Being pegged

[seela]

A busy well commented thread but unless I missed it not one woman has commented. I’ve tried asking other women what a Domme gets from pegging. The consensus is if it was for a long term partner and what the partner wanted they’d consider doing it to make their partner happy. A few women mentioned the double ended or vibrating strap on but none could really see many women enjoying it sexually. Even in staged porn, pegging videos the women doing it usually look bored out their skull.

It’s such a common male fantasy (and a good few Doms have that fantasy too) yet where are the women to explain what they gain from the interaction, or is it really the most selfless sexual act they can give to a partner ?

The pegging I've done has been in a humiliation scene. So that's what I got out of it. I like humiliation, and being critiqued for my performance etc. did the trick quite nicely.

Pegging is very hard work for not the same physical reward that someone with a real penis with real nerve endings gets from doing the fucking. I doubt very many women would peg for the physical pleasure only, or even mainly. However, it can be a power trip to do something like that, and many people love power.

Enjoying something sexually does not necessarily equal getting direct physical pleasure out of it.

 

[Ginlover]

I did wonder if it was pain/discomfort that made the women look so bored. Female muscles are not designed to do that movement any extended time. That said we could start a new fitness crazy. “Full core workout - peg your partner”
With a few user feedback like “I lost an inch of my waist and two from my hips in six weeks, this is the greatest targeted fat busting exercise programme I’ve ever done.” There can even be an infomercial and payment plan...

I’m visualising a win win situation.

*Heads off to copyright the idea*

 

[LanaBehave]

Yes, the female viewpoint is essential here thank you ladies! As has been stated many times in these forums, and once again seems relevant to this pegging dynamic; the between-the-ears sexual organ often is at play as much as the more obvious down-there ones.

There's an active pegging topic in the Lit Sexuality forum, and some of those gifs indeed appear to have vigorous, enthusiastic participation from both ends of the ... the shaft, taking into account the likelihood that some of them are staged and professionally photographed--as noted by some other posters below.

And yet, a Google search brings up a Cosmopolitan magazine online (??) article with fourteen candid comments from women that seem to enjoy this switch of viewpoint and expression of power. The common thread seems to be the sounds, groans, whimpers and such, that give these ladies encouraging feedback on their...enthusiasmic thrustations.

the search terms i inserted were; female pleasure in pegging

 

[Ginlover]

LanaBehave my next plan is to try and search fet as I’d love to be able to write a good pegging scene but despite trying a few times I can’t get into the Domme head. I can write a Dom/me in most other settings. I don’t like head hoping and try to bring a story to life doing a deeper point of view. Despite watching far more pegging videos than I ever expected to I’ve yet to see a look that captures the woman’s enjoyment. This thread being a perfect example, several men describing an amazing experience and only one kinda of description from a woman.
I shall search out the sexuality thread and the Cosmo article.

Talking to women they appear to be more comfortable using hands, butt plugs and dildos on partners it seems to be the strap on and pegging part many are not willing to do and again other than pain I’ve yet to hear an answer why. I’ll dispute anyone suggesting it’s homo suggestive reasons as I would hope by the time this was being discussed anal play was well established as was toy usage so mature adults involved

 

[Guns444]

huge fantasy of being pegged and talked down to while she fucks me. Hope someday it happens

 

[A_E_G]

We are switchy, but more from a top/bottom perspective than a D/s one. I peg him because I don't think it's fair that I'm the only one to get all the full-body multiple-orgasms all the time. I enjoy watching him have those full-body orgasms that are so much more powerful than a penis-centered orgasm. Sometimes I use a handheld dildo, sometimes I'll put it in a strap, and sometimes I'll use a couple's dildo. The couple's is challenging though, because it's hard for me to keep up a rhythm that works for him as I am overcome by my own orgasms. However, I can sometimes orgasm without any stimulation just from shared energy (mirror neurons) when he is orgasming during pegging, just as I can from performing oral sex.

He doesn't have the same capacity as I do for multiple full body Os, though, so we usually only have a pegging scene about once per month.

 

[christina4fun]

i get the humiliation part of it too (making the guy receive it) , physically not much actually bugger all stimulation, i at least get from it
its way more a mental power trip for me at least , i get way more wet and horny stroking my fake cock and watching the guy and his eyes screaming hell she going to do it and then watching them as the look of omfg im going to cum and watching him loose his shit and me smiling and saying now you are my bitch

the real kicker a week later i see him with his mates at a bar and smile and watch him want to shrink in the corner and hope like hell i dont tell anyone

 

[Eliphaz]

It seems like most people think of it as a power exchange thing, and it can be, but sometimes it's nice just for variety. I guess it would depend on if anyone had any latent hangups about it but it's not really something to be embarrassed about enjoying, imo.

 

[MysteriousRyu]

Role reversal, power exchange, actual stimulation from anal play. You name it I'm certain it's crossed my mind before.

 

[Kim_Burly]

As I have posted here before, I am a 24/7 sub to my husband, Sir. Sir likes me to make love to his bottom probably 2-3 times a month, and I MUST make him cum (pegging only, no mouth or hands). If I am lucky and I find and can concentrate on his prostate quickly, I can get him off in 10 minutes, that's 10 minutes of non-stop, rapid fire strokes, not full strokes, but still probably about 6 inches. As someone said above, women aren't built for thrusting, women are much more flexible, but 10-15 minutes of that is a major workout, by the time I'm done, I have a good sweat going, and my cardio training is off the charts.

I have watched some amateur pegging videos and you can see how hard the thrusting movement is for women and they rarely make their man cum without hands or a mouth coming into play. With practice you can build up your stamina. The other half of the equation is finding the prostate and then measure your thrusts so that his prostate is right in the middle of your stroke. Keep in mind that the prostate grows when the man is aroused. If he is not erect, it is going to make it nearly impossible to make him climax hands free. I am fortunate that when Sir tells me "it's time" he is already throbbing and dripping pre-cum. It also helps if your dildo has a head with a pronounced rim.

It is a lot of work and it will take practice and conditioning. Maybe if your man isn't erect when it's time a Viagra may help, I don't know, it certainly can't hurt.

One final note and I read about this and I found it to be true. Sir will climax when I make love to him, but if he sticks it in me, he fucks my throat or he lets me stroke him. he will have another, very intense orgasm.

I am very proud of myself that I can pleasure Sir and it is certainly worth the effort. Go forth ladies, and sodomize your man!

 

[MysteriousRyu]

^That's a wonderful take on the experience.

 

[Just2Kinky]

I have long had a fantasy of being fucked by a T-girl while fucking a girl, I've started to become more curious about being pegged by an attractive woman knowing that I could never pull such a woman. Has anyone else ever had these fantasies made true, did it live up to your hopes?

I've had the real thing but I had to use my imagination on it being with a bedicked female. It was still hot because he tried to sound fem. It would have been better if he had dressed fem but hey, maybe another time...I certainly would do it again.

 

[GroverLang]

I have long had a fantasy of being fucked by a T-girl while fucking a girl, I've started to become more curious about being pegged by an attractive woman knowing that I could never pull such a woman. Has anyone else ever had these fantasies made true, did it live up to your hopes?

I’ve experienced being fucked by a strapon many times. Sucking it does nothing for me even if she attempts to dominate me and its never prompted an erection. The enjoyment from being fucked depends on the location, her personality, and how good she is at it.

 

[rampe]

Groverlang is writing wise things I think.

I have experienced both. The t-girl and strapon. Many times both. I like more ladies with strapon because I considor myself as a straigt guy. The oral gives very little for me. It is the same with the dildo and real thing.

The person is the big thing. There is so many different persons in women and trans girls. Trans person are often more like man are - they have hurry for fucking. Warming up is more likely longer with woman. But there is also trans girls that are great for warming up.

Fucking itself is I think more natural for trans girls but I have met great strapon users also. So summa summarum. It depends on chemistry and all that kind of stuff which is better choice. You can find from both parts the outstanding and lousy choices.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I've only used a strap-on with women, though a couple friendly gentlemen have considered it. It's hard work! I may be unfit (ok, I'm unfit) but it's like doing butterfly stroke when swimming.

Actually, I always wondered what the point of butterfly was - guess I've answered my own question there!

 

[Turnmeup]

Posted the following elsewhere but will ask here - for someone wanting to get into pegging, how would you recommend it was started and how would you work up to full pegging?

I've used a small butt pug a few times while masturbating but nothing more than that.

Also, I've read a few females orgasm from pegging their partner. Is there something specific which causes this - i.e. an attachment on the straps which are placed inside the woman or just the fucking motion which causes the sensation?

Sorry if that is a stupid question! Just curious.

 

[Crios]

Started with butt play...

Wife is pretty conservative but I've learned she LOVED it when I first inserted my finger into her ass. She knew I liked it when she did that to me as well. I also like rimming her although she doesn't like to reciprocate.

Anyway, butt play led to plugs (her and me) and prostate massage (just me, obviously). One session I'd just lost all control and yelled out, "Oh, please I need you to fuck me!" We used one of her dildoes the first time and then bought a couple of strap ons which she uses on my semi-regularly.

For me, it's not only the pleasure of the fake cock in my ass but I guess I'm a closet submissive. For years I've been trying to get her to take more control of our sessions but she's too inhibited to do so. I would LOVE to get her to force me to suck the strap on before she fucks me with it; would love to have her call me cocksucker and faggot. Same thing with when she's actually fucking me with it: need her to begin calling me names and slapping my ass. I just can't seem to get her to that point where she feels comfortable with it.

Part of the problem is that she is not only inhibited but thinks that I shouldn't have these desires or, if I do, there must be something wrong.

 

[Crios]

Posted the following elsewhere but will ask here - for someone wanting to get into pegging, how would you recommend it was started and how would you work up to full pegging?

I've used a small butt pug a few times while masturbating but nothing more than that.

Also, I've read a few females orgasm from pegging their partner. Is there something specific which causes this - i.e. an attachment on the straps which are placed inside the woman or just the fucking motion which causes the sensation?

Sorry if that is a stupid question! Just curious.

I recommend starting out with butt plugs of increasing size. You can usually find sets of 3 at a bunch of online stores.

Then, once you are comfortable with and enjoy the plugs, you can try a prostate massager or go right to a small strap on. You're correct in that some strap ons have vibrators in the harness that can help the woman "get off" at the same time she's fucking you.

Also recommend you clean yourself ahead of time. Have a good bowel movement and then an anal douche.

LOTS and LOTS of lube is important for the plugs, massagers and strap ons!

 

[Turnmeup]

I recommend starting out with butt plugs of increasing size. You can usually find sets of 3 at a bunch of online stores.

Then, once you are comfortable with and enjoy the plugs, you can try a prostate massager or go right to a small strap on. You're correct in that some strap ons have vibrators in the harness that can help the woman "get off" at the same time she's fucking you.

Also recommend you clean yourself ahead of time. Have a good bowel movement and then an anal douche.

LOTS and LOTS of lube is important for the plugs, massagers and strap ons!

Great.

Thanks for the information, greatly appreciated.

I think some slightly larger plugs will be next for me. Hopefully, my wife will play with these on me. She knows I have the small plug but has not yet used it on me. She might want to watch me first.

I knew about the douche but haven't purchased one yet. As you say, a good idea to get one.

Thanks again. That really helps where I can go from here.

 

[Crios]

Great.

Thanks for the information, greatly appreciated.

I think some slightly larger plugs will be next for me. Hopefully, my wife will play with these on me. She knows I have the small plug but has not yet used it on me. She might want to watch me first.

I knew about the douche but haven't purchased one yet. As you say, a good idea to get one.

Thanks again. That really helps where I can go from here.

You'll have a LOT of fun when she gets to use the bigger strap ons!

 

[Bottomlover]

Great.

Thanks for the information, greatly appreciated.

I think some slightly larger plugs will be next for me. Hopefully, my wife will play with these on me. She knows I have the small plug but has not yet used it on me. She might want to watch me first.

I knew about the douche but haven't purchased one yet. As you say, a good idea to get one.

Thanks again. That really helps where I can go from here.

Having her watch you insert your plug can be really helpful. She may learn to "read" you to adjust speed and pressure of insertion when she does it.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Still trying to come down after being pegged last night!

We had guests earlier in the evening, and before they arrived my wife let on I'd be getting lucky later by first locking my cock, then plugging my ass and giving me a pair of panties to wear under my jeans. Mixing drinks became a real chore because I was having trouble concentrating on anything that didn't involve filling my ass...

Around twilight I drove into town to fetch the pizza. It was a beautiful evening, the top was down and my clitty was about as erect as it could get inside my HT Nub. Each expansion joint tried to nudge that plug deeper against my prostate, and pre-cum dripped into my panties. I felt so incredibly submissive and needy at that moment, and it required everything I had just to wait two more hours before she could finally take me.

Final good-byes, I'm telling you, didn't come fast enough last evening!

 

[comegently]

Posted the following elsewhere but will ask here - for someone wanting to get into pegging, how would you recommend it was started and how would you work up to full pegging?

I've used a small butt pug a few times while masturbating but nothing more than that.

Also, I've read a few females orgasm from pegging their partner. Is there something specific which causes this - i.e. an attachment on the straps which are placed inside the woman or just the fucking motion which causes the sensation?

Sorry if that is a stupid question! Just curious.

Butt plugs can be painful for a short while after insertion and then the pain eases off.
Plenty of lube as others have said and a good clean first.
The cleanest result is by using a full-on enema douche. One of the best looks like a hot water bottle that you hang on the wall, with a long tube. That's very thorough and cleans a long way in, but you have to be very careful. I use sterilizing fluid for at least half an hour before and I use water that I have previously boiled and cooled.
Avoid butt plugs with veining. Put a small one in first, maybe one inch diameter. When that starts feeling comfortable, pull it out, add lube, and put the main one or strapon in.
If your partner finds thrusting too much effort, get them to lie on their back and ride cowgirl style.

In my case, I don't consider this BDSM - just a nice way to have sex.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Butt plugs can be painful for a short while after insertion and then the pain eases off.
Plenty of lube as others have said and a good clean first.
The cleanest result is by using a full-on enema douche. One of the best looks like a hot water bottle that you hang on the wall, with a long tube. That's very thorough and cleans a long way in, but you have to be very careful. I use sterilizing fluid for at least half an hour before and I use water that I have previously boiled and cooled.
Avoid butt plugs with veining. Put a small one in first, maybe one inch diameter. When that starts feeling comfortable, pull it out, add lube, and put the main one or strapon in.
If your partner finds thrusting too much effort, get them to lie on their back and ride cowgirl style.

In my case, I don't consider this BDSM - just a nice way to have sex.

My wife often plugs me small just to keep it a "familiar experience," lol! I prefer stainless steel plugs because I like their weight, specifically the nJoy line, and after my enema, I'm "stepped up" to the Pure Plug 2.0. I call it "Final approach!" With that in me, she knows I'm ready!

And yes -- you are 100% correct. It IS "just a nice way to have sex!"

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

I recommend starting out with butt plugs of increasing size. You can usually find sets of 3 at a bunch of online stores.

Then, once you are comfortable with and enjoy the plugs, you can try a prostate massager or go right to a small strap on. You're correct in that some strap ons have vibrators in the harness that can help the woman "get off" at the same time she's fucking you.

Also recommend you clean yourself ahead of time. Have a good bowel movement and then an anal douche.

LOTS and LOTS of lube is important for the plugs, massagers and strap ons!

On the subject of lube, my wife loves her lube shooters. You can buy them in multipacks and keep them loaded with whatever various lubes you use so they're always ready. Be prepared! She'll still use her fingers for the final touch-ups, but the feel of that slender tip entering is like her calling card. It never fails to excite me. Curtain going up!