You know what you get when you take a butch's clothes off? A woman. Boobs and waist and thighs and pussy.. maybe a strapon, but you can talk her out of that too I bet.
Awww Dadi...
What does "dressing straight" mean then?? And @safe_bet, glue-on nails are icky... Just for the recordAnd tonight for example... I was out in a gay bar, in Doc Martens, leggings and a t-shirt, not dressed for anything in particular, and only had a straight guy hit on me and the girls I saw all thought I was straight... Honestly don't get it!
If all of the girls you saw thought you were straight, even after dressing like that, it's something else. Maybe next time you can ask them why they think that way about you.
I have no idea lol
Good luck!
I don't understand why bars keep you out for looking too straight. In my world gay is what you ARE-- or not-- not what you look like.
Of course we would know. Lesbians see all and know all. You'd know that yourself except you sleep with dudes...
You can CALL yourself a lesbian, a bull dyke or a flaming bull frog for that matter but that doesn't change the definition of the term. Bottom line is that a lesbian doesn't sleep with men. (IMO)
Even though I'd sooner sew myself shut than let some dude stick his dick in me ever again, someday I might change my mind (HEY! It could happen!) and fuck some dude. THEN I wouldn't be a lesbian . Get it? Fuck a dude, lose your lesbian card. We don't get to pick and choose the meaning of a definition.
BTW, you know what we call a hetero chick that sleeps with a lesbian???? You got it = BI!
I am cracking up laughing!
If I were single and looking to have fun with another woman, I would dress accordingly. I wouldn't put on an evening gown and heels for example lol
Of course I contradicted myself, because she gave me more information that changed what i was seeing. I could keep on saying "Well, it OUGHT to be THIS way," but what good has that ever done us?
Oooh yeah...Luna_Wolf72 said:
I understand your frustration.
I'm one of the girliest girls you'll meet.
Except you probably won't meet me.
But still.
I'm attracted to women and women only.
I love everything about femininity. I love feminine women and I love being feminine.
That isn't ever going to change. It's a part of who I am.
However. I don't have any issues with the more masculine women.
Lesbians who's appearances are more androgynous or masculine (and for that matter, gay men who's appearance/ behavior is more feminine) is because that is how they feel comfortable. The same goes for heterosexuals in terms of things such as a "tomboy" look or a "metro" fashion.
The fact is, there is a diversity of gender expression among all women and men no matter what their sexual orientation is.
I think the real issue you're dealing with here is the stereotype.
Why are all lesbians stereotyped to be masculine?
Who knows. I guess because it was originally thought that liking women is a man's domain.
However, we are in fact real women. So that isn't the case.
Furthermore, butch lesbians are what's portrayed in movies, in television, and in the general media so people stereotype all gay girls as being that way.
There are butch lesbians of course, but there are plenty of the opposite as well.
Different but similar for stereotypes, a lot of times men will be portrayed as very flamboyant for the purpose of comedy reasons.
It's normal for stereotypes so it's just one of the things we have to deal with.
It isn't that the stereotypical gay people are bad of course. There's nothing wrong with them.
It's just that the stereotype effects all the non-stereotypical ones. :]
But don't let it bother you.
No two people are the same. Homosexuality doesn't define who you are as a person.
Just like everyone else, lesbians come in many different colors.
Some of them are attracted to butch women and some are attracted to feminine women just like you and me.
Edit: oh. and as for looking butch just to be recognized as gay.
There's really no need for that.
Homosexuality is a part of us.
But that doesn't mean we have to change ourselves in anyway because of it.
Always be true to yourself. Always be yourself.
If you want to let people know you're gay easier, then you can wear lesbian jewelry and things like that.
It can do wonders and help cut down on awkwardness when a girl doesn't know whether she should hit on you or not. :]
There's actually a site that started up with this very pretty rainbow bracelet. Nothing out of the ordinary. But it doesn't actually cost money. They send them to people for free. It's for LGBT members and those who support it.
So things like that can say something too.
So maybe that'd help you.
I understand your frustration.
I'm one of the girliest girls you'll meet.
Except you probably won't meet me.
But still.
I'm attracted to women and women only.
I love everything about femininity. I love feminine women and I love being feminine.
That isn't ever going to change. It's a part of who I am.
However. I don't have any issues with the more masculine women.
Lesbians who's appearances are more androgynous or masculine (and for that matter, gay men who's appearance/ behavior is more feminine) is because that is how they feel comfortable. The same goes for heterosexuals in terms of things such as a "tomboy" look or a "metro" fashion.
The fact is, there is a diversity of gender expression among all women and men no matter what their sexual orientation is.
I think the real issue you're dealing with here is the stereotype.
Why are all lesbians stereotyped to be masculine?
Who knows. I guess because it was originally thought that liking women is a man's domain.
However, we are in fact real women. So that isn't the case.
Furthermore, butch lesbians are what's portrayed in movies, in television, and in the general media so people stereotype all gay girls as being that way.
There are butch lesbians of course, but there are plenty of the opposite as well.
Different but similar for stereotypes, a lot of times men will be portrayed as very flamboyant for the purpose of comedy reasons.
It's normal for stereotypes so it's just one of the things we have to deal with.
It isn't that the stereotypical gay people are bad of course. There's nothing wrong with them.
It's just that the stereotype effects all the non-stereotypical ones. :]
But don't let it bother you.
No two people are the same. Homosexuality doesn't define who you are as a person.
Just like everyone else, lesbians come in many different colors.
Some of them are attracted to butch women and some are attracted to feminine women just like you and me.
Edit: oh. and as for looking butch just to be recognized as gay.
There's really no need for that.
Homosexuality is a part of us.
But that doesn't mean we have to change ourselves in anyway because of it.
Always be true to yourself. Always be yourself.
If you want to let people know you're gay easier, then you can wear lesbian jewelry and things like that.
It can do wonders and help cut down on awkwardness when a girl doesn't know whether she should hit on you or not. :]
There's actually a site that started up with this very pretty rainbow bracelet. Nothing out of the ordinary. But it doesn't actually cost money. They send them to people for free. It's for LGBT members and those who support it.
So things like that can say something too.
So maybe that'd help you.
*strikes a pose*
are you imagining that I look delicious?
*strikes a pose*
*blush*
Is there something in your eye?
maybe...
I've been there. It's mighty fine place to be.
I am going to agree with you by quoting someone from another forum entirely:Well I might be "some idiot that likes to pigeonhole a person against their will" but that STILL doesnt change definitions. If a woman fucks other women while "sometimes" fucks guys, and intends to keep doing both as the opportunity presents itself then she is by definition a bisexual.
You might think that's unfair, but you need to take that up with those other pigionholing idiots = Mr. Webster or Msrs. Funk and Wagnall.
BTW, please also do no imply that I have any problems with somebody who is bi or pan. For example I love Luna and Stella. I just would never fuck either of them if I didn't know in their heart of hearts that they intend to only be with women from this point forward. That's because I "identify" as someone who don't fuck people who intend to ever fuck a man again.
Besides all of that, a chick that turns me on could be anything from a girly femme like my Suzy was or a flannel and mullet wearing bull dyke. THAT part is all about the person.
(BDSM in that case but queer identity in this one)
