Dilemma at age 72

[Oldyoungster]

At 72 I have the libido and sexual stamina of a virile man of 50. In a sense that is wonderful but it also presents a huge problem when dating seriously. My goal is a LT committed monogamous relationship and it can and should not start off with a lie.

If I list my true age, for example on a dating site, the responses will be from ‘age appropriate’ women who may be wonderful in general but without any physical desires even remotely close to mine.

If I list my ‘functional age’ and conservatively call my age 55 women who are terrific in all respects, including sexually, will respond.

Unfortunately there will invariably be a moment of truth when my real age is disclosed. For those women who only want a casual relationship the age disparity is not an issue in fact it may be a delicate titillating detail. This means we can become devoted Friends with Benefits.

However, my not being truthful about age becomes an almost insurmountable obstacle for those women contemplating a committed long tern relationship. (“If you lie about your age, you may lie about everything else”).

Is there any way through this?

PS: Emotional and intellectual compatibility is seldom if ever a problem

 

[Carnevil9]

You get to include a description, right? Just be sure to include "sexually active virile man looking for LT relationship including awesome nookie" or something like that.

I agree with you that leading off with a lie would be a mistake.

 

[wicked woman]

I agree with Carnevil9.

If you're looking for a LTR you absolutely shouldn't lie about your age. That doesn't mean that you can't include sufficient descriptions for them to know that you're still an active, young at heart, young of mind man. Or however you want to describe yourself.

You could also comment on the age range of woman that is ideal for you, which could include 55 year olds...but please, please don't do the squeak factor with 20s or 30s.

Good luck in your search.

 

[SweetErika]

Lying about anything is a HUGE red flag for most women, so don't go that route. I had a guy lie about his age under the guise of extra anonymity one time, and I didn't trust anything he said after that.

I think there are actually a fair amount of women in their 60s, and maybe even 70s, who are very sexual. The key is probably to look for open-minded ladies who are committed to staying physically and mentally active. My mom and most of her friends are in their sixties and actively seeking relationships via sites like Match and activities they enjoy (e.g. the gym, golfing, volunteering, groups like Rotary). I obviously don't know (or care to know) the ins and outs of their sexualities, but I do know they're still sexual women who enjoy intimate relationships.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Don't lie about your age, just make sure that you make it clear in your ads that you're looking for a committed LTR which includes an active sex life. You're 72, you're not dead! If emotional and intellectual compatibility are not at issue, then your prospective partner should also understand that it is also important that sex be a part of your healthy LTR.

Good luck in your quest.

 

[fkarl]

as a 40 year old man who is interested in all shapes, sizes and ages, I recently corresponded with a 54 year old woman who was looking for "fun, dating and no commitments". She wouldn't even meet me..... said it would be too creepy for me. I was a little dissapointed but figure its her loss right? I feel better for having been honest from the start, and am glad that she was as well. Honesty is huge with women...... keep looking, you'll find her. And possibly some hot 30 year old that digs older men! I'm learning that there are all types out there.

 

[Guest]

good luck out there

 

[Oldyoungster]

Lying about anything is a HUGE red flag for most women, so don't go that route. I had a guy lie about his age under the guise of extra anonymity one time, and I didn't trust anything he said after that.

I think there are actually a fair amount of women in their 60s, and maybe even 70s, who are very sexual. The key is probably to look for open-minded ladies who are committed to staying physically and mentally active. My mom and most of her friends are in their sixties and actively seeking relationships via sites like Match and activities they enjoy (e.g. the gym, golfing, volunteering, groups like Rotary). I obviously don't know (or care to know) the ins and outs of their sexualities, but I do know they're still sexual women who enjoy intimate relationships.

Thank you all for your inputs. SE: It is conceivable that such sexual ladies in the 60s and 70 s exist but I have not met any of that category for the past 3 – 4 years.

The best bet for me is probably to meet younger women (say in the 50s) in a setting that does not require stating age before meeting in person. That means the lady forms an opinion about who I am based on her own personal face to face experience. It has never been a problem to then pop the age 72 which they most often receive with incredulity, laughter and acceptance. That has worked in the past but those relationships failed for reasons unrelated to age.

On the Net a riskier strategy, with which I am not comfortable, would be to post my ‘biological age’ and then hope to make it all the way to a personal meeting prior to a confrontation on age, - and then hope the above reaction would occur. Needless to say some ladies thinking in black and white would furiously exit at that point.

 

[txgent101]

At age 74 I am in about the same boat as Oldyoungster. I do want a committed sexual relationship, but do not want to marry again. The women I have been in contact with often want to marry (even if not directly stated). My grandchildren do not need another grandmother. I have not been trying for contact with younger than about 65 or so, maybe I need to expand downwards some. I do post my real age on the dating sites. Would never work if starting out with a lie. Good thread Oldyoungster, thanks.

 

[Ex Princess]

Some women like much older men, I always wanted to go much older but the oldest I've gotten done is 25 years my senior...

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

There are a lot of younger women who prefer older men, and aren't necessarily looking for marriage. Some even in their 40s and 50s, but you do have to be honest about yourself. There is no need to lie to a woman. If she isn't attracted to you because of your age, she is just not the right woman for you. It's not that unusual to find a woman in her 40s or 50s, who is at her sexual peak and prefer older men.

 

[davalene]

I am a few years older than you. I am a bi-sexual man. I have never told my wife that I am bi and she has never asked. If she should ask I would not lie to her. My wife has lost almost all her sex drive and I am very active sexually. She has not ever liked oral sex. I have found that most men over 70 are not getting any or very little sex from their wives. They also may have problems from their meds and can not get it up. I discovered this many years ago and have found that most men like to have their dick sucked by a woman or a man, but they can not get a full hard on. Men can cum with a soft dick and women most always love to have their cute little pussys eaten. The men and women that I have sex with are free and open about their sexual desires. So why not just open up and be yourself and have fun. Stay heathy and be clean of all STD's.

 

[txgent101]

There are a lot of younger women who prefer older men, and aren't necessarily looking for marriage. Some even in their 40s and 50s, but you do have to be honest about yourself. There is no need to lie to a woman. If she isn't attracted to you because of your age, she is just not the right woman for you. It's not that unusual to find a woman in her 40s or 50s, who is at her sexual peak and prefer older men.

Thanks...think I will 'broaden my horizons' at little.

 

[MagicFingers]

Tough problem

I agree that you cannot lie if you want a LTR. But how can you even get to the greet and meet stage? I think the best thing for you is to meet women in person whenever and however possible, then it would be much easier to bring up the sexual needs when you see if there's any chance of a future.

I have a similar problem, but a little in reverse. I like sex and desire it. However, due to some physical problems, my thing doesn't work as well as it did 20-30 years ago. So, how do you approach a woman and make it clear that PIV sex may not be the best but you would thoroughly enjoy licking her to orgasm, or that you know where her "G" spot is and how to use it! That's not something you bring up on the first date, but I don't want to waste time with someone with both building up expectations that can't be fullfilled by each other.

How about using the old term, 50ish for online communication. That always implyed that even though you might be older, the physical and mental is younger, then wait for a similar-minded response?

 

[txgent101]

Try the vacuum pump

I agree that you cannot lie if you want a LTR. But how can you even get to the greet and meet stage? I think the best thing for you is to meet women in person whenever and however possible, then it would be much easier to bring up the sexual needs when you see if there's any chance of a future.

I have a similar problem, but a little in reverse. I like sex and desire it. However, due to some physical problems, my thing doesn't work as well as it did 20-30 years ago. So, how do you approach a woman and make it clear that PIV sex may not be the best but you would thoroughly enjoy licking her to orgasm, or that you know where her "G" spot is and how to use it! That's not something you bring up on the first date, but I don't want to waste time with someone with both building up expectations that can't be fullfilled by each other.

How about using the old term, 50ish for online communication. That always implyed that even though you might be older, the physical and mental is younger, then wait for a similar-minded response?

Well, my 'thing' does not respond as in years past, so I use a vacuum penis pump to enhance an erection, and a rubber ring at the base to maintain it. Works very well, and is repeatable. I highly recommend it. I cannot take Viagara because of my heart medications. You can buy them online; mine is from an outfit called impo-aid. Get the one with the little electric motor on the end; the ladies are not the only ones who can take advantage of small electric motors.

 

[beths-virtue]

Obviously any type of misrepresentation is gonna come back to bite you, keep trying the ads,avoid cliches like the proverbial plague,and you will find the right partner, eventually...

don't say "young at heart"

mature adult male,single but not deceased looking for interesting relationship with woman who enjoys all aspects of interaction between consenting adults.

hey it would be a start

and remember when you were 21 those 50 year olds were just babes in diapers...

 

[txgent101]

Good Advice, Thanks

Obviously any type of misrepresentation is gonna come back to bite you, keep trying the ads,avoid cliches like the proverbial plague,and you will find the right partner, eventually...

don't say "young at heart"

mature adult male,single but not deceased looking for interesting relationship with woman who enjoys all aspects of interaction between consenting adults.

hey it would be a start.

and remember when you were 21 those 50 year olds were just babes in diapers...

Thanks, will be improving my ads along those lines. Actually, I am not really that young at heart in the usual sense...

 

[MagicFingers]

I actually have one, but

Well, my 'thing' does not respond as in years past, so I use a vacuum penis pump to enhance an erection, and a rubber ring at the base to maintain it. Works very well, and is repeatable. I highly recommend it. I cannot take Viagara because of my heart medications. You can buy them online; mine is from an outfit called impo-aid. Get the one with the little electric motor on the end; the ladies are not the only ones who can take advantage of small electric motors.

The problem, as youngster was lamenting, is how to bring up these personal little quirks to a woman who's practically a stranger? You can't post or declare: Old guy with a bad back, bad heart, kidney problems, interested in sex. Have pump.

No, that doesn't work, even If I have lots to offer and am in better that lots af men my age and younger.

Quick story: My dad had not had sex for 10 years when my mother died, due to diabetes. He wanted to get a pump, but she, being southern religious, said, NOOOOO. So, she passed and 6 months later, my dad married her best friend, a widow, got a pump, and they both had lots of fun for another 8 years or so. I've never seen two old people having more enjoyment from life that those two!

 

[Wolf_Song]

For those looking for more matured partners there are multiple ways. I read an article in a syndicated paper years ago about a seniors home in Florida. Where the ratio of men to women was far less men. One senior man there commented that where many say teen years are the best. He didn't agree as he never had it so good with the ladies before. Some shared and some chose monogamous, so there was something for all tastes. Senior dedicated couples and swingers to.

Stopping by places of same age groups and just getting out there and enjoying things helps in meeting potential friends and more. Don't be afraid to hit the seniors home to, even just to visit randomly and socialize. Many of them are much nicer than so many feared of with incredible staff working at them. Plus with internet there is searches, dating sites and more. So many wonderful options... yet at any age a dash of caution never hurts as their are players out there seeking otherwise than mutual happiness.

Intimacy with age slows for some, for others such is not the case. For some this is already enjoyed and for others something to look forward to. What ever the case for each.... wishing you best in this and all.

 

[davalene]

Need a BUMP here.

 

[wicked woman]

Need a BUMP here.

Appreciate that it doesn't help your situation if you can't find a woman in her 60s/70s, but I feel the need to make the comment that there are women that age who absolutely love sex and have the appetite to go with it. So don't give up hope.

 

[nakdsub]

Don't lie about your age

lie about how much money you have! Just kidding.