cannot orgasm from oral sex

[NippleMuncher]

Besides being a nipple muncher, I'm quite fond of the pink as well. I always pay attention to how my technique affects my partner and will vary it accordingly. With my current lover, I took her to the boookstore and we read different "how to" sex books for different ideas tht we each might enjoy. I have to say that we found quite a few. One in particular pertains to this subject and it recommended using a flat broad tongue pressed into the folds of the labia drawn from the base and up and over the clit. In particular, broad and flat across the clit.

I tend to alternate that with kissing and licking of the inner thighs and creases of the legs/torso (sides of the V), with tender suckling of the clit and labia, and kisses all over the mound. While I'm kissing the mound I will usually also shower some kisses on her stomach, belly button, and her sides. I also gently massage her sides and stomach while I'm kissing.

She had (yes, that was HAD ) the same no orgasm from oral problem and lack of oral interest, but with a little patience and the right partner (that would be me ) she not only ENJOYS oral, she gets off everytime I do it for her. It helps that I LOVE my job which makes me quite good at it. She did have to guide me (through squirms and moans) initially to what felt best. Another of her problems was that SHE was the pleasure giver, never the RECEIVER. So, she didn't know how to just relax and allow someone to make lover to her. I guess that's TWO things I've cured her of...

As everyone else has said, communication is key. Be willing to openly discuss your likes and desires. Go to a bookstore and read up on the subject with your partner, you'll BOTH learn a few tricks. And finally, if he's got to pry your legs apart with a crowbar, then you're WWAAYYY too tense and the wonderful oppotunities that await you will be out of reach. My baby LOVES a nice warm bath and a glass of wine to relax (not necessarily before sex). Maybe something similar would work for you. Maybe if you include your lover in your bath you could relax together, he could massage your back, shoulders, maybe do a little all over massage.

OOh, what have we here?? Now isn't THAT an appropriate smilie to be using!!

 

[Bandit58]

Another of her problems was that SHE was the pleasure giver, never the RECEIVER. So, she didn't know how to just relax and allow someone to make lover to her.

That's MY problem right there. I love to give pleasure to another, but when it comes to receiving it I feel self-conscious and my mind works overtime.......I feel pleasure but just can't relax enough to get over the edge. The few times I have climaxed I used a vibrator so maybe we need to bring that in more often

 

[NippleMuncher]

My recommendation is to just try and relax and allow yourself to be pleasured by your partner. I too suffered from one sided sex and it wasn't very fulfilling. I LOVE to give pleasure, but it is also GREAT to receive it.

something that might help is to make love making more playful. Take the "seriousness" off of it by gettng a can of whipped cream (the aerosol kind) and just get a little wild with it. The most fun I've ever had was with a can of whipped cream. We got it EVERYWHERE, the bed, the floors, the walls (good thing it was a hotel room! LOL). Another thing that I've found incredibly erotic for both partners is to give/get and oil massage! Your hands just glide over your lovers skin and both parners get worked up into quite a frenzy. Obviously, for sex play, a flavored or edible oil is best to use, not baby oil.

Here's looking to you kid,