Are you dominant or submissive

[Orchidea73]

It just seems more subversive. Like you are breaking society's rules. Making them question their masculinity.

Hot.

Ah gotcha.

Yeah, I can see the appeal to that.

 

[Psychprofgal]

I am totally submissive and the reasons are many, but mostly I just get totally 'frozen' to think that I might fail at sex. Just my little issue.

 

[bocahal]

I am a Dom with a beautiful playroom in Southern Florida, where only special people come to play.

 

[TooShyGirl]

Definitely submissive.

 

[13Fantasies]

I find myself becoming more Dominant the older I get.

 

[KPaulNeilson]

Switch that leans Dominant.
I've got both a PP top and PP bottom and (fingers crossed) about to add a third.

 

[Chrisnorm]

Dominant, but I don't mind being dominated once in a while. It's nice to lose control once in a while.

 

[chame1eon]

Dominant, but I don't mind being dominated once in a while. It's nice to lose control once in a while.

Love when people can be flexible.

 

[Knoturnal]

Oh yeah, I knew a girl who said she was a switch as well. And I don't know how that works either.

I suppose they are both, like yin & yang maybe?

I'm not an expert by any means. I'm not even part of BDSM world. I'm just curious.

I think a lot of people may have more than one side and that in some people they just naturally have both in some extent. They might have more of one side than another.
In the same respect some people may not gravitate to either side more than the other and they might be interested in doing things taking a posture of one side or the other so they can experience both.
Some switches have different feelings about each side and might enjoy either side when they are with different people or when doing different things.
It can be a complicated world sometimes and everyone has the right to be whoever they may want to be at any one time. But in that respect also I think it’s better not to deceive someone and make or let them think you are one way if you know you surely are not.
Myself I feel more Dominate in most all ways and don’t really like it when someone try’s on their own to Dominate my feelings or reactions. but I know there may be some differences that it would require a different person to make me feel different with them.

 

[copfucker]

I find myself becoming more Dominant the older I get.

Same here. I started out thinking I was naturally submissive but that changed after my first relationship ended. These days I'm always dominant in sexual play. It would take someone extraordinary to make me go back being submissive, and even then I'm not sure I could do it. The advantage of having been on the other side is that I strongly identify with the submissive partner, which is a big turn on.

 

[Orchidea73]

Myself I feel more Dominate in most all ways and don’t really like it when someone try’s on their own to Dominate my feelings or reactions.

When you say you don't like when someone try's on their own to Dominate your feelings. You mean without prior approval, agreement?

but I know there may be some differences that it would require a different person to make me feel different with them.

Have you been in that situation? If yes, how did you feel about it?

 

[Knoturnal]

When you say you don't like when someone try's on their own to Dominate your feelings. You mean without prior approval, agreement?

It would depend on the situation but prior approval would be a good idea.

Have you been in that situation? If yes, how did you feel about it?

No I have never met someone I have wanted to submit to (in your way of thinking) actually but I have discussed many things and have found agreement on different things and if they didn’t like something I wouldn’t force anything on them as I don’t appreciate being forced myself.

It’s a lot easier to have fun with someone if you know they are having fun also.

 

[Chrisnorm]

Love when people can be flexible.

I agree

Although being dominant is not role I need to "play", as it comes naturally and I can be myself, I love being the one punished, or taken care of, if you will. It's not something I do to just please my partner. It's not something we plan either. She just takes on the role as the dominant.

If she ties my hands, and spanks my balls, the role of being the submissive comes naturally too, even if it is more of a role play. I will do as she says if she makes, and she can be pretty mean.

Being in control and losing control are opposites, but both are great turn ons.

As a primarily dominant person, I don't see it as a weakness to dominated once in a while. It doesn't affect me when I dominate.

 

[Orchidea73]

It’s a lot easier to have fun with someone if you know they are having fun also.

Ain't that the truth.

 

[soohay]

Submissive is my preference, but can switch if the situation arises.

 

[ef_oh_ex]

I don't think so, necessarily. On balance, I am definitely a submissive, but there have definitely been a few occasions where I've been dominant. It's not something I really actively want to do most of the time, but there are occasions where something clicks or a fantasy or two that's a little different.

Ex: I was with someone for quite a while and almost always a sub with him, even though he was more of a switch. It wasn't planned, but one night he ended up on all fours on the bed while I played "don't move or I'll stop" for a very long time.

Another: I have a fantasy about a particular female athlete who is definitely muscular enough and tall enough that she could pick me up and break me in half. I love to imagine finger fucking her until she cries.

This is provided insight and interesting examples too. Well done.

 

[submatsi9]

Submissive

I consider myself submissive

 

[biwifecurious]

submissive

 

[chame1eon]

Submissive is way easier anyway lol.

 

[Orchidea73]

Submissive is way easier anyway lol.

Why you think so?

 

[chame1eon]

Why you think so?

You dont have to be as creative in thinking of where to take things because someone else is controlling it. You are not responsible if things dont go well. It's also easier if you loose confidence which can happen.

Edit: what do you think.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Submissive is my preference, but can switch if the situation arises.

Submissive will do just fine.

 

[Orchidea73]

You dont have to be as creative in thinking of where to take things because someone else is controlling it. You are not responsible if things dont go well. It's also easier if you loose confidence which can happen.

Edit: what do you think.

No, I wasn't disagreeing with you. It was a genuine question. I was curious.
I think you are right in general. The trust and confidence though It seems to me it's harder for the submissive no?

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Submissive is my preference, but can switch if the situation arises.

No, I wasn't disagreeing with you. It was a genuine question. I was curious.
I think you are right in general. The trust and confidence though It seems to me it's harder for the submissive no?

Agreed. Trust is everything.

 

[ef_oh_ex]

No, I wasn't disagreeing with you. It was a genuine question. I was curious.
I think you are right in general. The trust and confidence though It seems to me it's harder for the submissive no?

Oh, I think that you are totally correct there! - Good point!
It is very important that the submissive has a trusting relationship with the (her) dominant.
That takes time & patience, but the reward can be amazing! IMO..