Can you always feel it?

[Jammy20]

I have been in a relationship with my SO for about two and a half years, and I have managed to give her G-spot orgasms. (an amazing feeling) I'm pretty sure this has worked because she has squirted everywhere. (we had to turn the mattress over because it was soaked through) my only problem is that she told me that she didn't notice when she was cumming. This has also happened with clitoral orgasms.

I know that she has been through a lot of awful sexual situations in the past. I do care about her more than anything and it would mean a lot to me if I was

A: able to make her feel it
B: able to find out why this happens

I am curious to discover if this is a common problem (women being able to cum but not being able to feel it) since I have been in other relationships before and have enjoyed some great times and have been told it is DEFINATELY something you can feel. Is this a physical thing, or something psychological?

I have the PHYSICAL evidence, but its important to me to find out why she doesn't feel anything when she ejaculates. I know that before she met me I know that she'd never had an orgasm before, I suppose I'd just like to know if we should see someone about this or if it is a normal thing. This isn't just some male prowess thing, I want her to be able to have the experience, and if she can't to find out what could cause this to happen.

Thanks for your time.

Jamie

 

[LadyJeanne]

I feel every orgasm. Some might be stronger than others, but I feel each one.

I've only 'squirted' twice from g-stimulation, and I will say those orgasms felt milder than my clit orgasms, but I think that's probably unusual. I hear most ladies say their g-gasms are more powerful than clit orgasms.

I'm not sure what might be causing your girlfriend not to feel them, unless maybe she's overstimulated? My first clit orgasm is usually very strong, then subsequent ones get milder and milder and require more stimulation.

Sorry I don't have any useful advice.

 

[BoneHur7]

Question

Does she pass out when she squirts? If not, does her whole body shake uncontrollably, or at lease her legs? I have seen some clips where the woman literally trembles, her tummy fluttering wildly and the body goes through rapid jerking movements of the lower body, as if she is experiencing electric shocks.

 

[Quoll]

I would be inclined to think it is more psychological, particularly since she has had some traumatic experiences in the past. If you have physical evidence of her having an orgasm, then it is reasonable to assume that her body is responding to physical stimulation. She may not be allowing herself to feel anything, blocking out any pleasurable aspects of it.
I would consider a visit to a gyno just to be sure, but if I am reading things correctly, then counselling would certainly be something to seriously consider.

 

[kaledonia]

just because..

..a woman squirts doesnt mean she's had an orgasm! Its not the same as for men..I squirt with a lot of g stimulation, but haven't experienced anything that I would call an orgasm at the same time. However, I do have to be in a highly aroused state before this can happen, and I certainly get into a blissful state which can last for hours. But none of that up and over thing that, for me, typifies clitoral or piv orgasm.

 

[M's girl]

..a woman squirts doesnt mean she's had an orgasm!

That's what I wanted to say. Not that I'm the expert because I never squirt, nor do I have G-spot orgasms. Hell, I don't even think I have the G-spot accessory period! But I would say if you orgasm you will feel it one way or another. Mine (which are purely clit orgasms) are sometimes stronger than at other times. Indeed state of mind has a lot to do with that as well.

I think that when a woman squirts (as far as I know) it's just a certain area/point being stimulated that causes juices to flow. No orgasm needed for that. In the end male orgasms and ejeculation are two entirely different things too. It's only that with men they happen at the same time in some 95% (or so) of all cases.

 

[Gypsy_Lis]

I have been in a relationship with my SO for about two and a half years, and I have managed to give her G-spot orgasms. (an amazing feeling) I'm pretty sure this has worked because she has squirted everywhere. (we had to turn the mattress over because it was soaked through) my only problem is that she told me that she didn't notice when she was cumming. This has also happened with clitoral orgasms.

I know that she has been through a lot of awful sexual situations in the past. I do care about her more than anything and it would mean a lot to me if I was

A: able to make her feel it
B: able to find out why this happens

I am curious to discover if this is a common problem (women being able to cum but not being able to feel it) since I have been in other relationships before and have enjoyed some great times and have been told it is DEFINATELY something you can feel. Is this a physical thing, or something psychological?

I have the PHYSICAL evidence, but its important to me to find out why she doesn't feel anything when she ejaculates. I know that before she met me I know that she'd never had an orgasm before, I suppose I'd just like to know if we should see someone about this or if it is a normal thing. This isn't just some male prowess thing, I want her to be able to have the experience, and if she can't to find out what could cause this to happen.

Thanks for your time.

Jamie

I am not an expert but I would have to say it is psychological. Whenever I have g-orgasm, my legs shake, electric shocks coursing throughout my body and squirt everywhere. I would think that the best thing you could do for her is to talk about whatever it is bothering her and why it is causing her not to feel any orgasms. I went through the same thing and it took me a while to achieve orgasms because of my past. Hang in there.

Gypsy_Lis

 

[ChocolateHarlot]

I agree with a couple of the other ladies here, I can squirt without having an orgasm, seems to be a reaction to G spot stimulation. But I always know when I have a clitoral orgasm as they are really powerful 9 times out of 10.

 

[thirty]

I've only 'squirted' twice from g-stimulation,
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I'm wondering what exactly g-stimulation is: it means finger-fucking?

 

[phoenix1224]

I'm wondering what exactly g-stimulation is: it means finger-fucking?

It could be through manual stimulation... Or through stimulation using toys... Or through certain (PIV) sexual positions.

 

[LadyJeanne]

It could be through manual stimulation... Or through stimulation using toys... Or through certain (PIV) sexual positions.

Yes, exactly. It's stimulation of the g-spot using fingers, toys, or penis. The trick is finding the spot and putting the right kind of stimulation/pressure on it. Not every woman is able to come from g-stimulation - it's very rare for me, but some ladies seem to have no trouble.

 

[buxxxom]

stopping too soon?

I am able to experience a g-orgasm and squirt. For me, the gush of fluid comes about 10 seconds before the orgasm. Could it be that you are stopping a little too sooon and not letting her finish? Also, sometimes I get the feeling that I am at an orgasmic plateau (read just before orgasm) and need a little something different to get me over the top. She may be super-excited already and you need to add a tiny bit of variation so she can notice the new stimulation and reach her climax. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Gypsy_Lis]

I am able to experience a g-orgasm and squirt. For me, the gush of fluid comes about 10 seconds before the orgasm. Could it be that you are stopping a little too sooon and not letting her finish? Also, sometimes I get the feeling that I am at an orgasmic plateau (read just before orgasm) and need a little something different to get me over the top. She may be super-excited already and you need to add a tiny bit of variation so she can notice the new stimulation and reach her climax. Just my 2 cents.

I totally agree with you. It happens to me often when I am not super turned on, I had those squirts right before the orgasm or I would lose it and try again. One has to be super turned on to have that kind of g-spot orgasm or a full body orgasm experience. One time I had that kind of experience, clit and ass areas were stilumated and it was an awesome experience. Try different stimulations and see what happens. It depends on everybody...all kinds of stimulations that may set her off with gspot orgasm without squirting too soon right before the orgasm.

Gypsy_Lis

 

[lettinggo]

I had a response typed out before I went back and read about the gush preceding the orgasm. I don't squirt, but my partner has commented on the gush a couple times recently when I hadn't orgasmed. I thought it was odd, but now it makes sense.

I seem to have a mental block that won't let me release with a partner. It's something we've been working on, and I'm getting closer. Perhaps those couple times I was even closer than I'd realized.

 

[Gypsy_Lis]

I had a response typed out before I went back and read about the gush preceding the orgasm. I don't squirt, but my partner has commented on the gush a couple times recently when I hadn't orgasmed. I thought it was odd, but now it makes sense.

I seem to have a mental block that won't let me release with a partner. It's something we've been working on, and I'm getting closer. Perhaps those couple times I was even closer than I'd realized.

Don't give up. Try not to think about anything even including the gspot. Let your partner do the job. It took me a while to figure that out. I was either tensed or not trusting myself or my partner. Should that happens again, stop for a moment and try again. In my case, I was uneducated about gspot and was told that I peed the bed which hurt my feelings and embarrassed me. Last year, I had to take a class for hands on experiences and to learn the techiques to relax and breathe. I even had to buy books to educate myself about the gspot.

Let it flow!!

Gypsy_Lis

 

[lettinggo]

Thanks for the advice Gypsy. My problem isn't just with the g-spot O. I don't know why it's so difficult. I can get myself there in under 2 minutes when I'm alone. But even when fully relaxed, using the same technique it's much harder with a partner there. The best results seem to be with him teasing my nipples or giving attention to my neck or wrists while I do the work.

I read somewhere that the natural response when you get the 'gotta go' sensation is to hold back and you should make a conscious effort to push forth instead. I'm working on that, but it isn't natural so it isn't easy. My sweet, wonderful partner has worked me over for so long that his hand cramps up. Fortunately, he can reach the spot just as effectively with PIV.

The next step is to get a g-spot vibe, so I can relieve myself of the guilt of working him so hard. He's well experienced in making it happen, and is convinced that I can get there (the orgasm, as opposed to the squirt is the goal for us) with time and patience. He knows I'm primed for practice as long and as often as he'd like.

 

[Gypsy_Lis]

Thanks for the advice Gypsy. My problem isn't just with the g-spot O. I don't know why it's so difficult. I can get myself there in under 2 minutes when I'm alone. But even when fully relaxed, using the same technique it's much harder with a partner there. The best results seem to be with him teasing my nipples or giving attention to my neck or wrists while I do the work.

I read somewhere that the natural response when you get the 'gotta go' sensation is to hold back and you should make a conscious effort to push forth instead. I'm working on that, but it isn't natural so it isn't easy. My sweet, wonderful partner has worked me over for so long that his hand cramps up. Fortunately, he can reach the spot just as effectively with PIV.

The next step is to get a g-spot vibe, so I can relieve myself of the guilt of working him so hard. He's well experienced in making it happen, and is convinced that I can get there (the orgasm, as opposed to the squirt is the goal for us) with time and patience. He knows I'm primed for practice as long and as often as he'd like.

You go girl!!! You are very very lucky to have a very loving partner!! True about the holding back and push forth part is very difficult!!! I don't know why it was so difficult for me too. It is just takes time and practice.

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