BJ - Ladies, what makes you smile as you go down ?

[LuLu2]

Sounds to me like you probably don't have as good of communication as you think you do. Have you ever flat out asked her if she enjoys it or not? If she said no try to figure out ways together that can make it work for both of you. Maybe she's just as confused as you are You didn't say, but does she EVER give you oral? If so, try to remember the event's that lead up to it and try to recreate it

 

[Lava Rock]

SouthernBBW and AnelizeDarkEyes (among others) your posts are wonderful. Now were getting somewhere.

(and all they had to do was to STOP trying to solve issues that are not there and ((((( ANSWER THE QUESTION ! ))))) Which is " Ladies, what would you like to hear ? "

Why does everyone want to be Dr. Ruth, Dr Luara or Fraizer ???

 

[Noor]

okay I will try and answer the question straight out, within an existing relationship there are usually different signs, looks, sighs whatever but with a new lover what works with is deep kissing me to the point that I am starting to forgot about any other plans then taking my hand in his and putting on his crotch and then saying something very gentlely and quietly about this being another place he'd love the feel of my mouth, tongue, lips or something, I get the point and it doesn't feel like he is demanding being one sided.

 

[lovetoread]

Actually I know he wants one when he tells me to take him into my mouth.

But then again, it may not be what everyone does.

 

[littlecat]

I'd also advise talking about it.

When my hubby and I first started being sexually active, there was a magazine article I read that suggested some cute phrases to tell your lover you wanted to go home and have sex at a party.. Some of them were quite funny, but one that stuck in my head was to make up a phrase that only the two of you would know the true meaning of, but that seemed innocent to everyone else. The exact words escape me over time, but it was somewhere along the lines of "Uncle Jon is coming tonigt over and we have to go"- they suggested using the pet name every man uses for his cock..LOL! You could make up your own phrase with your wife and then use it every time you wanted...

For some reason for us, "a little huggin and kissin" became the phrase used to ask for oral sex. Honestly, all he has to do is mention he is in the mood for 'a little huggin and kissin' and I know whats on his mind!! This is also a great way to let your partner know what's on your mind with the kids around.. They just think that Daddy likes hugs and kisses a lot!!

Good luck!
L.

 

[SeattleBoy]

Whip it out - she'll get the idea

One thing you can do is simply pull it out and start taking care of yourself right in front of her. It's a good way to make sure your engines are all fired up (probably not an issue). She'll probably find it erotic, and it should be pretty clear to her that you are ready for her, not to mention the fact that if she's NOT in the mood to blow you, she might be in the mood to help, and that can be pretty cool all in itself!

 

[SouthernBBW]

Re: Whip it out - she'll get the idea

One thing you can do is simply pull it out and start taking care of yourself right in front of her. It's a good way to make sure your engines are all fired up (probably not an issue). She'll probably find it erotic, and it should be pretty clear to her that you are ready for her, not to mention the fact that if she's NOT in the mood to blow you, she might be in the mood to help, and that can be pretty cool all in itself!

Gotta agree with this too...not much hotter than watching my honey stroke it. And it usually doesn't take me too long to jump in and take over. And for me, using my hands on him usually naturally leads to my mouth as well.

You may get to a point where you won't have to say anything to her. With just a look you can convey what you want.

Or....if she is using her hands on you, start by gently touching her face and slowing lead to GENTLY putting one of your fingers in her mouth. She'll get the hint.

 

[Guest]

smiling...

LR-

Middle of the blue: Sweetie, I am really horny and crave (need, want) your lips around me.

or

Honey, I love the way you take care of me. Would you take care of me now by tormenting (teasing, tasting) me with your tongue?

Both affirm that it is HER that you want.. not just an orgasm... if that were the case you could just jerk off. For me, and most of my friends, when the sex is about the relationship they are much more eager to please. Always brings a smile to my face.

These answers are also are undemanding. Since you indicated you need a phrase for when you "ask", I assume that non-demanding is what you were looking for.

Some women like demanding... my instinctive reaction to the "dominating" phrases is a smile, too.... a smile that says "In your dreams, *hole."

b

 

[Bent]

Lava Rock

Assuming we aren't in bed already with his cock poking me in the back, I would have to say that I honestly never waited for my lovers to give me the 'go ahead'. If I wanted it, I went for it.

There is one definate 'tell' for me, and I wish more guys would have caught on, and that is if he runs his hand up the nape of my neck and pulls my hair gently but firmly. That sends surges up my body just thinking about it. For that, he deserves an extreme cocksucking.

 

[Chicklet]

I smile...

for the camera.

CLICK

 

[ChemE_student]

I've got to agree with Noor and Bent. I also love it when a guy grabs my hair or kisses me hard and then tells me what he wants (perhaps while pressing my body into the wall with his body). I guess it just depends on what you're looking for. Quite frankly, if I sense that all a man wants from me is a blow job, there's not a whole lot he can do that will really turn me on. A person will quickly start to resent a guy who seems to want satisfaction while giving none in return.

On the other hand, once he's got me going sexually by kissing and touching and whispering naughty thoughts, I want him just to push me down on my knees in front of him and pull my face to his cock. It took me FOREVER to convince the only long-term lover I've had that I really wanted him to do this. I gotta say that there are times when, "Suck my cock, bitch," is more of a turn-on than any sexy kisses or cute phrases. If a man takes the time to get me turned on first then ANYTHING he says will make me beg to go down on him.

 

[LadyGwenhevare]

First of all have you talked to her? Does she want to give you head? If she doesn't want to - no matter what cute phrase or thing you do she won't do it. Maybe she doesn't want to for some reason - I posted the following on the thread Need some advice on BJ. Its not written specifically for your situation but seems to me if she doesn't want to you could try some of the following to make her want to.

Anyway back to your situation - there are several articles written on the subject of Blowjobs on Literoticas story pages - under the how to category. She won't go there to read them so print out copies and leave them on her nightstand or something - she will probably read them out of curiousity - if you guys have talked about this before.

As mentioned above smell could be a problem - Always wash well before you hope to get head - a bath is preferable - but a good warm washcloth will work, not just your penis - but wash your balls, under them and your entire ass all the way into your crack - you should be willing to lick every square inch yourself.

Also mentioned above is cum - Maybe she doesn't want you to cum in her mouth - maybe it grosses her out and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I love giving my hubby head - but I really dislike for him to cum in my mouth. (I tell him to fill up a turkey baster with his cum, let me shoot it in his mouth, and swallow it. Then I will let him cum in my mouth everyday for a year. So far he hasn't taken the challenge) So we have an agreement - He will tell me to stop if he starts feeling close to ejaculating. We do other things for a bit and then I go back to head. Sometimes I feel like swallowing and I tell him!! Ask your wife if she wants you to or not.

She might also be worried about choking. Let her know that you will not move your hips or grab her head or anything. Let her be in total control - how fast - how deep etc. Tell her what feels good with words not by shoving your dick down her throat. Promise hands off.

Maybe she doesn't like the taste - buy some yummy lube and ask her to try it - buy more than one flavor and ask her to try them both and decide which is best. Then you can try them on her. What the heck buy ten or twelve flavors - have a little taste testing party. (Hmmm that might be a fun game for this weekend)

Another thing could be hair - getting hair in your mouth is yuck - and when you are moving your mouth up and down - the hair always gets stuck in that spot you can't reach. Ugh! I asked my husband to try going smooth. I bought some hair remover and slathered it all over him - his crotch, his balls, his ass - the works and took off all that hair. God it was awesome. I love giving him head when he is silky smooth. (mmm suck those balls, lick lick lick)Oh yeah sorry. She might not be up to removing your hair herself but you could surprise her - if she doesn't like it - it will grow back soon. Don't shave - that burns and leaves ucky stubble and itches as it grows back in.

Tell her what feels good and where to put her mouth. Up here. Faster etc. Make lots of noises - tell her how great it feels - encouragement goes a long way.

Please let us all know what you try and what happens. Good lick I mean luck!!

PS I think I will start a thread about what is a guys favorite thing while getting head. Maybe we all can learn a few new tricks.

 

[Arden]

So what would you like to hear ? What is the magic phrase, hint or suggestion that not only makes you smile but also says your lover respects you and is highly appreciative of you ???

Turning the tables a bit, I love to ask him if I may take him in my mouth. Why wait to be asked? There is nothing I love more than feeling the soft, warm skin on the head of his cock on my tongue, his firmness on my lips as I slowly progress down the shaft... and I love the feeling of him fucking my mouth ever so gently. Pure bliss... not just for him, but for me because I genuinely love making him happy. Hearing his sighs of pleasure turns me on incredibly... the more excited He becomes, the more I become. Loving his cock gets me extremely wet... mmm.... and you know what that often leads to!

I think experience and maturity has a lot to do with it. Women aren't born knowing how to make love to a man's cock, it's an acquired skill. For myself, I need to feel a strong emotional connection too. I wouldn't put just anyone's cock in my mouth.

Are there magic words at all? Hmmm... you might try a little tenderness, and tell her how much you'd love to feel her incredible tongue kisses "somewhere else". "I want you to suck my cock" can be a turnoff at times. Just asking for some sweet kisses doesn't require a committment from her for a blow job, but handled properly, can always lead there. Show her patience, love and respect by not forcing the issue.

Get comfortable 'playing' with each others genitals, and play often. ~wink~ There is incredible magic in the art of touching each other. Caress her when she's cooking or doing the dishes. Stroke her hair when you hug her, and tell her how beautiful she is to you. Gently run your hands over her bottom when you're kissing each other. Create desire at every opportunity, whether you get a blow job out of it or not. Feeling that wonderful closeness to your lover makes all the difference in the world.

I might venture to say it's a reciprocal thing with me. The more love and affection I feel, the more (and more) I want to give in return to my lover. And the cycle continues...


PS. LadyGwenhevare made some excellent points in her post

 

[HarleydevilzoN]

Ladies, I have found (out of pure respect for my wife) that asking for a blow job is one of the hardest things to ask for. Now before you say it's a comunication thing Don't, We comunicate very well. I find my self just not finding the right words, hints or suggestions that make her smile and want to....

It almost seems to be rude. There must be an easy way that is more romantic than just saying "Uuuh wanna give me a blow job?" which is right up there with "pull my finger".

So what would you like to hear ? What is the magic phrase, hint or suggestion that not only makes you smile but also says your lover respects you and is highly appreciative of you ???

let me ask another way:

The question: Ladies, (if you are unaware) that your man needs/wants oral sex, what is the hint, suggestion or request that you want to hear so that it doesn't repulse or indignify, but perhaps makes you smile ?
(the above situation is during every day activities)

If you have good sex relationship and no need for words I'd go with some gentle forcing ... Wispier in her ear as dirty as you can "Suck me" That is if you don't wonna lick her first ... 99% of a time after you lick her she will go down on you... Naturally since I don't know her I can't say it will work flawlessly. In order for you to get something you need to know how she works and communication is very important. Talk with her about it. Has she gave you B/J before? If she had ask her if she likes to suck your cock. I feel you need to ask her direct questions with out any hits but again I don't know her...

 

[Kaldea]

zippidy do dah

My boyfriend calls his zippy becasue as a child he would catch it in his zipper all the time. Recently he was running late for work and caught it really bad. When he saw me he said he hhad a boo boo and he knew that if my magic lips kissed it zippy would be all better.

 

[CantSayNo]

See now, I really wouldn't know about this because being the true brit I am...I love to give rather than recieve
I really wouldn't know, because at least for me, a blow job is an ESSENTIAL for foreplay...I just love doing it. A man doesn't have to reciprocate, just seeing the look on a guy's face is enough to do me in!

~CantSayNo~