Big Beautiful Women

[LustyBBWwench]

Re: New Fat Girl

The term BBW bugs me because it seems to make liking women like me a fetish. For some men I'm sure it is but they can leave me out of it.

Hey, welcome, redneck. I dislike the term BBW, too. It's a euphemism, and not an always accurate one. I generally use it because people get sooo upset by the word "fat". For instance, if I refer to myself as "fat" in most company, they're not going to do the knee-jerk reaction thing and argue and insist that I'm not fat, because that would be ludicrous. However, then they're left with the word "fat" floating uncomfortably in the air, without their customary dismissal, and they get so uneasy they practically pee themselves.

It's just a word. It has no power unless I give it some. But most people don't get that.

 

[A_Kefka]

as far as terms go, I usually just use big

 

[presslady]

I never know what to call myself. I don't want to surprise anyone by not representing myself properly but I also don't want to be rude to myself. I don't like FAT and I don't know if I like the term BIG any more than that either. I just know that I am sexy - I try to be at least. I have a wish though that more people felt I was sexy.

Though, I think I am finally at an age when I realize that I am who I am and I need not feel unhappy about it. Who I am is more than the size of my undies (when I choose to wear them).

 

[Darkknight2010]

I wish I had stayed on last night. I wish I had a picture I could post. Sometime soon however I will.

Another question however: if it's so true that most men like women who have a little on their hips, why do advertisements all have stick figures in them?

Good question. Frankly, most men in this country have no problems being with a BBW. Being sexy is ALL in the head, and the sexiest women I've been with weren't sticks by any means.

The saddest thing is, at least for me, yes as a male I"ll look at the ads with size-2 women, but I also enjoy seeing someone like Queen Latifa who most certainly is NOT a waif, but is an awesome woman.

No one said marketing people made sense... they just look at their numbers and count their bonus checks. sigh.

 

[cinnamonstick]

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[presslady]

I have to say, you've all given me much to think about. In the last week I've been working to be more secure in myself. I hold my head higher and I smile more. I've noticed that I do get more attention that way. So, it is true that more confidence is equal to more attention.

Now I just have to not let it scare me - the confidence or the attention. LOL

 

[Darkknight2010]

I have to say, you've all given me much to think about. In the last week I've been working to be more secure in myself. I hold my head higher and I smile more. I've noticed that I do get more attention that way. So, it is true that more confidence is equal to more attention.

Now I just have to not let it scare me - the confidence or the attention. LOL

Ah, confidence. That is the SEXIEST thing for me. It's not the 'I am Goddess, lick my feet' thing, but just knowing 'This is who I am, I look GOOD in this' and carrying yourself with that same feel.

 

[bamagirl]

Personally I do date quite a bit. A couple guys that I have dated and had sex with left me for thinner women, but called me for sex. They want the little GF to go out with and show off to their friends. That is just messed up. Fat does not equal easy!

It seems a lot of guys think like that though

 

[BBWetKitty]

I never know what to call myself. I don't want to surprise anyone by not representing myself properly but I also don't want to be rude to myself. I don't like FAT and I don't know if I like the term BIG any more than that either. I just know that I am sexy - I try to be at least. I have a wish though that more people felt I was sexy.

Though, I think I am finally at an age when I realize that I am who I am and I need not feel unhappy about it. Who I am is more than the size of my undies (when I choose to wear them).

Whether youre big, fat, chubby, soft, cuddly, rubenesque, junoesque, one thing stays the same, youre ALL woman.

 

[Laoghaire]

I never know what to call myself. I don't want to surprise anyone by not representing myself properly but I also don't want to be rude to myself. I don't like FAT and I don't know if I like the term BIG any more than that either. I just know that I am sexy - I try to be at least. I have a wish though that more people felt I was sexy.

Though, I think I am finally at an age when I realize that I am who I am and I need not feel unhappy about it. Who I am is more than the size of my undies (when I choose to wear them).

Why not call yourself a "woman" plain and simple. Your sexiness and appeal will exude themselves naturally.

 

[thrillseeker1]

Hey, BBWs are so great to dress. So much potential.

 

[TravelinJack]

I love all women and I've met some very very sexy BBW's before, love em

 

[Darkknight2010]

Whether youre big, fat, chubby, soft, cuddly, rubenesque, junoesque, one thing stays the same, youre ALL woman.

Amen to that.

 

[SweetErika]

I just call myself curvy, because that's what they are...soft, beautiful curves.

After reading some personals, I'm getting the idea that BBW has a wide range of definitions. Many people say they like BBWs, but qualify it with a weight or clothing size limit, e.g. "5'-6' and 110-180 lbs. or Size 14 max. I've noticed the same with BBW porn sites...on many, most of the women are probably a size 10 or 12. So it seems like false acceptance in a lot of ways.

 

[Darkknight2010]

I just call myself curvy, because that's what they are...soft, beautiful curves.

After reading some personals, I'm getting the idea that BBW has a wide range of definitions. Many people say they like BBWs, but qualify it with a weight or clothing size limit, e.g. "5'-6' and 110-180 lbs. or Size 14 max. I've noticed the same with BBW porn sites...on many, most of the women are probably a size 10 or 12. So it seems like false acceptance in a lot of ways.

Funny you should mention the porn sites, because I've noticed that too. 'Um... she ain't that big'.

It's almost like the continuation of the over-catagorization of things. There's BBW, and I've seen a SSBBW 'site. As if the teen, milf, interacial, and other catagories weren't enough. sigh.

 

[LustyBBWwench]

It's almost like the continuation of the over-catagorization of things. There's BBW, and I've seen a SSBBW 'site. As if the teen, milf, interacial, and other catagories weren't enough. sigh.

And don't forget the sub-categories. Submissive BBW who love anal, bisexual MILF's who love interracial, etc.

 

[Darkknight2010]

And don't forget the sub-categories. Submissive BBW who love anal, bisexual MILF's who love interracial, etc.

chuckle. No kidding. Doesn't anyone just want to FUCK any more?

 

[mateo04]

Gorgeous women

Oh, SweetErika and bamagirl, your pictures are making my mouth water. I hope I don't drown! redneckinkansas, I love your style!

Look, presslady and all other ladies, I truly believe that confidence is a state of mind.

Back in college, there were several nights when I was dateless. Not for my looks though, as I received a second look on more than one occasion, it was my lack of confidence.

"Picking up" was pretty difficult when I had no self esteem. Once I began to feel better about myself, my confidence level and self esteem rose. This led me to having confidence to talk to females who I had previously considered out of my league.

Believe me, I went on plenty of dates where I was the envy of all my buddies due to the physical appearance of my companion. But damn if a large majority of these girls weren't hollow inside. I spent many a night at a restaurant, nightclub, or party trying to figure how the hell I could ditch these shallow women.

I'm not saying all thin women are terrible, but the best times I've ever had were with females that upon a quick glance might not meet "society's" standards of sexy. And do we really want to judge ourselves by the rest of society? I hope not. Have the confidence to be yourself.

I've met several women of various physical appearance who might grab my eye initially, but regardless of shape, color, or weight, I'm sorry that I ever gave some of them the time of day.

No, I'm not trying to come off as Mr. High and Mighty. Yes, I'm guilty of ogling plump thighs, sweet, round asses, big hips and softly padded tummies. Geez, the visual is making me hyperventilate. . .!!!

There. . .I'm okay. . .Whew!

I love an articulate, intelligent, confident woman, who can hold a meaningful conversation. THAT is the epitome of sexy to me.

How do you let someone know you have these traits? YOU TALK TO HIM!!! Smile at a male and say "hi" to him. That won't hurt you.

And here's a simple line that might make you think I'm an old man: if you can't get past the initial greeting, do you really want to be with someone so shallow? Think about it, ladies, you deserve and should desire a "man". . .not a "guy."

Hey, I hope I don't come off as a hypocrite, but it's the HEALTHY woman that catches my eye. Yeah, the one with the HEALTHY helping of thighs, hips, ass, belly, etc. And the breasts - regardless of size or shape - MUST be REAL.

My motto? The hips and lips might catch my attention, but you better have more than that to hold it.

 

[LustyBBWwench]

chuckle. No kidding. Doesn't anyone just want to FUCK any more?

l


The basics never go out of style for a reason.

 

[LustyBBWwench]

Re: Gorgeous women

Oh, SweetErika and bamagirl, your pictures are making my mouth water. I hope I don't drown! redneckinkansas, I love your style!

Look, presslady and all other ladies, I truly believe that confidence is a state of mind.

Back in college, there were several nights when I was dateless. Not for my looks though, as I received a second look on more than one occasion, it was my lack of confidence.

"Picking up" was pretty difficult when I had no self esteem. Once I began to feel better about myself, my confidence level and self esteem rose. This led me to having confidence to talk to females who I had previously considered out of my league.

Believe me, I went on plenty of dates where I was the envy of all my buddies due to the physical appearance of my companion. But damn if a large majority of these girls weren't hollow inside. I spent many a night at a restaurant, nightclub, or party trying to figure how the hell I could ditch these shallow women.

I'm not saying all thin women are terrible, but the best times I've ever had were with females that upon a quick glance might not meet "society's" standards of sexy. And do we really want to judge ourselves by the rest of society? I hope not. Have the confidence to be yourself.

I've met several women of various physical appearance who might grab my eye initially, but regardless of shape, color, or weight, I'm sorry that I ever gave some of them the time of day.

No, I'm not trying to come off as Mr. High and Mighty. Yes, I'm guilty of ogling plump thighs, sweet, round asses, big hips and softly padded tummies. Geez, the visual is making me hyperventilate. . .!!!

There. . .I'm okay. . .Whew!

I love an articulate, intelligent, confident woman, who can hold a meaningful conversation. THAT is the epitome of sexy to me.

How do you let someone know you have these traits? YOU TALK TO HIM!!! Smile at a male and say "hi" to him. That won't hurt you.

And here's a simple line that might make you think I'm an old man: if you can't get past the initial greeting, do you really want to be with someone so shallow? Think about it, ladies, you deserve and should desire a "man". . .not a "guy."

Hey, I hope I don't come off as a hypocrite, but it's the HEALTHY woman that catches my eye. Yeah, the one with the HEALTHY helping of thighs, hips, ass, belly, etc. And the breasts - regardless of size or shape - MUST be REAL.

My motto? The hips and lips might catch my attention, but you better have more than that to hold it.

NICE first post, Meat.

Welcome.

 

[bamagirl]

Re: Gorgeous women

Oh, SweetErika and bamagirl, your pictures are making my mouth water. I hope I don't drown! redneckinkansas, I love your style!

Look, presslady and all other ladies, I truly believe that confidence is a state of mind.

Back in college, there were several nights when I was dateless. Not for my looks though, as I received a second look on more than one occasion, it was my lack of confidence.

"Picking up" was pretty difficult when I had no self esteem. Once I began to feel better about myself, my confidence level and self esteem rose. This led me to having confidence to talk to females who I had previously considered out of my league.

Believe me, I went on plenty of dates where I was the envy of all my buddies due to the physical appearance of my companion. But damn if a large majority of these girls weren't hollow inside. I spent many a night at a restaurant, nightclub, or party trying to figure how the hell I could ditch these shallow women.

I'm not saying all thin women are terrible, but the best times I've ever had were with females that upon a quick glance might not meet "society's" standards of sexy. And do we really want to judge ourselves by the rest of society? I hope not. Have the confidence to be yourself.

I've met several women of various physical appearance who might grab my eye initially, but regardless of shape, color, or weight, I'm sorry that I ever gave some of them the time of day.

No, I'm not trying to come off as Mr. High and Mighty. Yes, I'm guilty of ogling plump thighs, sweet, round asses, big hips and softly padded tummies. Geez, the visual is making me hyperventilate. . .!!!

There. . .I'm okay. . .Whew!

I love an articulate, intelligent, confident woman, who can hold a meaningful conversation. THAT is the epitome of sexy to me.

How do you let someone know you have these traits? YOU TALK TO HIM!!! Smile at a male and say "hi" to him. That won't hurt you.

And here's a simple line that might make you think I'm an old man: if you can't get past the initial greeting, do you really want to be with someone so shallow? Think about it, ladies, you deserve and should desire a "man". . .not a "guy."

Hey, I hope I don't come off as a hypocrite, but it's the HEALTHY woman that catches my eye. Yeah, the one with the HEALTHY helping of thighs, hips, ass, belly, etc. And the breasts - regardless of size or shape - MUST be REAL.

My motto? The hips and lips might catch my attention, but you better have more than that to hold it.

well said sweety and Thank You

 

[scott40]

xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[tidwel]

Seeking BBW in Maine

Im just gonna say a truly beautiful woman
has curves upstairs and down.

 

[powderkeg]

i think the biggest confidence issue that most of us fat chicks have is the fact that almost all of us GREW UP this way. kids were cruel and boys didn't date fat girls in high school.

the times have SO changed since we were in high school (no matter when you were!) and guys have (for the most part) grown up about it. in high school, everything was about your peers and not wanting to be made fun of, but now.. most guys are actually capable of having independent thoughts. go figure!

it is ABSOLUTELY about your attitude. i was the shy little "no one will ever think i'm pretty" girl until i was 20 years old. then i just said fuck it. i'm going to love who i am. i went out and started to shop more (it really helps if you can even just find clothes that you're confident in -- not the "DRESS BARN" cow blankets) and i can't even tell you how quickly i got asked out after that. i've been with my boyfriend now (a normal looking guy) for over a year and he absolutely loves me for me. i am not a fetish to him.

you'll have guys hit on you that are just looking for a fling, but guys hit on girls for that ALL OF THE TIME no matter WHAT they look like. you'll also have guys that you think are trying to make fun of you -- usually, they're not. if you think the guy's hot, let it happen. if you think he's a jerk, tell him to fuck off. you're a woman just like i'm a woman just like she's a woman and somebody is out there who absolutely LOVES whatever you ARE. skinny girls might date more, but that doesn't mean they get to have the happier lives.

if you're going to date online, don't misrepresent yourself to potential boyfriends/girlfriends/etc. no matter what you're like. even if your fetish is licking shoehorns, you should be upfront about it. i'm also kind of sick of the "someone will see the REAL you" as if the REAL me is buried deep inside my layers of fat. psh! this IS the real me, it's right there. if it helps, i have a mantra for whenever i feel nervous about anything, including feeling like i'm being looked down upon because of my weight: "i am true to myself, i transcend all _______." fill in the blank. confusion, stereotypes, idiots, whatever you want.

sorry this post is so long, but i'm really passionate about this. bottom line is.. BE TRUE TO YOU and love will ALWAYS follow. i didn't know how straightforward that statement was until i just let all of the trivial stuff go. this isn't high school anymore, you don't have to be ashamed of who you are! there's also one more quote i'd like to share: "there is no such thing as an ugly woman, just a lazy one." meaning.. if you want to look good, you can. it takes self-confidence above all else, but dang girl, get your hair done if you want to! buy the clothes that are most flattering for how beautiful you really are, and that will help your self-esteem grow. if you KNOW you look good, others will, too!

 

[hausfrau]

Powderkeg and mateo, you are my heroes.

I have never in my adult life weighed less than 185 pounds. I cannot ever remember a size smaller than 12. I'm not airbrushed, I don't look like Cindy Crawford, I wouldn't be considered model material by any stretch of the imagination.

Yet I have been approached by many men, of all different races, ages, shapes, and sizes, all of whom appreciated what I am.

Get happy with yourself first, and then other people will get happy with you.