Erectile dysfunction advice needed

[X15]

This topic interests me because hubby has a high stress job and gets frustrated when he needs to release his pent up frustrations but can’t fuck. We’ve tried many things. I have bought him a TENS 7000 for his back pain, so when I read about a man using this to cum set my mind in motion.

We put one lead on his cock head and another on the base is his cock. We adjusted the strength and pulsation until we got it right. With the power turned up and the unit set to pulse, with each pulse I could see a mix of pain and extreme pleasure on his face. With each contracting pulse he said the electric shock felt like it was sucking the cum out of his cock. He was semi hard, and moaning deeply until he convulsed and exploded cum everywhere. He said he momentarily blacked out and felt completely overwhelmed and “released.”

We have done this several more times with the same mind blowing climaxes. He is wanting to try it on my pussy… I’m anxiously waiting.

He can get semi hard enough to fuck, this at least gives him relief that a blow job doesn’t always deliver.

 

[sundown1]

I'm hitting all the symptoms/causes for ED. I get testosterone shots, I use Cialis, and nothing to scream about, it gets up, but doesn't really care if it does it's job. I have high blood, diabetes, and overweight. What blows my mind is in the middle of the night I get a piss hard on, that in my youth was never this hard. I sometimes stroke it just to remember the good old days when it's this hard. That's why I think mine is mind related, some medical, and age related 57, but still it's hard as a rock like this. I can remember maybe 25 years or so, I was spanking it every morning before work, I remember thinking all those ads for ED meds, that would suck to have that, before long I had it. I think some of it is psychosomatic.

 

[Mtnmike]

I'm hitting all the symptoms/causes for ED. I get testosterone shots, I use Cialis, and nothing to scream about, it gets up, but doesn't really care if it does it's job. I have high blood, diabetes, and overweight. What blows my mind is in the middle of the night I get a piss hard on, that in my youth was never this hard. I sometimes stroke it just to remember the good old days when it's this hard. That's why I think mine is mind related, some medical, and age related 57, but still it's hard as a rock like this. I can remember maybe 25 years or so, I was spanking it every morning before work, I remember thinking all those ads for ED meds, that would suck to have that, before long I had it. I think some of it is psychosomatic.

These are common things that happen to men, Drs seem to just want to take the easy way out and throw med's at the problem instead of finding the real cause . In today's world our stress levels are much more higher than the past, I think this is one of our big problems, just my thoughts.

 

[sundown1]

These are common things that happen to men, Drs seem to just want to take the easy way out and throw med's at the problem instead of finding the real cause . In today's world our stress levels are much more higher than the past, I think this is one of our big problems, just my thoughts.

Luckily I know of a good stress reliever...

 

[Mtnmike]

Luckily I know of a good stress reliever...

Really please tell us the deprived want to know

 

[sundown1]

Really please tell us the deprived want to know

 

[sundown1]

It's more of a technique, it has to be shown...

 

[Mtnmike]

Lol I understand
I'll check my mail

 

[Gengen0806]

Have u used meds and which one? A Canadian Pharmacy online might be a convenient solution. They often offer affordable, discreet options for medications like Viagra or Cialis. Always ensure you're using a licensed pharmacy and consult your doctor first. Online reviews can help identify trustworthy sites for safe purchases. Hope this helps

 

[NancyPan]

ED is no fun and there are some good suggestions in this thread. But, keep in mind that an erection isn’t a requirement for a male orgasm, and the combination of a talented tongue and a dildo and/or vibrator can certainly provide her orgasms.

 

[htobeme5]

ED is no fun and there are some good suggestions in this thread. But, keep in mind that an erection isn’t a requirement for a male orgasm, and the combination of a talented tongue and a dildo and/or vibrator can certainly provide her orgasms.

yes, i'm soft, but can give a woman a orgasm with excellent toys and if she makes a little effort, instead of just layind across the bed.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Sincere sympathy to all the men dealing with ED. Gratitude for your candor. I am certain you are helping others who may be reading the thread but don't feel comfortable posting. I am sure it can be difficult to see ED as "just a medical issue" when there is such a blow to the ego, the sense of self, that often comes with it. This is a medical issue like any other and I hope one day men will feel more comfortable discussing it.

To all the men who wrote about stress, thank you. Mental health has such a tremendous effect on our physical wellbeing. For those of you seeing a therapist, I support you. For those of you considering therapy, I encourage you to go. Mental health is health. We take our cars in to the shop if something needs a tune up but we hesitate to do that with our minds because of stigma. Let's squash the stigma.

I don't want to intrude on a thread for men to be vulnerable in. Just wanted to share my support for all of you. Thank you for talking about this and supporting each other!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Hubby has had to deal with this (but has lost a lot of weight, blood pressure and diabetes under control, never was much of a drinker), but if the goal is the _emotion_ connection of being able to satisfy a partner we have found various cock sleeves to be incredibly useful. When we really just absolutely want to fuck they completely take the mental pressure off, as he's, well, what he's wearing, is hard for as long as we need.

and after I'm completely satisfied he finds it a lot easier to get and stay hard for more conventional sex - the fucking we would have had if he hadn't been worried about being able to fuck. He's not as hard as he was before all this happens, but enough to comfortably play.

The mind does have a lot to do with it. The scene from Victor Victoria with "think, worry, worry, think" is true. But this takes the pressure off.

 

[skitzoid]

NancyPan ,, tried all that and I always really enjoy giving the wife pleasure. Now she doesn't even want that. So we have moved into the sex-laess relm. Damn depressing.

 

[Dapperguy]

Get a big fat cock planted in your hole. That’ll cure any feckin dysfunction.

 

[DaddyG69]

I’m not old (60) but I’ve been in a sexless marriage for several years and I’m pretty depressed about it. I’ve been drinking more than I should and am also on blood pressure meds so what was once a fierce erection is almost nonexistent. I’ve reached the point where I might want to step out but this condition has really shattered my confidence. Even masturbating is difficult. I’ll be seeing my MD in a month or so and I’ll bring it up with him. In the meantime I’m considering getting some toys but am unsure what to get (Prostate toys? Rings?). I’m also considering trying an erotic massage to see if that could get things going. Any thoughts on the subject are greatly appreciated.

I was having a similar problem and using meds to help but hated the side effects. Saw a functional health doctor. Got on a program of healthy eating and light exercise. Lost 35 pounds. Overall health improved and now I'm like a hormonal teenager erection wise. My wife and I are both enjoying the improvement. Just do whatever you can to get healthy. Never too late.

 

[sydneyboy123]

I have ED. My wife likes to say things about it. She doesn't even try to soothe my ego. Rather just minimizes her humiliating comment about my minimal soft penis.
A most frequent comment is, " jerk that flabby dick, cause that's all it's good for."
And I jerk it for her.
A most famous comment was after she applied some lube to it, she said, " That dick is so small and squishy soft that it slips out of my grip." And it was true. I love it.

 

[Dirtydaydream94]

I'm surprised that no one has talked about being rabbitholed.
There are large numbers of younger men suffering from ED for Physiological reasons rather than physical. For example. If a man falls too far into the porn "rabbit hole" watching increasingly more "hard-core", violent, taboo, etc....it may cause desensitization to their sex drive. Where "normal" sexual encounters just don't erouse them anymore.
Even masturbating too frequently can cause this. Your brain begins associating the touch of your hand, strokes, etc with sexual release. Meaning over time, even first person sexual encounters can prove difficult to perform.
I enjoy porn as much as all of my fellow LIT users but...sometimes it can ruin you mentally, and even your sex life.
Stay safe out there

 

[curioustxn]

I'm surprised that no one has talked about being rabbitholed.
There are large numbers of younger men suffering from ED for Physiological reasons rather than physical. For example. If a man falls too far into the porn "rabbit hole" watching increasingly more "hard-core", violent, taboo, etc....it may cause desensitization to their sex drive. Where "normal" sexual encounters just don't erouse them anymore.
Even masturbating too frequently can cause this. Your brain begins associating the touch of your hand, strokes, etc with sexual release. Meaning over time, even first person sexual encounters can prove difficult to perform.
I enjoy porn as much as all of my fellow LIT users but...sometimes it can ruin you mentally, and even your sex life.
Stay safe out there

This is a good point; although, even if a man who is healthy does become dependent on porn and masturbation for sexual satisfaction, and loses his natural attraction for physical/sexual contact with another person, (which happens), he should be able to get an erection.

 

[Nekidinaz]

You might not want to hear this, but the single most effective thing to do, is cutting way back on the drinking or quitting altogether if that is easier.

Second most effective (and less drinking will help with this too) is trying to get your blood pressure down so you don’t need the meds/less meds/different meds.
That means working on finding better ways to handle stress, getting enough exercise (will help with the stress too), and eating well.
Your doctor might be able to help with finding meds that work better for you but being able to keep a healty blood pressure on your own is better, because erections are essentially blood pressure.

Toys and what not can feel good, but it doesn’t sound like your problems are due to a lack of interest.
Rings and pumps might help with erection, but it’s more of a work around than a fix.

I believe you're absolutely correct! I would suggest he Google ways to lower blood pressure naturally, without meds...poor health can often times be remedied by diet and exercise

 

[Nekidinaz]

Talking with a professional urologist may help. Drinking, meds, stress, and lack of exercise play into all of this. Meds like Viagra help, but are not the cure. Be open and honest with your doctor.

Yes, talking to a urologist may help but ultimately a urologist is still a medical doctor and likely to prescribe more drugs...if I were to suggest anything it would be to find a urologist or a men's clinic and get testosterone levels tested... lifestyle changes like diet, nutrition advice and maybe a personal trainer plus maybe TRT would make for some serious changes ...

 

[Nekidinaz]

Agree with you! The BP meds and others impact ED - restricting blood flow. And yes, once you are on the meds, the doctors do not want to pull you off of them. Grrrr.

My experience is that western medicine is only interested in managing symptoms, hence they tend to overpresribe medications...they're not looking to "cure" you and they know very little about nutrition so they don't stray far from pharmaceutical "solutions"...just my experience

 

[Nekidinaz]

These are common things that happen to men, Drs seem to just want to take the easy way out and throw med's at the problem instead of finding the real cause . In today's world our stress levels are much more higher than the past, I think this is one of our big problems, just my thoughts.

Yup! ...
Pretty much everything he mentioned can be remedied by diet, nutrition and exercise.
It's not really that hard to eat healthy (greatly reduce/eliminate sugar and junk/fast food)...then there's the exercise...
I'd recommend finding a good personal trainer who knows how to create a fun and healthy eating plan and workout schedule...then get oneself to the gym with your trainer and a specific goal plan...
Easy? Nope...Cheap? Probably Not (but cheaper than a stroke or a heart attack)..
But is it worth it? For me? Absolutely ! For anyone else? If you don't try it, you'll never know

 

[sundown1]

I'm surprised that no one has talked about being rabbitholed.
There are large numbers of younger men suffering from ED for Physiological reasons rather than physical. For example. If a man falls too far into the porn "rabbit hole" watching increasingly more "hard-core", violent, taboo, etc....it may cause desensitization to their sex drive. Where "normal" sexual encounters just don't erouse them anymore.
Even masturbating too frequently can cause this. Your brain begins associating the touch of your hand, strokes, etc with sexual release. Meaning over time, even first person sexual encounters can prove difficult to perform.
I enjoy porn as much as all of my fellow LIT users but...sometimes it can ruin you mentally, and even your sex life.
Stay safe out there

I'm sure I'm that way, it's more mental than physical. Physically fall on both sides I have some med problems too.
One thing that makes me wonder, and I'm not sure how to approach it. I can get a piss hard on during the night, and sometimes I'll even rub it before I go to the bathroom, I mean it's early teens hard where you try to hide it, and it won't go away. So my question is, if I can have a hard on like that when I need to pee, what's the disconnect when I want to play, and fuck the wife?

 

[Dirtydaydream94]

I'm sure I'm that way, it's more mental than physical. Physically fall on both sides I have some med problems too.
One thing that makes me wonder, and I'm not sure how to approach it. I can get a piss hard on during the night, and sometimes I'll even rub it before I go to the bathroom, I mean it's early teens hard where you try to hide it, and it won't go away. So my question is, if I can have a hard on like that when I need to pee, what's the disconnect when I want to play, and fuck the wife?

I think an erection from sexual arousal, and tension of a full bladder and UT are different things. I'm not a Doctor, or expert by any means but I think that's somewhat correct.
Resensitization can help the mental aspect. Cutting back on adult content and masturbation can lead to becoming more easily aroused. Not in all cases, but many I'm sure.
The irony of me saying that last part on LIT is kinda hilarious I admit