BJ question

[tb07]

I am the first guy my girlfriend ever gave a blowjob to. It is OK, but not how a blowjob is suppose to feel. She does have braces, not sure if that matters. Also, she cannot make a "vaccum". She says it gags her or whatnot. Do you guys have any ideas for newbies other than the traditional things on the internet? Also, what can help her make the right "Vaccum" suck? Thanks!

 

[TBKahuna123]

I am the first guy my girlfriend ever gave a blowjob to. It is OK, but now how a blowjob is suppose to feel.She does have braces, not sure if that matters. Also, she cannot make a "vaccum". She says it gags her or whatnot. Do you guys have any ideas for newbies other than the traditional things on the internet? Also, what can help her make the right "Vaccum" suck? Thanks!

First of all, there is no "right way" to give a blowjob. You are just saying that you want her to suck harder, the problem being that it sets off her gag reflex, right? The solution is simple, practice. She needs to relax and feel comfortable doing it. Overtime her gag reflex will probably relax as well, but it will take some time. Whatever you do, don't push her, that will make her more tense. The first thing to try is having her take less if you in her mouth and use her hand. She'll be able to get more suction that way and it should help with the gag reflex as well. The biggest key is just patience, really.

Good luck.

 

[yoshimitsu]

Do you guys have any ideas for newbies other than the traditional things on the internet? Also, what can help her make the right "Vaccum" suck? Thanks!

What are the traditional things on the internet?
I have heard braces can cause problems. No personal experience though.

 

[tb07]

What are the traditional things on the internet?
I have heard braces can cause problems. No personal experience though.

Normal BJ techniques. I want specific help for her not being able to suck right or whatnot.

Also, thanks TBKahuna123!

 

[rthnck]

to suck at sucking

Telling a girl she sucks at sucking is a sure fire way to ensure that you won't be getting sucked very much, if at all.

She gets high marks for doing it (not all females will) so concentrate on the good stuff, gently (ever so gently) tell her or show her what you like (there is no single way to give a good bj. Men are different despite what women would like to believe).

If she likes to make you feel good and she gives you another one then lay back and enjoy it. Moan when it feels good, guide her if she's not doing what you like and slowly but surely you'll get the bj that you want.

And lastly, make sure you reciprocate

 

[tb07]

Telling a girl she sucks at sucking is a sure fire way to ensure that you won't be getting sucked very much, if at all.

She gets high marks for doing it (not all females will) so concentrate on the good stuff, gently (ever so gently) tell her or show her what you like (there is no single way to give a good bj. Men are different despite what women would like to believe).

If she likes to make you feel good and she gives you another one then lay back and enjoy it. Moan when it feels good, guide her if she's not doing what you like and slowly but surely you'll get the bj that you want.

And lastly, make sure you reciprocate

I do all of that.

 

[Lydia_Trent]

you know if you go to the stories section or even the libraries section (the blank manual) of this forum, i'm sure you will find articles and threads on how to give BJ's, the how to section of the stories section is a wealth of info.

 

[hurtme]

I have a pretty intense gag reflex myself, and there are ways to get aorund it, but its different for everyone. For me, it depends on the day, sometimes its worse than others. I sometimes put my hand on the base of his cock, that way i can stimulate him with my hand, and mouth, but i am not forcing myself to go down so far that i am making retching noises. Another thing that works for me, even though its kind of wierd, flavored lotions. Whenever i use them, my gag reflex seems lessened, i don't really know why, but multiple people have told me the same thing...plus, its always more fun to suck on something cherry flavored!

 

[M's girl]

I am the first guy my girlfriend ever gave a blowjob to. It is OK, but not how a blowjob is suppose to feel.

Well now...... And how is a blowjob supposed to feel? And I suppose you are the expert on giving her oral (and mindblowing orgasms)? I mean....

 

[PertPerth]

I don't think the braces are the problem.

I am the first guy my girlfriend ever gave a blowjob to.

She's probably got no idea what to do or what makes you feel good. I was very naive when I was first with a guy. I really wanted to know what to do, but was always too shy to ask...makes it difficult to improve on things.

My advice is to talk to her and tell her what you like and what to do.(Obviously, no lecturing her or telling her she's not the best you've had!) And keep it fun, try to not make her nervous...will be better for both of you.

 

[mjl2010]

I'd say keep giving lots of encouragement. When she does something particularly nice let her know with louder moans or 'Oh yeah baby like that!'

MJL

 

[rosebud5446]

the more encouragement and praise you give her when she does something you like... the more confidence she will get... the faster she will get better. if you tell her she's not very good or just 'OK'... she probably won't want to do it. be patient. women aren't born knowing how to give head.

 

[EJFan]

women aren't born knowing how to give head.

*scratches this theory off list*

 

[MissT1974]

I am the first guy my girlfriend ever gave a blowjob to. It is OK, but not how a blowjob is suppose to feel. She does have braces, not sure if that matters. Also, she cannot make a "vaccum". She says it gags her or whatnot. Do you guys have any ideas for newbies other than the traditional things on the internet? Also, what can help her make the right "Vaccum" suck? Thanks!

Hey there...from a womens point of view...dont push her...tell her to take less in her mouth and use her hand as well...this will make her more comfortable and willing to go deeper as she gets "better" at getting you off.

You can also get pleasure balm (or some other same product) that will numb...she can put it on her finger and put it in the back of her mouth....helps with the gag reflex.

I can tell you, if you let up, praise her, and help her out...she will start giving great blowjobs...and feel more comfortable about her self and her "performance"

 

[sethp]

from experience..some girls just aren't good at BJ's ...when you find one that is. keep her for life!

 

[rthnck]

practice makes perfect

from experience..some girls just aren't good at BJ's ...when you find one that is. keep her for life!

I disagree. The OP knows what he likes and so far his GF is not tuned in. One guy's perfect BJ is not every guy's perfect BJ. Different sensitivities etc.

On the other side of the coin, my SO does not like a tongue on her clit. Go figure. Anywhere else is great but she's too sensitive so if I take my skills to another female she might be sadly disappointed at my technique which has been honed and perfected for an entirely different person. So it is with a BJ.

Geez, learning what makes your partner tick is more than half the fun.

 

[tb07]

Thanks everyone.

 

[tanyachrs]

I don't think I suck when I give a blow job. Nor do I blow. I, um, slurp, lick, swallow, hum, I don't know. I guess there's a little suction, like what you'd use for a hickey, but not like a vacuum cleaner.

 

[cordite]

First of all, there is no "right way" to give a blowjob.

Definitely true. Suction doesn't do it for me, for example.

the more encouragement and praise you give her when she does something you like... the more confidence she will get... the faster she will get better. if you tell her she's not very good or just 'OK'... she probably won't want to do it. be patient. women aren't born knowing how to give head.

This is excellent advice. It takes time, practice and getting to know your lover (for anything in sex or even relationships). The same advice really works for both you and your girlfriend. Sorry there are no quick fixes in real life.

 

[Honeybee80]

delete

 

[southernsky]

when she does something remotely close to what you want her to do, moan loudly and say "OH THATS IT BABY". Then, after she's doing more of what you want and less of what you don't want, start talking to her with words like "harder", "softer", "more tongue", etc. Use small words and talk her through it. Once she figures out what makes you writhe in pleasure, she's going to do that. Just give her a blow-by-blow (hehe) of what's making you feel good during the act.

 

[Mansa Musa]

Simple. Tie your hands behind your back and tell her to go to town. Of coursae, make sure that you've eaten her into submission. A satisfied woman will do almost anything to ensure that her satisfier is repaid with interest. If she´s still quivering from her orgasm, she´ll probably overlook silly things usch as dry mouth or gag reflex.

Or, you could always do the hot-cold blowjob. If her blowjobs are too dry, prepare a kettle of mint tea and get a jug of cold (not ice) water. Sips of warm mint tea for the tingles, cool water for the aftershocks. Better than deep throat or hard suction.