Does your spouse know?

[Misshotndeep]

Yeah, I think, particularly with this generation, simply "online" is going to be a more appropriate response. I don't really care. But then, I don't embarrass easily. I mean, you should see the wife's face when I twirl the baby in the shopping cart at target making race car noises.

"Everyone is looking at us."

"You're in people's way." Like I wasnt doing it just to keep them from passing us. The concept of racing is entirely lost on her.

I remember the fist time I sailed though a parking lot with my kid doing this. Both of us yelling like crazy people and my hubs standing there in total shock and confusions. Someone has to be the grounded parent. I am so not that one. lol
I am glad my hubs isn't on here. It wouldn't be my the getaway if I had to watch for him here to!

 

[lovecraft68]

Hi honey!

It is theoretically possible to have several Lit spouses.

Yes, but they only write group sex stories.

 

[LizVegas79]

No, my husband does NOT know. He is very possessive of me. He would be shocked, mad and probably ultimately ashamed of some of the things I've posted on here. I've had what some would probably call a "checkered past" and I've confessed waaaay more on here about it than I ever have to my husband. But I don't feel like I'm hiding anything from him. He honestly doesn't want to know "everything" and has said many many times he loves me for who I am not who I was.

Yes, it is a bit of a thrill to have so many secret naughty friends. I've actually told him about some of the "friends" I've met on here as if I met them at work or like they're friends of other people I know. If we ever get to the point of wife swapping parties or anything like that I might eventually tell him about LIT, but until then this is my dirty little secret and I don't mind being judged about it.

 

[lovetoread]

No, my husband does NOT know. He is very possessive of me. He would be shocked, mad and probably ultimately ashamed of some of the things I've posted on here. I've had what some would probably call a "checkered past" and I've confessed waaaay more on here about it than I ever have to my husband. But I don't feel like I'm hiding anything from him. He honestly doesn't want to know "everything" and has said many many times he loves me for who I am not who I was.

Yes, it is a bit of a thrill to have so many secret naughty friends. I've actually told him about some of the "friends" I've met on here as if I met them at work or like they're friends of other people I know. If we ever get to the point of wife swapping parties or anything like that I might eventually tell him about LIT, but until then this is my dirty little secret and I don't mind being judged about it.

Thinking and acting like this is the kiss of death for a marriage.

Lit is not a good place to be if you are married but the partner doesnt know.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Thinking and acting like this is the kiss of death for a marriage.

Lit is not a good place to be if you are married but the partner doesnt know.

Who are you to judge.

 

[medicmike]

Like LIZ mine does not know. She is very jealous and insecure. I come here to express things she doesn't want to hear or do. We are adults and make our own choices, hence we must live with the consequences....

 

[smoothg103rd]

Don't have one. If I did, idk. I probably would leave this place before I tell her. I don't even want the homies to know that I'm here,let alone my girl.

I don't use it as a porn board anyway. So if someone was to find out, I wouldn't deny it, I'll keep it real with them. But I'm not going to go around and promote the shit.

 

[Recidiva]

Who are you to judge.

It's a question of gradients and degrees.

Without communication, without trust, what you have is appearances. An apparent marriage.

It is because some people value communication and trust, and making these choices together, which means an actual partnership, or there are people who want to appear to be partners, but aren't.

It's like levels of gangrene. You start to go a little numb, then a little discolored, and then that's okay, it's not like you really use it...then it's gotta come off.

Numbness...first step...bad sign, get the circulation back.

Problem is that unlike a leg, a dead marriage can look perfectly fine to outsiders as long as the people agree ironically to look like they agree.

Have whatever relationship you'd like, but don't call it a relationship if you have chosen to essentially not relate. Then it's just social camouflage.

 

[LizVegas79]

Thinking and acting like this is the kiss of death for a marriage.

Lit is not a good place to be if you are married but the partner doesnt know.

I've been married for ten years and have two kids. How long may I ask have you been married?

Who are you to judge.

Like LIZ mine does not know. She is very jealous and insecure. I come here to express things she doesn't want to hear or do. We are adults and make our own choices, hence we must live with the consequences....

Exactly. Adults will often be childish and perhaps even selfish, self-centered asses. But we live with the consequences of our decisions and steer our own course when and IF we feel like we're heading for a cliff.

 

[lovetoread]

I've been married for ten years and have two kids. How long may I ask have you been married?

I was married when I joined lit so long ago. I was married for 12 years and had 3 kids. I also thought I could handle what comes from posting here as a female.

I am no longer married to that person. So yea, I know a lot about this topic, thanks.

 

[Aglaopheme]

Absolutely.

 

[Queersetti]

Does it count if you get your spouse off of lit?

Did you mean to say "off of" or "off on"?

 

[lovetoread]

Did you mean to say "off of" or "off on"?

I tend to think both would work.

 

[parodyluvr75]

My wife posts on here. She's really awesome and hot. She likes me to flirt on Lit so she can follow me around and call me a hussy. We have an understanding.

 

[pointless]

yep. there's a lot of stupid people who post here.

 

[Monkey_Face]

Did you mean to say "off of" or "off on"?

Off. It's like... finding something on the ground.

"Where'd you get that candy bar?"

"Off the floor. Little melty, still good."

 

[Bookishleigh]

Don't have one. If I did, idk. I probably would leave this place before I tell her. I don't even want the homies to know that I'm here,let alone my girl.

I don't use it as a porn board anyway. So if someone was to find out, I wouldn't deny it, I'll keep it real with them. But I'm not going to go around and promote the shit.

Whatevs! I saw you out there with the big promo board that said, sign up for Lit! It's awesome! (Kidding!)

As for "does my spouse know?" No, I'm a spouseless currently (can we hear the angels singing the Hallelujah chorus?). Wanna know what one of the kisses of death for us was? My FAILURE to be honest about my sexual past - I was too afraid to be open about just how sexually adventurous I was/like to be and he was too afraid to admit just how much of a prude/asexual being he really was. So we faked it, finding a middle ground for a couple years, hung in together for a decade until the whole relationship imploded.

Yeah, it wasn't just the sex, but the sex was a smaller issue of the big picture - lack of communication. I'll never do that again. If I can't tell my spouse/partner about some silly website, then that person is NOT the person for me....

 

[parodyluvr75]

Not just on here, they're everywhere.

 

[Queersetti]

Thinking and acting like this is the kiss of death for a marriage.

Lit is not a good place to be if you are married but the partner doesn't know yet.

You left off a word, so I fixed it for you.

I'm helpful like that.

 

[LizVegas79]

I was married when I joined lit so long ago. I was married for 12 years and had 3 kids. I also thought I could handle what comes from posting here as a female.

I am no longer married to that person. So yea, I know a lot about this topic, thanks.

Interesting. So you blame Lit for ruining your marriage and because of that you project the same fate onto every other person's marriage? Seems a tad judge-y and like a convenient way to avoid personal responsibility doesn't it?

 

[Queersetti]

Public Service Announcement: All your spouses know more than you think they do.


We now return you to our regularly scheduled program.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Interesting. So you blame Lit for ruining your marriage and because of that you project the same fate onto every other person's marriage? Seems a tad judge-y and like a convenient way to avoid personal responsibility doesn't it?

I don't know LTR well and she sure doesn't need me to speak for her, but reading through this thread, your quoted posts with each other in particular, it is very apparent that she was referring to hiding and secret-keeping. You accusing her of blaming lit is a projection. Choose your own path, by all means, but don't expect to avoid the consequences.

If I got it wrong, my apologies to LTR.

 

[Queersetti]

Interesting. So you blame Lit for ruining your marriage and because of that you project the same fate onto every other person's marriage? Seems a tad judge-y and like a convenient way to avoid personal responsibility doesn't it?

Nothing in what she posted would give cause to believe she was avoiding responsibility.

 

[pointless]

ugh, so stupid.

 

[JohnnySavage]

It's my plan to marry a GB'er.