Do you have an age limit?

[the captians wench]

Ah, the old "if you are into BDSM you must be rich" argument.

well fuck no one told me that!

Where's my monies bitch?!

 

[im_a_voyeur]

Ah, the old "if you are into BDSM you must be rich" argument.

It seems to me that most people who are into bdsm are broke or just barely comfortable. I'm sure there are plenty of people who are doing pretty well off... I just don't know that many personally. Then again, I don't get into people's finances like that.

 

[callinectes]

Hey I know what vinyl is.


I had pac man christmas on a pretty plastic disc that's too big to go in my cd player when I was 4. *bats eyes*

I also remember trying to put the 45's my mom had into my walkman. *giggles*

Please excuse me while I go get my walker.....

 

[Xelebes]

Youngest: 16, oldest: 35


Only because its legal and any older and it'd have me uncomfortable.

 

[FungiUg]

It seems to me that most people who are into bdsm are broke or just barely comfortable. I'm sure there are plenty of people who are doing pretty well off... I just don't know that many personally. Then again, I don't get into people's finances like that.

I was being sarcastic (poor attempt at what passes for humour in my brain.)

Most people who I know of in the BDSM "lifestyle" struggle with juggling family/work commitments and so on. Very few would be rich or carefree enough not to have to face those.

 

[im_a_voyeur]

I was being sarcastic (poor attempt at what passes for humour in my brain.)

Most people who I know of in the BDSM "lifestyle" struggle with juggling family/work commitments and so on. Very few would be rich or carefree enough not to have to face those.

I realized you were being sarcastic. Just thought I'd answer anyways, lol.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[FungiUg]

For some ungodly strange reason, I seem to attract older, wicked as hell [verifiable] millionairs.

I've never attracted any. What am I doing wrong? Oh, yeah, that whole "heterosexual" thing...

 

[Netzach]

Mmm... yeah... me? For some ungodly strange reason, I seem to attract older, wicked as hell [verifiable] millionairs. So far I'm 3 to 1 for frighteningly wealthy guys.

(And anyone who thinks being rich makes life easier, has obviously never spent a signifigant amount of time with really financially secure people.)

I agree. I was token scholarhip girl. My mom thought they all had it easy, I would not have traded spots though. Not for a second. Money merely allows you to fixate and get weird.

I like comfortable or temporarily uncomfortable due to market crashes myself.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[graceanne]

To tell the truth, as much as I'd like to be comfortable, I have no interest in being rich. On the religious side the bible says that a richman has the chances of getting into heaven as a camel through a needle, or something to that effect. But, beyond that, as far as I can tell lots of money makes you . . . well weird. LOL Plus, if it continues, eventually your line becomes shallow, lazy, and inconsiderate (think the Hiltons).

 

[graceanne]

I'm just still trying to figure what the hell it is about me that pushes their buttons. I live in a world where spending $15 on a book once or twice a month is a huge luxury; the men who have wanted me in their lives (even temporarily) can easily claim mid to high 7 digit portfolios.

It's unnerving.

You're well read, well mannered and good looking. Plus you dress nicely and don't consider sex to be something dirty or shameful. I think I can speak for everyone here on lit to say it doesn't surprise me at all. My mother, when I was flunking out of school, once again assumed I was like her and waiting for Mr. Right. But she told me that rich men don't want uneducated, well mannered chicks, they want someone who won't embarrass them at dinner. I, personally, didn't care since I was suicidal and didn't plan to live that long. But she was right about what rich men want.

 

[marieR19]

*avoids finance convo*

Age limit for me is somewhere between 30-35. If I met someone who was like totally and completely The One, but a little older then 35, then maybe that'd be okay... but any older then 40 is totally off limits. Just... if you are old enough to be my mother, then it's probably not a good idea. Yeah.

Oh, and tho I usually go for older women, I'd be okay with someone younger as long as they were legal, meaning 18 here.


Heather

 

[Thane1234]

I'm just still trying to figure what the hell it is about me that pushes their buttons. I live in a world where spending $15 on a book once or twice a month is a huge luxury; the men who have wanted me in their lives (even temporarily) can easily claim mid to high 7 digit portfolios.

It's unnerving.

Based on your posts, I am guessing it is your mind. I am deliciously and happily involved but, that said, you have an amazing mind.

 

[the captians wench]

see, I guess that's what I'm having a hard time understanding. The whole "he's old enough to be my father/ young enough to be my son" thing. He's not my daddy, so what does it matter that he's old enough to have fathered me.

but I guess my view is a bit skewed because the man who raised me, and who I think of as my father would be 77 now. *shrug*

 

[graceanne]

see, I guess that's what I'm having a hard time understanding. The whole "he's old enough to be my father/ young enough to be my son" thing. He's not my daddy, so what does it matter that he's old enough to have fathered me.

but I guess my view is a bit skewed because the man who raised me, and who I think of as my father would be 77 now. *shrug*

It makes little sense to me, either. My uncle is nearly 50, and frankly my husband is more mature. Heck, his wife is 30, and she's more mature. Age has nothing to do with maturity, or life experience. *shrugs* My family made lots of marriages with huge age difference work many times. My uncle KC was married for 30 years (till he died) to a woman 20 years younger than him. My grandpa is married to a woman 17 years yonger than him,and they've got 20+ years.

 

[FurryFury]

It makes little sense to me, either. My uncle is nearly 50, and frankly my husband is more mature. Heck, his wife is 30, and she's more mature. Age has nothing to do with maturity, or life experience. *shrugs* My family made lots of marriages with huge age difference work many times. My uncle KC was married for 30 years (till he died) to a woman 20 years younger than him. My grandpa is married to a woman 17 years yonger than him,and they've got 20+ years.

I gotta agree with y'all. It's the person, not the age I am drawn to.

 

[midwestyankee]

I agree. I was token scholarhip girl. My mom thought they all had it easy, I would not have traded spots though. Not for a second. Money merely allows you to fixate and get weird.

<snip>

Many years ago I taught for a summer session at a very expensive prep school in New England. Students had names like Rockefeller, Woolworth, etc. I learned so much about the absurdities of being wealthy in that eight weeks. Sometime, remind me to tell the story of the son of the famous television comedian. Yikes!

 

[FurryFury]

Many years ago I taught for a summer session at a very expensive prep school in New England. Students had names like Rockefeller, Woolworth, etc. I learned so much about the absurdities of being wealthy in that eight weeks. Sometime, remind me to tell the story of the son of the famous television comedian. Yikes!

<nudge, nudge>

So about that story . . .

I am personally very cautious about people with serious money. As long as I don't know them well, many of them seem perfectly nice and reasonable on the surface. However, if I get closer, I am usually wanting to take a shower right quick. I'm sure there are lovely rich people out there though. There must be. Right?

 

[sexycaz22]

I would, usual, be looking for someone closer to my age (-3 + 5 from my age which is 27), as I feel I would find things in common with them, but it doesn't mean that I would ignore those who might not be closer to my age. In fact, my play partner is 39 years old, which in my view, is not closer to my age, but I enjoy being with him and I am extremely lucky to have him to guide me and to spank my lovely bum, and allows me to explore other things with other Doms, if I wish it.

However, I don't think I would have a long-term relationship with someone younger than 23 either, but I do have a reason for that, it would depend on if they were mature enough for their age. I would prefer to be in a long-term relationship with someone who would be a little more experienced than me, and if they are closer to my age, even better, but it won't bother me if they were older than me or younger than me, as long as they were mature.

Basically, age does not matter to me, as long as my potential partners are mature, and not so immature.

 

[Lilith]

I prefer to spend my time with men who are in their 30's or older. That being said, I'm not opposed to eye candy of any age.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm thinking now maybe I should have done a poll with this.

but there does seem to be a very noticable trend in the women.

most of the women who have posted have said they look for a guy their age and up to 8 years older. Not that they all rule out ones older or younger, but this is the age group that the initally look into.

So if you're looking at a personal add, do you go streight to the age before you decide to reply or not. And do you look only with in your preselected age group, or do you shop all the adds?

 

[graceanne]

I'm thinking now maybe I should have done a poll with this.

but there does seem to be a very noticable trend in the women.

most of the women who have posted have said they look for a guy their age and up to 8 years older. Not that they all rule out ones older or younger, but this is the age group that the initally look into.

So if you're looking at a personal add, do you go streight to the age before you decide to reply or not. And do you look only with in your preselected age group, or do you shop all the adds?

Can't help you there, I don't look at ads, unless it's the ad of a friend and they asked to.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm thinking now maybe I should have done a poll with this.

but there does seem to be a very noticable trend in the women.

most of the women who have posted have said they look for a guy their age and up to 8 years older. Not that they all rule out ones older or younger, but this is the age group that the initally look into.

So if you're looking at a personal add, do you go streight to the age before you decide to reply or not. And do you look only with in your preselected age group, or do you shop all the adds?[/b

When looking on personals for female playmates, I look only at the ones over 30. I see no point in looking at the younger ones unless they send me a message or wink, and then it's only out of curiosity before I send them a "Thanks but no thanks" message.

My age limits are clearly stated in my profile - I dunno what makes them think they are so special that I'll change my mind

Master Gil looks at everyone regardless of age - He doesn't have that hangup However He respects my limits in this regard and we now have a lovely playmate in her early 40s

 

[nh23]

I don't really have an age limit per say. I've always been involved with men older than I am. Just being around those my age (I'm 26) and younger, I feel that most of them just are not on the same level as I am. I know there are exceptions, but from my experience wisdom does come with age. That being said, I have never been involved with anyone over 45, so I have no experience with men over that age to have a say one way or the other.