Do you have an age limit?

[Recidiva]

Depends entirely on emotional capacity. I've been involved with one person far older than I was at the time, and one person far younger. Both of these people blew any age expectation I might have formed out of the water, so it's case by case. Being older won't bring you maturity necessarily. Being younger doesn't exclude wisdom.

 

[FurryFury]

Are they legal? That's my only age requirement, not that I'm looking mind you. I see most draw the line for women at 50. As a woman who will turn 47 this year I find that somewhat of a concern but then I'm not free so what does it matter. If I'm ever free and willing again, I'll probably be well past 50. I guess I just hate the idea of not being sexually alluring based solely on age. Yep, that's it.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[FurryFury]

That's just sad.

But yanno I'm in a really bad mood these days so my tendency is to say fuck em if they think that is too old.

Of course I'm sure many would say I'm not subby enough.

*chuckles*

Personally for me it's all about connection not age. I've met some really immature older people and some really mature younger people at times.

Age doesn't usually mean much to me.

 

[midwestyankee]

A friend of mine recently started attending munches in another city and there she met a sub who is about 70 who got into the scene only about 10 years ago.

For what it's worth, FF, when you get into your fifties you'll still be a younger woman to me - and I gladly buy good pizza (and do other fine things) for younger women.

 

[wayfarm]

I have date through a range, from 10 years younger, to four years older than me.

The young gal was a lawyer, and quite a communicator. The older gal, I think I'm breaking up with tonight. Not because of her age, but because her pattern to anger is engrained, I'm tired of being the peacemaker, provider, and protector.

When I date next, who knows where I'll fall.

 

[ShyVixen]

I don't usually go for men under 26 (my age). My 'ideal' age range is between 35 and 45. The experiences I've had in the past have always been with men older than myself. I find I have much more in common with a 40 year old, than a 20 year old. There has been an exception quite recently when the gentleman was younger than me by a few years.

 

[Homburg]

I've met women in their 60's that have turned my head. I'm not willing to say that I have an upper age limit. Not worth it.

After all, how old is Ann-Margret (66, says Wikipedia)? All day, every day, and at least three times on Sundays.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I've always been attracted to older but when it comes right down to it, it's all about maturity and spirit. Would I get involved with someone less than 30? Probably not but that's because most in their 20's are just beginning to experience life and I have no time in mine for youthful drama or helping them learn and find where they fit in this big world of ours.

My husband is 3 years older than me but my Dom is slightly younger. Do I see either as a major obstacle or do I respect either one less? Nope. As a matter of fact, my younger Dom is more mature than my older husband...and I'm closer to him.

 

[doveofserenity]

I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone I could have given birth to.

That says it all to me, the guy would have to be at least in His mid to late thirties. But would prefer them to be 40 or above.

Especially if they claim to be Doms; because i could never submit to a 22 yr old who is supposedly Dom. Because in my mind, if i am old enough to have given birth to him(a 22 yr old); then it would be like my son being my Dom; and that is too creepy to even think about.

 

[wayfarm]

I've always been attracted to older but when it comes right down to it, it's all about maturity and spirit. Would I get involved with someone less than 30? Probably not but that's because most in their 20's are just beginning to experience life and I have no time in mine for youthful drama or helping them learn and find where they fit in this big world of ours.

My husband is 3 years older than me but my Dom is slightly younger. Do I see either as a major obstacle or do I respect either one less? Nope. As a matter of fact, my younger Dom is more mature than my older husband...and I'm closer to him.

Nala, what does the statement above mean? I'm closer to my Dom?
Then why have a husband? How do you balance when a Dom has an order, and your husband has a need, who comes first?

Man, This needs its own thread.

 

[intothewoods]

See I think that's why I'm liking this mid 30's to 40's range, even if it's not what I set out to look for. The guys tend to be a bit more.....phantom of the opera style dom than hng....not that there aren't hngs in that age range, but I'm more of a night in shining armor wench than a pleb wench, ya know.....tho I'll take a warior in a kilt any day of the week, if for nothing more than a bit of a romp in the woods.


I think I've been working on costumes too much!

Hee, hee, wenchie, you crack me up. Btw, I've been meaning to tell you, my crush (as in, we rarely play, and he's more fun to watch than anything - hawt hawt hawt man) wore a black kilt/skirt to the last party I went to. The man managed to make it look so freaking sexy.

Sorry, what were we talking about?

In my experience so far (take that for what it's worth), there tends to be more guys in their 30s who are less formal about their D/s. The older men I meet seem to go straight to ren faire speak. And also, they just seem to make a lot of assumptions right off the bat.

I know I'm very sassy around here, and I can be in real life as well, but I typically am well-behaved when I first meet someone. However, men who make me feel uncomfortable, and do that overly-sexual beat their chest kind of thing, or invade my personal space? I will immediately play up the Toppy slut thang to protect myself.

It just chaps my hide something awful when a man assumes he can fuck me, or that he knows what makes me tick, or any of that bullshit. Excuse me. I am a good looking, accomplished, intelligent woman. You're welcome for the opportunity to share my breathing space.

 

[M's girl]

deleted

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Nala, what does the statement above mean? I'm closer to my Dom?
Then why have a husband? How do you balance when a Dom has an order, and your husband has a need, who comes first?

Man, This needs its own thread.

I was wondering when this question would come up.

I met and married the man who is my husband many moons before I admitted to myself that I was submissive. I brought the desire to my husbands attention through discussing the lifestyle but he is VERY against it...thinks subs are weak and head cases and we subs know that is not the case.

Because of my husbands distaste, I started hanging out on Lit more and I met my Dom accidentally. We meshed well together, he claimed me and the rest is Lit history

My husband has had no desire for me for several years (and does not know that I have a Dom due to above mentioned issues). It may seem like a problem when deciding who comes first, it isn't. While I am very much in love with my husband despite his reluctance to have an intimate relationship with me, my Dom always comes first because he is the one that takes care of me.

My Dom does know that I am married and we both know that there might come a time when I have to worry about my husband's needs. However, neither of us see that as something that will happen anytime soon.

 

[myinnerslut]

im nineteen.... my boyfriends have alsways been at least a year older then me, A is 21. at this point id say nobody 30 or over, or 17 or younger... but then again, im not looking

 

[wayfarm]

I was wondering when this question would come up.

I met and married the man who is my husband many moons before I admitted to myself that I was submissive. I brought the desire to my husbands attention through discussing the lifestyle but he is VERY against it...thinks subs are weak and head cases and we subs know that is not the case.

Because of my husbands distaste, I started hanging out on Lit more and I met my Dom accidentally. We meshed well together, he claimed me and the rest is Lit history

My husband has had no desire for me for several years (and does not know that I have a Dom due to above mentioned issues). It may seem like a problem when deciding who comes first, it isn't. While I am very much in love with my husband despite his reluctance to have an intimate relationship with me, my Dom always comes first because he is the one that takes care of me.

My Dom does know that I am married and we both know that there might come a time when I have to worry about my husband's needs. However, neither of us see that as something that will happen anytime soon.

Ohhh wow! Is the Dom married too? You don't have to answer the question. This is something that perplexs me, yet also intriques my curiousity.

But mostly, scares the shit out of me. From the basis of a man and women who are married, and can't please each other, to the need for someone outside of marriage. To the pecking order.

Whoa.

 

[Netzach]

It really depends on what's meant by "relationship".

People under 24 are a little young for me to find myself attracted to for some reason, on the whole. Likewise people past the early mark of 60, for the most part. I've had some interactions with men over 60 that, outside of professional context still would have been hot scenes, still would have gotten me ramped up, but how do you tell someone "dude, I think you're kinda gross but I'm really REALLY wet for the way you scream?"

 

[silent_subbie]

my age limit is 30-60

 

[the captians wench]

Hee, hee, wenchie, you crack me up. Btw, I've been meaning to tell you, my crush (as in, we rarely play, and he's more fun to watch than anything - hawt hawt hawt man) wore a black kilt/skirt to the last party I went to. The man managed to make it look so freaking sexy.

Sorry, what were we talking about?

In my experience so far (take that for what it's worth), there tends to be more guys in their 30s who are less formal about their D/s. The older men I meet seem to go straight to ren faire speak. And also, they just seem to make a lot of assumptions right off the bat.

I know I'm very sassy around here, and I can be in real life as well, but I typically am well-behaved when I first meet someone. However, men who make me feel uncomfortable, and do that overly-sexual beat their chest kind of thing, or invade my personal space? I will immediately play up the Toppy slut thang to protect myself.

It just chaps my hide something awful when a man assumes he can fuck me, or that he knows what makes me tick, or any of that bullshit. Excuse me. I am a good looking, accomplished, intelligent woman. You're welcome for the opportunity to share my breathing space.

*grabs chest*

did you just seriously call a kilt a skirt?!?!?!?!?! even with a / between the two that's just sacreligous!

 

[the captians wench]

I would say that the maturity and emotional level of someone is most important. I have always dated men that were about the same age as me, while M is younger (7 years). Doesn't it also depend on what age you are? I would never have dated M, of course, when I was -say- 20 and he was 13. At a certain age the difference becomes less important although I can see there comes a time when it becomes more obvious (difficult?) again.

I would never date a guy who could be my child age-wise, nor my father (age-wise). I think that is where I draw the line.

Oh this is something I have huge fun with!

him: "I've been wearing this shirt to clubs since 89"
me: "I was 6 when you started wearing that shirt"
*giggles*

I do love playing up the baby girl thing when ever I can. And playing up the fact that this guy can now brag to his buddies that he's dating/banging/beating a 24 year old. I rather enjoy being arm candy.

 

[wayfarm]

I actually think I know the guy who wears the black kilt. At least I know a guy who wears that kind of stuff.

He lives in LA County, balding a bit on top....
Initials are D B. Cool guy, out of the mainstream. Has an AWESOME house. Lots of Glass...

PM me if we know the same guy.

 

[HB1965]

35-60

 

[DeservingBitch]

At the moment, age doesn't matter as much as the lifestyle of a potential partner. I'm in academia, and as much as I try, it is very difficult to find someone I can connect to who is not part of this world.

Within this context, my 'age' limit goes something like this: not young enough to be one of my students, and not old enough to have gotten tenure before I myself entered the halls of academia.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Ohhh wow! Is the Dom married too? You don't have to answer the question. This is something that perplexs me, yet also intriques my curiousity.

But mostly, scares the shit out of me. From the basis of a man and women who are married, and can't please each other, to the need for someone outside of marriage. To the pecking order.

Whoa.

It's not that hubby can't please me, he won't and is very negative about the BDSM lifestyle that I desire to follow.

In all honesty, if my Dom and I had not hit it off and he had not claimed me, I would never have gotten this far in. I would have kept my desires to myself and lived the life that hubby would prefer I lead. I had, however, the chance to exhibit my desires and happened to fall upon someone who helped "free" me.

My Dom comes first, quite simply, because he is the one that satisfies my needs and desires and the one that has taught me to be proud of who I am.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

A 50 year old in a kilt sounds perfect. Just love older men <swoon>. But younger men seem to flirt with me lately and as I age (I'm 37) 32 years olds seem hot. While 25 year olds.....hmmmm, not so much. I can just imagine sitting at a restaurant with him while he calls the waiter "Dude."