Does your spouse know?

[lovetoread]

I don't know LTR well and she sure doesn't need me to speak for her, but reading through this thread, your quoted posts with each other in particular, it is very apparent that she was referring to hiding and secret-keeping. You accusing her of blaming lit is a projection. Choose your own path, by all means, but don't expect to avoid the consequences.

If I got it wrong, my apologies to LTR.

Exactly, lit didnt kill my marriage, me playing with others without his knowledge did.

Nothing in what she posted would give cause to believe she was avoiding responsibility.

It was all my fault, cant blame lit.

ugh, so stupid.

Eh, I thought I was the same, that there was no way an internet site could affect real life. I was majorly wrong.

 

[Bookishleigh]

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My spouse knows nothing, Queersetti Snow!!!!!

 

[smoothg103rd]

Whatevs! I saw you out there with the big promo board that said, sign up for Lit! It's awesome! (Kidding!)

As for "does my spouse know?" No, I'm a spouseless currently (can we hear the angels singing the Hallelujah chorus?). Wanna know what one of the kisses of death for us was? My FAILURE to be honest about my sexual past - I was too afraid to be open about just how sexually adventurous I was/like to be and he was too afraid to admit just how much of a prude/asexual being he really was. So we faked it, finding a middle ground for a couple years, hung in together for a decade until the whole relationship imploded.

Yeah, it wasn't just the sex, but the sex was a smaller issue of the big picture - lack of communication. I'll never do that again. If I can't tell my spouse/partner about some silly website, then that person is NOT the person for me....

What a woman did in the past isn't a concern of mine. She could've fucked a million guys before me. As long as I'm the only one she is fucking after me, then we're good.

I never understood why do people get mad at someone sexual past. It was years before you. Not yesterday.

I wouldn't tell my girl about Lit tho. If she asks, I'll be honest. But I'm not just going to come out and say "baby, I joined a Lit a couple of years back". Nope. Can't do.

 

[bronzeage]

No, my husband does NOT know. He is very possessive of me. He would be shocked, mad and probably ultimately ashamed of some of the things I've posted on here. I've had what some would probably call a "checkered past" and I've confessed waaaay more on here about it than I ever have to my husband. But I don't feel like I'm hiding anything from him. He honestly doesn't want to know "everything" and has said many many times he loves me for who I am not who I was.

Yes, it is a bit of a thrill to have so many secret naughty friends. I've actually told him about some of the "friends" I've met on here as if I met them at work or like they're friends of other people I know. If we ever get to the point of wife swapping parties or anything like that I might eventually tell him about LIT, but until then this is my dirty little secret and I don't mind being judged about it.

You aren't happy in your home, so you come to lit for a little sip of the elixir of cheat. I'm not the judgmental type, but I'm always happy to offer an opinion. That's a rough road.

It's much more likely you and your husband will soon be with someone else, and it won't be at a wife swapping party.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Now if I caught my spouse on Lit, I wouldn't care. I'm not insecure.

If she was just here being friendly and conversating ( like I do ) I wouldn't care.

But if she is here flirting with guys and having cyber sex or encouraging sexual activities, we will have a problem. I'll feel like I'm not enough for her. And I know that I'm enough for any woman. So I'll dump her. I'll tell her to be with one of those Internet guys that she lust over.

 

[Sean]

Interesting. So you blame Lit for ruining your marriage and because of that you project the same fate onto every other person's marriage? Seems a tad judge-y and like a convenient way to avoid personal responsibility doesn't it?

Just a tip, no way are you smart enough to carry off the deception you seem to be engaging in for long.

 

[smoothg103rd]

You aren't happy in your home, so you come to lit for a little sip of the elixir of cheat. I'm not the judgmental type, but I'm always happy to offer an opinion. That's a rough road.

It's much more likely you and your husband will soon be with someone else, and it won't be at a wife swapping party.

Her husband sounds like the sucker type. So maybe he will just stick around and be unhappy. Any man that swap his wife is a sucker.

 

[screwher]

Does your spouse know that you're on Lit? If not, why? Is it a thrill of having another life outside of your own? Or they just wouldn't understand?

No my wife doesn't know. I'm on here to express my fantasies of other men having sex with her. Something I don't know for sure if she's up to fulfilling for me. Years ago she did have sex with another man. I was of a different mindset then and it almost ruined our relationship. Soon after we put the incident behind us I started to get aroused by her tryst and began fantasizing about other men screwing her. Now I want her to do it again. Until then i enjoy talking about it on here and PMing with other men about them having sex with her.

I hope that when our relationship is to where i want it she'll start having a presence here.

 

[Fala]

My spouse not only knows I am on here....I frequently call him over to show him a thread, a pic, a vid clip.

However I've broken into many guffaws over the years on this board...my hollers for him to "come see this", are often ignored.

He's too busy Facebooking with all his Cali porn buddies and friends.

Most are from the 70's-90's porn scene.

 

[neci]

my other half knows i am here. in my earlier days i tried to hide unruly behavior. that wore off fast and hard. it is so much easier to be honest about who i am and where i am in this sexual adventure called life. anyways, i rarely get aroused on lit anymore. this is why people need to post more penis. lots more penis. i am a penis whore, and this is not something i hide.

 

[Fala]

My spouse not only knows I am on here....I frequently call him over to show him a thread, a pic, a vid clip.

However I've broken into many guffaws over the years on this board...my hollers for him to "come see this", are often ignored.

He's too busy Facebooking with all his Cali porn buddies and friends.

Most are from the 70's-90's porn scene.

BTW, when your spouse has to swat off about 4 of his office staff leaning in over his shoulder to overhear a conversation between himself and John Holmes...

Being on Lit is really not a problem.

 

[neci]

BTW, when your spouse has to swat off about 4 of his office staff leaning in over his shoulder to overhear a conversation between himself and John Holmes...

Being on Lit is really not a problem.

john holmes can speak?!

 

[Sean]

john holmes can speak?!

Not for about the last thirty years, he's dead.

 

[Bookishleigh]

Not for about the last thirty years, he's dead.

Oh, he's still speaking, alright....

 

[Fala]

john holmes can speak?!

Well, before he died...yes. Not the best example I pulled out of my hat. But he knew them all.

Many of the old-timers were some of the nicest people. I've met a few myself over the years.

Understand, tho, that these were as far back as 30+ years ago.

We used to be in "the biz" as they say. As retailers...but the husband has worn many hats in this business.

We sold our biz about 2 years ago. We're off on other ventures now!

 

[warrior queen]

Just a tip, no way are you smart enough to carry off the deception you seem to be engaging in for long.

Of course she is
She's the one single person EVER who will manage to pull this off!
All hail her superiority






















Too much sarcasm?

 

[Conager]

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This is undoubtedly true. They may not know exactly where you go, exactly who you talk to, or exactly what you talk about but I guarantee you they have to have some idea that you're doing something at least mildly sketchy online.

I can be talking to a total stranger in the bar know nothing about her or her situation or relationships and just by the look on her face when she gets a text I can tell you whether that text was provocative or not.

If you're here for a little harmless diversion be aware that your spouse's antenna is up. If you start combining that with unaccounted for time and other things that make a spouse think you're cheating in the real world, they will probably getting easier than they currently are.

Keyloggers don't shade the truth if they decide they want to know.

Personally I wouldn't want to be in a situation where I would worry someone was looking over my shoulder. I would definitely not be in a relationship with anyone where I felt honesty would be penalized.

 

[Fala]

In my opinion....just shit or get off the pot. If you don't care enough about the one you are with....just go.

...do them a favor.

 

[neci]

Not for about the last thirty years, he's dead.

that sounds right.

Well, before he died...yes. Not the best example I pulled out of my hat. But he knew them all.

Many of the old-timers were some of the nicest people. I've met a few myself over the years.

Understand, tho, that these were as far back as 30+ years ago.

We used to be in "the biz" as they say. As retailers...but the husband has worn many hats in this business.

We sold our biz about 2 years ago. We're off on other ventures now!

i hope you two are enjoying your new adventures!

 

[Fala]

that sounds right.



i hope you two are enjoying your new adventures!

Thanks doll! We're working hard to break into the hops growing business. So much to learn. Husband has been traveling all over to attend conferences and classes. This was his idea....I think he's nuts.

But....as usual, I support his ideas, efforts and work with him. So far, he hasn't steered us wrong.

Austin is a huge craft beer industry. Husband has already obtained many specimens.

We have a bit more work to do on the property before we can get them planted.

Deer fence...irrigation....we have the materials, we've just been so overwhelmed with other things right now....but it's coming along~

 

[neci]

Thanks doll! We're working hard to break into the hops growing business. So much to learn. Husband has been traveling all over to attend conferences and classes. This was his idea....I think he's nuts.

But....as usual, I support his ideas, efforts and work with him. So far, he hasn't steered us wrong.

Austin is a huge craft beer industry. Husband has already obtained many specimens.

We have a bit more work to do on the property before we can get them planted.

Deer fence...irrigation....we have the materials, we've just been so overwhelmed with other things right now....but it's coming along~

deer will eat those hops right up! do you have decent well water? i know the area around ATX has been drought ridden for a while. i wish you guys the best. it is overwhelming. i've heard olives grow well in the hill country as well. i could see myself moving to that area one day, but i would want land away from the city. a place to grow. that's a one day in the far future kind of dream.

 

[JohnnySavage]

Thanks doll! We're working hard to break into the hops growing business. So much to learn. Husband has been traveling all over to attend conferences and classes. This was his idea....I think he's nuts.

But....as usual, I support his ideas, efforts and work with him. So far, he hasn't steered us wrong.

Austin is a huge craft beer industry. Husband has already obtained many specimens.

We have a bit more work to do on the property before we can get them planted.

Deer fence...irrigation....we have the materials, we've just been so overwhelmed with other things right now....but it's coming along~

Nice irony in a thread about hiding illicit activities from your spouse

"Conferences" and 'Classes"

 

[Fala]

deer will eat those hops right up! do you have decent well water? i know the area around ATX has been drought ridden for a while. i wish you guys the best. it is overwhelming. i've heard olives grow well in the hill country as well. i could see myself moving to that area one day, but i would want land away from the city. a place to grow. that's a one day in the far future kind of dream.

Yes! omg, you are in the know and I'm so glad to know this! Yes...We have a good well.

It's also so funny that you have mentioned olives. Husband has looked into that too!

He's definitely done his homework on all of this.

Neci, if you ever decide to migrate back this way, we have a guest room and you can stay here as long as you like. We would also love your imput on all of this.

 

[neci]

Yes! omg, you are in the know and I'm so glad to know this! Yes...We have a good well.

It's also so funny that you have mentioned olives. Husband has looked into that too!

He's definitely done his homework on all of this.

Neci, if you ever decide to migrate back this way, we have a guest room and you can stay here as long as you like. We would also love your imput on all of this.

olives are a bitch to harvest, because of the thorns, but that's what prevents the deer from getting them. a perimeter of olives might anchor a fenced hops field. i've been through hops fields in austria. they grew them up wire attached to poles. so beautiful. the vines seem to go on forever. easily 20-30'. i pass through the hill country several times a year. we will have to touch base.

 

[Fala]

Yes! omg, you are in the know and I'm so glad to know this! Yes...We have a good well.

It's funny that you have mentioned olives. Husband has looked into that too!

He's definitely done his homework on all of this.

Neci, if you ever decide to migrate back this way, we have a guest room and you can stay here as long as you like. We would also love your input on all of this.

Oh! to add! the property we bought has a home on it...we mainly use it for our offices. It's only a half mile from our home...but out in the country on a really cool "off the beaten path" compound with only 5 homes.

Our next door neighbor there just notified us he is selling his place soon...we've sent notices to every place in the compound offering to buy their properties. He know's we're good for it and I expect that we will take over his place when he sells.

This compound is up on a hill over the Onion Creek. Otherwise, it's completely surrounded by land owned by a very wealthy woman who has vowed to leave her land to a conservatory. We are thrilled about that, obviously. It's beautiful open field that she runs her cows, goats and donkey's on. Beautiful land. Dotted heavily with pecan trees.

There are so many other awesome features to this place...but the best part is...it's totally hidden...only one road in/out. It's truly a "compound". Very private and out in the country.