Can't feel him cum

[Juliewife]

feeling him cum

I agree with the other women, I can feel his penis pulsing as he cums, that is true with any man I have had sex with, but I cannot feel the actual semen squirting into me. Never have felt that. Still, sometimes it seems like I can because I know it is going in there and it all feels so good.

 

[Firefly69]

I was told that they do not anesthetize for the procedure. And I do believe it was a LEEP that I had yes. Believe me I really wished I had been out for it. Believe me I'm horrified I was awake for it too.

You may have had something different then a LEEP. A LEEP uses an electric wire loop to slice off problem areas. If freezing was involved as you said it was in your case- it was more likely cryocautery. I don't think they usually do use any anesthetic. Nitrous Oxide is used to freeze the area. There is no cutting, burning or bleeding during the procedure. Its usually done right in a regular examination room. Most people don't feel much pain-- if any, at all. I would be concerned that it was so painful for you.

Still- I don't see why they couldn't have used a local anesthetic. I had a LEEP done a few year ago. They used a local anesthetic and I didn't feel a thing for the entire procedure. And yes, I was awake. The only thing I felt, was the prick of the needle when the local was administered. Later, I did feel a bit sore and crampy, but that was about it. (the colposcopy was more painful then the LEEP!)

Its also good to take some Ibuprofen before these procedures to minimize cramping during them.


Now on the the OP's question! As other women have said- most women DO NOT feel a mans semen when he ejaculates. Its pretty unusual. You are more likely to feel the pulses in his penis. Also, as the other women mentioned-- you only really feel it when its coming out. You can feel the wetness and thats about it.

Tell your boyfriend that you are completely normal and he shouldn't be disappointed about it. Chances are, he will NEVER find a woman who can feel the actual semen shooting out when he ejaculates.

 

[GrimsPet]

Firefly: I did take ibuprofen before the procedure as I was instructed to. However it did NOTHING to ease the pain. I was so lightheaded after the procedure that my Father who had driven me to the Doctor's office that day had to help me walk out of the office. Local anesthetic would have been a blessing but they didn't do that. I was concerned that it hurt as bad as it did but my Doctor said not to worry about it!

 

[Que]

Is he worried you'll think he faked the goofy look on his face and the heavy-lidded descent to the pillow?

 

[PoetessEm]

Sometimes

My current boyfriend I cannot feel. But I was with a guy once (literally one time) and he came deep in me and definitely felt it. I could feel the pulse, and the cum.. A hot feeling. Maybe I was more sensitive, who knows.

 

[Calypso]

In the stories on Lit. the woman always feels the ejaculation of semen hitting her vagina walls/cervix. In real life we don't. It's just one of those things that happens in fantasy and erotic stories but not in life.

I don't think a man should feel disappointed about this, it's just human anatomy. Tell him to get over it.

I think it's written like that in LIT stories & romance novels because we'd like to be able to actually feel it. But as Cameo says, it's not real life. At least it seem to be a rare thing in real life, based on posts in this thread.

 

[A_gentleman_lvr]

You can't feel it because his pressure is low. Tell him to eat mangos and it will up the pressure when he ejaculates.

I have never heard this before. I can only remember once or twice when my partner said she felt me coming. I think she was surprised too because it was like "Oh! I feel you cumming!!" Now that was an ego boost but most of the time I think she knows I'm done because of how I move or or how it feels inside her.

 

[Ex Princess]

I have never heard this before. I can only remember once or twice when my partner said she felt me coming. I think she was surprised too because it was like "Oh! I feel you cumming!!" Now that was an ego boost but most of the time I think she knows I'm done because of how I move or or how it feels inside her.

I could feel my ex when he would cum inside of me. His core body temperature was very hot a lot of the time and his semen would be EXTREMELY warm feeling to me and his cock would throb very hard. I think just the way our bodies were built I could feel him, not sure if I have ever felt anyone else and I am very sensitive in that area.

 

[missmuffet69s]

I can tell you've never had surgery done in that area.
Twelve years ago I was told I had the beginnings of cancer on my cervix. They went up there and FROZE half my cervix off. That pain was frankly about as close as I'll ever get to childbirth. I almost fainted on the table. I was lightheaded, breaking out in sweat and the world had an odd fuzzy look to it and I was SCREAMING! I can't even find words to describe how awful and piercing that pain felt! And it seemed to radiate though my entire vagina and it stayed that way with every movement for a few days afterwards.

I would have given anything to have been knocked out for that procedure!

To answer the OP's question:
Before I had this procedure I could indeed feel a guy cum in me. Now I can't. I can sense that he's cumming, I can feel his cock as it pulses but past that I can't feel him cumming anymore.

I am sorry you had that experience, I have had the LEEP done twice, once under GA as I was having a 2nd procedure done and one in my dr's office, he did inject a local into my cervix that time.

as for feeling my man cum, I can feel his cock pulsate as he does cum, and then there is the 'wet spot' that is the final giveaway lol

 

[aniowachick]

My hubby is usually buried deep inside while he is coming, I dont think there is room to feel him spurt.

Anyway like I said, he gets very hard and it gets very warm

 

[amyforfun]

I can feel the pulsating and then (mentally feel) the squirt. I know I can't really feel the squit, but as Princess said, I can feel a warmer liquid in me. I have always been able to feel this, except when we used condoms. Then I just felt the pulsating.

Tell him he is still having sex with you, you are cumming, he is cumming.....stop complaining. LOL

 

[LoveNotHate]

I never feel it, and a few times I'll keep going because I'll have no idea. And then he'll seem slightly offended and ask "You didn't feel that?" I have to pay close attention to his face and some other verbal/non-verbal cues to know that he's come.

I am so glad I'm not alone on this, and to find out it's actually the common reaction.

 

[Cattypuss]

I can feel the pulsating and then (mentally feel) the squirt. I know I can't really feel the squit, but as Princess said, I can feel a warmer liquid in me.

Easily the week's most entertaining typo




(just in case this is a UK-only word.... it means diarrhoea)

 

[pullmyhair3717]

I never feel it, and a few times I'll keep going because I'll have no idea. And then he'll seem slightly offended and ask "You didn't feel that?" I have to pay close attention to his face and some other verbal/non-verbal cues to know that he's come.

I am so glad I'm not alone on this, and to find out it's actually the common reaction.

im with you most of the time i cant feel the cum but I can here in his breathing and feel his legs shake... just have to be perceptive thats all

 

[Soebek110]

My girlfriend actually made me rewrite a chunk of my stories because the ladies in them could feel their gentlemen coming, which she reliably informs me is simply not something that happens. The thought of knowing the guy is coming, or feeling his body twitch and seeing his eyes dilate and his breathing deepen, of feeling his thrusts becoming jerky and hearing him moan... that's all reasonable. But to actually feel the physical sensations of semen splashing inside her is very, very unlikely.

 

[lisas_touch]

Only during a blow job

i can when it's a blow job, but not inside me. The inside of the vagina really stretches to accommodate the erect penis. So there's not a lot of open space in there, other wise it wouldn't feel as good as it does to a guy. with now open space, the sperm comes out against the walls, not shooting across to hit the cervix like a drawing from the bathroom wall. While the outside of the penis is loaded with sensitive nerve endings, the inside of the vagina and the cervix aren't. Which is probably a good thing, or there wouldn't be so many babies in the world and no one would want. to wear a tampon.( But who's not to say that some can't feel it? – we are all different in some ways.)

But oh yes, can i feel him pulse when he comes. Especially if he thrusts deep and just stays there and i lay still. I remember the first time we tried that, that was such a cool feeling.

I may not feel it go in, but I know when I stand up, he's left something behind!

 

[SusieBond]

i can't either. i didn't know you were supposed to be able to.

What Patchouli said. And I'm an old lady with experience.

 

[icandothis]

i can when it's a blow job, but not inside me. The inside of the vagina really stretches to accommodate the erect penis. So there's not a lot of open space in there, other wise it wouldn't feel as good as it does to a guy. with now open space, the sperm comes out against the walls, not shooting across to hit the cervix like a drawing from the bathroom wall. While the outside of the penis is loaded with sensitive nerve endings, the inside of the vagina and the cervix aren't. Which is probably a good thing, or there wouldn't be so many babies in the world and no one would want. to wear a tampon.( But who's not to say that some can't feel it? – we are all different in some ways.)

But oh yes, can i feel him pulse when he comes. Especially if he thrusts deep and just stays there and i lay still. I remember the first time we tried that, that was such a cool feeling.

I may not feel it go in, but I know when I stand up, he's left something behind!

I think your's is probably the most accurate description. But be that as it may, I've always said I can feel him inside me when he cums . . . and I'll stand by that. I'm not sure how to describe it though. I can feel his cock stiffen, and then start pulsing and then I can feel a warm sensation of something "spilling" inside of me . . . like a small saucer of warm water that tips over allowing the warmth to spread. It doesn't happen everytime, I have to be still and aware and in the moment.

 

[Mac98]

Bullshit. They usually give you a healthy dose of a narcotic painkiller at least.

I don't think you should be calling bullshit on someone's story like that unless you were there present at the moment to say otherwise...

Believe me, there's a FAIR SHARE of quack doctors out there and I'm sure I'm not the only one to have experienced them first hand...

 

[SweetErika]

I don't think you should be calling bullshit on someone's story like that unless you were there present at the moment to say otherwise...

Believe me, there's a FAIR SHARE of quack doctors out there and I'm sure I'm not the only one to have experienced them first hand...

I didn't. I called bullshit on the doctor saying they don't anesthetize for the procedure because that's simply not true.

 

[Mac98]

I didn't. I called bullshit on the doctor saying they don't anesthetize for the procedure because that's simply not true.

I know... what I'm saying is that you don't know that beyond certainty. lol.

 

[akatrex]

Have you're Honey Freeze them Balls!

http://www.scribbls.com/images/drawings/f/Frozen%20Balls.png

It comes out Frosty like Frozen Yogurt!

 

[RAddams]

My wife has at times felt my ejaculation hit inside her but it is rare. She usually knows because of my pulsing or the crazy noises and facial expressions I make. If your man is silent and exhibits no physical change during climax than maybe the problem isn't you it is him?

 

[Hhot]

Lie on your stomach, legs together, have him straddle you and enter you from behind. The greater the angle of penetration from this position, the more likely you are to feel it when he cums.

Why does that work?

 

[SweetErika]

I know... what I'm saying is that you don't know that beyond certainty. lol.

Yes, I do. I had the LEEP procedure done many years ago, and the doctor injected an opioid (Demerol) prior to doing it. Unfortunately, the injection missed my vein (to be fair, I'm a tough stick) or wasn't the right dose, so I wasn't anesthetized properly, and it hurt like hell. Obviously, I never saw that doctor again because he should have stopped and given me more medication when it hurt, instead of worrying about screwing up his schedule (he was already running behind that afternoon and didn't want to give me more demerol, then wait for it to take effect).

Even WebMD says LEEP is done with anesthesia.

Are there some quacks who don't anesthetize? Yes, and that's been my point all along - a doctor who says anesthesia isn't required is one everyone should steer clear of because sufficient anesthesia is the gold standard/best practice for this procedure and it's fucking torture without proper anesthesia.

I have no idea why you keep bumping this thread to argue with the facts a month or more after I've posted them, but I'm not going to participate in your hijack anymore. If you want to stop looking foolish, I'd suggest doing some research on the gold standard for anesthetizing prior to the LEEP procedure before you say anything else.