Are you dominant or submissive

[Airka4real]

Why are there so many submissive women on here? I am asking in a serious case study kinda way. This thread just seems to be flooded with them.

Speaking only for myself, it's simply who I am.
It'd be like asking why I'm a woman.

 

[Rivvie]

While I’m a switch... I tend to lean mostly submissive. But, when I’m in my Domme mindset.. that’s not easy to change up and I will be obeyed.

 

[purplehead55]

I've just become my wifes Sub, neither of us has been down this road before and it's started out really well so far.

 

[Carterb1917]

I am usually Very Submissive, i have never been able to describe it, its this deep personal need too be as submissive as possible i only feel whole when im kneeling, or bent over and spanked.

 

[LauraWilling]

Most definitely submissive but also very playful.

 

[supercollider00]

I'm a switch, but I'm mainly submissive.

 

[Pixiekinks]

I think I'm mostly submissive, but I definitely like to Dom at times and with certain people.....so maybe switch?

 

[ChocChip]

Dominant. Depending on her mood, I can be a gentle, sensual, caring Daddy Dominant, or a misogynistic, primal, caveman of a lover. She chooses to be dominated. She chooses to hint at which flavour she prefers. I get free reign over her willing mind and body.

 

[AfterDusk]

Why are there so many submissive women on here? I am asking in a serious case study kinda way. This thread just seems to be flooded with them.

It is a curious notion, isn't it? I half wonder if it is the relative safety of remaining anonymous on a website that allows submissive women the freedom to admit their nature.

I've often wondered if a woman's inclination towards being submissive has to do with her initial up bringing--nature vs nurture, or social construction, cultural influence, what have you.

If you'd have asked me a few years ago, I would have said I was a submissive...but after a bit of revelation I realize that I was not; I have always been in control of the situation and if I did something seemingly meek and acquiescent, it was because I wanted to. Only a handful of times in my past have fully given into the will of a man and it never ended well for either of us. So, if you ask me now, I'd have to say I'm dominant through and through.

Something rather peculiar that I've noticed within the past few years--and I don't always pick up on it right away because for the most part I am unconcerned with people that I meet in person--this dominance somehow exudes itself in my affect. I am a very restrained person, I won't go out of my way to make petty conversation if it is of little interest to me. In an effort to try to be more charismatic I have begun to be a bit more out going but what is absolutely dumbfounding is that even though I am completely PG and polite, I must somehow ooze sexuality because even the most seemingly innocent men will turn the conversation to a kinky side. Incredibly bizarre.

 

[LauraWilling]

It is a curious notion, isn't it? I half wonder if it is the relative safety of remaining anonymous on a website that allows submissive women the freedom to admit their nature.

I've often wondered if a woman's inclination towards being submissive has to do with her initial up bringing--nature vs nurture, or social construction, cultural influence, what have you.

If you'd have asked me a few years ago, I would have said I was a submissive...but after a bit of revelation I realize that I was not; I have always been in control of the situation and if I did something seemingly meek and acquiescent, it was because I wanted to. Only a handful of times in my past have fully given into the will of a man and it never ended well for either of us. So, if you ask me now, I'd have to say I'm dominant through and through.

Something rather peculiar that I've noticed within the past few years--and I don't always pick up on it right away because for the most part I am unconcerned with people that I meet in person--this dominance somehow exudes itself in my affect. I am a very restrained person, I won't go out of my way to make petty conversation if it is of little interest to me. In an effort to try to be more charismatic I have begun to be a bit more out going but what is absolutely dumbfounding is that even though I am completely PG and polite, I must somehow ooze sexuality because even the most seemingly innocent men will turn the conversation to a kinky side. Incredibly bizarre.

I am defiantly a swing. Very much about what I need at the moment. Makes you learn to pay more attention to your psych I have noticed. I just don't get always being subservient to anyone. No knocking it, just a lack of understanding.

I may not be able to explain this very well as I am just guessing and can only speak for myself.
I am physically pretty small (4' 11", 98 lbs) As any would guess I was much smaller than most girls in my age group growing up. When you are small, maybe even tiny it is hard to be included in many things or participate, like sport teams in school. I was always taken as several years younger than I was. So few took me seriously. I grew up always wanting to please others to be part of whatever was going on in school and socially. More assertive people often see this and take advantage or use it in some way.

I also was raised in a very culturally mixed neighborhood and my parents came here from Italy and my papa was definitely the boss in our family. Mama knew her place and I learned very quickly.

Pretty early once I was dating and then sexually active others told me in various ways what girls like me were meant for and that was to please others. I feel all of these things are what made me submissive to others. I am sure a psychologist could explain better, but that is the short version of what I feel.

 

[QuasiSemiDemiEsqueIsh]

I’m submissive. Specifically, I’m a sub and bottom with some masochistic tendencies, a playful/teasing (but not really bratty as I perceive it) nature, and a strong little/middle side (without ageplay).

As far as the nature vs nurture thing, it was all nature for me. I had to overcome a lot of my “nurture” to really embrace my submissiveness.

 

[drklatinreturn]

Big Black Guy who is very secretly submissive.

 

[one_love]

Break the mold

We’ll I’ll break the current submissive trend.

I am a dominant male. More the Daddy type, but also the Sir type. I consider myself a loving Dom where the connection means as much to me as the kink.

 

[LordParsha]

All Dominant

I am comfortable being me

 

[MaybeMae]

is neither an answer?

I think my default is submissive, but with the right person, I can be quite dominant.

 

[Cindy69love]

Complete sub here!!

 

[Pumpkin08]

I tend to be sub but I like being dominant.

 

[MaddyS0294]

Most of the time I'm submissive but on occasion I swing towards being dominant.

 

[LibraStud]

Most of the time I'm submissive but on occasion I swing towards being dominant.

Most of the time I'm dominant but on occasion I swing towards being submissive. Interesting I am a switch like you!

 

[SophieUK]

The switch thing intrigues me ... I’ve never come across it in real life (but I have online)... I’ve tried being domme but the real ‘me’ always comes out and, likewise, I’ve been with girls that have tried to sub but can’t sustain it.. it’s curious..

 

[Gothgurl3]

Sub most definitely.

 

[htester]

I thought I responded to this awhile back but I guess I didn't.

I'm definitely a sexual submissive. But, I feel more comfortable nowadays saying no if I dislike something. Sometimes that frustrates younger doms, but I get more enjoyment out of sessions now than previously -- So, perhaps I'm 60% sub (leaning towards 80%) --

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Switch.

I typically have an initial spontaneous response to someone, it's not something that i choose. It hits me like finishing my first margarita - either 'Oh! I want him to take me!' or, 'Oh! I need to possess that.'

If they are also a switch, i can choose to switch with them, but i've never been in agreement with a switchy partner on our preferred dynamic. Frustrating.

 

[elloiloveyou]

im a little butterfly baby. Trying to break out of being suchhh a pillow princess but it feels so good. I crave being thrown about and told what to do always

 

[supercollider00]

The switch thing intrigues me ... I’ve never come across it in real life (but I have online)... I’ve tried being domme but the real ‘me’ always comes out and, likewise, I’ve been with girls that have tried to sub but can’t sustain it.. it’s curious..

I have to really be in the right mindframe to dom personally.