Can't feel him cum

[amofiga]

The story about the freezing operation sounds horrible and perhaps something bordering on malpractice. It's another example of why it is so important to get multiple opinions before any surgery. My dad had a greedy doc who did unnecessary prostate surgery on him, as he learned from another doctor years later. Unfortunately the second doc would not testify or go on record with his statement. Still it caused my dad undue suffering. My wife had to have a hysterectomy about 15 years ago and the doc wanted to do it "old style" with a big incision and I said she should see a doctor that a woman friend had gone to who did it with a laprascope. With the second procedure, she was up and around in days, not weeks. Always be careful to get a second or even third medical opinion.

As to the real topic of this thread, I think it's not possible to feel the actual cum, but you can feel the throbbing of the guys cock while he's cumming if you both sort of lie still and stop thrusting and moving. All that other movement masks the subtle throbs. My wife and I have tried this and she can feel throbbing in my cock. Also, same thing goes for the reverse situation.

 

[FabulousGirl]

I could feel my ex when he would cum inside of me. His core body temperature was very hot a lot of the time and his semen would be EXTREMELY warm feeling to me and his cock would throb very hard. I think just the way our bodies were built I could feel him, not sure if I have ever felt anyone else and I am very sensitive in that area.

I have about the same experience. I've only ever had one partner who I could feel cum inside me and he too was a man who ran "hot" all the time. (I used to call him a human furnace.) He would seem to get very, very hard and there would be a very warm, very wet feeling. I have to admit I loved it. But he is the only one I have ever felt cum.

 

[Eilan]

It's another example of why it is so important to get multiple opinions before any surgery. My dad had a greedy doc who did unnecessary prostate surgery on him, as he learned from another doctor years later. Unfortunately the second doc would not testify or go on record with his statement. Still it caused my dad undue suffering.

About 10-12 years ago, one of my grandma's good friends was diagnosed with prostate cancer, and his doc was really pushing surgery and other aggressive treatment. The family was scared to death and, despite the doc's disapproval (yeah, huge red flag!), decided to seek a second opinion at a nationally-renowned facility. The doc they saw for the second opinion recommended regular follow-ups but discouraged any treatment at that time, saying the cancer was so slow-growing that at his age (early 80's) he'd likely die of something else, particularly given his history of heart problems. That doc was right, and my grandma's friend ended up living to be 91. I can't imagine what would have happened if that other doc had gotten his way.

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[firenzi]

Same here with the heat! -my bf is like that. I don't always feel it (especially if I'm squirting) but sometimes I do. His cum can be hot and there is usually a lot of it. It's more a sensation of heat though, not shooting or wetness (until it dribbles down, that is). He's the only guy with whom I've experienced that.

I can always tell when he's about to cum though, because he gasps and shudders the same way every time, plus he's often quite verbal. Most guys I've been with I've been able to tell from noise or movement, but there are some who don't betray any indication at all.

 

[SlickTony]

I can always tell when my husband is getting off, but not because of feeling the spurts inside me. You might incorporate gently cupping his balls in your hand or massaging his taint into your lovemaking--then it's unmistakable.

I had some cervical polyps cauterized back in the 70s without anesthetic. Despite being told that I shouldn't feel anything, I did feel the burn, and it got crampy also.

I've got a friend who had to have a prostatectomy--but he had a fast-acting cancer and he had to have the operation to save his life. He was not satisfied with the results. He used to be my guitar instructor, and I went to his house (he was living with his mother at the time) for my lesson. I saw adult diapers in the bathroom and assumed that they were hers--after all, she's in her early 80s, and I, who am only 20someodd years younger, occasionally experience stress incontinence, although it is a temporary condition (sometimes caused by coughing, treatable with acupuncture). Come to find out, they were his. And then, the sexual side effects--he said he could get off, but not get it up. He ended up going to California because he used to live there and he thought he'd have more success getting an operation funded there.

Any urologist or oncologist who's treating a guy for prostate cancer NEEDS TO BE HONEST with his patient about what he can expect after surgery, but quite often they are surprisingly casual about it.

And while I'm on the topic, a plague on the people who recommended against guys having PSAs. What're they supposed to do, wait until they're symptomatic? That's what my dad did, and he died in pain.

 

[Lewisdb]

Hi all.
I was just wondering how many women out there actuallyfeel it when their partner cums? I don't feel anything, and I think my guy is kinda dissaointed and perhaps even hurt by this. Any thoughts? Any way to try and feel it?

Have him press the head of his cock against your clit when he cums. That used to drive my girl crazy x

 

[NativPrincess]

I am disheartened and somewhat frightened after reading these malpractice stories.

back to the thread's main purpose
I have felt my bf cumming on occasion in addition to the other cues and body language the ladies have mentioned. Position is important, but I think body temp is the key. I call him my personal heater.

Wow to the ladies who don't know when their man is reaching climax, that is unfortunate. I love to see/hear/feel my man's reactions. just adds to the satisfaction

 

[jl22mc06]

bump!!!

 

[sexiskye]

Have him press the head of his cock against your clit when he cums. That used to drive my girl crazy x

Love it when he does this to me

 

[HottieKatie]

I may not feel it go in, but I know when I stand up, he's left something behind!

Just smiled at that comment!!
It's been just a couple of months since I & my bf changed condom for contraceptive... and I can't get used to his cum flooding after he comes (which by the way I can't feel inside either, but as many people have said, feel in other ways )

So, any advice for the floodings? I hate dirtying the sheets everytime we have sex

 

[CWatson]

So, any advice for the floodings? I hate dirtying the sheets everytime we have sex

My ex used to just hie to the toilet after we finished and drain herself. How, I'm not sure; I let her file it under "Women's mysteries" and left it alone. Now I wish I had investigated at least once.

 

[SweetErika]

Just smiled at that comment!!
It's been just a couple of months since I & my bf changed condom for contraceptive... and I can't get used to his cum flooding after he comes (which by the way I can't feel inside either, but as many people have said, feel in other ways )

So, any advice for the floodings? I hate dirtying the sheets everytime we have sex

You could put down a towel or waterproof pad. They make inexpensive, soft waterproof pads that can be washed for babies (we have some like these). There are a bunch of other fairly inexpensive washable waterproof pads on the market for kids and adults as well. You can also get disposable pads via a medical supply store or even puppy potty training pads from a pet store/supply for about $1 each. The disposables are definitely more expensive and way less environmentally friendly (although it's great to have some if you're into messy play or something), so I'd suggest investing in something that can be reused many, many times, and having several on hand so you don't have to worry when one or two are soiled or in the wash.

I'd also say make sure he ejaculates as deep as possible, then squeeze your vaginal muscles right after and head to the toilet to pee and release most of the cum. You should pee immediately after sex to prevent UTIs, anyway, so it's not like you'll be making a special trip. Then you can head back to bed to cuddle or whatever; you may want to slip on some panties with a pantyliner in them or just make sure you're on the towel or pad to catch any residual fluids that seep out.

 

[Juliewife]

The flood

Pantyliners are sometimes a girl's best friend.

 

[iadoremywife]

Just smiled at that comment!!
It's been just a couple of months since I & my bf changed condom for contraceptive... and I can't get used to his cum flooding after he comes (which by the way I can't feel inside either, but as many people have said, feel in other ways )

So, any advice for the floodings? I hate dirtying the sheets everytime we have sex

Hey Katie,

We always make playing afterwards part of the fun. All over her body (and mine) is a lot better than on the sheets.

As far as the original question in the thread. When I was younger my wife always knew when I cum. However, as men get older the pressure and amount of cum decreases dramaticly. I know she can't feel it now, and the messing the sheets is less of an issue because there is no where near as much. Also, orally she has no problem swallowing now, where she used to never be able to get it all down.

If anyone has a remedy for that please PM me. I miss the days when she couldn't hold it all.

 

[CWatson]

Lie on your stomach, legs together, have him straddle you and enter you from behind. The greater the angle of penetration from this position, the more likely you are to feel it when he cums.

Why does that work?

I've only had sex about 30 times and never got around to woman-with-closed-legs stuff, but I know for a fact that women-with-closed-legs stuff tightens the vagina. That's got to be part of it. The angle might help too, but I wouldn't know about that no matter what because I don't, you know, have a vagina. Maybe it's about the geometry? If he's entering at a steeper angle, there's more of him in the outer part of the pussy, which is (as previously established) the most sensitive part and would be most likely to notice the throbbing or whatever.