old_prof
Older than that
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- Sep 12, 2015
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I know you're not going to listen to me, but I have spent too much time over many giving advice to young hotheads to not at least try.
Take a step back. Take a day off. It wouldn't be hard to restart the argument. You are arguing by yourself against a wide range of people. Anyone who finds themselves in that situation (including me) should take a step back and ask themselves "Why does everyone else see this differently. Is is possible they're right and I'm wrong." Because everyone is likely to be wrong in that situation. It could be that you are the sole clear mind, the only one who can cut through all the issues and make out the answer clearly. It seems far more likely that you have dug your heels in so deep that you are underground now.
In defense of the "you've dug your heels in" position. There are at least a half dozen core issues that people have raised that you have completely ignored. At one point, you argued that is was legal, therefore ethical. You do seem to have realized that maybe the lawyer in this conversation does know something and maybe what you're proposing isn't legal, so legality is not a judge of ethics.
Take a step back. Reread the points posted by others. Reread your own inconsistencies. If you still think you are the lobe voice of reason, do what you have to. But take a step back first and check that you really want this to be the hill you will forever be judged on.
Take a step back. Take a day off. It wouldn't be hard to restart the argument. You are arguing by yourself against a wide range of people. Anyone who finds themselves in that situation (including me) should take a step back and ask themselves "Why does everyone else see this differently. Is is possible they're right and I'm wrong." Because everyone is likely to be wrong in that situation. It could be that you are the sole clear mind, the only one who can cut through all the issues and make out the answer clearly. It seems far more likely that you have dug your heels in so deep that you are underground now.
In defense of the "you've dug your heels in" position. There are at least a half dozen core issues that people have raised that you have completely ignored. At one point, you argued that is was legal, therefore ethical. You do seem to have realized that maybe the lawyer in this conversation does know something and maybe what you're proposing isn't legal, so legality is not a judge of ethics.
Take a step back. Reread the points posted by others. Reread your own inconsistencies. If you still think you are the lobe voice of reason, do what you have to. But take a step back first and check that you really want this to be the hill you will forever be judged on.