Are you dominant or submissive

[CutieJo]

I'm very much a submissive. Through and through. Before I thought I could be a switch, but giving directions doesn't give me the same feelings as I do when I receive them.

 

[roxanne1971]

Dom in real life submissive out of it.
Can be dominant with select women.

 

[xdresssissytoes]

Love to submit to a lover's needs and directions...it turns me on to be told what to do, especially kneeling in front of a hard cock, waiting for permission to start sucking.

 

[Dd4bblgs]

Totally dominant.

 

[babygirl4u1966]

Oh, I'm definitely submissive....

 

[Goldenfinger]

In my relationship with my wife I’m submissive. Outside of that I’m just regular.

 

[BiBunny]

Indifferent with most people, submissive with Daddy, and occasionally dominant if I find the right person.

ETA: I'm always dominant, professionally.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I don't know what the point of everyone saying if they are dom or sub without any discussion. Maybe a poll would have been better? Or is the point to find a partner in this topic? Anyway I want to become a dom.

what type of discussion? I’m sure everyone has their reasons. I wasn’t submissive but set myself up to be.

I was in the military for a career, I wanted to get married. I wanted a strong woman who could hold things down when I deployed. You see lots of failed marriages with service members. So she did things her way and when I came home I didn’t change a thing. She was the admiral and I was just a lowly petty officer. A lot will come home and change everything up or want everything to revolve around them and that causes resentment.

after some time I started to withdraw not wanting to make any decisions and my wife was happy to take up the slack. We talked about it, I was very open with her. Things just evolved. that the quick down an dirty of it. So we started off equal then she got more dominant and I submissive but we fit together.

 

[KinkStevens]

I love them both. I can be dominant or submissive with a sexy woman or tgirl. I’d have to BE the Tgirl to submit to a man

 

[Twistedkink]

A switch that leans submissive

 

[Bigboobbabe]

My ex was not a manly man so I had to lead the way. There were times I wish he would throw me on the bed, hold me down and take me.
Then I met a true Dom. My Master. He showed me how sex is a mental response and physical. Had me following instructions then commands. I fully submitted to him in the bedroom. Bound to the bed and blindfolded. 100% faith and trust

I am a sub. His slave

 

[AlwaysInTrouble]

Dominant, the degree and flavor of which depends on the lady

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Why’s it have to be either or? Black or white? Ok I might take that one back. A sexy lady in black and white pic is hot. “ you’re now returned to your regular scheduled topic “
There’s a whole world in the grey. We like things in both parts of the world. Totally depends on the dynamic in that relationship. How they click.

 

[AsianFusion]

Depends on the context ...
Sex: submissive
Everything else: neutral

 

[Photog1rl]

I’m a true switch-naturally dominant but I love when I connect with someone that can dom me.

 

[AnalCreampieGiver]

A soft dom who switches occasionally

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Submissive w/limits

I’d be concerned if someone said they don’t have limits. I can always always come up with something they say is a limit.

 

[Photog1rl]

Submissive w/limits

That is a perfect answer!

 

[LittleSwitchy]

That is a perfect answer!

Hard limits are a no go. Soft limits
Those… those can be pushed a little. Long as you are careful and safe.
It can be really fun.

 

[Photog1rl]

Hard limits are a no go. Soft limits
Those… those can be pushed a little. Long as you are careful and safe.
It can be really fun.

While I agree they soft limits are fun to test and gently push through, I’d argue that knowing your hard limits, if you have them is very important. There are areas that pushing may truly not be ok and that is to be respected.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

While I agree they soft limits are fun to test and gently push through, I’d argue that knowing your hard limits, if you have them is very important. There are areas that pushing may truly not be ok and that is to be respected.

I agree on the hard limits. I’m one that wants to know my partner well. While nudging soft limits can be fun. I’m not messing with hard limits. I don’t want to break anyone. Why break who you care about

 

[luv23way]

Definitely submissive

 

[SquishyBits]

Just as "I'll do anything" has a subtext for you, perhaps "sub with limits" has a subtext for them. Perhaps instead of limits in reference to acts, they are limited in who or how often they submit.

 

[LittleSwitchy]

Something I find strange is how people seem to often react to "I'll do anything.." with "that's bs, you wouldn't do anything, you must have limits", but when someone says "i have limits" then no one says "of course you have limits, everyone does". I don't think anyone would agree to swallow broken glass or let them get anal raped by a spiked club or something.

When I say "i'll do anything" it really means "I'll do almost anything", but it just sounds better. In bdsm I would translate it to "i have very few hard limits and I would let you push me past my soft limits".

It kind of bothers me hearing simply "i have limits" because everyone does, it doesn't mean anything when you say that. Maybe it means "i have very many limits" like maybe nothing outside the bedroom and only light stuff?

For me hard limits means "if you go there I'm immediately ending out relationship and there will be no second chances". Soft limits are something like "I would prefer not going there but if it means a great deal to you I could be pursuaded but you 100% must get my consent first and I can't promise you I'll be able to go through with it".

I think reason people question when someone says I’ll do anything. It’s more the I have no limits. Which in the person’s online or fantasy world is kinda ok. Being online there’s no chance of being hurt physically by someone. Emotionally they can be.
TBH. I blame the 50 shades of complete crap for much of things. People 50 shades is a Harliquin romance novel. It is NOT what lifestyle is really like.
There’s newbs that go through sun frenzy. The .. I want to do everything. It’s SO hot. Online is one thing. You take that thinking to the real world. There you tell someone you have no limits. They’re going to take you at face value. You can get seriously hurt. Tread lightly. Protect yourself. Let the one you’re playing with like .. ok I’m new and don’t know all my limits. I do know I don’t like XYZ. No way at all. But there’s ABC that seems like I want to try.
My big advice to newbs. Do NOT play with someone unless you have taken the time to get to know them. Build a trust with them. Take things at your pace. Ask a million questions if you want/ need to.

 

[ScarletsUniversityLife]

100% sub