Dear Sprinkles ....

[Sprinkles22]

Dear Sprinkles...

What can I do...
I have a "top" (*K*) that I play with exclusively, I have self instilled loyalty to Him.
He brought me into the group, there isn't anything sexual in our play time.
Recently tho there is another in the group we are in that seems to be wanting my attention... As flattering as it sounds I know he is a hard player & his previous subbie was a bratty sub. I also know he is into the stuff I am not... He like Violet Wands, floggers & spankings... I like blindfolds, wartenburg wheels & knife play (non-cutting, just welting so far). As far as I know he has very little experience with my preferred choice of playtoys Last night at a house play party he caught me off guard & gave me a kiss on the lips...I quickly walked away but my nerves were rattled... I kinda liked it but I'm not sure I want to play with him...
One problem that I just can't overlook... he has long hair...
That is my fetish, my weakness... & he knows it...
he isn't hard on the eyes, but that loyalty thing creeps in again...
Worst of it is... he fits most of my criteria that I am looking for in a boyfriend... but I am wary of his play tactics...
I have never actually SEEN him play... I have heard his previous subbie speak of how hard he can play (but she loves hard play), but she never mentioned aftercare... how do I broach these topics without showing my interest openly??? My heart is crying to belong, my c*#t is craving attention & my brain is fighting a losing battle against the two opponents...
We have become good friends outside of the group... he helps me fix my car, we have just met up & talked, I think I see intrest in his eyes that goes beyond a D/S relationship but I am unsure I want to open up my heart to be hurt yet again... I fell hard for *K* & was sure I wanted his collar, but then was told he didn't want to collar anyone just yet ... I am thinking of asking the one showing interest to speak with *K* & learn what I like... maybe even watch *K* play me once, to see if he could... I just don't know...

One mixed up pup.....

Steg..

Dear Steg:

The loyalty you feel towards *K* is admirable and understandable. But just as you have said, He isn't interested in collaring anyone at this time, and he is not interested in taking your relationship beyond anything other than *play*. Never forget, you are STILL a woman and have neeeds beyond being a *bottom* to someone. Sex is a very, very important component of human nature. Why should you be denying yourself that pleasure?

You admit to being attracted (even if mildly) to this new Top, and his kiss obviously left you sizzling You say you're friends with him outside of the play arena. Well, I can say my BEST *Dear Sprinkles* advice is .... the best of Lovers should begin as the Best of Friends. Sounds to me like you're starting off on the right foot. I know you've been burned badly in the past and are unsure if you're willing to put your heart up for that again. Please remember, a love never tried is surely a love lost!

As for his play style and the differences between you two?? Nothing is written in stone .. NOTHING. Just as *K* has walked slowly with you and helped your interest evolve, do you not think that this new man might not be so happy as to do the same? All of us who engage in this lifestyle have our favorite ways of playing, but I won't believe for a moment that we're unwilling to try new things or *soften* our play techniques with someone new.

My final advice is this ... TALK to Him. Just as you and *K* openly communicated, you need to communicate with this Man. He can't read your mind, nor can you read his. It's a pity ... a crystal ball and mental telepathy would be so handy at times ... in any relationship. (hehehe) Don't be afraid to ask Him questions. We learn by asking. You are a *bottom*, but you haven't lost your voice or your right to speak!

Good Luck!

 

[Sprinkles22]

{{{{{{{Sprinkles}}}}}}}}}

Just woke up from sleeping 12 straight hours - I fell asleep on the couch before the movie started and never moved again.

Yes, there are slots in the Vegas airport. However, it is a crappy airport. To go from one concourse to the other you have to walk down stairs to the outside, get on a shuttle bus, it drives you across the airport to other concourses (i.e., you get to see the backside of the planes) and then you have a tall flight of stairs back up to the concourse your plane leaves from - while lugging the largest carry-on allowed plus the largest personal bag allowed. hehehehehehe

Well, the service I got from USAirways was pretty good - but then I've heard the service is considerably different when it's the first leg of the trip that is delayed ... they make ya take it anyway and MISS your connecting flight before they rebook ya. I don't think I've heard *why* Raven hates US Airways ... lol

The retun flight is no biggie. Of course I *do* want to get home so I can see *him*. But otherwise - *shrugs* don't care if/when I get home. lol

Have a great day Sprinkles!

Wow ~ ya'd think Vegas had a better airport *note to self* Don't carry heavy baggage when you finally get to visit Vegas.

Mmmmm, speaking of *him* ...... have you heard from him since leaving? Any coast to coast calls or emails happening?

BTW ... I CARE when you get home!!!

 

[Sprinkles22]

LOL ... yeah you run little girl ... run as fast as you can ... hehehehe

I got about 3 or 4 30-minute cat naps when I got to the house yesterday morning. Then we went out to look at argricultural property my friend & her hubby want to buy. All is good.

*runs and hides behind Raven* Nah nah nah nah naaaaah na! You can't get me!!!

Looked at a farm, did ya? That's just what we call it here in Mississippi. Obviously, it's more 'upscale' in SoCal, and is referred to as 'agricultural property'

 

[Sprinkles22]

Dear Sprinkles Skittles..

Where did you find that AV Pic...

And seen any chemical depilitories lately?

I found the AV pic by accident .... was doing a Google seach just for cuffs, but not really erotic pictures of them. Anyway, saw that one and had to have it

No chemical products lately ... but possibly before the end of the month

 

[Sprinkles22]

Dear Sprinkles,
Is being left handed,a disadvantage when unfastening a bra?
TIA,
FG

Being MALE is the disadvantage

I've never met a man, right handed, left handed or ambidextrous that could unfasten a bra with stealth and eroticism. It's a bit of comic interlude in the midst of a passionate moment

 

[Stegral]

Good Luck!

Thanks Sprinkles

I just needed someone outside the local group & any of my local 'nilla friends to ask...
the thread seemed like just the place...
I am gonna link your post in my thread

The answer straightens out alot of stuff in my head I just saw going by but couldn't grab hold of...
now to just figure out how to chat with him...
I hate opening conversations.... I don't mind answering.. but not starting...

 

[Sprinkles22]

Thanks Sprinkles

I just needed someone outside the local group & any of my local 'nilla friends to ask...
the thread seemed like just the place...
I am gonna link your post in my thread

The answer straightens out alot of stuff in my head I just saw going by but couldn't grab hold of...
now to just figure out how to chat with him...
I hate opening conversations.... I don't mind answering.. but not starting...

Awwwww ... you're so sweet.

My advice has NO basis of professionalism, nor do I think I have all the answers to life's questions This thread began as a silly spoof.

But I am happy that I could spark some thoughts for you. That's the kind of things that FRIENDS do for each other

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Wow ~ ya'd think Vegas had a better airport *note to self* Don't carry heavy baggage when you finally get to visit Vegas.

Mmmmm, speaking of *him* ...... have you heard from him since leaving? Any coast to coast calls or emails happening?

BTW ... I CARE when you get home!!!

Awwwwwwwwww *hugs*

Just got off the phone with *him* And we've exchanged a couple emails since I've been on my trip. *looks around before grinning like a fool* he said he alsway likes to hear from me!

 

[Stegral]

Awwwww ... you're so sweet.

My advice has NO basis of professionalism, nor do I think I have all the answers to life's questions This thread began as a silly spoof.

But I am happy that I could spark some thoughts for you. That's the kind of things that FRIENDS do for each other

I know you don't have a degree... that's cool...
actually he is on-line & we are chatting now...lol


thanks

 

[Sprinkles22]

Awwwwwwwwww *hugs*

Just got off the phone with *him* And we've exchanged a couple emails since I've been on my trip. *looks around before grinning like a fool* he said he alsway likes to hear from me!

Ok ... I getting really impatient with *him* and you ... y'all really need to hurry things up

 

[Sprinkles22]

I know you don't have a degree... that's cool...
actually he is on-line & we are chatting now...lol


thanks

Ooooooooooooooooooooooh *claps hands and smiles*

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Ok ... I getting really impatient with *him* and you ... y'all really need to hurry things up

I do believe it was YOU who said "the best of Lovers should begin as the Best of Friends. " to Steg up above (Hi Steg!) ...

 

[Gypsybyrd]

*runs and hides behind Raven* Nah nah nah nah naaaaah na! You can't get me!!!

Looked at a farm, did ya? That's just what we call it here in Mississippi. Obviously, it's more 'upscale' in SoCal, and is referred to as 'agricultural property'

*raises an eyebrow* like THAT's gonna gonna keep me from getting you!

LOL - yeah a farm. I just don't think of citrus trees and avocado trees as being farms ... lol

 

[Sprinkles22]

I do believe it was YOU who said "the best of Lovers should begin as the Best of Friends. " to Steg up above (Hi Steg!) ...

Oh suuuuuuuuuuure, throw my words back into my face why don't you??

You know that patience is NOT a virtue of mine!!

 

[Sprinkles22]

*raises an eyebrow* like THAT's gonna gonna keep me from getting you!

LOL - yeah a farm. I just don't think of citrus trees and avocado trees as being farms ... lol

Uh huh ... Raven WILL protect me. Well, I guess he would if he were around

LOL - have you suggested a goat to them? That'd make it more 'farm' related.

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Oh suuuuuuuuuuure, throw my words back into my face why don't you??

You know that patience is NOT a virtue of mine!!

Mine niether ... you do NOT want to know what's going through my mind ... I'm trying like hell to be patient and not second guess or make decisions *for* him ...

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Uh huh ... Raven WILL protect me. Well, I guess he would if he were around

LOL - have you suggested a goat to them? That'd make it more 'farm' related.

He'd protect you if he thought I'd hurt ya ... or he might just decide that take *both* of us in hand so to speak ... hehehehe

Actually ... the goat is not a bad idea ... their yard is a disaster right now - foot high grass and all!

Is Raven ok? You *did* get to chat with him this weekend right?

 

[Sprinkles22]

Mine niether ... you do NOT want to know what's going through my mind ... I'm trying like hell to be patient and not second guess or make decisions *for* him ...

be good! don't get *toppy*

 

[Gypsybyrd]

be good! don't get *toppy*

Never fear ... won't get toppy ... but those damn "vibes" are going off - like it's gonna end up being a just FWB relationship ... but I'm trying to be good ...

 

[Sprinkles22]

He'd protect you if he thought I'd hurt ya ... or he might just decide that take *both* of us in hand so to speak ... hehehehe

Actually ... the goat is not a bad idea ... their yard is a disaster right now - foot high grass and all!

Is Raven ok? You *did* get to chat with him this weekend right?

Oh, I'm sure he's already decided to take us both in hand ... as soon as he can mange it

You should suggest the goat ... lmao

I have no idea if he's okay or not. Barely spoke to him today. He couldn't talk. Haven't talked to him since Thursday. Oh well ... I'm low on the priority list.

 

[Sprinkles22]

Never fear ... won't get toppy ... but those damn "vibes" are going off - like it's gonna end up being a just FWB relationship ... but I'm trying to be good ...

Shall I point out the being a FWB relationship requires the *B*???? Not happening

 

[Stegral]

figured I would update...

the kiss was friendly... nuffin more...

he is willing to watch *K* & I play to learn...
but not as my "new" Top/Dom...
he is still working thru the last subbie dumping him...
(talk about Dom Drop... ouch)

ahh well... live & learn I guess

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Oh, I'm sure he's already decided to take us both in hand ... as soon as he can mange it

You should suggest the goat ... lmao

I have no idea if he's okay or not. Barely spoke to him today. He couldn't talk. Haven't talked to him since Thursday. Oh well ... I'm low on the priority list.

No. You're not. I know it's hard when you can't talk to him as much as you'd like. {{{{{{{{Sprinkles}}}}}}}}} Just think ... less than a month and you'll be SEEING him!!! Keep that thought in mind.

I suggested the goat ... someone in the neighborhood got a goat and someone else prepared a protest letter with pics and called a meeting to get the goat kicked out. My friends don't want the headache!

Now why would he want to take innocent little ol' me in hand???? Taking *you* in hand I can understand ...

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Shall I point out the being a FWB relationship requires the *B*???? Not happening

Ok I mistyped ... getting the 'just friends' vibe ... or more specifically the mostly friends with the rare B thrown in.

 

[Gypsybyrd]

figured I would update...

the kiss was friendly... nuffin more...

he is willing to watch *K* & I play to learn...
but not as my "new" Top/Dom...
he is still working thru the last subbie dumping him...
(talk about Dom Drop... ouch)

ahh well... live & learn I guess

At least you talked to him ... {{{{{{{{Steg}}}}}}}}}