Ask the opposite gender.

[Zootonius]

I’ve used the male facilities, just not for urination .

Em

At a company I worked for, the building had the men's room and lady's rooms swapped between the first and second floor. Want the men's room on the first floor? Turn left. Second floor, turn right. More than once I watched a female co-worker exit the men's room bright red.

 

[Dashabout]

At work I have helped a few guys who were in distress. Enough said on that.

Once way back in time I had to help guy who had been let out of a cop car in handcuffs. We left the scene and he had to pee, none of the guys wanted to help him so I did. Was fun writing my name in the snow.

 

[djrip]

Once way back in time I had to help guy who had been let out of a cop car in handcuffs. We left the scene and he had to pee, none of the guys wanted to help him so I did. Was fun writing my name in the snow.

Getting arrested might not be so bad.

 

[lovecraft68]

As a society we've never been more divided and part of that is its been ordained that everyone has to fit in a box and if they don't well, they're one of them, whoever them is.

This is another in a slew of threads where the message seems to be men/women are different species and have nothing in common.

Asking a man/woman to answer specific questions based on scenario is....just a waste of time.

There are men who might answer the way you feel a woman would, and the other way around.

More so, one man/woman doesn't speak for the entire gender (back to the everyone in the same box thing) five women could give five answers, same for guys.

This is pretty much a pointless exercise that at some point will devolve into another mansplaining/battle of the sexes event.

When I speak or interact with people, I'm doing it with a person. I give fuck all about their gender, color, sexual, religious or political preferences

More people should try doing that, and drop all this everyone is a race totally alien to all the other races

 

[Dashabout]

Getting arrested might not be so bad.

They picked him up the next day and added the "fleeing" charge along with losing the cuffs. Crazy times back then for sure.

 

[AlexBailey]

Walking up to a urinal while wearing a kilt or a skirt can be awkward AF.

There’s a pub I often go to that has three side by sides with a mirror on the wall above. Seeing guys come in behind me and double take can be hilarious, and being that they often have a buzz on they often strike up conversation.

 

[EmilyMiller]

As a society we've never been more divided and part of that is its been ordained that everyone has to fit in a box and if they don't well, they're one of them, whoever them is.

This is another in a slew of threads where the message seems to be men/women are different species and have nothing in common.

Asking a man/woman to answer specific questions based on scenario is....just a waste of time.

There are men who might answer the way you feel a woman would, and the other way around.

More so, one man/woman doesn't speak for the entire gender (back to the everyone in the same box thing) five women could give five answers, same for guys.

This is pretty much a pointless exercise that at some point will devolve into another mansplaining/battle of the sexes event.

When I speak or interact with people, I'm doing it with a person. I give fuck all about their gender, color, sexual, religious or political preferences

More people should try doing that, and drop all this everyone is a race totally alien to all the other races

What he said!!!

Em

 

[Mtnmike]

Everybody is at parade rest. (Arm’s length away)

Then you have never been to a dirt track race in the old south, if there's space somebody's squeezing in, lol.

 

[djrip]

I think asking members of groups for insight about those groups is a good way to learn about those groups. Ideally more than one individual, as people vary, and anyone trying to learn about others should of course remember this. I think asking is more productive than guessing or assuming or making things up, at least. Not that I have a problem making things up when I feel like it. But if I wanted to write about the Maori culture, I don't think I would be amiss in talking to some Maori about it. Maori are people, like me, yes, but that doesn't mean I already know everything there is to know about them. People within the same culture may be more similar than a Maori individual and I, but I still think there are things men and women can learn by taking to each other, or things I could learn by talking to a transgender person, or a follower of Islam, or a Black individual, or a really wealthy family, or a car mechanic. They will all have insights about their own lives and habits and assumptions and inclinations that I don't necessarily know about.

 

[Voboy]

Opposite gender question
Why do men keep their socks on? Is this a general rule for bedrooms?
Also for socks and sandals though I think that habit is dying out

I hate having my socks on at any time. I'm a slippers guy. The moment I walk into my house, off come the socks. If I have to go out again later, I put them back on.

Even as a lad, I could never tolerate socks in bed. In fact, the idea of it kinda skeeves me out.

And men who wear socks with sandals were never, ever correct to do so. That is a shameful and disgusting chapter in sartorial history, on a par with pleated-front khakis.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I'm not sure if it was a current partner or an ex, but a chap said that the only good advice he got from men's mags when they were popular in the 90s was "Never be naked except for a pair of socks - it's the unsexiest look ever".

Men I've known tend to run hot and be good for warming my hands and feet on. Not sure I've known one to wear socks in bed, though the bloke does like his fleecy slippers. He wanders round the house in socks after removing shoes; I keep mine on, mostly.

 

[Voboy]

He wanders round the house in socks after removing shoes

The very notion skeeves me out.

The only time I'm wearing socks is when I'm wearing shoes or boots. As soon as the footwear comes off, so do the socks.

And socks with slippers, at the same time? HEATHEN.

 

[TheRedChamber]

Opposite gender question
Why do men keep their socks on? Is this a general rule for bedrooms?
Also for socks and sandals though I think that habit is dying out

I never keep my socks on in bed. (barring being so tired I fall asleep fully clothed).

Keeping socks on during sex would be weird, if that's the question.

Socks and sandals we're a fashion nightmare joke even in the 80s. I wouldn't couldn't.

The fact that your even asking suggests a regional, generational thing (40yo Brit for reference)

 

[TheRedChamber]

At a company I worked for, the building had the men's room and lady's rooms swapped between the first and second floor. Want the men's room on the first floor? Turn left. Second floor, turn right. More than once I watched a female co-worker exit the men's room bright red.

After 5 years of me working there, my company recently completely renovated an old building and decided to swap the male and female bathrooms for no obvious reason.

We adjusted fast, but for a week or so...

 

[TheRedChamber]

As a society we've never been more divided and part of that is its been ordained that everyone has to fit in a box and if they don't well, they're one of them, whoever them is.

This is another in a slew of threads where the message seems to be men/women are different species and have nothing in common.

Asking a man/woman to answer specific questions based on scenario is....just a waste of time.

There are men who might answer the way you feel a woman would, and the other way around.

More so, one man/woman doesn't speak for the entire gender (back to the everyone in the same box thing) five women could give five answers, same for guys.

This is pretty much a pointless exercise that at some point will devolve into another mansplaining/battle of the sexes event.

When I speak or interact with people, I'm doing it with a person. I give fuck all about their gender, color, sexual, religious or political preferences

More people should try doing that, and drop all this everyone is a race totally alien to all the other races

Yay. I win. This thread was a stealth challenge to see what the most innoculous question I could ask and still trigger either the generic Lovecraft everything is woke or everything is sexist spiel.

(It wasn't, but it could have been.)

Men and women sometimes have different experiences. Often those experiences are generic enough that making generalizations about them is useful. Sometimes they are not generic and thats worth knowing too. It should be okay to ask a question.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Keeping socks on during sex would be weird, if that's the question.

Except for white, knee socks.

Em

 

[TheRedChamber]

Except for white, knee socks.

Em

Since that was a gender male specific question, I'm going to go with 'no that would be even weirder'

But no kink shaming...

 

[EmilyMiller]

Since that was a gender male specific question, I'm going to go with 'no that would be even weirder'

But no kink shaming...

It’s a free world. Sort of…

Em

 

[AlexBailey]

Keeping socks on during sex would be weird, if that's the question.

What’s wrong with weird?

https://www.byquanna.com/en-us/blogs/qurious-club/does-wearing-socks-during-sex-help-you-orgasm

“According to a study conducted at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands. Working with 13 heterosexual couples aged 19 to 49, researchers found that when couples were given socks, about 80% were able to achieve orgasm, compared with 50% when they lacked the socks. That's a 30% climax difference, friends.”

 

[Hmm72]

Keeping thigh-high pantyhose on during sex is normal and even preferred still right?

YES!…damn it…yes it is….Please...

 

[TheRedChamber]

Keeping thigh-high pantyhose on during sex is normal and even preferred still right?

I refer the honourable lady to the answer I gave some moments ago.

 

[tenyari]

At a company I worked for, the building had the men's room and lady's rooms swapped between the first and second floor. Want the men's room on the first floor? Turn left. Second floor, turn right. More than once I watched a female co-worker exit the men's room bright red.

On a tangent to that and the 'which bathroom do I use' crisis... In the last couple years before the Pandemic when I was still going into offices I noticed more and more clients in Silicon Valley had switched to single occupancy restrooms. It neatly solves the whole 'gender identity' issue in a non-controversial way.

 

[TheRedChamber]

On a tangent to that and the 'which bathroom do I use' crisis... In the last couple years before the Pandemic when I was still going into offices I noticed more and more clients in Silicon Valley had switched to single occupancy restrooms. It neatly solves the whole 'gender identity' issue in a non-controversial way.

My company (another one) tried this.

Unfortunately what had previously been the 'Bob from accounts is having bowel problems' problem very quickly became all out gender war and the policy was quickly reversed.

 

[Bramblethorn]

What’s wrong with weird?

https://www.byquanna.com/en-us/blogs/qurious-club/does-wearing-socks-during-sex-help-you-orgasm

“According to a study conducted at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands. Working with 13 heterosexual couples aged 19 to 49, researchers found that when couples were given socks, about 80% were able to achieve orgasm, compared with 50% when they lacked the socks. That's a 30% climax difference, friends.”

This result would be easier to understand if it was from New Zealand.

 

[jehoram]

General remark. Let’s assume for the sake of argument that women don’t, as a rule, occupy adjacent cubicles when showering. Does that happen so rigorously that any story mentioning two female characters in adjacent cubicles will ring so false to women readers that they stop reading the otherwise I’m sure riveting story? I’m voting “no”.

Em

A good question. A story I edited not long ago had that situation. It wasn't clear whether the women had a choice of spacing.

As for men, we follow the same rules in a shower that we do in public urinals. We try to put as much distance between us as is practical. But when there's high demand, we use them all without much regard for proximity. I don't remember anybody waiting until he can have unused showeres or urinals on each side of him.