Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[Coyote100]

Do you mind if l just sit in the corner and listen.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Do you mind if l just sit in the corner and listen.

Not at all! Have a seat. I'm sure there's coffee or hot chocolate around here somewhere.

 

[Coyote100]

I don't know who all is here, but l chatted with two of you a couple of years ago under a different Lit name.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Do you mind if l just sit in the corner and listen.

No nibbling on the bunny, the owl, or any of the other small woodland creatures that inhabit this space.

 

[Apisto42]

No nibbling on the bunny, the owl, or any of the other small woodland creatures that inhabit this space.

Seconded. Though this bunny doesn’t mind a playful nibble. Just no chomping.

 

[BiBunny]

Are we still cuddling? If so, I'd like to join if it's ok.

Better watch me carefully, though. There's a good possibility I might just pass right out and start snoring.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Are we still cuddling? If so, I'd like to join if it's ok.

Better watch me carefully, though. There's a good possibility I might just pass right out and start snoring.

There are always cuddles. C’mon in!

 

[cascadiabound]

Not at all! Have a seat. I'm sure there's coffee or hot chocolate around here somewhere.

Fancy hot cocoa bar for everyone

I don't know who all is here, but l chatted with two of you a couple of years ago under a different Lit name.

Welcome back. Friendly folks who are here to chat and not behave in thirsty ways are welcome to be here.
Cocoa?

 

[Coyote100]

Welcome back. Friendly folks who are here to chat and not behave in thirsty ways are welcome to be here.
Cocoa?

Cocoa, please...Thank you. I will sit quietly for now. Much too shy to say anything except you small woodland critters have nothing to fear from this coyote. Unless, of course, if you are a roadrunner.

 

[cascadiabound]

Cocoa, please...Thank you. I will sit quietly for now. Much too shy to say anything except you small woodland critters have nothing to fear from this coyote. Unless, of course, if you are a roadrunner.

Fancy cocoa for the coyote

 

[Strixaluco]

Are we still cuddling? If so, I'd like to join if it's ok.

Better watch me carefully, though. There's a good possibility I might just pass right out and start snoring.

Well I definitely passed out. Did I snore?

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Well I definitely passed out. Did I snore?

It was more like a soft purr. Quite adorable!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

 

[cascadiabound]

 

[barefootgirl69]

That is a wonderful post @cascadiabound!

 

[Daughtergurl]

I guess I should find one of my old posts with my story and link it But timewise, last spring, coming across this very thread, reading this and the previous 2 versions. I knew absolutely nothing about DDlg beforehand (not even the existence of the term), thought I was all vanilla. So it was a huge revelation for a middle-aged woman who had spent all her adult life in vanilla relationships. I realised these discussions and memes talk about something I've been missing sorely while trying to be an all big girl and burning out repeatedly.

For me finding soon an online-Daddy worked well as an intermediate thing. I learned things about myself and DDlg with him, and online sources, even stories before stepping into a real life D/s relationship with DDlg flavour.

I found my daddy online as well,.unfortunately we lost contact.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

A question for the Littles here

Is spanking part of your dynamic?
It is not part of mine because of my history with domestic violence. My Wolfie actually brought it up as a hard limit before me. He will not engage in any “pain play” until both myself and my therapist are on board. He said it would be okay with him if I never allowed it.
I have scheduled a Valentine getaway for us and I want to bring up the conversation with him. He has never pressured me, and my therapist is okay with trying it. This is something I want to gift to him. I don’t feel that I have completely submitted to him yet. He is experienced with spanking , so I’m not concerned about him being too rough.
I’m thinking of getting a soft flogger, I’d really like to try that. And of course his hand would be amazing.
Thoughts? Am I overthinking? Things to expect from my first spanking?

Anxious little bunny girl

 

[AlwaysDancing]

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When I was working on a particular writing project, my mantra for it was … every now and then, there is a tale that reminds you what it is to do believe.

This very much reminded me of that.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

When I was working on a particular writing project, my mantra for it was … every now and then, there is a tale that reminds you what it is to do believe.

This very much reminded me of that.

I feel like I’m living in a fairytale, and I hope it never ends

 

[AlwaysDancing]

I feel like I’m living in a fairytale, and I hope it never ends

I imagine that’s a beautiful, wonderful feeling.

Cheers and joy … and an impromptu happy dance.

 

[cascadiabound]

A question for the Littles here

Is spanking part of your dynamic?
It is not part of mine because of my history with domestic violence. My Wolfie actually brought it up as a hard limit before me. He will not engage in any “pain play” until both myself and my therapist are on board. He said it would be okay with him if I never allowed it.
I have scheduled a Valentine getaway for us and I want to bring up the conversation with him. He has never pressured me, and my therapist is okay with trying it. This is something I want to gift to him. I don’t feel that I have completely submitted to him yet. He is experienced with spanking , so I’m not concerned about him being too rough.
I’m thinking of getting a soft flogger, I’d really like to try that. And of course his hand would be amazing.
Thoughts? Am I overthinking? Things to expect from my first spanking?

Anxious little bunny girl

I'd say follow your gut on this, but for me, over the knee bare handed spanking is a great place to start. No toys needed. And the physical intimacy between you makes it easy for him to pay attention to how you are doing. The thing about a flogger is that you are physically separated from him. It's a little harder to check in.

I hope it goes well for both of you.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I'd say follow your gut on this, but for me, over the knee bare handed spanking is a great place to start. No toys needed. And the physical intimacy between you makes it easy for him to pay attention to how you are doing. The thing about a flogger is that you are physically separated from him. It's a little harder to check in.

I hope it goes well for both of you.

Thanks for the advice! Maybe I’ll put off getting a flogger.

 

[barefootgirl69]

A question for the Littles here

Is spanking part of your dynamic?
It is not part of mine because of my history with domestic violence. My Wolfie actually brought it up as a hard limit before me. He will not engage in any “pain play” until both myself and my therapist are on board. He said it would be okay with him if I never allowed it.
I have scheduled a Valentine getaway for us and I want to bring up the conversation with him. He has never pressured me, and my therapist is okay with trying it. This is something I want to gift to him. I don’t feel that I have completely submitted to him yet. He is experienced with spanking , so I’m not concerned about him being too rough.
I’m thinking of getting a soft flogger, I’d really like to try that. And of course his hand would be amazing.
Thoughts? Am I overthinking? Things to expect from my first spanking?

Anxious little bunny girl

I think a part of the conversation should be whether spanking is a part of discipline or a part of play time - or neither, just mental maintenance. I'm not sure if that's a proper term, so chime in everyone to help me!

If you're ready to try spankings, then I think it would be a wonderful thing to bring up to him and see if he's ready to go that direction at this point.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I think a part of the conversation should be whether spanking is a part of discipline or a part of play time - or neither, just mental maintenance. I'm not sure if that's a proper term, so chime in everyone to help me!

If you're ready to try spankings, then I think it would be a wonderful thing to bring up to him and see if he's ready to go that direction at this point.

Good point. My initial thought was as more of a way of symbolizing my submission in a very intimate way. Hopefully as part of play too. Never as punishment, that’s too close to my past relationship. I’ll think about that more so I can get clear about why I want this at this point in our relationship.

 

[cascadiabound]

I think a part of the conversation should be whether spanking is a part of discipline or a part of play time - or neither, just mental maintenance. I'm not sure if that's a proper term, so chime in everyone to help me!

If you're ready to try spankings, then I think it would be a wonderful thing to bring up to him and see if he's ready to go that direction at this point.

@FrenchLopBunny

Some people call play related to things like spanking "funishment" But spankings can also be truly therapeutic in reducing anxiety. Both things are true for me.

That's how I see it for me and my preferred dynamic. It's never punishment. It's never about me being "bad". Even if it's a playful pretend "you've been a very naughty girl" - it's STILL play, not punishment.

It certainly can be an element of submission ... I find the vulnerability of bring naked or practically naked when he is not naked, or mostly not naked reinforces my feelings of submission. If he playfully pulls me over his lap, roughly pulls down my panties and holds me in place a bit... it pushes on my vulnerability, my willingness to submit, my obedience to something he wants.

I like being spanked because it arouses me. It can function as foreplay. I like that it makes me feel more "little". I like feeling his bare hand spanking my bare ass. I like the intimacy of it. I like that it warms my ass. It warms his hand too. And OTK (over the knee) spanking also means that my pussy is easily accessible to him. He can switch between spanking me and stroking me. He can check and see if the spanking is making me wet (yes it does... every.single.time) and he can easily feel how I'm doing. Is my body tensing? When/where is that point when I just relax and give in to him, to the experience, to the pain? When do I cry? Does that feel scary or cathartic? (scary imo not okay; cathartic = okay)

You two should talk about this ahead of time. What does he think? How can he be sure to keep you safe and not trigger past abuse memories?

Also... aftercare is very important. Since this is new to you, talk about what kind of aftercare you think you might want. Lots of cuddles, warm blanket, tea, chocolate, make sure you have water on hand... both pain receptors and crying need to recover with hydration. Some people like to have lotion rubbed into their skin after a spanking. If you are very prone to bruising and it would feel not okay to have any marks that last, arnica can be a great immediate aftercare treatment. I would guess your first session will be no where near intense enough to cause bruising. But... I bruise really easily if you look at me wrong I'm likely to bruise. I don't really mind that with play... I have been known to get off on wearing his marks for days after a play session.

Obviously YMMV

Everyone is different. Good luck in your journey. Sorry I got so long- winded here.