Depression. It's a silent killer.

[tugger1987]

Please have the best day you can.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

You too Kitty

 

[Beholders_Eye]

Thank you for your update. I understand your hope for her passing and the end of her pain. I hoped for that as well when my mom was ill.
We’re here. Please know that and know you’re not alone in this.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

 

[fullservice65]

 

[asian2015]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

Sending condolences to you and your family.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

You have my deepest condolences. It’s hard not to sound trite when giving sympathy. I’m glad she is no longer in pain and that her passing has brought her peace.
Feel your grief. Acknowledge it and honor your daughter by not shoving it away.
We’re here to listen.

 

[tugger1987]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

So sorry for your loss! Stay strong and look after eachother! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

 

[Beholders_Eye]

Thank you all of the above for your kind thoughts. They help.

 

[TiedbyChris]

I’m new to this thread and haven’t read back through every post, so apologise if this is a duplication

I found this very helpful last year, so want to share again

Ernest Hemingway once said: In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.

Please don’t try to fix me. Don’t take on my pain or push away my shadows. Just sit beside me as I work through my own inner storms. Be the steady hand I can reach for as I find my way.

My pain is mine to carry, my battles mine to face. But your presence reminds me I’m not alone in this vast, sometimes frightening world. It’s a quiet reminder that I am worthy of love, even when I feel broken.

So, in those dark hours when I lose my way, will you just be here? Not as a rescuer, but as a companion. Hold my hand until the dawn arrives, helping me remember my strength.

Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It’s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.

 

[Xenofidelity78]

a single word
meant to be kind
or profound
is worth more
than a thousand contrarian perturbations
and will live in the hearts
of its readers
far beyond that of
creative dissection
or bloated malaise
we forget often
that our job is not to write
it is to illuminate
to provide hope
or thought
so that in the midst of darkness
people will find reason to feel,
and remember what it's like
to dream.

 

[Wonderer67]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

I’m so sorry beholder.

I am thinking of you. Sending positive vibes.

 

[Nicefella]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

My condolences. I hope you stay strong through this ordeal.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I’m new to this thread and haven’t read back through every post, so apologise if this is a duplication

I found this very helpful last year, so want to share again

Ernest Hemingway once said: In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.

Please don’t try to fix me. Don’t take on my pain or push away my shadows. Just sit beside me as I work through my own inner storms. Be the steady hand I can reach for as I find my way.

My pain is mine to carry, my battles mine to face. But your presence reminds me I’m not alone in this vast, sometimes frightening world. It’s a quiet reminder that I am worthy of love, even when I feel broken.

So, in those dark hours when I lose my way, will you just be here? Not as a rescuer, but as a companion. Hold my hand until the dawn arrives, helping me remember my strength.

Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It’s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.

This is exactly what many of us need.
Just be with me as I make my way through this.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[LucianaGrace]

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. I’m back from the love fest that is barter fair. Now come the downer of real life.
I hope you have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Oshkosh60]

Thank you for all the kind and generous thoughts. My daughter passed away last night after a hard fought two year battle with bone cancer. She was surrounded by her loving husband, brother and sisters. I am so grateful to her siblings for being there for her during her illness; grateful and blessed. She was a beautiful person and wonderful daughter, sister, wife, friend, mom, registered nurse, and quilter. I am the better for having had her as a daughter.

I am managing, but with those waves of grief that accompany a loss.

So very sorry for your loss....

When confronted with a loss I try to look back and think of what gifts came from that struggle. My mom had Alzheimers and my siblings and I cared for her. I look back and think how it bought us all back together (when had naturally drifted a part as each had their own families to attend to. There is pain and sorrow , but there are also small gifts. And it creates resilience for us and for the next generation as well.

When faced with the grief of loss.... I try to think of one or two attributes the person had that I should incorporate into my life as a thank you to them for having been in my life....... sometimes it is just learning to make a special food that they enjoyed to share with other family families, going for walks with family members to remember those that loved nature.... ect....

Having worked with many who have struggled in my life.... and having struggled a great deal myself..... my feeling toward depression are to recognize it for what it is and try to counter with doing things that lift your heart and spirits. Try not to self medicate with destructive substances or behaviors...... constant look for joy and uplifting things...... small wins.... small pleasures add up..... but more than anything..... do not isolate yourself .... share your joy.... share your pain with others..... be gentle with yourself....

Peace and love

 

[LucianaGrace]

 

[Wetkitty09]

Bbbrrrr cold this morning. I hope you’re staying warm and safe.
Have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Oshkosh60]

Cold is relative.... what is the temp there?
46 F here though a wind and makes it feel like 40.

Been a very warm Fall up until now..... killing frost in a few days.

 

[Nightaelf]

What started as a nice, cheerful day slowly turned into something of a nightmare. I got the results from the cervical cancer screening, and it turns out I’m in the precancerous stage and tested positive for it. I know I shouldn’t panic right away, I get that. There are still a lot of options, and more tests to come, but… well, I’m still recovering from breast cancer, so, yeah. I just feel a bit defeated today

 

[asian2015]

What started as a nice, cheerful day slowly turned into something of a nightmare. I got the results from the cervical cancer screening, and it turns out I’m in the precancerous stage and tested positive for it. I know I shouldn’t panic right away, I get that. There are still a lot of options, and more tests to come, but… well, I’m still recovering from breast cancer, so, yeah. I just feel a bit defeated today

Sending you lots of hugs.
PM if you'd like to chat anytime.

 

[Oshkosh60]

What started as a nice, cheerful day slowly turned into something of a nightmare. I got the results from the cervical cancer screening, and it turns out I’m in the precancerous stage and tested positive for it. I know I shouldn’t panic right away, I get that. There are still a lot of options, and more tests to come, but… well, I’m still recovering from breast cancer, so, yeah. I just feel a bit defeated today

So sorry....reach out to family and friends.... let them share in your journey.

 

[LucianaGrace]

 

[Wetkitty09]

What started as a nice, cheerful day slowly turned into something of a nightmare. I got the results from the cervical cancer screening, and it turns out I’m in the precancerous stage and tested positive for it. I know I shouldn’t panic right away, I get that. There are still a lot of options, and more tests to come, but… well, I’m still recovering from breast cancer, so, yeah. I just feel a bit defeated today

I wish there were more I could.
We’re here to support you. Please keep us updated. We’re all rooting for you.
Love you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Cold is relative.... what is the temp there?
46 F here though a wind and makes it feel like 40.

Been a very warm Fall up until now..... killing frost in a few days.

33 this morning and frosty. The garden has been mush for a week now. I’ll get it cleaned out eventually.

Stay warm.

 

[Nightaelf]

I wish there were more I could.
We’re here to support you. Please keep us updated. We’re all rooting for you.
Love you.

Thank you!