Calling Too Much?

[RazeByFire]

I have this thing about phones. I hate them. They seem so ineffecient. The person you are calling never seems to be there, or they can't talk long, etc..

So how do you know if you're calling someone too much? And the answer is not- 'If you have to ask-, ' cause I asked myself that the day I called her twice and got no answer.

 

[Chicklet]

is it a cellphone that they can see how many times you called even if you don't leave a message? cause i think that it's easier to call "too much" if they can see that they missed 30 of your calls...

 

[Bystander]

depends on what kind of relationship it is.
Personally I wouldn't call more than once if it was just someone I was dating. Leave a message

If its your gf/bf or spouse then well some people call a lot some people don't. Its a matter of comfort. I think though that if you're doing something nuts like calling 15-20 times a day then that would get annoying for most people. But I do have a friend who used to call his GF (and she called him) a gazillion times a day. And we all attended the same damn school too so its not like they were long distance.

 

[cherokee99]

Some people enjoy talking on the phone, some don't and many are indifferent. I happen to NOT enjoy talking on the phone for long periods of time. If I was in a relationship with someone who liked to chat on the phone, I would let them know how I felt. That way they wouldn't misunderstand my lack of enthusiasm for when they call.

peace,
Cherokee

 

[Recidiva]

You have to ask them and say "Am I calling you too much?"

 

[Xectxny19X]

Well, I think calling once and just leaving a message is a pretty ideal way to go about it. It'll be up to the other person whether they'd want to call back or not. If it's a cell phone, some cell phones when they're turned of don't record 'missed calls' unless the person calling keys in a specific number to leave a call back number. Goodluck.

 

[mlady_france]

See I've been asking myslef this lately as well. I'm in a longdistance relationship and he doesn't answer his phone most of the time! So I call once, and maybe one more time a little later on, just incase he had it on silent or something. Then I fight the urge to call again for a couple of days, but that brings me to my other problem.

How many email/offline messages are too much? If I haven't gotten the chance to chat or talk to him in a couple days I tend to leave 5 or 6. I've been trying not to leave one everyday, but getting down to one or two a day seems like just as much a problem.

 

[WaitingTesting]

Well, I think calling once and just leaving a message is a pretty ideal way to go about it.

Agreed.

 

[Xectxny19X]

See I've been asking myslef this lately as well. I'm in a longdistance relationship and he doesn't answer his phone most of the time! So I call once, and maybe one more time a little later on, just incase he had it on silent or something. Then I fight the urge to call again for a couple of days, but that brings me to my other problem.

How many email/offline messages are too much? If I haven't gotten the chance to chat or talk to him in a couple days I tend to leave 5 or 6. I've been trying not to leave one everyday, but getting down to one or two a day seems like just as much a problem.

*smiles* I can definitely understand where you're coming from. I think when we like someone very much or miss them, we just go a little crazy...well, I do. *winks*

It depends on the other person, when it comes to how many emails/offlines you want to leave. How much does this person KIT(keep in touch) with you? I think the ratios of leaving msgs should be even...in my opinion of course. Different things work for diff. people afterall.

There's probably the thought of...
- if i leave too many, the sender will appear needy
- if too little is left, the sender will appear indifferent

haha, really, where is the balance hu? I'd go w/ if you tend to leave very short msgs...1x everyday is okay. If you tend to write really long msgs, do it once a week or every 2 days.

Control the impulse! hehe! I remember I used to e-mail this girl I like right away, when it would take her a week to reply back. Now if I have the urge to e-mail her back right away, I just e-mail a short msg. If I need to write a long-winded one, I'll wait a week. It works for me.

Well, goodluck!

 

[RazeByFire]

Thanks for your help everybody. I really just needed to hear what I already knew from somebody else- It's different for everyone. I asked her and we're cool in that regard. Set a few limits but nothing I can't deal with.

As for the rest of the... whatever we've got... well, we'll have to see about that.

Thanks again.