be a man and tell her or suck it up and shut the hell up.

Ditto that, completely!

 

[SilkyDave]

Ditto that, completely!

when you're right, you're right...great post and supportive for thise of us who have been offered "encounters" but turned them down because we have made a committment to a relationship.

 

[flyingtinopener]

I think you would be suprised at how many of us there are,I had my first male male experience when young, and infrequently ever since ,fortunately I have one long term friend that I see now and then, but discretion is a must.but I still enjoy the feeling of a naked male body close to me you seem to be more on the same wavelength with a male friend.

 

[WV_me]

I think you would be suprised at how many of us there are,I had my first male male experience when young, and infrequently ever since ,fortunately I have one long term friend that I see now and then, but discretion is a must.but I still enjoy the feeling of a naked male body close to me you seem to be more on the same wavelength with a male friend.

It would be so nice to have someone to have a relationship like that.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Count me in. I used to enjoy sex with both men and women equally, and I believe that is natural. Not socially accepted, but natural. Variety is the spice of life.

 

[TheSkySaidNo]

I am married, and my wife does not know that I am bi.

I use the internet as my outlet, and am trying to find a way to meet men in the same situation as I am in so we can have some fun 'guy time'. Maybe this place will be it?

I know that she would not take it well, and I do not want to have it become a problem between us. I love her, but I also love cock. As someone said earlier, I am not emotionally attracted to men...I just love their cock.

 

[lustatopia]

I'm bi and my wife definitely DOES know. I enjoy sharing her sexually with other well hung men. Some are totalyl straight guys who are just into double fucking slutty wives, others are straight but let me suck them and others are like you guys. Married bisexual guys whose wives don't know they are bi.

We have found that bi in the closet married men make the most reliable and eager third party in and out of the sack.

However, the lesson for young single bi guys is to be honest with your girlfriends about your deepest sexual fantasies from the start. You'll be surprised how accepting most women will be. And those that aren't, well, they weren't meant for you anyway.

Something most young people don't realize is how their sexual fantasies will influence the sexual desires of their lovers. I've had more than one "nice" girlfriend who was tempted to have sex with me and another male friend just because I had got her curious and horny about the idea of being with two guys at once. One of my ex-girlfriends who was as straight and proper as they come when I met her actually ended up marrying a guy we both had sex with. Ten years later and they are still together with kids.

But once you've been together for years, the mold is set and it is too usually too late to change the ground rules.

If you don't ask you'll never know. And you'll end with a life partner who you can't share your inner most fantasy life with. What a shame.

 

[WV_me]

I'm bi and my wife definitely DOES know. I enjoy sharing her sexually with other well hung men. Some are totalyl straight guys who are just into double fucking slutty wives, others are straight but let me suck them and others are like you guys. Married bisexual guys whose wives don't know they are bi.

We have found that bi in the closet married men make the most reliable and eager third party in and out of the sack.

However, the lesson for young single bi guys is to be honest with your girlfriends about your deepest sexual fantasies from the start. You'll be surprised how accepting most women will be. And those that aren't, well, they weren't meant for you anyway.

Something most young people don't realize is how their sexual fantasies will influence the sexual desires of their lovers. I've had more than one "nice" girlfriend who was tempted to have sex with me and another male friend just because I had got her curious and horny about the idea of being with two guys at once. One of my ex-girlfriends who was as straight and proper as they come when I met her actually ended up marrying a guy we both had sex with. Ten years later and they are still together with kids.

But once you've been together for years, the mold is set and it is too usually too late to change the ground rules.

If you don't ask you'll never know. And you'll end with a life partner who you can't share your inner most fantasy life with. What a shame.

I have indirectly asked. I have mentioned the idea of bi when we see it in a movie or on the tv. My wife would drop me in a minute if she knew I was bi even if I did not act on it. We have been married for over 30 yrs.

 

[Programmer Cat]

My wife knows. I had told her when we first started dating since we both believed in full disclosure as part of safe sex. She told me that she was bi and had had sex with several women before meeting me, and I admitted that my college roommate and I had been "gay until graduation".

 

[in4more]

I'm married and curious. I think my wife would freak if I told her I wanted to do the things I think about, but maybe I'm not giving her enough credit and she wouldn't. We've got a good relationship and when it's good it's really good. Not disatysfied with the sex either, just have a curiosity and I'm confindent enought to think that wanting to do things with a guy doesn't make me gay.

I'm close to stepping from fantasy to reality, but not quite sure if I will have guilt for cheating or not since it's not another woman but technically is cheating.

I'm hoping to bring up a threesome discussion and that she'll be receptive and we can explore things together so we can both get fantasies addressed. She's not expressed interest in a threesome or watching me with another man, but if the opportunity arrises, I'll hopefully take advantage. I plan to tell her I'm OK with MMF and her directing the action, so this may do the trick.

 

[Ckent33]

She has no idea

My wife has no idea.
I don't think she would like the idea. But I came here because I'm curious and to be honest my sex life sucks. I've tried everything to get it kick started again. But it's barely there. My wife barely touches me let alone has sex with me.
So I come here to have fun and keep my raging sex drive happy.
I used to really enjoy my wife fucking my ass. But I believe those days are over!!!!
So I come to this wonderful site and enjoy myself!!

 

[Braveheart56]

Bi men

Count me in as being a bi guy who's wife doesn't know. Met a couple of guys and loved it so i'm hoping to meet more. I'm still attracted to women but prefer sex with guys now.

 

[Craufurd]

This is a club I'd like to join. I have a fantasy(no, obsession) of meeting a "suck buddy" to swap blowjobs, on a regular (maybe weekly) basis. My wife has no idea, and would not be understanding. I want this badly and hope to make it happen soon.

 

[Craufurd]

I'd love to take your limp cock in my mouth and suck it until it is not only erect, but ejaculating. Where are you located? Close to central Texas, I hope.

 

[chelseabi]

Well well, I'm not alone and for some reason that's a comfort.

I've been "bi" for many years and my wife has no idea, like others, the fact I'm going with guys somehow doesn't feel like I'm cheating, although of course I know I am. I like guys bodies, and have no intension of getting romantically involved, so it's a sex thing, yes that's cheating but not on a emotional level.
I have been with many guys, bi and gay, I find the attitude to sex refreshingly simple, no complications or drawn out goodbyes.

Does this make me a bad person, I enjoy sex with my wife and never play around with other women. Somehow I can rationalise this, whether she could is another matter.

Being bi I feel is harder than being gay, there at least you can state a preference, it's harder I think to say I'm attracted to both, maybe it's me, What do you think?