Emotional Infidelity

[Raging Whoremoans]

I think it's totally unfair to have your physical partner go on believing s/he is also your emotional partner. I struggle with this. Where does such a disclosure fit in the home harmony equation?

What's unfair is being in a situation that has altered beyond your limits and being unable to extract yourself from it when you realize the depth of change.

Conversely, are you comfortable "deceiving" your current lover into believing s/he is the source of your ecstasy? Occasionally? Consistently?

More comfortable imagining someone else than I am with losing a part of myself every time I give more than I want to give.

Where do you draw the line?

Sometimes you have to look out for number one.

Seriously, all this back-bending for the other person's pleasure/comfort when you're miserable? I've been there. It isn't worth it.