Ask Me a Question v 12.26.2021

[awired50]

Sadly, no.

The first time you had sex, did your partner have an orgasm?

Yes. From cunnilingus.

Did you use protection the first time you had sex?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Yes. From cunnilingus.

Did you use protection the first time you had sex?

We did, yup.

Did you ever have a pregnancy "scare"?

 

[awired50]

We did, yup.

Did you ever have a pregnancy "scare"?

Yes.

Did you ever have a condom break?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Yes.

Did you ever have a condom break?

Honestly, no I don't think so.

Who in your off line life would you really like to tell about Lit, but just can't seem to find the right way?

 

[Azuldrgon]

Honestly, no I don't think so.

Who in your off line life would you really like to tell about Lit, but just can't seem to find the right way?

I have a friend who transitioned who has a gorgeous wife she's been married to. Thing is they're way above my level with some stuff.

What are your thoughts about non-sexual meetups with Litsters?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I have a friend who transitioned who has a gorgeous wife she's been married to. Thing is they're way above my level with some stuff.

What are your thoughts about non-sexual meetups with Litsters?

I've had wonderful times at EVERY one of them. I've met both men and women from here, and it's like meeting old friends. Because it was.
Honestly, it takes a little planning for me, but every time I've done it, I've wondered why I don't do it more.

When (where?) did you first meet someone from Lit?

 

[Azuldrgon]

When (where?) did you first meet someone from Lit?

This was back in 2009. We had a Lit-together in Seattle where I met 3. First three folks on my hug list.


When was the last time you met someone from here for the first time?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

This was back in 2009. We had a Lit-together in Seattle where I met 3. First three folks on my hug list.


When was the last time you met someone from here for the first time?

Spring 2018. One of my friends called it my "Lit Tour", I met four different friends in three places.
Then I was off for a long time. Maybe too long. Maybe not long enough. :eyeroll:

What has changed the most about your interaction with/on Lit over the years?

 

[Azuldrgon]

What has changed the most about your interaction with/on Lit over the years?

The biggest change have been the motives. There was a time when I was younger when I was always looking for inspiration or stuff like that. It took a while to learn to remember that there are real people behind the screen names and they should be respected as such. Everyone deserves to be respected even if you disagree.

What is one thing you have noticed changed about the site since when you first logged in?

 

[Brianrentis]

The biggest change have been the motives. There was a time when I was younger when I was always looking for inspiration or stuff like that. It took a while to learn to remember that there are real people behind the screen names and they should be respected as such. Everyone deserves to be respected even if you disagree.

What is one thing you have noticed changed about the site since when you first logged in?

You used to be able to see when a member was last online that disappeared and now you have no idea if a member is still active

 

[lakesailer_mi]

The biggest change have been the motives. There was a time when I was younger when I was always looking for inspiration or stuff like that. It took a while to learn to remember that there are real people behind the screen names and they should be respected as such. Everyone deserves to be respected even if you disagree.

What is one thing you have noticed changed about the site since when you first logged in?

I've pondered this. At one level I think it used to be more "fun." Just fun banter. But I think perhaps that may have been that I participated in that part more and spent less time with long term friends. So, kind of like your answer of seeing the people behind the screen name, I may see the complexity of the person. I see also that there are more threads discussing "big issues" so to speak, even here on the playground. I think it's more that I've changed in both what I want and who I know.

Got any good story writing advice? (I have one I'm close to posting, and another close behind that).

 

[lacandy]

I've pondered this. At one level I think it used to be more "fun." Just fun banter. But I think perhaps that may have been that I participated in that part more and spent less time with long term friends. So, kind of like your answer of seeing the people behind the screen name, I may see the complexity of the person. I see also that there are more threads discussing "big issues" so to speak, even here on the playground. I think it's more that I've changed in both what I want and who I know.

Got any good story writing advice? (I have one I'm close to posting, and another close behind that).

Just get it on “paper” that’s the best advice (and some I need to take myself). If you get it out of your head then you can tweak and edit it to be what you want, but if it lives I. Your head and never gets out then you will never move forward on it.

What’s the best piece of advice anyone ever have you?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Just get it on “paper” that’s the best advice (and some I need to take myself). If you get it out of your head then you can tweak and edit it to be what you want, but if it lives I. Your head and never gets out then you will never move forward on it.

What’s the best piece of advice anyone ever have you?

My dad told me, "any problem you can solve with money isn't really a problem." It's a great perspective. Obviously there are problems that take a lot of money, and that can be an issue. But I've faced some problems in my life that money could never solve. Those are tough.

What is the worst piece of advice you've gotten? (And HI!!!)

 

[BongoGal]

You used to be able to see when a member was last online that disappeared and now you have no idea if a member is still active

It's a privacy thing. There are a couple of people that haven't posted here in a long time, and I'd like to know if they check in and check the place out now and then...but it's really not my business.

Got any good story writing advice?

Don't obsess over giving the reader detailed visual descriptions of characters. Measurements are rarely needed.

What is the worst piece of advice you've gotten?

"You can see the Shins the next time they tour."

Are you susceptible to flattery?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

It's a privacy thing. There are a couple of people that haven't posted here in a long time, and I'd like to know if they check in and check the place out now and then...but it's really not my business.

Don't obsess over giving the reader detailed visual descriptions of characters. Measurements are rarely needed.

"You can see the Shins the next time they tour."

Are you susceptible to flattery?

Oh hell yeah!

Are you an extravert or an intravert?

 

[Azuldrgon]

Are you susceptible to flattery?

I accept it as complements. I have a difficult time taking complements though.
*hugs*

What is something you have a difficult time accepting?

 

[lacandy]

I accept it as complements. I have a difficult time taking complements though.
*hugs*

What is something you have a difficult time accepting?

Compliments. Self doubt and a warped sense of myself (and that overthinking thing) are sure people are just trying not to be rude or out and out lying.

What’s the best compliment that you’ve received?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Compliments. Self doubt and a warped sense of myself (and that overthinking thing) are sure people are just trying not to be rude or out and out lying.

What’s the best compliment that you’ve received?

Well, I don't know. Recently a young person told me that our brief discussion helped her immensely. I was surprised. All I did was talk with her.

Same Question: what's the best compliment that you've received?

 

[lacandy]

Well, I don't know. Recently a young person told me that our brief discussion helped her immensely. I was surprised. All I did was talk with her.

Same Question: what's the best compliment that you've received?

Anything to do with how good my kids are doing (parent teacher conferences were the best when they were little! ). That’s the thing I worry most about so when someone tells me I’ve done a good job with them…that’s the best!

What is one thing you would change about your life right now (besides being super rich!)

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Anything to do with how good my kids are doing (parent teacher conferences were the best when they were little! ). That’s the thing I worry most about so when someone tells me I’ve done a good job with them…that’s the best!

What is one thing you would change about your life right now (besides being super rich!)

Ah, I get that, with the kids. I will say that as they get older, I feel like, "I'm not sure what *I* did, this is all them." I guess I came good that night!

I'm not sure that I would change much. I guess there are some things I wish would happen sexually/romantically for me. But they seem to allude me. Probably my fault.
I have a great career. A good marriage (noted exception above), and a lot of terrific friends. And I'm reasonably healthy. I'm pretty happy?

What makes you the happiest?

 

[fire_breeze]

Ah, I get that, with the kids. I will say that as they get older, I feel like, "I'm not sure what *I* did, this is all them." I guess I came good that night!

I'm not sure that I would change much. I guess there are some things I wish would happen sexually/romantically for me. But they seem to allude me. Probably my fault.
I have a great career. A good marriage (noted exception above), and a lot of terrific friends. And I'm reasonably healthy. I'm pretty happy?

What makes you the happiest?

Seeing Sailer my man and Azul baby happy

That and coffee.

What trick do you have to motivate yourself to get stuff done when you are utterly exhausted?

 

[lacandy]

Seeing Sailer my man and Azul baby happy

That and coffee.

What trick do you have to motivate yourself to get stuff done when you are utterly exhausted?

Wish I had one! I’m procrastinating at this moment. Really it’s just beating myself up mentally until I get up and do it!

Are you a list maker?

 

[fire_breeze]

Wish I had one! I’m procrastinating at this moment. Really it’s just beating myself up mentally until I get up and do it!

Are you a list maker?

The queen of lists. It's getting to it that's a problem

What seemingly normal thing that everyone does or gets that completely escapes you?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Seeing Sailer my man and Azul baby happy

That and coffee.

What trick do you have to motivate yourself to get stuff done when you are utterly exhausted?

I use reverse psychology.

The queen of lists. It's getting to it that's a problem

What seemingly normal thing that everyone does or gets that completely escapes you?

Meh, relationships?

How do you navigate the complexity of relationships?

 

[Paul_Chance]

I use reverse psychology.

Meh, relationships?

How do you navigate the complexity of relationships?

Like a sailor in a small boat on a wild sea. Seriously though, I approach it by keeping compassion foremost in my mind and remembering that, in everyone's life, they are the main character and even though I might be the love interest and the main character in my story, in their story I am just a supporting character.

What's your favorite excuse for not doing something?