Do you have an age limit?

[GentleSub_Ivy]

It's not that hubby can't please me, he won't and is very negative about the BDSM lifestyle that I desire to follow.

In all honesty, if my Dom and I had not hit it off and he had not claimed me, I would never have gotten this far in. I would have kept my desires to myself and lived the life that hubby would prefer I lead. I had, however, the chance to exhibit my desires and happened to fall upon someone who helped "free" me.

My Dom comes first, quite simply, because he is the one that satisfies my needs and desires and the one that has taught me to be proud of who I am.

I've been straddling this line since I've come to lit but never had the guts to take it out into the real world. I'm glad you have found what works for you.

 

[HottieMama]

Nala...you and i have a lot in common.


i choose not to be with anyone younger than myself (almost 32). i generally prefer 40-55.

 

[sweet_bitch]

So does age matter to you?

i marry person 10 years older then me. i prefer older men to young silly boys.

 

[the captians wench]

A 50 year old in a kilt sounds perfect. Just love older men <swoon>. But younger men seem to flirt with me lately and as I age (I'm 37) 32 years olds seem hot. While 25 year olds.....hmmmm, not so much. I can just imagine sitting at a restaurant with him while he calls the waiter "Dude."

lol

the "dude" really got me

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I've been straddling this line since I've come to lit but never had the guts to take it out into the real world. I'm glad you have found what works for you.

Thanks Ivy. It's taken awhile to truly come to terms with pleasing myself and making myself happy. This is what makes me happy.

I wish my Dom and my husband could be one in the same, but as that is not the case, I have two men in my life that take care of different sets of needs. My Dom and I have spoken about the fact that sooner or later one need is going to over power the other and that is what scares me.

When the time comes, will I be strong enough to follow where my heart leads? At this time yes but what if that times is several years down the line?

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Nala...you and i have a lot in common.


i choose not to be with anyone younger than myself (almost 32). i generally prefer 40-55.

Thanks for knowing where I'm coming from HottieMama

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Age limit? Other than legality, no.

Maturity limits? Hell, yes. She's got to be mature enough to have intelligent discussions on a variety of topics, both concrete and abstract; to understand personal responsibility; to enjoy the company of a variety of persons of other backgrounds and interests; to understand that at my age (almost 58) and in my health situation, there are things I can do and things I'd like to do but can't or shouldn't, and be able to accept those limitations; to understand that the greatest of those limitations is probably my psychological/emotional inability to maintain a viable long-term relationship, and to be able to decide to enjoy what we might have for the time we might have it and part friends, rather than fear the parting and never experience the good parts of our relationship.

My last wife/sub was 24 when we got together; I was 50. Almost two years later, we married; in all, we had three very good years together, one and a half good years, and one where we drifted apart. We divorced, but are still good friends who keep in touch frequently and worry about each other. While together, we played co-ed slow-pitch softball, bowled, participated at least monthly in 19th century cowboy re-enactment activities, as well as organized private and public BDSM activities, and generally had a good time. (This was after my first heart attack, and my second was during this time.) If I found someone like her again, I'd do it again, even with both of us knowing that it likely would only last a few years. There is too little joy in life to pass any up just because "it may not last forever."

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

lol

the "dude" really got me

Well, I'm glad I got a giggle out of ya.

 

[the captians wench]

Well, I'm glad I got a giggle out of ya.

giggles are easy....you got a lol

*giggles*

 

[RawHumor]

I try not to go for the under 25 crowd anymore... but will probably try again at some point, under the right circumstances.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

giggles are easy....you got a lol

*giggles*

He he...Is that like a gold star instead of a silver one?

 

[intothewoods]

*grabs chest*

did you just seriously call a kilt a skirt?!?!?!?!?! even with a / between the two that's just sacreligous!

Well, I was actually sort of confused. What makes a kilt a kilt? I thought it was the plaid part. I know, people, I should wiki/google/whatever. Okay okay. I will. But this was more of a skirt, I think....hmmm...

 

[intothewoods]

I actually think I know the guy who wears the black kilt. At least I know a guy who wears that kind of stuff.

He lives in LA County, balding a bit on top....
Initials are D B. Cool guy, out of the mainstream. Has an AWESOME house. Lots of Glass...

PM me if we know the same guy.

Nope, not the same guy. This guy has a shaved head, tatoos, wears a lot of black, and plays with fire (literally). He's also a total player, and kind of ADD with women. Ooh look, new plaything!

 

[the captians wench]

Well, I was actually sort of confused. What makes a kilt a kilt? I thought it was the plaid part. I know, people, I should wiki/google/whatever. Okay okay. I will. But this was more of a skirt, I think....hmmm...

*giggles*

it was probably what they call a practi-kilt, it came out when kilts became a popular alternitive dress. Most have pockets and everything.

I have seen guys wear skirts,saying they were kilts because they were plaid and they were a guy.

It's something in the way it's folded. If the pleats go all the way around then it's a skirt. but just because they don't doesn't mean it's nessisarily a kilt. I'm not sure the actual deffinition.

 

[be_ignited]

A 50 year old in a kilt sounds perfect. Just love older men <swoon>. But younger men seem to flirt with me lately and as I age (I'm 37) 32 years olds seem hot. While 25 year olds.....hmmmm, not so much. I can just imagine sitting at a restaurant with him while he calls the waiter "Dude."

Seconded. Unfortunately, this makes dating close to my own age rather difficult. I don't think I could stand someone who frequently injects "bro" and "dude" into the conversation and binge drinks for fun.

 

[intothewoods]

*giggles*

it was probably what they call a practi-kilt, it came out when kilts became a popular alternitive dress. Most have pockets and everything.

I have seen guys wear skirts,saying they were kilts because they were plaid and they were a guy.

It's something in the way it's folded. If the pleats go all the way around then it's a skirt. but just because they don't doesn't mean it's nessisarily a kilt. I'm not sure the actual deffinition.

Ok, probably a practi-kilt. It definitely wasn't a women's skirt. He's hawt. I really need to get my freak on with some more pierced/tattoo bad boy types. I think it would help get it out of my system.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Seconded. Unfortunately, this makes dating close to my own age rather difficult. I don't think I could stand someone who frequently injects "bro" and "dude" into the conversation and binge drinks for fun.

You know that's true. Even when I was in my 20s I didn't much like 20-something men. I'm sure you won't have any trouble finding an older man who would like to play.

 

[midwestyankee]

It's impractical, but I'm beginning to wish that I was a few inches taller, a few years younger, and a whole lot more single.

 

[ShyGuy68]

Personally I don't really put much into the age, to me it's more important how the person act and how mature they are. You can meet somebody that is 20 and very mature, and then you can meet a 25 year old, who still acts like a teenager. As you can guess I prefer the mature persons

 

[Netzach]

I am seriously strategizing having at least one 20 something male toy when I am into the later end of 50. I'm holding off till then on purpose.

 

[HB1965]

I am seriously strategizing having at least one 20 something male toy when I am into the later end of 50. I'm holding off till then on purpose.

that might actually be fun. You would be envied

 

[the captians wench]

Ok, probably a practi-kilt. It definitely wasn't a women's skirt. He's hawt. I really need to get my freak on with some more pierced/tattoo bad boy types. I think it would help get it out of my system.

hawt man in a kilt always a good thing.

pierced nipples, even better.

 

[midwestyankee]

I am seriously strategizing having at least one 20 something male toy when I am into the later end of 50. I'm holding off till then on purpose.

This seems completely reasonable to me.

 

[Netzach]

that might actually be fun. You would be envied

Don't envy me, everyone get on board! Do you know how much more sexually adept these guys would actually be by the time they were ready to settle down?
One of the best lays I ever had, and I only did it once, meaningless sport sex with the friend of my GF -- was about 42, and had been kind of "taken on" by a couple of aggressive vanilla middle aged women when he was 21. It paid off.

 

[FurryFury]

A friend of mine recently started attending munches in another city and there she met a sub who is about 70 who got into the scene only about 10 years ago.

For what it's worth, FF, when you get into your fifties you'll still be a younger woman to me - and I gladly buy good pizza (and do other fine things) for younger women.

Thanks so much Midwestyankee!



I LOVE good pizza and other fine things!